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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m just rewatching naked attraction with the poly couple, and I can’t help but think what a lovely situation that must be. Sitting here thinking I’d be happy with either a two Male one female or two female one male situation and how it could just work!

I have my own views, but why do you think it’s so frowned upon in western civilisation? Is it just religion and learned behaviour? Or is there more to it?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I don't do religion, but obviously those that do, have their own parameters. Let them get on with it, whatever floats someone else's boat usually has absolutely nothing at all to how they want to be perceived in everyday life, just like the rest of us really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't do religion, but obviously those that do, have their own parameters. Let them get on with it, whatever floats someone else's boat usually has absolutely nothing at all to how they want to be perceived in everyday life, just like the rest of us really. "

I dont do religion either, but it’s factor that drips through the everyday perception of everyday people in everyday life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly a poly relationship is such a dream for me! Youd rarely be lonely as one partner would probably be home the same time as you, youd have so much more financial stability as a triad...theres just so many pluses to it.

I think it takes a certain kind of person to thrive in this kind of relationship, and anyone that doesn't just sees it as wrong or cheating?

It's the same bias as homophobic people, they hate what they cant understand or are too ignorant to understand.

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By *inny999Woman
over a year ago

blackburn

Interesting isnt it ... and she was beautiful ... x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly a poly relationship is such a dream for me! Youd rarely be lonely as one partner would probably be home the same time as you, youd have so much more financial stability as a triad...theres just so many pluses to it.

I think it takes a certain kind of person to thrive in this kind of relationship, and anyone that doesn't just sees it as wrong or cheating?

It's the same bias as homophobic people, they hate what they cant understand or are too ignorant to understand."

And the extra person would add an extra dynamic! As well as the potential to take some of the ‘strain’ of a relationship that inevitably comes.

I just can’t see a downside as long as everyone is happy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting isnt it ... and she was beautiful ... x "

That they were.

To be fair, I’m a little jealous of the chap

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By *inny999Woman
over a year ago

blackburn


"Interesting isnt it ... and she was beautiful ... x

That they were.

To be fair, I’m a little jealous of the chap "

Yeah for sure! .. i was suprised they picked who they did. But yeah id have happily had the pick of those two every night xx ... oh and i agree.. pineapple on pizza is yum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that poly is a totally acceptable concept but it does come with considerable issues. Mostly we have, in the west, a preconceived idea regarding relationships that being that two is enough. Now I personally don't agree with this and feel that love doesn't hold much regard for numbers. So if it works for you then that's cool with me.... VT x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting isnt it ... and she was beautiful ... x

That they were.

To be fair, I’m a little jealous of the chap

Yeah for sure! .. i was suprised they picked who they did. But yeah id have happily had the pick of those two every night xx ... oh and i agree.. pineapple on pizza is yum "

I’m more than a little jealous! But hands off my pizza!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Honestly a poly relationship is such a dream for me! Youd rarely be lonely as one partner would probably be home the same time as you, youd have so much more financial stability as a triad...theres just so many pluses to it.

I think it takes a certain kind of person to thrive in this kind of relationship, and anyone that doesn't just sees it as wrong or cheating?

It's the same bias as homophobic people, they hate what they cant understand or are too ignorant to understand."

So many pluses you say? There are obviously so many minuses as well along the way.

I was offered a relationship on this scale from a lady off here who came to stop with me for 4 nights, I had to turn it down as I couldn't be doing with her for a fifth night, let alone some random bloke who I had never met

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think that poly is a totally acceptable concept but it does come with considerable issues. Mostly we have, in the west, a preconceived idea regarding relationships that being that two is enough. Now I personally don't agree with this and feel that love doesn't hold much regard for numbers. So if it works for you then that's cool with me.... VT x"

I couldn’t agree more. It’s certainly a western conception that it’s “man and wife” etc. Look of some other cultures, several wives etc. But I don’t seee the issue with several “husbands” in the same respect, that’s just male dominance when it comes down to it.

I was involved in a duck relationshio once and the only reason I’m still not was the disparity in the equality of it all

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By *inny999Woman
over a year ago

blackburn


"Interesting isnt it ... and she was beautiful ... x

That they were.

