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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... It's a fair point, I'm just not comfortable having my face public " Specific reasons? Nearly all of my pictures have my face on them... and I'm not ashamed | |||
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"Because i did once before and my full nude pics went round my kids school so not a chance il stay as i am " On an old account | |||
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"Family, friends, partners, jobs. Sooooo many reasons I would think!" Exactly. And as we saw in another thread earlier today, some people on here are only too happy to share others pictures with people who aren't on the site, so anyone could potentially see them. | |||
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"Family, friends, partners, jobs. Sooooo many reasons I would think! Exactly. And as we saw in another thread earlier today, some people on here are only too happy to share others pictures with people who aren't on the site, so anyone could potentially see them. " I see how that could be an issue... but I don't think anyone I know would be surprised if someone showed them a picture of me on here... I'm very open with people. On another note, I decide not to show any particularly graphic pictures unless they're to friends. Therefore I keep it somewhat page 3 rated unless I've had a better interaction and there's a little more trust... | |||
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"The fact that they're on here too is no consolation to me if they tell my family members that I'm on here." Are you ashamed to be on here then? | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... " | |||
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"The fact that they're on here too is no consolation to me if they tell my family members that I'm on here. Are you ashamed to be on here then?" Its nothing to do with being ashamed ... its about discretion | |||
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"The fact that they're on here too is no consolation to me if they tell my family members that I'm on here. Are you ashamed to be on here then?" No, why do you think that? | |||
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"The fact that they're on here too is no consolation to me if they tell my family members that I'm on here. Are you ashamed to be on here then? Its nothing to do with being ashamed ... its about discretion " I'd have to agree, I'm not ashamed but still would prefer my kids and parents didn't know. | |||
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"Family, friends, partners, jobs. Sooooo many reasons I would think! Exactly. And as we saw in another thread earlier today, some people on here are only too happy to share others pictures with people who aren't on the site, so anyone could potentially see them. " Theres sites with video pic compilations screen shot from fab... if we wanted our images out and about we'd use a certain cam site and make money. obviously we don't want that so we send them when we need to! Xx | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... It's a fair point, I'm just not comfortable having my face public Specific reasons? Nearly all of my pictures have my face on them... and I'm not ashamed " No specific reason I guess just prefer to keep friend my pics to friends only | |||
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"The fact that they're on here too is no consolation to me if they tell my family members that I'm on here. Are you ashamed to be on here then? Its nothing to do with being ashamed ... its about discretion " | |||
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"The fact that they're on here too is no consolation to me if they tell my family members that I'm on here. Are you ashamed to be on here then? Its nothing to do with being ashamed ... its about discretion V I'd have to agree, I'm not ashamed but still would prefer my kids and parents didn't know. " | |||
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"Op how would you feel if your sons friends older brother recognised you in your pics and showed others! Then your son found out? Your on a swingers site with your tits out! Some people aren’t as understanding or on the same wavelength " The probably don't care some people live for this shit | |||
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"High profile, responsible job (yeah, big yawn, I know). I'd have no issue showing my face on a dating site, but my profile here shows bits of my body that don't get seen in the office - and (when I'm actually swinging) info about what I like, don't like, verifications etc. Call me a prude but I wouldn't want my colleagues to see any of that. Blindingly obvious really? " I thought so too! | |||
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"Op how would you feel if your sons friends older brother recognised you in your pics and showed others! Then your son found out? Your on a swingers site with your tits out! Some people aren’t as understanding or on the same wavelength The probably don't care some people live for this shit " | |||
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"Op how would you feel if your sons friends older brother recognised you in your pics and showed others! Then your son found out? Your on a swingers site with your tits out! Some people aren’t as understanding or on the same wavelength The probably don't care some people live for this shit " There’s lots of stigmas attached to “this site” and many a reason why people don’t show face pics. I’d say infidelity, privacy, and stigma being in the top 3! It’s easy to say “I’m not ashamed “ it’s not about that. It’s about if someone takes screen shots and then passes them on to someone else and then someone else enevitably ending up on a work colleagues or family members phone or ex’s or similar. It’s just something i personally don’t want to risk and not because I’m embarrassed, me personally it’s because I have respect for my children’s feelings. | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... " Is it not obvious? Anyone can get a profile on here. Including reporters. There have been a few cases where reporters have created profiles on here for stories about swingers. People have families, I certainly wouldn't want my parents or children knowing what i get up to in private. Many people arent nice. Can you imagine living in a small community and being recognised..especially if you have spurned someone's advances and they don't like it. People have jobs where being in this lifestyle could put a career at risk, even if not directly but could make things awkward. Fab is a public forum, same as Facebook. Pretty sure 99.9% of people don't put naked pictures of themselves or lost sexual preferences or glowing reviews of their sexual prowess on any other public social media. This site is about respect and privacy. People show what they are comfortable with. | |||
