FabSwingers.com forum: Have you got a face picture?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t know about the rest of the men on here but I don’t look like an extra from The Walking Dead.

I put the ground work in sending messages to a lady I find appealing and then when it comes to a face swap picture it’s radio silence.

I understand that the lady’s have hundreds of messages on here and they can’t answer them all, but if they have asked for a picture then shouldn’t they at least have the manners to say ‘no thanks you’re not for me’?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They usually get abuse if they do so most will just delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re not going to be everyone’s type and some people won’t reply when you’re not.

I’m guilty of not replying when I don’t find someone attractive

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By *wo Big GuysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Reading

"I don’t know about the rest of the men on here but I don’t look like an extra from The Walking Dead.

I put the ground work in sending messages to a lady I find appealing and then when it comes to a face swap picture it’s radio silence.

Yes absolutely but it doesn’t always work like that on fab. Just block and move on, cast the line enough times and you will find someone who likes you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn’t say no thanks or sorry not for me to anyone. I just delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t know about the rest of the men on here but I don’t look like an extra from The Walking Dead.

I put the ground work in sending messages to a lady I find appealing and then when it comes to a face swap picture it’s radio silence.

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Hey its life here you just have to move on my friend, the way I get round it is I never initiate a message, well rarely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face pics for friends only, not that I have any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They usually get abuse if they do so most will just delete

This reason exactly, amazing how many men will message with will lots of compliments and then if you say you are not interested, then comes the abuse. Also claiming the fact that they “never meant to message you”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually say "thanks but regret not my type" before blocking. It can of course happen to women as well! I have just had a man tell me I'm not his type. Not a problem, again just block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be worse op. You could if got back a, yuk I don’t think so reply

The silence would of been better for me

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP have you thought about sending a face pic earlier on in messaging?

It may not change the eventual outcome but would speed it up a little. That way you wouldn't be quite so invested in the conversation and less disappointed that it didn't work out as you hoped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab rules, no reply = no thanks, so you have the reply on every occasion you don't get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I either say sorry not for me or just don't respond..

Unfortunately some men dont seem to read the faqs and keep messaging..which often results in a block from them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a message off a man complimenting my “fat cock” and asking me to stick it up his arse. I just deleted it as I’m not gay, only for him to message again saying I could at least reply and calling me a wanker. I simply told him to fuck off then blocked the idiot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I either say sorry not for me or just don't respond..

Unfortunately some men dont seem to read the faqs and keep messaging..which often results in a block from them

Not everybody has a vagina

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Yes I have a face picture and will attach to emails if one is needed. If no reply/deleted/no thanks...no big deal, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got a message off a man complimenting my “fat cock” and asking me to stick it up his arse. I just deleted it as I’m not gay, only for him to message again saying I could at least reply and calling me a wanker. I simply told him to fuck off then blocked the idiot."

That’s brightened my day up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I either say sorry not for me or just don't respond..

Unfortunately some men dont seem to read the faqs and keep messaging..which often results in a block from them

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I agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here having manners?

Ha ha...ha ha ha ha...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who doesn’t respond doesn’t mean they don’t have any manners.

When you respond on here with a “No thanks good luck in your search” it’s very likely that someone will take offence and send you a barrage of abuse, even go as far as to make a new profile to do it again when you block them.

So it is much easier to not reply and delete. That usually means they aren’t interested, so best to move onto the next one.

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I don’t know about the rest of the men on here but I don’t look like an extra from The Walking Dead.

I put the ground work in sending messages to a lady I find appealing and then when it comes to a face swap picture it’s radio silence.

Maybe you are not as aesthetically pleasing as you think. It is often said if you can't think of anything nice to say don't say anything at all. If you are sending lots of pictures out then something is stopping people responding pop to your bathroom put a bigger wattage bulb in the fitting and have a good look in the mirror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand that the lady’s have hundreds of messages on here and they can’t answer them all, but if they have asked for a picture then shouldn’t they at least have the manners to say ‘no thanks you’re not for me’?

I used to do this. But it didn't take me long to learn that for every 10 men I turn down politely, about 4 will reply and try to argue with me.

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

No reply is a reply.

Its tough being rejected but thats life.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Try to treat others how you would like to be treated thats my moto doesnt always work. Ive not had any problems with guys after sending a polite message. However if its obvious they havent read my profile or its a quick uninteresting message with no effort or a copy and paste then I do delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I either say sorry not for me or just don't respond..

Unfortunately some men dont seem to read the faqs and keep messaging..which often results in a block from them

Not everybody has a vagina

Plenty of cocks on here though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They usually get abuse if they do so most will just delete

That !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try to treat others how you would like to be treated thats my moto doesnt always work. Ive not had any problems with guys after sending a polite message. However if its obvious they havent read my profile or its a quick uninteresting message with no effort or a copy and paste then I do delete.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I either say sorry not for me or just don't respond..