To be fair, I’m a little jealous of the chap

Yeah for sure! .. i was suprised they picked who they did. But yeah id have happily had the pick of those two every night xx ... oh and i agree.. pineapple on pizza is yum

I’m more than a little jealous! But hands off my pizza!"

Hands off your what?.. ohhh pizza. Ok well i genuinely have a degree in Psychology.. no really... anyway, i do believe we conform generally to the norm, obviously as we are here not always! But learnt behaviour id say has a huge role in the disapproval yes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that poly is a totally acceptable concept but it does come with considerable issues. Mostly we have, in the west, a preconceived idea regarding relationships that being that two is enough. Now I personally don't agree with this and feel that love doesn't hold much regard for numbers. So if it works for you then that's cool with me.... VT x

I couldn’t agree more. It’s certainly a western conception that it’s “man and wife” etc. Look of some other cultures, several wives etc. But I don’t seee the issue with several “husbands” in the same respect, that’s just male dominance when it comes down to it.

I was involved in a duck relationshio once and the only reason I’m still not was the disparity in the equality of it all"

Equity is the key. The question is how do you achieve it? Do you have a democratic system or do you have a head person who makes the final decisions?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly a poly relationship is such a dream for me! Youd rarely be lonely as one partner would probably be home the same time as you, youd have so much more financial stability as a triad...theres just so many pluses to it.

I think it takes a certain kind of person to thrive in this kind of relationship, and anyone that doesn't just sees it as wrong or cheating?

It's the same bias as homophobic people, they hate what they cant understand or are too ignorant to understand.

So many pluses you say? There are obviously so many minuses as well along the way.

I was offered a relationship on this scale from a lady off here who came to stop with me for 4 nights, I had to turn it down as I couldn't be doing with her for a fifth night, let alone some random bloke who I had never met "

Yeah, but poly isn’t about “some random bloke” it’s about people who know each other and get along and have a shared relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think that poly is a totally acceptable concept but it does come with considerable issues. Mostly we have, in the west, a preconceived idea regarding relationships that being that two is enough. Now I personally don't agree with this and feel that love doesn't hold much regard for numbers. So if it works for you then that's cool with me.... VT x

I couldn’t agree more. It’s certainly a western conception that it’s “man and wife” etc. Look of some other cultures, several wives etc. But I don’t seee the issue with several “husbands” in the same respect, that’s just male dominance when it comes down to it.

I was involved in a duck relationshio once and the only reason I’m still not was the disparity in the equality of it all

Equity is the key. The question is how do you achieve it? Do you have a democratic system or do you have a head person who makes the final decisions? "

That is the question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting isnt it ... and she was beautiful ... x

That they were.

To be fair, I’m a little jealous of the chap

Yeah for sure! .. i was suprised they picked who they did. But yeah id have happily had the pick of those two every night xx ... oh and i agree.. pineapple on pizza is yum

I’m more than a little jealous! But hands off my pizza!

Hands off your what?.. ohhh pizza. Ok well i genuinely have a degree in Psychology.. no really... anyway, i do believe we conform generally to the norm, obviously as we are here not always! But learnt behaviour id say has a huge role in the disapproval yes x"

I agree, learnt behaviour aka social conditioning has a huge part to play. But I say you can shove all that up ya pipe and love who you love and be done with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly a poly relationship is such a dream for me! Youd rarely be lonely as one partner would probably be home the same time as you, youd have so much more financial stability as a triad...theres just so many pluses to it.

I think it takes a certain kind of person to thrive in this kind of relationship, and anyone that doesn't just sees it as wrong or cheating?

It's the same bias as homophobic people, they hate what they cant understand or are too ignorant to understand.

So many pluses you say? There are obviously so many minuses as well along the way.

I was offered a relationship on this scale from a lady off here who came to stop with me for 4 nights, I had to turn it down as I couldn't be doing with her for a fifth night, let alone some random bloke who I had never met

Yeah, but poly isn’t about “some random bloke” it’s about people who know each other and get along and have a shared relationship. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting isnt it ... and she was beautiful ... x

That they were.

To be fair, I’m a little jealous of the chap

Yeah for sure! .. i was suprised they picked who they did. But yeah id have happily had the pick of those two every night xx ... oh and i agree.. pineapple on pizza is yum

I’m more than a little jealous! But hands off my pizza!

