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Does opposote attract in a relationship?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We had an interesting discussion about it yesterday. I think it does, do you have someone who is opposite? It could be in values in life too, by the way, its a good song by paula abdul too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a lot of discussions shag...

Btw i don't believe they do

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By *im L FuckitMan
over a year ago

Dumfriesshire

My own limited life experience has led me to think not

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think we can find people who are different to us very interesting, however I think it can bring a lot of hassle with it, especially when they hold opposing values etc. Minor stuff is fine but when it comes to the big stuff I don't think it works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always tend to attract slightly damaged weirdos. So no, I wouldn't say I attract the opposite to me at all.

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By *im L FuckitMan
over a year ago

Dumfriesshire


"I always tend to attract slightly damaged weirdos. "

I find you attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always tend to attract slightly damaged weirdos.

I find you attractive "

You're only human.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Holding different values is likely to lead to more conflict, so while they might attract, in the long run, they are less likely to be successful I would think.

We may have different opinions on some things but in the main we hold similar values. Golf is the main exception, he loves it. To me it's a good walk ruined.

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

Sometimes it can work if the differences are balanced out to some degree.

With core things like morals, beliefs ect ect there either has to be give and take or it will be constant fights over who is right...both will be but neither will give unless a compromise is put in place.

So even then it comes down to each others attitudes towards that as well.

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By *lymanMan
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

Personally i appreciate a persons differences thats what makes us individuals ,shared interests are always a bonus but not a requirement but hey thats just me

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Sometimes opposites attract.

What I've found as I meander through life is that people are often attracted to those who have qualities opposite to their own so that they complement each other.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I think if the opposite to you is too much the other way you'll likely just annoy each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had an interesting discussion about it yesterday. I think it does, do you have someone who is opposite? It could be in values in life too, by the way, its a good song by paula abdul too "
I've found that personality wise I seem to be drawn to a certain type of personality and it does seem to polar opposite but we have shared many interests..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Me and my husband are pretty much the opposite to each other in every way, and we've lasted 17 years so far.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ogNMuseCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Morally and politically me and the missus, are pretty much on the same page, but in most other aspects we are polar opposites, I'm more creative, she's more practical, I'll do things on a whim, she'll procrastinate for days, she'll stick to a budget and save, if I've got a quid in my pocket I'll have to spend it.

But so far (20 years) it's worked ok for us.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yeah I like a bit 'o rough!

But then I also like people who are very PLU lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like men who can make me laugh. Unfortunately both good men and tosspots can make me laugh. I’m a miserable cow so we balance each other out.

I need to work on finding more hilarious good men

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Opposite does not attract rather similarities. Opposite for the sake of opposition does not sustain a relationship because where are the similarities to enjoy similar things. That's like putting a cat on a leash and calling it a dog.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Outwardly my partner and i appear to be completly opposite. Chip away at it and you will realize we have far more in common than people think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had an interesting discussion about it yesterday. I think it does, do you have someone who is opposite? It could be in values in life too, by the way, its a good song by paula abdul too "

I believe they can. We all go after something we don't have, in this case someone to share a life with. You're going to want someone to help compensate your weaknesses especially when raising a family. All that really matters is what you both want out of life, that's all that needs to remain consistent.

Regardless of type, stay with someone long enough who share the same goals and you'll fall in love

Everything else is just noise, fluff or a work around

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"You have a lot of discussions shag...

Btw i don't believe they do"

Lol I was about to write the same thing (and further to the lol thread, yes I did actually laugh out loud!)

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"We had an interesting discussion about it yesterday. I think it does, do you have someone who is opposite? It could be in values in life too, by the way, its a good song by paula abdul too "

I think it depends on what the opposites are. Some are complimentary being opposite, some really do not work at all.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It varies but probably more often than not, similarities attract

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly. Me and my husband are very very alike though and we have a great marriage so who knows

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Doubt I would want to be anywhere near someone who was the opposite of me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friendships yes. Partnerships no. Me and my ex were total opposites. He was quite narrow minded. A bit of a bigot and a racist to be honest and 2 friends said to me he is no good for you, you have opposing opinions in life but I was jaded and didn't see it.... Until we were living together and it was sheer hell.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land


"Morally and politically me and the missus, are pretty much on the same page, but in most other aspects we are polar opposites, I'm more creative, she's more practical, I'll do things on a whim, she'll procrastinate for days, she'll stick to a budget and save, if I've got a quid in my pocket I'll have to spend it.

But so far (20 years) it's worked ok for us."

You two have some fantastic “couple” pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone know what the opposite of a cave man is?

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Anyone know what the opposite of a cave man is? "

An ultra modern house dweller?

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By *ast_And_CuriousMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

Ask Paula Abdul.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I think some differences are good but core values need to be pretty similar for a good relationship.

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Yes if you can make compromises and able to agree to disagree at times.

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By *ogNMuseCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"Morally and politically me and the missus, are pretty much on the same page, but in most other aspects we are polar opposites, I'm more creative, she's more practical, I'll do things on a whim, she'll procrastinate for days, she'll stick to a budget and save, if I've got a quid in my pocket I'll have to spend it.

But so far (20 years) it's worked ok for us.

You two have some fantastic “couple” pics! "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks wise, I'm not that into those of similar build to me, so I guess physically, yes.

Personality wise though I seem to be attracted to those with a similar outlook and opinion.

I've only had one partner who had different views than me and we used to fight like cat & dog

In some ways I enjoyed the challenge, in other ways it drove me to complete distraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best relationships iv had is with people the same as myself, laughing about the same stupid things as we share the same humour, bouncing off eachother, always something to watch together as same taste in movies and music aswell, cooking together each night, never arguing as nothing to fall out about...

Worst relationship was with my opposite, nothing in common so nothing to ever talk about and had no interest in what she was talking about and vice versa, putting up with shitty music all day and forced to watch boring bullshit, im so laid back and she was so uptight that she would accuse me of not caring about anything because of it and would freak out about everything, couldnt take a joke.

Its the little things that make a relationship so you gotta be on the same wavelength

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over a year ago

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