FabSwingers.com forum: Female orgasm

By *abbitsXXX OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on trent

Hi ...just looking for advice really.... I have been quite spoilt really and have used a wand for along time to achieve a critical orgasm I have now stopped using my wand for various reasons and I'm now struggling to climax

I have used the stimulant gel which helps ....any other suggestions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are too used to one way. You need to unlearn that which you have learned! Yes iv just quoted yoda but its true, reteach yourself to enjoy other techniques

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

Explore yourself and you’ll find all different ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I would know how to bring myself to orgasm anymore without my wand

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Those wands are very intense and I wonder if constant use can desensitise you a bit. How about doing an internet search for ideas on how to masturbate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found I couldn’t orgasm through other ways other than a toy!! Had to go back to doing it myself with my fingers I realised I had desensitised my clit to any other stimulus, get back to exploring yourself through touch

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I hear ya. I find if I use a clit pump it helps and I can get myself wriggling with my fingers

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I only get my wand out about once a month now because I was having the same issues. Bloody thing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like these wands are a quick fix ?

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By *onConformistLikeUMan
over a year ago

Chorley

3 months of wearing mittens to bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like these wands are a quick fix ? "

Yes, a very lazy way to an orgasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like these wands are a quick fix ?

Yes, a very lazy way to an orgasm"

But they sure as fuck do the job, you don’t need to emotionally labour for them and they don’t blither on. Bloody brilliant.

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By *XMandMXxCouple
over a year ago

swindon

I was watching Naked attraction last night and they recommended wearing socks in bed as cold feet restricts blood flow to your sexual arousal areas... personally I hate socks in bed but might be worth a crack.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"I was watching Naked attraction last night and they recommended wearing socks in bed as cold feet restricts blood flow to your sexual arousal areas... personally I hate socks in bed but might be worth a crack."

It's not that it restricts blood flow but it warms your extremities, thereby your heart doesn't have to work as hard when blood flow is concentrated elsewhere.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

OP get back in touch with yourself. Remember how you first brought yourself off and reenact that experience. Move to G Spot stimulation and, if you can manage it, C spot stimulation, with a potassium play thrown in. You'll be creamy in no time

Hope it goes well but let me know if not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't masturbate with toys, or rarely with fingers.

I'm wondering if that's why I can orgasm easily during sex.

Try stopping the masturbating for a while and see if you become more sensitive to touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP get back in touch with yourself. Remember how you first brought yourself off and reenact that experience. Move to G Spot stimulation and, if you can manage it, C spot stimulation, with a potassium play thrown in. You'll be creamy in no time

Hope it goes well but let me know if not."

potassium play?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi ...just looking for advice really.... I have been quite spoilt really and have used a wand for along time to achieve a critical orgasm I have now stopped using my wand for various reasons and I'm now struggling to climax

I have used the stimulant gel which helps ....any other suggestions "

Try hypnosis. I am a trained hypnotherapist.

I one hypnotised an ex. I put in a suggestion when were having sex if I said in her ear cum for me baby she would have a powerful and wonderful orgasm. It was great fun. Of course I had her permission to do it.

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By *retty womanWoman
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth

"I don't think I would know how to bring myself to orgasm anymore without my wand

I honestly don't know how some people could use the more powerful wands. Mine is the rechargeable one (Not from the mains) and even then have to use the lowest setting.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I don't masturbate with toys, or rarely with fingers.

I'm wondering if that's why I can orgasm easily during sex.

Try stopping the masturbating for a while and see if you become more sensitive to touch. "

So you don't masturbate? How do you get off? Getting regularly fucked doesn't count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't masturbate with toys, or rarely with fingers.

I'm wondering if that's why I can orgasm easily during sex.

Try stopping the masturbating for a while and see if you become more sensitive to touch. "

I totally agree with you. I'm not into toys. I prefer other methods and can orgasm so easily and often during sex

I read a book a long time ago about masturbating and doing this too often unfortunately doesn't help to have multiple orgasms with other than yourself. It might help temporarily. Please try to stimulate your brain first, try to touch gently yourself, no rush. Then stop and try again. I think there are few ways to fix it but you need to be patient. All the best!

Mrs A.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't masturbate with toys, or rarely with fingers.

I'm wondering if that's why I can orgasm easily during sex.

Try stopping the masturbating for a while and see if you become more sensitive to touch.

So you don't masturbate? How do you get off? Getting regularly fucked doesn't count

I don't need to get off.

Sex for me isn't all about the orgasms.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I don't masturbate with toys, or rarely with fingers.

I'm wondering if that's why I can orgasm easily during sex.

Try stopping the masturbating for a while and see if you become more sensitive to touch.

So you don't masturbate? How do you get off? Getting regularly fucked doesn't count

I don't need to get off.

Sex for me isn't all about the orgasms. "

I never said it was.