Hands off your what?.. ohhh pizza. Ok well i genuinely have a degree in Psychology.. no really... anyway, i do believe we conform generally to the norm, obviously as we are here not always! But learnt behaviour id say has a huge role in the disapproval yes x

I agree, learnt behaviour aka social conditioning has a huge part to play. But I say you can shove all that up ya pipe and love who you love and be done with it! "

I’m glad I’m not alone!

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By *inny999Woman
over a year ago

blackburn


"Interesting isnt it ... and she was beautiful ... x

That they were.

To be fair, I’m a little jealous of the chap

Yeah for sure! .. i was suprised they picked who they did. But yeah id have happily had the pick of those two every night xx ... oh and i agree.. pineapple on pizza is yum

I’m more than a little jealous! But hands off my pizza!

Hands off your what?.. ohhh pizza. Ok well i genuinely have a degree in Psychology.. no really... anyway, i do believe we conform generally to the norm, obviously as we are here not always! But learnt behaviour id say has a huge role in the disapproval yes x

I agree, learnt behaviour aka social conditioning has a huge part to play. But I say you can shove all that up ya pipe and love who you love and be done with it! "

Agree entirely! .. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting isnt it ... and she was beautiful ... x

That they were.

To be fair, I’m a little jealous of the chap

Yeah for sure! .. i was suprised they picked who they did. But yeah id have happily had the pick of those two every night xx ... oh and i agree.. pineapple on pizza is yum

I’m more than a little jealous! But hands off my pizza!

Hands off your what?.. ohhh pizza. Ok well i genuinely have a degree in Psychology.. no really... anyway, i do believe we conform generally to the norm, obviously as we are here not always! But learnt behaviour id say has a huge role in the disapproval yes x

I agree, learnt behaviour aka social conditioning has a huge part to play. But I say you can shove all that up ya pipe and love who you love and be done with it!

Agree entirely! .. xx "

Love is an amazing thing and I will never understand why it should be restricted. Poly isn't about sex, its about love. Love who you will and if they love you back then happy days...

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Honestly a poly relationship is such a dream for me! Youd rarely be lonely as one partner would probably be home the same time as you, youd have so much more financial stability as a triad...theres just so many pluses to it.

I think it takes a certain kind of person to thrive in this kind of relationship, and anyone that doesn't just sees it as wrong or cheating?

It's the same bias as homophobic people, they hate what they cant understand or are too ignorant to understand.

So many pluses you say? There are obviously so many minuses as well along the way.

I was offered a relationship on this scale from a lady off here who came to stop with me for 4 nights, I had to turn it down as I couldn't be doing with her for a fifth night, let alone some random bloke who I had never met

Yeah, but poly isn’t about “some random bloke” it’s about people who know each other and get along and have a shared relationship. "

Yeah, that was ma point, she suggested it, and I thought how the hell is this gonna work ffs?

I suppose it can in the right circumstances though

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By *inny999Woman
over a year ago

blackburn


"Interesting isnt it ... and she was beautiful ... x

That they were.

To be fair, I’m a little jealous of the chap

Yeah for sure! .. i was suprised they picked who they did. But yeah id have happily had the pick of those two every night xx ... oh and i agree.. pineapple on pizza is yum

I’m more than a little jealous! But hands off my pizza!

Hands off your what?.. ohhh pizza. Ok well i genuinely have a degree in Psychology.. no really... anyway, i do believe we conform generally to the norm, obviously as we are here not always! But learnt behaviour id say has a huge role in the disapproval yes x

I agree, learnt behaviour aka social conditioning has a huge part to play. But I say you can shove all that up ya pipe and love who you love and be done with it!

Agree entirely! .. xx

Love is an amazing thing and I will never understand why it should be restricted. Poly isn't about sex, its about love. Love who you will and if they love you back then happy days... "

Its just this crazy world we live in.. thank goodness for those who deviate or what a boring life it would be xxx have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting isnt it ... and she was beautiful ... x

That they were.

To be fair, I’m a little jealous of the chap

Yeah for sure! .. i was suprised they picked who they did. But yeah id have happily had the pick of those two every night xx ... oh and i agree.. pineapple on pizza is yum

I’m more than a little jealous! But hands off my pizza!