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"Some very good points made, didn't mean to offend anyone. Obviously opinions differ and respect to all." Don't think anyone has been offended. You didn't disrespect anyone, you asked a question... | |||
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"Some very good points made, didn't mean to offend anyone. Obviously opinions differ and respect to all." I'm not that easily offended! Curious to know why you'd think I'd be ashamed to be on here though | |||
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"Some very good points made, didn't mean to offend anyone. Obviously opinions differ and respect to all." Nope its a fair question | |||
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"How strange, I’ve just within 5 mins received a text from my kids dad saying someone sent him a pic of me from a “swingers” site and he’s mortified that someone showed him that. I’ve just asked him to send me the pics as I don’t show my face very often, occasionally I do but not often. " Hope it all goes well x | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... Is it not obvious? Anyone can get a profile on here. Including reporters. There have been a few cases where reporters have created profiles on here for stories about swingers. People have families, I certainly wouldn't want my parents or children knowing what i get up to in private. Many people arent nice. Can you imagine living in a small community and being recognised..especially if you have spurned someone's advances and they don't like it. People have jobs where being in this lifestyle could put a career at risk, even if not directly but could make things awkward. Fab is a public forum, same as Facebook. Pretty sure 99.9% of people don't put naked pictures of themselves or lost sexual preferences or glowing reviews of their sexual prowess on any other public social media. This site is about respect and privacy. People show what they are comfortable with." | |||
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"How strange, I’ve just within 5 mins received a text from my kids dad saying someone sent him a pic of me from a “swingers” site and he’s mortified that someone showed him that. I’ve just asked him to send me the pics as I don’t show my face very often, occasionally I do but not often. Hope it all goes well x" He sent me the pics and yes they were from here and of me. He just said it’s none of his business but doesn’t appreciate others sending him pictures of his mums kids and imagine if our sons friends seen them and showed him. Feel pretty bad right now. | |||
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"How strange, I’ve just within 5 mins received a text from my kids dad saying someone sent him a pic of me from a “swingers” site and he’s mortified that someone showed him that. I’ve just asked him to send me the pics as I don’t show my face very often, occasionally I do but not often. Hope it all goes well x He sent me the pics and yes they were from here and of me. He just said it’s none of his business but doesn’t appreciate others sending him pictures of his mums kids and imagine if our sons friends seen them and showed him. Feel pretty bad right now. " That's a shitty thing for someone to do, and exactly why I don't have face pics in public. I hope it works out OK for you x | |||
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"How strange, I’ve just within 5 mins received a text from my kids dad saying someone sent him a pic of me from a “swingers” site and he’s mortified that someone showed him that. I’ve just asked him to send me the pics as I don’t show my face very often, occasionally I do but not often. Hope it all goes well x He sent me the pics and yes they were from here and of me. He just said it’s none of his business but doesn’t appreciate others sending him pictures of his mums kids and imagine if our sons friends seen them and showed him. Feel pretty bad right now. That's a shitty thing for someone to do, and exactly why I don't have face pics in public. I hope it works out OK for you x" I didn’t deny I was on here I just feel crap and a bit daft now. Put my account on lock down. People look down their noses at you and assume your a sl*t or cheap, they don’t look beyond that sadly. | |||
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"How strange, I’ve just within 5 mins received a text from my kids dad saying someone sent him a pic of me from a “swingers” site and he’s mortified that someone showed him that. I’ve just asked him to send me the pics as I don’t show my face very often, occasionally I do but not often. Hope it all goes well x He sent me the pics and yes they were from here and of me. He just said it’s none of his business but doesn’t appreciate others sending him pictures of his mums kids and imagine if our sons friends seen them and showed him. Feel pretty bad right now. That's a shitty thing for someone to do, and exactly why I don't have face pics in public. I hope it works out OK for you x I didn’t deny I was on here I just feel crap and a bit daft now. Put my account on lock down. People look down their noses at you and assume your a sl*t or cheap, they don’t look beyond that sadly. " I'm sorry that's happened to you, not good at all. People should respect others privacy. And just shows that sexism is still prevalent too as you're right. A guy might get a high five but a woman gets called a sl*t. Not always but it is still there. I hope you're ok x | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... " They are, but some people don't care that others know they are swingers, we do. We got outed in our village, not pleasant. | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... It's a fair point, I'm just not comfortable having my face public " | |||
