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By *andsome_Chef88 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Okay I’ve seen this on a lot of people’s profile (mainly single women) but on their status it would say something like away, or out of town, or on holiday so cannot meet. But thinking all dudes/guys are gullible and just accept it. But they’re using their mobile to log in and probably not noticing that their location is on and you can see how far you are from each other from your mobile on your profile.

So why do people use this basic lie. It makes you look silly when caught out.

Have you ever told that lie before or been told this. If you have let me know

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

It's not always right. When I was in London it was telling my friend in Glasgow I was 10-15 miles away, then changing to 400 the next day, then changing back.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I don’t have location on or ‘who’s near’ and I don’t give my exact area. You may call it a lie and that’s fine but in my opinion it’s safety first and I like being vague

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By *andsome_Chef88 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I don’t have location on or ‘who’s near’ and I don’t give my exact area. You may call it a lie and that’s fine but in my opinion it’s safety first and I like being vague "

Nobody is saying safety isn’t an option. I full on agree with it. And if you don’t want to show your location is fine aswell. Most people want to be discrete. But the blatant lie is which I don’t understand. If you don’t want someone stalking or continue messaging you to meet. Isn’t there a block button. I maybe naive in saying this but don’t a lot of people use it to stop people messaging?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"I don’t have location on or ‘who’s near’ and I don’t give my exact area. You may call it a lie and that’s fine but in my opinion it’s safety first and I like being vague

Nobody is saying safety isn’t an option. I full on agree with it. And if you don’t want to show your location is fine aswell. Most people want to be discrete. But the blatant lie is which I don’t understand. If you don’t want someone stalking or continue messaging you to meet. Isn’t there a block button. I maybe naive in saying this but don’t a lot of people use it to stop people messaging?"

I believe they do yes. This won’t stop someone creating a new profile if they are that way inclined though.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Okay I’ve seen this on a lot of people’s profile (mainly single women) but on their status it would say something like away, or out of town, or on holiday so cannot meet. But thinking all dudes/guys are gullible and just accept it. But they’re using their mobile to log in and probably not noticing that their location is on and you can see how far you are from each other from your mobile on your profile.

So why do people use this basic lie. It makes you look silly when caught out.

Have you ever told that lie before or been told this. If you have let me know "

There are three types of "location" on this site. One which is manually entered and doesn't have to be an actual place, one which is set according to the postcode/location entered on your profile and the mobile location (which only works if you have "who's near" on).

So, looking at your profile, it says:

50+ miles away

(60+ driving)

Right now:

They are on mobile, 50+ miles away

However, mine (should) just say:

50+ miles away

(60+ driving)

Even if I go to London, it will always say that I'm 50+ miles away from you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I was talking to a girl that obviously didn’t realise this. Lying is a bit of a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I was talking to a girl that obviously didn’t realise this. Lying is a bit of a turn off. "

She may have been lying for safety reasons. You may know how safe you are. We don't

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By *andsome_Chef88 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

So are we saying lying is okay just for women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im were ever i want to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So are we saying lying is okay just for women. "

No, some of us were trying to explain why some of us lie about our location.

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By *heEpicureanMan
over a year ago

Stamford

Why do you care?

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Why are you so bothered by it? If you're taking that much notice of a woman's profile and monitoring her whereabouts it says more about you than the woman.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..


"So are we saying lying is okay just for women. "

Nobody is obliged to tell you where they are. I wouldn’t tell anyone on here exactly where I am at any given time. If you’re bothered by it then perhaps she’s not for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My location is off a wee bit, as I don’t want all the locals seeing me straight away.

And if I’m super duper bored, I’ll change my location, click ‘see who’s near’ and check out the talent in other areas of the UK

My profile does state I’m in Scotland though

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"So are we saying lying is okay just for women.

No, some of us were trying to explain why some of us lie about our location."

One of us seems to have misunderstood the op?

I think He is saying

He lives in x

He does a profile search for ladies whos profile says they live within 20 miles of x

They have written on their status they are 300 miles away from x at the moment

Their mobile location has been left on and it shows them to be within 20 miles of x

There are indeed a thousand good reasons for this and it matters not but safety is obviously NOT one of them as they have left the least safe mechanism on fab on which is an approximate real time declaration of their proximity

Even saying it isn't correct all the time is is still a great possibility it is

The op is noting that they seem oblivious to the fact their real location is possibly being declared and that this information means he can see the ladies being untruthful which he then uses his according to fab forums always right gut instinct to avoid the possibly treacherous women

In short just as many women find a man who cannot accommodate as suspicious he notes that a lady who is lying for some reason which is obviously not safey an does not have the wit to switch. Off her mobile location is also worthy of suspicious disregard by his gut xxx !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i obviously live in toytown and you just need to google that

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By *andsome_Chef88 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"So are we saying lying is okay just for women.

