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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hope everyone ok on forums

I’m sorry but fuck am down I feel so rubbish., I try be happy and I always post on here positive stuff and in real world life I tell my family how amazing everything is etc.

Before my operation I told ppl how depressed I was living in pain for 2 years an how not running impacted. But now had operation and yeah pain better than was, I won’t run again which is heartbreaking.

At first being off work was fun but now 13 weeks am fed up with everything, am sick of relying on people to do stuff am sick relying on people to take me out.

Yes I can walk but only small distances which is restrictive

Sorry to moan an pour out my soul I’m starting to feel depressed an scared of tell ppl as I hoped after operation everything be better. I know takes time and I know underestimated impact and time to be healed. I just wanna be better

I can’t even get meets on here no matter how charming I try to be lol. Yeah Ano meets are nothing I just want some contact an physical fun or even just a social time.

Damn I feel messed up now

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Sorry to hear that you’ve been having health issues. It sounds like you’ve had a significant surgery.

I really hope that you’re recovery goes well. It sounds like it will take a while.

Make sure friends and family and gp now how you’re feeling. You need real world support not just from strangers on the forum.

Best of luck. I wish you a speedy recovery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if it is but if it’s a knee op it will be better eventually. Went through this with my dad. He’s very very active and it killed him to have to rest. Whatever it I’m sure it’ll get better soon. Get yourself lost in a Netflix series

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op. Isnt it a knee operation you have had? I know its a long recovery but i know people who have had a complete new lease of life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for these comments, yeah it a tibial operation which corrects the knee displacement.

I know will be better and takes time when first seen dr told me 2-3 month recover the. Went 3-4 now looking like 6months till back in work.

I guess having a bad day I’m usually positive but today I dunno

I try hide from family the side I cry lots and feel down.

As for friends I haven’t really got any I’ve always been a bit of a loner, and some ppl work with thought we’re friends haven’t spoken to me or anything even though before left for operation everyone was goin visit an was goin take me out ... never happened

So at min I just feel like a prisoner.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

OP I know that things seem really bad at the moment but you just have to try and look for something , anything no matter how small , positive to focus on.

I know how you feel I did triathlons for best part of 20 years and a couple of years ago was unable to swim or bike thanks to a shoulder injury eventually had to stop running as any arm movement caused agony.

I understand how not being able to exercise has a negative impact on your mental well being particularly if like me you suffer from depression.

I joined the gym and found doing stuff that didn't aggravate the injury.

However this became almost zero at one stage.

I had my operation in march and was off work for 4 months it does drive you insane but I was back in the gym two weeks after the operation and the long slow recovery began I can run sort of pain free, cycling is ok but only short distance and I doubt I will ever be able to swim at a decent level again.

But I am in the gym 4 days a week getting fitter and stronger every session it's just having patience and trying as much as possible to stay in the right mindset.

Which isn't always easy,but there's always options,handbike aqua jogging some of these cardio machines in the gym give upper body options as well.

Walking was something I used to great effect when recovering.

Are you able to walk?

Speak to your GP if you are really down .

Good luck

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Thank you for these comments, yeah it a tibial operation which corrects the knee displacement.

I know will be better and takes time when first seen dr told me 2-3 month recover the. Went 3-4 now looking like 6months till back in work.

I guess having a bad day I’m usually positive but today I dunno

I try hide from family the side I cry lots and feel down.

As for friends I haven’t really got any I’ve always been a bit of a loner, and some ppl work with thought we’re friends haven’t spoken to me or anything even though before left for operation everyone was goin visit an was goin take me out ... never happened

So at min I just feel like a prisoner.

"
i dont blame you for having a downer i would be not being able to do anything for six months. However you have done some positive threads about your recovery and how its getting better bit by bit. Maybe have a read through them so you can see your moving forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for these comments, yeah it a tibial operation which corrects the knee displacement.

I know will be better and takes time when first seen dr told me 2-3 month recover the. Went 3-4 now looking like 6months till back in work.

I guess having a bad day I’m usually positive but today I dunno

I try hide from family the side I cry lots and feel down.