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"Unfortunately some people abuse the fact your face is on here public or private and try to black mail,out you ect. It's happened to us my face all over Facebook. Luckily most know " Someone tried to black mail me too last year, it's really not worth showing your faces publicly. | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... " It's not about being seen on here..it's about being seen across the whole internet..we have grown up children ..it would only take one of their friends to be on here or anyother site we are on to recognise Diane..download the picture and say post it on facebook or send it to one of our grown up boys via a PM, or maybe use it against them or us.We do have a responsibility for others not just ourselves..like family and friends..it's OK being free and easy with your pics if you have no kids or young kids. But the pictures you post now, especially naked ones with face..could come back and haunt you years down the line..there really is no need to have public face pics on sites like this. Show them privately.. | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... It's not about being seen on here..it's about being seen across the whole internet..we have grown up children ..it would only take one of their friends to be on here or anyother site we are on to recognise Diane..download the picture and say post it on facebook or send it to one of our grown up boys via a PM, or maybe use it against them or us.We do have a responsibility for others not just ourselves..like family and friends..it's OK being free and easy with your pics if you have no kids or young kids. But the pictures you post now, especially naked ones with face..could come back and haunt you years down the line..there really is no need to have public face pics on sites like this. Show them privately.." Well said | |||
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"How strange, I’ve just within 5 mins received a text from my kids dad saying someone sent him a pic of me from a “swingers” site and he’s mortified that someone showed him that. I’ve just asked him to send me the pics as I don’t show my face very often, occasionally I do but not often. " It must be someone he knows for them to have his phone number. Can you find out who it is? Or take the texts and phone number details to the police. It's revenge porn. | |||
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"How strange, I’ve just within 5 mins received a text from my kids dad saying someone sent him a pic of me from a “swingers” site and he’s mortified that someone showed him that. I’ve just asked him to send me the pics as I don’t show my face very often, occasionally I do but not often. It must be someone he knows for them to have his phone number. Can you find out who it is? Or take the texts and phone number details to the police. It's revenge porn. " Yes he has a very prolific job, we’ve not been together for yrs though. Obviously on the one time I’ve been online and had my face pic open someone has linked us and I’m assuming it’s been sent to his older son then to him (I’m guessing) but he wasn’t funny just said it’s my life etc but people associate me with him as we’ve kids and imagine if kids seen pics. Which I fully agree. Just feeling a bit ! at the min | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... It's not about being seen on here..it's about being seen across the whole internet..we have grown up children ..it would only take one of their friends to be on here or anyother site we are on to recognise Diane..download the picture and say post it on facebook or send it to one of our grown up boys via a PM, or maybe use it against them or us.We do have a responsibility for others not just ourselves..like family and friends..it's OK being free and easy with your pics if you have no kids or young kids. But the pictures you post now, especially naked ones with face..could come back and haunt you years down the line..there really is no need to have public face pics on sites like this. Show them privately.." Totally agree | |||
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"How strange, I’ve just within 5 mins received a text from my kids dad saying someone sent him a pic of me from a “swingers” site and he’s mortified that someone showed him that. I’ve just asked him to send me the pics as I don’t show my face very often, occasionally I do but not often. It must be someone he knows for them to have his phone number. Can you find out who it is? Or take the texts and phone number details to the police. It's revenge porn. Yes he has a very prolific job, we’ve not been together for yrs though. Obviously on the one time I’ve been online and had my face pic open someone has linked us and I’m assuming it’s been sent to his older son then to him (I’m guessing) but he wasn’t funny just said it’s my life etc but people associate me with him as we’ve kids and imagine if kids seen pics. Which I fully agree. Just feeling a bit ! at the min " Sorry to explain, what’s happened I’m assuming is, I’ve been online and had my face pic on “public” but someone has recognised me as being linked to my ex. I’m assuming he’s screen shot my pics (as my ex sent them to me and I could clearly see they were sent to him from someone else. ) and then sent them to my ex’s son ( big age gap between myself and my ex so his sons 33) and they’ve said isn’t this **** your dads ex! Plus we’ve 2 kids together, | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... " Lots of reasons I’m sure. Out of interest; why no pics at all, let alone face pics, of the male half of your couple? | |||