No, some of us were trying to explain why some of us lie about our location.

One of us seems to have misunderstood the op?

I think He is saying

He lives in x

He does a profile search for ladies whos profile says they live within 20 miles of x

They have written on their status they are 300 miles away from x at the moment

Their mobile location has been left on and it shows them to be within 20 miles of x

There are indeed a thousand good reasons for this and it matters not but safety is obviously NOT one of them as they have left the least safe mechanism on fab on which is an approximate real time declaration of their proximity

Even saying it isn't correct all the time is is still a great possibility it is

The op is noting that they seem oblivious to the fact their real location is possibly being declared and that this information means he can see the ladies being untruthful which he then uses his according to fab forums always right gut instinct to avoid the possibly treacherous women

In short just as many women find a man who cannot accommodate as suspicious he notes that a lady who is lying for some reason which is obviously not safey an does not have the wit to switch. Off her mobile location is also worthy of suspicious disregard by his gut xxx !

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exactly what I was trying to get at. Thought everyone was on this page. I’ve been honeytrapped in the past before (if don’t know what it is google it) but just saying it’s ok to lie

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Don't read too much into any discrepancies in fab location.

My sister is a regular fab user too. I've been sat on the sofa next to her and fab still says we are 60 miles away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm not meeting..like now.. i just loiter somewhere else..like now..

I don't really care whether people think im lying as im not meeting so i dont care

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By *iercedItMan
over a year ago

Mcr

Not accurate at all, it says im 300 miles away from KinkyBird above. Unless the north west just got a whole lot bigger, it's wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you so bothered by it? If you're taking that much notice of a woman's profile and monitoring her whereabouts it says more about you than the woman. "

Sure does

This makes you sound a bit stalkery OP

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Why are you so bothered by it? If you're taking that much notice of a woman's profile and monitoring her whereabouts it says more about you than the woman.

Sure does

This makes you sound a bit stalkery OP"

No it does not !

If one is a member the distance shows automatically if the user has left on their mobile location, it's blatantly obvious

The op is very very very simply and not in any stalker way or even a rude way just noting that

An observed discrepancy on a profile makes his gut instinct regarding the person behind the profile a little suspicious

It's a perfectly reasonable comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay I’ve seen this on a lot of people’s profile (mainly single women) but on their status it would say something like away, or out of town, or on holiday so cannot meet. But thinking all dudes/guys are gullible and just accept it. But they’re using their mobile to log in and probably not noticing that their location is on and you can see how far you are from each other from your mobile on your profile.

So why do people use this basic lie. It makes you look silly when caught out.

Have you ever told that lie before or been told this. If you have let me know "
Hey theirs worse lies than that....... Maybe they've got friction burns and just couldn't take another insertion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not accurate at all, it says im 300 miles away from KinkyBird above. Unless the north west just got a whole lot bigger, it's wrong. "

From my profile we are 50+ miles apart which it pretty accurate seeing as im not in Manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's also not nice when the GPS does screw up and someone ends up having a shit fit on you for 'lying'

I spend time in Scotland, while I was there a guy from my home area messaged me, wanting to meet I explained where I was.

He swore blind I was lying as the GPS told him I was 15 mile away.... I suggest people get less hung up on locations, it just causes hassle nobody needs.

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

If the answer is no thank you, it will be a no thank you where ever you are, so it does not really matter about location.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your never lying when you are lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the answer is no thank you, it will be a no thank you where ever you are, so it does not really matter about location. "
it does I may get off at wrong stop

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside


"If the answer is no thank you, it will be a no thank you where ever you are, so it does not really matter about location. it does I may get off at wrong stop"

Well that would be silly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay I’ve seen this on a lot of people’s profile (mainly single women) but on their status it would say something like away, or out of town, or on holiday so cannot meet. But thinking all dudes/guys are gullible and just accept it. But they’re using their mobile to log in and probably not noticing that their location is on and you can see how far you are from each other from your mobile on your profile.

So why do people use this basic lie. It makes you look silly when caught out.

Have you ever told that lie before or been told this. If you have let me know "

It’s not always right, someone I chat to and know personally was showing as 1.5 miles away when he was in Las Vegas really! He was using a VPN so his phones location was just a bit wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the answer is no thank you, it will be a no thank you where ever you are, so it does not really matter about location. it does I may get off at wrong stop

Well that would be silly "
exactly location location location

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i do a search for folk within 20 miles i get those who are in Southend area which is actually 75 miles driving and about 10 miles by boat (i do not have a boat).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When i do a search for folk within 20 miles i get those who are in Southend area which is actually 75 miles driving and about 10 miles by boat (i do not have a boat)."