As for friends I haven’t really got any I’ve always been a bit of a loner, and some ppl work with thought we’re friends haven’t spoken to me or anything even though before left for operation everyone was goin visit an was goin take me out ... never happened

So at min I just feel like a prisoner.

"

People on here are mostly nice though. Hopefully it helps chatting here. Feel for you though it’s crap. But you will definitely feel better in time

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Also op was you a member of a running club?

Maybe going along to club nights being around others will help you stay motivated perhaps volunteering at local races marshalling.

I know that this can also be negative as it frustrates you but being around sporty positive people can really help.

And also there is nothing wrong with having a good old cry to get rid of those bad feelings.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

You will feel better in time... every day will and has shown slight improvement... you have shown great patience... just give yourself the gift of time..to heal

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I obviously don't know your personal circumstances OP, but as others have said, time is a great healer, we all have our ups and downs. I personally suffer from psoriatic arthritis, which renders me about as useful as a half set jelly some days, but I keep smiling knowing that tomorrow will be better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I know that things seem really bad at the moment but you just have to try and look for something , anything no matter how small , positive to focus on.

I know how you feel I did triathlons for best part of 20 years and a couple of years ago was unable to swim or bike thanks to a shoulder injury eventually had to stop running as any arm movement caused agony.

I understand how not being able to exercise has a negative impact on your mental well being particularly if like me you suffer from depression.

I joined the gym and found doing stuff that didn't aggravate the injury.

However this became almost zero at one stage.

I had my operation in march and was off work for 4 months it does drive you insane but I was back in the gym two weeks after the operation and the long slow recovery began I can run sort of pain free, cycling is ok but only short distance and I doubt I will ever be able to swim at a decent level again.

But I am in the gym 4 days a week getting fitter and stronger every session it's just having patience and trying as much as possible to stay in the right mindset.

Which isn't always easy,but there's always options,handbike aqua jogging some of these cardio machines in the gym give upper body options as well.

Walking was something I used to great effect when recovering.

Are you able to walk?

Speak to your GP if you are really down .

Good luck"

Thank you it’s nice you understand yes I suffer from depression and anxiety I hide it well cos I have a public job but began when I was sexually attacked 4 yrs ago.

I love gym an exercise it helped me loose 4st in weight

I know I put weight on I do physio stretches and have dumbbells so can do upper strengthening

I can’t put weight into leg due to fractures I will hopefully be able to in October when see Dr then I can start proper physio

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you for these comments, yeah it a tibial operation which corrects the knee displacement.

I know will be better and takes time when first seen dr told me 2-3 month recover the. Went 3-4 now looking like 6months till back in work.

I guess having a bad day I’m usually positive but today I dunno

I try hide from family the side I cry lots and feel down.

As for friends I haven’t really got any I’ve always been a bit of a loner, and some ppl work with thought we’re friends haven’t spoken to me or anything even though before left for operation everyone was goin visit an was goin take me out ... never happened

So at min I just feel like a prisoner.

i dont blame you for having a downer i would be not being able to do anything for six months. However you have done some positive threads about your recovery and how its getting better bit by bit. Maybe have a read through them so you can see your moving forward"

Ano I should do that I often look at all the pictures I’ve take. An see the improvements guess today hit me from no where

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for the comments an well wishes

I didn’t want people thinking I’m after attention am not but today I feel so isolated I’ve cried loads an really down I know tomorrow will be better as my dads coming take me for a walk

Just a few days solo alone pushes me over edge

Sorry to bother ppl with my post

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Thank you for the comments an well wishes

I didn’t want people thinking I’m after attention am not but today I feel so isolated I’ve cried loads an really down I know tomorrow will be better as my dads coming take me for a walk

Just a few days solo alone pushes me over edge

Sorry to bother ppl with my post"
well you know you can always talk to us

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Sorry to bother ppl with my post"

You're not bothering anybody, obviously talking about things is a great release for you. It's better than keeping things bottled up. If you feel open enough to talk to us random idiots, then there's always light at the end of the tunnel

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry to bother ppl with my post

You're not bothering anybody, obviously talking about things is a great release for you. It's better than keeping things bottled up. If you feel open enough to talk to us random idiots, then there's always light at the end of the tunnel "

I find easier talking to ppl don’t know than ppl I do an see sounds dumb lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Sorry to bother ppl with my post