Unfortunately some men dont seem to read the faqs and keep messaging..which often results in a block from them

Not everybody has a vagina

Plenty of cocks on here though

Cocks you say, I've only just perfected the art of being a dickhead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you heard of filters?

You say you are looking for women and couples yet looking at your profile anyone can message you..

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By *riendlychap1212Man
over a year ago

Laxey

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Anyone can end a conversation at any point. If someone stops replying to you, just block them (if they haven't already blocked you) and move on so you don't message them again in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you walked down the street and everyone you passed said 'good day' 'hello' or some other greeting and you ignored them, you be called an ignorant twat or some other more unpleasant names. Verbal and written is still communication. Not replying is bad manners however you look at it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not replying is bad manners however you look at it!"

I should reply to every one of the 300 unread emails in my inbox then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you walked down the street and everyone you passed said 'good day' 'hello' or some other greeting and you ignored them, you be called an ignorant twat or some other more unpleasant names. Verbal and written is still communication. Not replying is bad manners however you look at it!"

Let’s put it another way.

If not replying is bad manners, do you reply to the junk mail you receive by email, text & post with a “No thanks”? If you don’t, by your words you must have bad manners too.

It’s unsolcited contact, nobody is obliged to reply to unsolicited contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do actually yes, its bad manners not to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do actually yes, its bad manners not to!"

LOL.

You really expect people to believe that you reply to every single junk contact you get with a “no thanks”? Don’t make me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t know about the rest of the men on here but I don’t look like an extra from The Walking Dead.

I put the ground work in sending messages to a lady I find appealing and then when it comes to a face swap picture it’s radio silence.

No they shouldnt.weve tried that and get a load of shite back. So just block now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do actually yes, its bad manners not to!

LOL.

You really expect people to believe that you reply to every single junk contact you get with a “no thanks”? Don’t make me laugh. "

I don't get junk email, I'm careful where I put my contact details. I dont care whether you believe me or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do actually yes, its bad manners not to!

LOL.

You really expect people to believe that you reply to every single junk contact you get with a “no thanks”? Don’t make me laugh.

I don't get junk email, I'm careful where I put my contact details. I dont care whether you believe me or not!"

If you say so love.

You don’t get junk mail but you responded to my question with “I do actually”, so do forgive me if I don’t believe you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply when they've sent a face pic. I've never had abuse from that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I responded because it was polite not too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women on here having manners?

Ha ha...ha ha ha ha..."

Some do.

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Doesn't matter if i send pic I not, they still delete, but i don't get abusive and,sill not send,another message, if they dint want my perfect cock then its them that should be upset, for sure

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If I've been chatting to someone and they're localish, tick my other boxes so to speak and they've sent me a face pic after being asked I will always respond. Either with a polite sorry not for me or a ooooooo hello

,and I'll send them mine. If a random has sent one and there's no way I'll want to meet them sometimes I do, sometimes I don't reply.

It's best to get the face swap out of the way early on in my experience.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

Have you heard of filters?

You say you are looking for women and couples yet looking at your profile anyone can message you..

I'm only looking for guys but wouldn't block other groups from messaging me because in the past I've had some great chats started via PM with others based on forum posts. I'd rather not stop that happening so it's not such a simple answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do actually yes, its bad manners not to!

LOL.

You really expect people to believe that you reply to every single junk contact you get with a “no thanks”? Don’t make me laugh.

I don't get junk email, I'm careful where I put my contact details. I dont care whether you believe me or not!"

That's good because I don't. Even the postman delivers unperzonalised junk mail almost daily, you reply to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do actually yes, its bad manners not to!

LOL.

You really expect people to believe that you reply to every single junk contact you get with a “no thanks”? Don’t make me laugh.

I don't get junk email, I'm careful where I put my contact details. I dont care whether you believe me or not!

That's good because I don't. Even the postman delivers unperzonalised junk mail almost daily, you reply to them? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

#treathimwithrespect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man or woman, i think you should let th pic sender know either way, even if u cant be brutally honest be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you heard of filters?

You say you are looking for women and couples yet looking at your profile anyone can message you..

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

literally makes no sense talking about it, its not gonna change anything. If they like you they'll reply, if not they wont. Some reply with a 'no thanks', some just read and not reply, and some read and delete it. i advise you go clubs, much more social. I used to get 1 reply from every 20-30 msgs i sent out and eventually got tired. I barely send anything now, and if i do its a wink. cant be bothered, ill save it for the clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face pics for friends only for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You choose who you send a message to and the receiver chooses who to reply to! On fab no reply means no thanks, just block and move along........... I used to reply to every message I got and in my experience about half of those no thanks messages I sent it would attract negative messages back!

#choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a face pic but is set to private as many have said once its sent the messages stop but i am who i am and some like me some dont the people i have met on here seem to like it

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

A slightly different way of asking is it rude to not reply..

I send very few prospective messages, I search for ladies it's not often I find ones I'm 1) attracted to 2) looking for the same things..