I'm just curious how you orgasm when you are alone?

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By *abbitsXXX OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on trent

Thank you for all of the relplies I have learned lots it has been very educational ....

Plan is think is to go back to the g spot x then see what occurs after that .... potassium play ? Not so sure ?

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

What is potassium play? Is it sticking a banana up your foof? They are high in potassium aren’t they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me when i used to beat my meat a certain way and struggled to climax inside a woman. Not that its a bad thing for a guy haha

You'll break out of that mode in time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't masturbate with toys, or rarely with fingers.

I'm wondering if that's why I can orgasm easily during sex.

Try stopping the masturbating for a while and see if you become more sensitive to touch.

So you don't masturbate? How do you get off? Getting regularly fucked doesn't count

I don't need to get off.

Sex for me isn't all about the orgasms.

I never said it was.

I'm just curious how you orgasm when you are alone? "

Im the same, i rarely masterbate. I dont need to orgasm when im alone :/ i like to save it and make a meet more intense.

Not everyone needs to shag 24/7

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have used the stimulant gel which helps ....any other suggestions "

You possibly have numbed the nerve endings around your genitalia and as such they will need time to be reactivated, so to speak. As others have said retrain yourself don't start with that area start with the other areas of your body. Use sensate focussing techniques, Google it, that will help to increase your overall sensitivity, obviously with a partner is better for this. If with a partner use blindfold to increase your sensitivity, as removing one sense increases the others. All toys should be used infrequently really. You will get your climax back

male xx

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By *orsche40Couple
over a year ago

northwich

Get your clit pierced it’s amazing xx

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I wouldn't dare to start telling a woman how to orgasm, pretty sure they will be more of an expert on that than I'll ever be!

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By *abbitsXXX OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on trent

The brain element is probably the key here

I have relied on just the wand for so long .....

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By *abbitsXXX OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on trent

It is and yes it was in the early days ..... orgasm just on a bus lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad ive seen this thread as im having the same problem. Good advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't masturbate with toys, or rarely with fingers.

I'm wondering if that's why I can orgasm easily during sex.

Try stopping the masturbating for a while and see if you become more sensitive to touch.

So you don't masturbate? How do you get off? Getting regularly fucked doesn't count

I don't need to get off.

Sex for me isn't all about the orgasms.

I never said it was.

I'm just curious how you orgasm when you are alone? "

I don't. I don't feel the desire to as sex a partner thing for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I would know how to bring myself to orgasm anymore without my wand

Me too...it's a rare occurrence! But I don't really care cos I love my wand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like these wands are a quick fix ?

Yes, a very lazy way to an orgasm"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like these wands are a quick fix ?

Yes, a very lazy way to an orgasm

But they sure as fuck do the job, you don’t need to emotionally labour for them and they don’t blither on. Bloody brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I would know how to bring myself to orgasm anymore without my wand

I honestly don't know how some people could use the more powerful wands. Mine is the rechargeable one (Not from the mains) and even then have to use the lowest setting. "

Mine is mains but I ALWAYS use the lowest setting!! I also don't know how anyone can go higher!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I would know how to bring myself to orgasm anymore without my wand

I honestly don't know how some people could use the more powerful wands. Mine is the rechargeable one (Not from the mains) and even then have to use the lowest setting.

Mine is mains but I ALWAYS use the lowest setting!! I also don't know how anyone can go higher! "

^this. Plus when I have climaxed once I can't go near myself again for hours.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I don't masturbate with toys, or rarely with fingers.

I'm wondering if that's why I can orgasm easily during sex.

Try stopping the masturbating for a while and see if you become more sensitive to touch.

So you don't masturbate? How do you get off? Getting regularly fucked doesn't count

I don't need to get off.

Sex for me isn't all about the orgasms.

I never said it was.

I'm just curious how you orgasm when you are alone?

I don't. I don't feel the desire to as sex a partner thing for me."

Ok, interesting perspective but each to their own and as long as you are happy with it, then all is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mind

A fertile imagination goes a long way.

Imagine a scenario, don't touch for a while and then let loose with your own hands when you can't stand it anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

High intensity vibrators can numb things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost the charger for my wand so had to go back to manual again, it was hard work to start with as I like to get off as quickly as possible when playing on my own. Managed to be able to do it as quick as me wand in the end tho

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

I can’t wank any more, my cock doesn’t like my hand, it’s bored with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes me so much longer to reach an orgasm in foreplay if i have buzzed recently before so now i tend to avoid buzzing and wait...

Worth it in the long run and the build up is always good.

I thought it was just me atleast now i know im not alone.

I also can not orgasm from penetration alone i never have!

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By *abbitsXXX OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on trent

I think that's the key then .....stop playing and patience I have found that a good hard thrusting with my toys gives me a great gift spot climax

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