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"You should confront the person you sent them to...or if you haven't met them ask your ex who sent them. Fight fire with fire. I foolishly gave my number to the first meet I had and told him a bit about myself. He kept phoning me and phoned my work one day. So I made a different profile. I Hid my number and sent a few anonymous texts saying I'd throw a brick through his window if he kept bullying women on line AND I would call to the the house when his wife was in if he didn't stop pestering women on fab. (I wouldn't have done any of those things. But he shit himself because he didn't know who it was)and I blocked his number and learned my lesson. I never received either a call or a text from him since. Hope you're ok. I know what that knot in the stomach feels like." It’s not as easy as that. They weren’t sent directly to him! They were sent through someone via someone who knows someone who recognised me who knows his son!! See it’s easily done. | |||
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"You should confront the person you sent them to...or if you haven't met them ask your ex who sent them. Fight fire with fire. I foolishly gave my number to the first meet I had and told him a bit about myself. He kept phoning me and phoned my work one day. So I made a different profile. I Hid my number and sent a few anonymous texts saying I'd throw a brick through his window if he kept bullying women on line AND I would call to the the house when his wife was in if he didn't stop pestering women on fab. (I wouldn't have done any of those things. But he shit himself because he didn't know who it was)and I blocked his number and learned my lesson. I never received either a call or a text from him since. Hope you're ok. I know what that knot in the stomach feels like." It’s partly my fault! I had face pics on my profile previously when I was online. Obviously someone has recognised me. And screen shot them, along with my other pics. I’ve never had explicit pics anyway put they were proagitive. | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... Lots of reasons I’m sure. Out of interest; why no pics at all, let alone face pics, of the male half of your couple? " They did have many the other day of both of them. | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... It's not about being seen on here..it's about being seen across the whole internet..we have grown up children ..it would only take one of their friends to be on here or anyother site we are on to recognise Diane..download the picture and say post it on facebook or send it to one of our grown up boys via a PM, or maybe use it against them or us.We do have a responsibility for others not just ourselves..like family and friends..it's OK being free and easy with your pics if you have no kids or young kids. But the pictures you post now, especially naked ones with face..could come back and haunt you years down the line..there really is no need to have public face pics on sites like this. Show them privately.." | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... " It's alright for you, your pretty. I'm a bit of a 6 pinter | |||
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"Some very good points made, didn't mean to offend anyone. Obviously opinions differ and respect to all." I went to an organised social in my home town a couple of years ago. When I got there, ordered a drink, then sat at the bar as a text message came in. The message was warning me NOT to go to the social, from a couple I know, as they were warned by other friends, that their kids knew about the social, were chattering in Facebook about it, and were planning on going down to ‘see what swingers look like’. Imagine just one of your face pics, taken as a screenshot, then posted on Facebook | |||
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"Some very good points made, didn't mean to offend anyone. Obviously opinions differ and respect to all. I went to an organised social in my home town a couple of years ago. When I got there, ordered a drink, then sat at the bar as a text message came in. The message was warning me NOT to go to the social, from a couple I know, as they were warned by other friends, that their kids knew about the social, were chattering in Facebook about it, and were planning on going down to ‘see what swingers look like’. Imagine just one of your face pics, taken as a screenshot, then posted on Facebook " I don’t think anyone on my Facebook would be surprised. I understand for many that would be awful. | |||
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"I don't mind showing my face, no one notices it anyway, they're to busy looking at The Hair. " And what beautiful hair it is. I can’t even remember your face from the social as your hair had all of my attention. | |||
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"Why do people not put more photos of their faces on? If you're worried someone will see you on here... well, they're here themselves anyway... " You obviously haven not encountered the crazy stalkers yet OP? | |||
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"I don't mind showing my face, no one notices it anyway, they're to busy looking at The Hair. And what beautiful hair it is. I can’t even remember your face from the social as your hair had all of my attention. " That happens. People forget that there is a person under The Hair. A person with feelings. | |||
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"I don't mind showing my face, no one notices it anyway, they're to busy looking at The Hair. And what beautiful hair it is. I can’t even remember your face from the social as your hair had all of my attention. That happens. People forget that there is a person under The Hair. A person with feelings. " Alright bab, I will take more notice next time. Promise. | |||
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