Hands off your what?.. ohhh pizza. Ok well i genuinely have a degree in Psychology.. no really... anyway, i do believe we conform generally to the norm, obviously as we are here not always! But learnt behaviour id say has a huge role in the disapproval yes x

I agree, learnt behaviour aka social conditioning has a huge part to play. But I say you can shove all that up ya pipe and love who you love and be done with it!

Agree entirely! .. xx

Love is an amazing thing and I will never understand why it should be restricted. Poly isn't about sex, its about love. Love who you will and if they love you back then happy days...

Its just this crazy world we live in.. thank goodness for those who deviate or what a boring life it would be xxx have fun "

Same to you xx

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By *ediMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’m just rewatching naked attraction with the poly couple, and I can’t help but think what a lovely situation that must be. Sitting here thinking I’d be happy with either a two Male one female or two female one male situation and how it could just work!

I have my own views, but why do you think it’s so frowned upon in western civilisation? Is it just religion and learned behaviour? Or is there more to it? "

I believe many of the world religions in there originality have there own versions of polyramous, if open relationships are now more accepted I believe polgramojs is just a more stable version of that, that’s my two pence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'd have the time or the energy to be equally involved with more than one person in this kind of relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like heaven to me, not just for the sexual side but for the emotional side too.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

We’ve watched all of You Me Her and my main view is that yeah it can work, but I’d wonder if it was different if t was like the scenario in the programme where a couple who have been together for years introduce a girl into their relationship, vs 3 people meeting more or less at the same time.

Things like ‘in jokes’ or experiences the first 2 people shared etc I’d worry would be something that brings the original people close but leaves the third a bit left out.

Not sure I could share feelings with someone else but more than happy to share the physical side.

TB

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think we've had such long term indoctrination to expecting just a couples relationship that for too many people it's too big a contrast to have a poly relationship. In more recent years, we've had this fairytale romance centred on 2 people wanting this as a dream come true, that children grow up with massive pressure to get this after leaving school and getting to adulthood. Religion has definitely Hi been part of the driving force for many years and it worked well to constrain and control people.

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin


"Honestly a poly relationship is such a dream for me! Youd rarely be lonely as one partner would probably be home the same time as you, youd have so much more financial stability as a triad...theres just so many pluses to it.

I think it takes a certain kind of person to thrive in this kind of relationship, and anyone that doesn't just sees it as wrong or cheating?

It's the same bias as homophobic people, they hate what they cant understand or are too ignorant to understand."

Sounds good in theory. But it's hard enough to tread a fair and balanced path with two people in a relationship. A third makes it hugely more difficult to balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly a poly relationship is such a dream for me! Youd rarely be lonely as one partner would probably be home the same time as you, youd have so much more financial stability as a triad...theres just so many pluses to it.

I think it takes a certain kind of person to thrive in this kind of relationship, and anyone that doesn't just sees it as wrong or cheating?

It's the same bias as homophobic people, they hate what they cant understand or are too ignorant to understand.

Sounds good in theory. But it's hard enough to tread a fair and balanced path with two people in a relationship. A third makes it hugely more difficult to balance."

Surely that depends on the people involved?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I saw that, they seemed really nice but I would of picked the Ruby Rose lookalike!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I'd have to try it to see if it works! I can see the attractions. Whether religious or not the legal norm of a heterosexual couple in the UK is derived from biblical teaching. Although the UK has broadened this to homosexual couples now ... so perhaps never say never?!

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By *appy headCouple
over a year ago

leicester

One woman and two men is that still a poly thingy

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

If two attractive women want to give this a go with me, I am willing to consider being the Polyfiller

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One woman and two men is that still a poly thingy"

Yeah, I’m pretty sure it can be any number of any sex, doesn’t have to be 3

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I have 2 males in mind ... this would suit me xx

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Ideal scenario. It's the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if your all happy and it works and your all into it and have the connection go for it

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

We live in a society conditioned towards monogamy, it's good to see polyamory slowly becoming more accepted, but there's still a long way to go

I'm not a big believer in monogamy

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I can see how it can work but i dont think it would be for me. I cant imagine loving all equally. However people with more than one child love them equally so im sure it could work in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The idea of a poly lifestyle really resonates with me. I have so much respect for people who live this way. To be able to find one person that you connect with is difficult enough, but to form multiple connections I find just beautiful! The key is always openness and honesty and compromise I think.

