FabSwingers.com forum: Is this becoming a relationship?!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So someone I met on fab 5 months ago, long story but he is my neighbour to lol. Anyway we go on nights out and to the cinema and concerts and genuinely I love his company as well as the fucking obviously lol. But he has invited me to a charity event at the football club that he is a chairman at on Sat night. His mates will be there and maybe even his son might be there. Does meeting the family and friends seem like a relationship thing to do to anyone else

I would say we are friends with benefits at the moment. Opinions appreciated xxx

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Just take it one step at a time and see how it goes. How do you feel about having a relationship with him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems relationshipy but he could see it as inviting his friend.

Do his friends know about you? If so, in what context?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could certainly call it a relationship if you wanted to, I guess it's what you are comfortable with. FWB is a relationship of sorts. But you may want to make sure you are on the same page.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just take it one step at a time and see how it goes. How do you feel about having a relationship with him?"

I have feelings for him but I am married, but separated and he knows my situation and how complicated it is. I don't want a relationship though, I want things to stay how they are and not spoil anything, I like what we have too much xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It seems relationshipy but he could see it as inviting his friend.

Do his friends know about you? If so, in what context?"

I don't know what they know

Maybe I am thinking too much into it, maybe it's as a friend as you said xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you mind him reading this thread? If so you could probably report it to admin and ask them to pull it.

Concerning the original question, I wouldn't get too carried away. If he's thinking of you in more of a relationship way you can cross that bridge when you get there. Until then assume not and enjoy the ride

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Go along anyway, enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You could certainly call it a relationship if you wanted to, I guess it's what you are comfortable with. FWB is a relationship of sorts. But you may want to make sure you are on the same page."

thanks xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems relationshipy but he could see it as inviting his friend.

Do his friends know about you? If so, in what context?

I don't know what they know

Maybe I am thinking too much into it, maybe it's as a friend as you said xxx "

Don't read too much into it, men are simple creatures. He probably just enjoys your company. If you're not comfortable going, just tell him you want to keep things simple

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D

Don’t overthink it, u enjoy his company & he sounds nice (there’s plenty of a’holes out there) so just enjoy it. If it niggles at u just have a quick chat about it with him without making a big deal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am on a night shift, I tend to overthink a lot on my nights lol. Thanks everyone I will go and enjoy myself

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Possibly. You dont have to fit the nature of your relationship/arrangement into a box. Having said that if you feel it is becoming a relationship and you are expecting something off each other then you do need to talk and come to an agreement on exactly what it is that you both 100% agree to. That way going forward you don't face being made to feel a fool or used. One of you may give more than you want believing it to be a relationship when the other does not see it that way. So I would say after this length of time get some agreed clarity on what it is and if you have obligation to each other. Also be awear that if you don't want a relationship with them (I assume not) and they have fallen for you they may lie about the nature of their feeling not to lose you. Also how does your other half feel about the nature of your fwb intentions.

Or you could invent a mind reading devise and read your fwb mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well obviously the guy seems to like spending time with you but if it is bothering you that he might see that as a relationship while you don't, talk to him or dump him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm your profile seems to suggest a different situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's because I haven't updated it since I joined. My situation has changed a lot since then. But I did say above that it isn't anything to do with my marriage and that is why I didn't go into it. We all have our own unique private situations x

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