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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Like they did in the old days? My grandparents and parents have been married for 30 years + and still is, is it cos today there are different values, whats your view?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well today we are celebrating 15 years of marriage x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been with my husband for 17 years and married for 12. So yes, they can and do last.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine lasted 7 yrs and 364 days whilst my parents were just a few months short of their golden wedding anniversary..

So in my experience no, it doesn't last like it used to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Roughly 40% off marriages end in divorce. Sharp increase since 1950

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Mine lasted about 4 1/2 years. Married at 25 divorced at 30

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine lasted 12 years, I think that there is a social expectation to get married and have the ‘package’. I got married quite young and looking back I was reacting to what others wanted rather than what I wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope so.

We’ve been married a year and a half an our first year of marriage was the worst year of my entire life. We went through so much that could tear any couple apart, yet we faced everything together and it never once crossed our minds to leave. I like to think that if we can survive that, we can survive most things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Working values have changed. Family values are still the same I think.

The woman now has much pressure to earn for her family as much as the man did ‘in the olden days’. So maybe (just maybe) that takes away her focus of looking after the house and family.

(It’s just a thought, as I’m making a cup of coffee, don’t turn this into a sexist argument)

Some maragies rely on love, some in power (and other things) so maybe it’s the power in relationships that have changed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience in my family

Grandparents married for 60+ years.Ended by death

Parents 55 years .Ended by death.

Me 14 yrs ... ended because he was a bell end!

You married for life back then

Now ,with some couples not all ...life gets in the way .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve been married a while

We’re still very happy.

If one of us isn’t happy for any reason we talk about it and find a solution.

This is where some modern marriages go wrong, communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think back then the expectation was to stick at it through all the bad times as well as the good times

These days its almost easier to walk away

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No, they don't and in many cases its a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was married 16 years and with that person for 26 and unfortunately it didn’t last but ultimately because he didn’t want to put the effort into fixing it, which I think is often the case these days....

So now making up for being with 1 person for so long, and letting my hair down!

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

People don’t realise they shouldn’t be getting married in the first place so most are doomed from the start sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, they don't and in many cases its a good thing.

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In mine i agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No and I think that's a good thing. I'm the old days woman stayed with men who treated them like dirt. My first husband was violent to me, I left when I feared things were getting worse- in the old days I would have been expected to stay

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Doesn't mean they were happy.

Marriages end but the people don't necessarily split up.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I am not a fan of progs where they say ...... Here's Tom and Betty , they've been married for 50 years.

Big Deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No and I think that's a good thing. I'm the old days woman stayed with men who treated them like dirt. My first husband was violent to me, I left when I feared things were getting worse- in the old days I would have been expected to stay "
Well you were a handful

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


"Like they did in the old days? My grandparents and parents have been married for 30 years + and still is, is it cos today there are different values, whats your view?"

Are you looking for a bride?

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By *ailburkeMan
over a year ago

near you

I know my marriage would have a greater chance of lasting if she would agree to join me on this site like what woman in her right mind would turn down the chance of enjoying two cocks at once pleasing her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know my marriage would have a greater chance of lasting if she would agree to join me on this site like what woman in her right mind would turn down the chance of enjoying two cocks at once pleasing her "
Hey if she finds out you're here you will just part of the ever increasing statistics

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

Statistics say no

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I know my marriage would have a greater chance of lasting if she would agree to join me on this site like what woman in her right mind would turn down the chance of enjoying two cocks at once pleasing her "

. So women who don't want to swing aren't in their right minds .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people are too quick to give up nowadays, its easier to give up and walk away than to stick at it for another 20yrs, often a lot of old couples end up hating eachother in the end and its because they chose to stay together as back in the day divorce was frowned upon. This is why I dont believe in marriage, if your in love then your going to be together anyways married or not so why bother adding the extra hassle of marriage when the inevitable happens and you have to go through the mess of divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like they did in the old days? My grandparents and parents have been married for 30 years + and still is, is it cos today there are different values, whats your view?"

No it's changed days. Everything was more simple then. Husbands and wives knew their place and most of the time you worked hard just to get by. Families were close knit and looked out for each other. Too much freedom and choice now x

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

We are taking about being married untill DEATH.

No, to much social and personal pressure and outside influences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, they don't and in many cases its a good thing.