#crowflies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My location is off a wee bit, as I don’t want all the locals seeing me straight away.

And if I’m super duper bored, I’ll change my location, click ‘see who’s near’ and check out the talent in other areas of the UK

My profile does state I’m in Scotland though "

Yep I do the bored thing too especially if I am going visiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I'm glad it does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When i do a search for folk within 20 miles i get those who are in Southend area which is actually 75 miles driving and about 10 miles by boat (i do not have a boat)."
Well get one they are hours of fun and cheap to run you could have one go on son

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby


"Why are you so bothered by it? If you're taking that much notice of a woman's profile and monitoring her whereabouts it says more about you than the woman.

Sure does

This makes you sound a bit stalkery OP

No it does not !

If one is a member the distance shows automatically if the user has left on their mobile location, it's blatantly obvious

The op is very very very simply and not in any stalker way or even a rude way just noting that

An observed discrepancy on a profile makes his gut instinct regarding the person behind the profile a little suspicious

It's a perfectly reasonable comment "

God forbid you don't turn off mobile location or make an impulsive decision to go out somewhere other than stated on your profile for fear of someone accusing you of lying about your location. The only way this can effect any other person is if they are actually in contact with someone and have agreed to meet at a specific time and place and that person suddenly appears 300 miles away. If that's the case just except it isn't going to happen and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay I’ve seen this on a lot of people’s profile (mainly single women) but on their status it would say something like away, or out of town, or on holiday so cannot meet. But thinking all dudes/guys are gullible and just accept it. But they’re using their mobile to log in and probably not noticing that their location is on and you can see how far you are from each other from your mobile on your profile.

So why do people use this basic lie. It makes you look silly when caught out.

Have you ever told that lie before or been told this. If you have let me know "

I lie about my location. I don't have the mobile location switched on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you so bothered by it? If you're taking that much notice of a woman's profile and monitoring her whereabouts it says more about you than the woman.

Sure does

This makes you sound a bit stalkery OP

No it does not !

If one is a member the distance shows automatically if the user has left on their mobile location, it's blatantly obvious

The op is very very very simply and not in any stalker way or even a rude way just noting that

An observed discrepancy on a profile makes his gut instinct regarding the person behind the profile a little suspicious

It's a perfectly reasonable comment

God forbid you don't turn off mobile location or make an impulsive decision to go out somewhere other than stated on your profile for fear of someone accusing you of lying about your location. The only way this can effect any other person is if they are actually in contact with someone and have agreed to meet at a specific time and place and that person suddenly appears 300 miles away. If that's the case just except it isn't going to happen and move on. "

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Nobody knows where 52 Festive Rd is and our location from the postcode covers 10 districts with a combined population of over 40000 people. We don’t think that gives too much away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just accept if they say they cannot meet, then they cannot meet. I wouldn't dig around and try and find out why. My mobile location is switched off so presumably even if I am a 100 miles away it will still say I am here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you so bothered by it? If you're taking that much notice of a woman's profile and monitoring her whereabouts it says more about you than the woman. "

I agree.

Far too many on here want to know exactly where you are and when you don’t tell them you’re automatically a liar and a fake.

I had my Who’s Near on out of curiosity before and forgot to turn it off, the amount of guys that were messaging when I was out stating they’re half a mile away, and naming streets asking if I lived on them was quite scary.

Many people don’t put their true location for safety & discretion reasons. I don’t see an issue with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I was talking to a girl that obviously didn’t realise this. Lying is a bit of a turn off.

She may have been lying for safety reasons. You may know how safe you are. We don't "

Nope it came with an elaborate story. I realise people hide the truth for safety and discretion. Puzzling really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have my location services set on my phone.

I don't know why people rely on the who's near' search. It isn't accurate at all.

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By *parkle13Woman
over a year ago

Dundee


"Okay I’ve seen this on a lot of people’s profile (mainly single women) but on their status it would say something like away, or out of town, or on holiday so cannot meet. But thinking all dudes/guys are gullible and just accept it. But they’re using their mobile to log in and probably not noticing that their location is on and you can see how far you are from each other from your mobile on your profile.

So why do people use this basic lie. It makes you look silly when caught out.

Have you ever told that lie before or been told this. If you have let me know "

Why is it makeing any body gullible.. Mabey they just don't want to meet ..wow ur a bit creepy sounding

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