My mailbox might not be overflowing however more often than not I let ladies initiate contact..it's in my profile if they do face pictures attached please..puts the decision of reply ignore delete in your hands... anyone can say no thanks op

I've said it often folk should have a profile that informs and hopefully entices the reader of their wants and desires.. that way folk that are searching can make an informed decision about contacting ...

If I do initiate contact I attach my face picture on the initial message saves wasting time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man or woman, i think you should let th pic sender know either way, even if u cant be brutally honest be nice

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Man or woman, i think you should let th pic sender know either way, even if u cant be brutally honest be nice

Whilst that would be the ideal - sadly, as has been said/shown upthread, all too often a "nice" reply with rejection can often lead to some vile and abusive responses - usually from those that have incorrect expectations and a sense of entitlement so I can understand totally why people choose to just read/delete and treat messages that are of no interest the same way they would junk mail.

There is also the thing that once you've messaged someone once, it overrides any future filters you may set - so by sending a thanks but no thanks it leaves things open to further messages unless you block, in which case you then get "I got blocked" type whines on the forums instead of "I didn't get a reply" ones.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"They usually get abuse if they do so most will just delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a face pic but i only send in mail so message me lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have face pics in friends only pics and have found that you chat to people for awhile and build a bit of a connection. Then the face pic subject arises. Now i am well aware that i am not brad pitt or george cloony and send or invite as a friend depending on how things have been going. Sometimes its all good and other times its the same - nothing back.

Now i am not complaining in anyway and realise the odds are stacked. When i recoeve a face pic and decide that they are not for me i reply saying so and on occassion have still continued with chatting. Admittedly though i am not inundated with messages like many of the women on here and as such can afford the time to be polite about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I receive a message from someone that has no face pic in the message or on their profile, I just don’t continue the conversation and politely decline. I don’t like to be put in a situation where I have been chatting back and forth to then see that I’m not attracted to that person.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"If I receive a message from someone that has no face pic in the message or on their profile, I just don’t continue the conversation and politely decline. I don’t like to be put in a situation where I have been chatting back and forth to then see that I’m not attracted to that person. "

Exactly, awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens dude there's nothing anyone can do about it after all its there choice there are those that do reply kindly with a no but all i can say in my experience just accept that its gunna happen alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it's best to just put your face out there right from the get go op... No point taking the time getting to know someone a bit only to be disappointed if you turn out not to be attracted to one another.

Plus I think my face is probably one of my best features, so why not lead with that?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Surely it’s best to attach a face pic with the first message, you can set it so that the pics delete once the message has been read I think, it saves the hassle of messaging then realising you don’t fancy each other once pics have finally been sent, I be like me and get ya mush out

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I find it's best to just put your face out there right from the get go op... No point taking the time getting to know someone a bit only to be disappointed if you turn out not to be attracted to one another.

Plus I think my face is probably one of my best features, so why not lead with that?"

you just beat me to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man or woman, i think you should let th pic sender know either way, even if u cant be brutally honest be nice

Agree i rejected someone and got called a sly cunt. Some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus I think my face is probably one of my best features, so why not lead with that?

you just beat me to it

Sorry about that! Usually I make sure the woman always gets there before me

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"They usually get abuse if they do so most will just delete

Yup. This.

Got some lovely quotes.

"you're a fucking ugly cow anyway"

"i probably wouldn't even pay you for a fuck"

"if you're on here you want to fuck, why not fuck me? I'll make it worth your while"

"aw c'mon I haven't had any in ages"

"bet you've got a saggy hole anyway"

"i could give you a good pounding" (ugh!)

Women like sex as much as men but this is why we leave the site never to return.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Plus I think my face is probably one of my best features, so why not lead with that?

you just beat me to it

Sorry about that! Usually I make sure the woman always gets there before me

Very commendable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They usually get abuse if they do so most will just delete

Yup. This.

Got some lovely quotes.

"you're a fucking ugly cow anyway"

"i probably wouldn't even pay you for a fuck"

"if you're on here you want to fuck, why not fuck me? I'll make it worth your while"

"aw c'mon I haven't had any in ages"

"bet you've got a saggy hole anyway"

"i could give you a good pounding" (ugh!)

Women like sex as much as men but this is why we leave the site never to return. "

Exactly this!

The list of rude just generally nasty messages is endless and seems to be getting more frequent. When I first joined 6yrs ago the abuse after rejection was in the minority most would just reply with stuff like ‘thanks happy fabbing’ but I’ve past year or two I’ve found the majority will reply with nasty rubbish. I think it’s because the site is becoming more of a ‘instant sex/fuck n go’ site and there’s less swingers on here than used to be. Swingers tend to enjoy the social aspect, don’t expect instant meets and like getting to each other build up a connection which in turn means they understand if they’re not someone’s cuppa tea therefore just take a ‘no thx’ on the chin

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