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I divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know my marriage would have a greater chance of lasting if she would agree to join me on this site like what woman in her right mind would turn down the chance of enjoying two cocks at once pleasing her "

That's my worst nightmare.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


" Husbands and wives knew their place . . . Too much freedom and choice now x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was married for 22 years, it’s a mixed bag some last some don’t. I do think people are less likely to put up with things than they were years ago x

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

There used to be massive social stigma about being divorced and until about fifty years ago it was legally quite difficult to get divorced. Added to that that until comparatively recently most married women were totally financially dependent on their husbands.

Basically, people didn't used to stay in unsatisfactory marriages because they were willing to work at them, but because they (especially women) had no choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope so.

We’ve been married a year and a half an our first year of marriage was the worst year of my entire life. We went through so much that could tear any couple apart, yet we faced everything together and it never once crossed our minds to leave. I like to think that if we can survive that, we can survive most things. "

My marriage was like that in the early days, but 15 years later we grew apart and separated.

In reply to the OP, I think our parents and grandparents weren't able to leave relationships as easily as we do now, and people are less willing to settle for being stuck in a humdrum/bad relationship today.

Some do last of course, and I sometimes wish mine had but I'm also glad I had the opportunity to move in when it was clear it was no longer right for us.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Most people my age that I know who got married in their 20's are not with that person anymore.

My grandparents are in their 80's and still strong together, my parents were married nearly 40 years until my dad died a couple of years ago.

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I think it depends on whether you’ve met “the one” you soulmate...

If you look at grandparents for example.. the age of death now adays has significantly lengthened... so I think that maybe a factor, my grandparents were together till one died (many years ago),

my parents were together for 30 years (my step dad and my mum) obviously not a good match first time round with my dad..

I have been with my hubby for 23 years now (married 16) .. we had love at first sight.. we still manage to make eachother laugh everyday... don’t get me wrong, every relationship has its ups and downs, we are all human after all...

But I guess it all depends on the choices we make and whom your heart falls in love with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Husbands and wives knew their place . . . Too much freedom and choice now x

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Don't take a snippet to make me look like a fanny x

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We’ve been married for ever, we still argue, we still wind each other up and could happily kill each other now and again. We also love each other, laugh together and enjoy each other passionately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many marriages don't last. Many that do, probably shouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well today we are celebrating 15 years of marriage x"
Congratulations x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I am scared and anxious to marry. I don't really see any healthy relationships around me (they are probably happy ) but this is what happens when my mates do have a moan about their othwr halves etc. I do think people my age still feel marriage a sort of pressure to marry and life will all be good. I just worry about the loss of excitement and how resentful or bitter it can get. Also loss of myself or independance lol ah my brain. For now, being on my own is the right thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We been together 25 years married 22 so all must be fine and dandy,but takes give and take by both involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't and as others have said, it's often easier to leave than work at it.

I guess we live in a throw away society now and some see marriages that way

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York


"They don't and as others have said, it's often easier to leave than work at it.

I guess we live in a throw away society now and some see marriages that way "

I think sometimes there's too much water under the bridge and if you've fallen out of love with someone for whatever reason, is working at it ever going to recapture the feelings before whatever issues you had, or is a clean slate with someone new more likely to lead to happiness?

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By *veready69Man
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

I've been married for nearly 30 years.

If I killed her when I meant to, I'd be out by now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope so.

We’ve been married a year and a half an our first year of marriage was the worst year of my entire life. We went through so much that could tear any couple apart, yet we faced everything together and it never once crossed our minds to leave. I like to think that if we can survive that, we can survive most things. "

Same for us! Nearly 3 years now and stronger than ever (mrs)

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By *rTouretteMan
over a year ago

Muswell Hill

People change: modern marriage is thankfully not a hostage situation.

(Divorced amicably after 15+ years)

(I can fit into the leather trousers I got married in )

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

When I said til death us do part I meant it. He didn’t. Together nearly 20 years but married for just under 7.

Frank & I marry soon & we’re planning on it lasting until death!!

My parents divorced & re-married other people in the 1980’s - both couples been married over 30 years.

B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There used to be massive social stigma about being divorced and until about fifty years ago it was legally quite difficult to get divorced. Added to that that until comparatively recently most married women were totally financially dependent on their husbands.

Basically, people didn't used to stay in unsatisfactory marriages because they were willing to work at them, but because they (especially women) had no choice. "

Sometimes still the case today though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting points everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I said til death us do part I meant it. He didn’t. Together nearly 20 years but married for just under 7.

Frank & I marry soon & we’re planning on it lasting until death!!

My parents divorced & re-married other people in the 1980’s - both couples been married over 30 years.

B x"

Why do you believe it will be together forever this time? Serious question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eight years and two kids later is a long marriage these days

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