Peach x

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"I saw that, they seemed really nice but I would of picked the Ruby Rose lookalike! "

Yeah, so would I

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I’m just rewatching naked attraction with the poly couple, and I can’t help but think what a lovely situation that must be. Sitting here thinking I’d be happy with either a two Male one female or two female one male situation and how it could just work!

I have my own views, but why do you think it’s so frowned upon in western civilisation? Is it just religion and learned behaviour? Or is there more to it? "

My view is that there’s no way I could share a woman full time with another woman , man , tv , ts or gender fluid person . I wouldn’t want a sexual relationship with anyone other than a woman . So since I know I wouldn’t want to share , it wouldn’t work for me at all .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One woman and two men is that still a poly thingy"

Gender is not relevant at all. Its about any number greater than 2.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in a society conditioned towards monogamy, it's good to see polyamory slowly becoming more accepted, but there's still a long way to go

I'm not a big believer in monogamy"

I agree, I don't believe human beings are designed to be monogamous. And I also believe that applied societal rules are wrong. When it comes to relationships we should be free to live how we wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'd love to have another man in our relationship

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"I’m just rewatching naked attraction with the poly couple, and I can’t help but think what a lovely situation that must be. Sitting here thinking I’d be happy with either a two Male one female or two female one male situation and how it could just work!

I have my own views, but why do you think it’s so frowned upon in western civilisation? Is it just religion and learned behaviour? Or is there more to it?

My view is that there’s no way I could share a woman full time with another woman , man , tv , ts or gender fluid person . I wouldn’t want a sexual relationship with anyone other than a woman . So since I know I wouldn’t want to share , it wouldn’t work for me at all ."
what about two women sharing you?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I’m just rewatching naked attraction with the poly couple, and I can’t help but think what a lovely situation that must be. Sitting here thinking I’d be happy with either a two Male one female or two female one male situation and how it could just work!

I have my own views, but why do you think it’s so frowned upon in western civilisation? Is it just religion and learned behaviour? Or is there more to it?

My view is that there’s no way I could share a woman full time with another woman , man , tv , ts or gender fluid person . I wouldn’t want a sexual relationship with anyone other than a woman . So since I know I wouldn’t want to share , it wouldn’t work for me at all .what about two women sharing you?"

Do you know what ?

I think I’d hate that too because it’s inevitable they would get arsey about this , that , and everything else . And I’d be the mug in the middle trying to resolve the issues that come up .

Maybe I’m wrong , and perhaps two women would be very happy to share me or any other fella come to that , but something tells me that standing in front of a tsunami would be a safer bet !

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"I’m just rewatching naked attraction with the poly couple, and I can’t help but think what a lovely situation that must be. Sitting here thinking I’d be happy with either a two Male one female or two female one male situation and how it could just work!

I have my own views, but why do you think it’s so frowned upon in western civilisation? Is it just religion and learned behaviour? Or is there more to it?

My view is that there’s no way I could share a woman full time with another woman , man , tv , ts or gender fluid person . I wouldn’t want a sexual relationship with anyone other than a woman . So since I know I wouldn’t want to share , it wouldn’t work for me at all .what about two women sharing you?

Do you know what ?

I think I’d hate that too because it’s inevitable they would get arsey about this , that , and everything else . And I’d be the mug in the middle trying to resolve the issues that come up .

Maybe I’m wrong , and perhaps two women would be very happy to share me or any other fella come to that , but something tells me that standing in front of a tsunami would be a safer bet !"

It’s a mindset that needs reprogramming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It appeals when I’m feeling really horny. However, when I’ve got PMT the thought of a multiple murder taking place isn’t a good one.

Far easier and less messy to just arrange a meet I think

V x

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I’m just rewatching naked attraction with the poly couple, and I can’t help but think what a lovely situation that must be. Sitting here thinking I’d be happy with either a two Male one female or two female one male situation and how it could just work!

I have my own views, but why do you think it’s so frowned upon in western civilisation? Is it just religion and learned behaviour? Or is there more to it?