You're not bothering anybody, obviously talking about things is a great release for you. It's better than keeping things bottled up. If you feel open enough to talk to us random idiots, then there's always light at the end of the tunnel

I find easier talking to ppl don’t know than ppl I do an see sounds dumb lol"
well carry on

There is always people here that will listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to bother ppl with my post

You're not bothering anybody, obviously talking about things is a great release for you. It's better than keeping things bottled up. If you feel open enough to talk to us random idiots, then there's always light at the end of the tunnel

I find easier talking to ppl don’t know than ppl I do an see sounds dumb lol"

I understand that. It’s not dumb.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for these comments, yeah it a tibial operation which corrects the knee displacement.

I know will be better and takes time when first seen dr told me 2-3 month recover the. Went 3-4 now looking like 6months till back in work.

I guess having a bad day I’m usually positive but today I dunno

I try hide from family the side I cry lots and feel down.

As for friends I haven’t really got any I’ve always been a bit of a loner, and some ppl work with thought we’re friends haven’t spoken to me or anything even though before left for operation everyone was goin visit an was goin take me out ... never happened

So at min I just feel like a prisoner.

i dont blame you for having a downer i would be not being able to do anything for six months. However you have done some positive threads about your recovery and how its getting better bit by bit. Maybe have a read through them so you can see your moving forward"

That's a good idea. OP your threads always make me smile. Maybe go back and read them right from the start and you'll see how far you've come.

Is there anyone you used to go to the pub with? Or can you even just hobble down there one night and people watch? It'll give you something else to do and being with people might help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you for these comments, yeah it a tibial operation which corrects the knee displacement.

I know will be better and takes time when first seen dr told me 2-3 month recover the. Went 3-4 now looking like 6months till back in work.

I guess having a bad day I’m usually positive but today I dunno

I try hide from family the side I cry lots and feel down.

As for friends I haven’t really got any I’ve always been a bit of a loner, and some ppl work with thought we’re friends haven’t spoken to me or anything even though before left for operation everyone was goin visit an was goin take me out ... never happened

So at min I just feel like a prisoner.

i dont blame you for having a downer i would be not being able to do anything for six months. However you have done some positive threads about your recovery and how its getting better bit by bit. Maybe have a read through them so you can see your moving forward

That's a good idea. OP your threads always make me smile. Maybe go back and read them right from the start and you'll see how far you've come.

Is there anyone you used to go to the pub with? Or can you even just hobble down there one night and people watch? It'll give you something else to do and being with people might help. "

Am glad mate you smile

I tried go down pub other day but ppl bein d*unk an stuff freaked me out about getting knocked into will try again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you so much for the kind words and support

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Thank you so much for the kind words and support"

Come on , you've done so well, you will have lots of down days but you will get there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you so much for the kind words and support

Come on , you've done so well, you will have lots of down days but you will get there "

Ano today was a really bad day I think feeling a bit off and stuff and my brain started thinking about the attack on me I always seem to have issues from September as happened earlier October

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About three years ago I had a bad accident which left me about 1" shorter with squashed vertebrae in my upper back and a big scar on my scalp. It took eight weeks for the back and head injuries to settle down and I was definitely a bit out of sorts mentally for about a year after that. My gp put me on a course of anti-depressants which got me through the worst part of it but I also started listening to meditations from Headspace which really helped me to feel better about the situation I had found myself in. It takes about ten minutes a day and is not at all new agey or airy fairy as the guy behind it also works with athletes and does after dinner speaking so it's easy to pick up when you need a few kind words. Give it a go and be kind to yourself, as getting depressed because you can't do things you used to will only make the situation feel worse to you than it really is. Also, I met one of my best FB's ever while I was off work so a golden opportunity awaits you. Chin up old chap

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you so much for the kind words and the support it meant a lot yesterday and again today

I looked back at the past comments and yes I see my recovery path and how better am doing

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Thank you so much for the kind words and the support it meant a lot yesterday and again today

I looked back at the past comments and yes I see my recovery path and how better am doing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you so much for the kind words and the support it meant a lot yesterday and again today

I looked back at the past comments and yes I see my recovery path and how better am doing

"

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