My view is that there’s no way I could share a woman full time with another woman , man , tv , ts or gender fluid person . I wouldn’t want a sexual relationship with anyone other than a woman . So since I know I wouldn’t want to share , it wouldn’t work for me at all .what about two women sharing you?

Do you know what ?

I think I’d hate that too because it’s inevitable they would get arsey about this , that , and everything else . And I’d be the mug in the middle trying to resolve the issues that come up .

Maybe I’m wrong , and perhaps two women would be very happy to share me or any other fella come to that , but something tells me that standing in front of a tsunami would be a safer bet !

It’s a mindset that needs reprogramming "

My mindset ?

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"I’m just rewatching naked attraction with the poly couple, and I can’t help but think what a lovely situation that must be. Sitting here thinking I’d be happy with either a two Male one female or two female one male situation and how it could just work!

I have my own views, but why do you think it’s so frowned upon in western civilisation? Is it just religion and learned behaviour? Or is there more to it?

My view is that there’s no way I could share a woman full time with another woman , man , tv , ts or gender fluid person . I wouldn’t want a sexual relationship with anyone other than a woman . So since I know I wouldn’t want to share , it wouldn’t work for me at all .what about two women sharing you?

Do you know what ?

I think I’d hate that too because it’s inevitable they would get arsey about this , that , and everything else . And I’d be the mug in the middle trying to resolve the issues that come up .

Maybe I’m wrong , and perhaps two women would be very happy to share me or any other fella come to that , but something tells me that standing in front of a tsunami would be a safer bet !

It’s a mindset that needs reprogramming

My mindset ?"

It certainly isn’t a lifestyle for everyone. Happenstance and changing situations can unwittingly reprogram the mindset. I doubt if it often happens from conscious rational decision making

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having lived in Polygamous societies in the Middle East, I’ve learnt that because it’s socially acceptable and cultural it’s still difficult for those women. I do wonder how it works in conventional societies though? Do all 3 accept social invitations? Where do they spend their Christmases? Can there really be equity? Just some thoughts .....

C (fem half of funscubacpl)

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"We’ve watched all of You Me Her and my main view is that yeah it can work, but I’d wonder if it was different if t was like the scenario in the programme where a couple who have been together for years introduce a girl into their relationship, vs 3 people meeting more or less at the same time.

Things like ‘in jokes’ or experiences the first 2 people shared etc I’d worry would be something that brings the original people close but leaves the third a bit left out.

Not sure I could share feelings with someone else but more than happy to share the physical side.

TB"

I watched about a series and a half of that, but it got annoying after a while (binge watching) with the big dramas being instantly forgotten. It was also a bit fast paced for me (she moved in after a week!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer relationship anarchy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's because some Swinger/ poly types slag off monogamous people saying monogamy is unnatural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having lived in Polygamous societies in the Middle East, I’ve learnt that because it’s socially acceptable and cultural it’s still difficult for those women. I do wonder how it works in conventional societies though? Do all 3 accept social invitations? Where do they spend their Christmases? Can there really be equity? Just some thoughts .....

C (fem half of funscubacpl) "

How is it still difficult for those women? In what way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having lived in Polygamous societies in the Middle East, I’ve learnt that because it’s socially acceptable and cultural it’s still difficult for those women. I do wonder how it works in conventional societies though? Do all 3 accept social invitations? Where do they spend their Christmases? Can there really be equity? Just some thoughts .....

C (fem half of funscubacpl)

My peers were adamant they would not want their husbands taking another wife or be second, third or fourth wife

How is it still difficult for those women? In what way?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having lived in Polygamous societies in the Middle East, I’ve learnt that because it’s socially acceptable and cultural it’s still difficult for those women. I do wonder how it works in conventional societies though? Do all 3 accept social invitations? Where do they spend their Christmases? Can there really be equity? Just some thoughts .....

C (fem half of funscubacpl)

My peers were adamant they would not want their husbands taking another wife or be second, third or fourth wife

How is it still difficult for those women? In what way?"

I wonder how many are truly happy in those kind of relationships. And how many say they are happy just so their partner doesn't leave them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think there’s nothing wrong with it. As the saying goes love holds no boundaries.

I seem to remember about 10 years ago that 2 couples in America got married together making two husbands and two wives and also living in the same house.

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