FabSwingers.com forum: Instant shag

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does anyone do an instant shag bypassing drinks or coffee meets and meeting just after lots of messaging?

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I have done this recently. It was exceptional.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I didn’t even ask her name

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

I tend to go for instant meets or short notice. Anyone who says coffee or social first. Is a no thanks.

Nothing more than a few messages under 10 usually 5.

Otherwise they are just after chatting or will be messaging others and pick the best. Waste of time.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Why buy a Polaroid and send it to be processed. I want straight in and out shake It all about. No starter or desert for me and as for names. Hi I’m me bend over can I wipe my cock in your curtain. Cheers bye

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No ~ could be a weirdo.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Nope

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Nope not for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there a section for instant hook ups

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Yes yellowpages under takeaway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

"Is there a section for instant hook ups "

Tinder?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve done both extremes in the past (very quick meets within a couple of hours on a ‘meet today’ advert, to meeting after a year of chatting).

I found the latter much more rewarding for me personally but they both serve a need!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Yes yellowpages under takeaway "

Omg that made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a section for instant hook ups "

Yes. Instashag.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have once with a woman. Wouldn’t with a man though.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

No, I can't think of anything more unsafe.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

This thread really highlights the different ways of thinking between men and women. It seems the males want absolutely everything for as little input as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread really highlights the different ways of thinking between men and women. It seems the males want absolutely everything for as little input as possible. "

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread really highlights the different ways of thinking between men and women. It seems the males want absolutely everything for as little input as possible. "

So do some women. Hence it happening with some guys.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"This thread really highlights the different ways of thinking between men and women. It seems the males want absolutely everything for as little input as possible. "

When I met someone without a social it was because we had chatted loads. Probably more than any other person I’ve met on here. It worked out very well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone do an instant shag bypassing drinks or coffee meets and meeting just after lots of messaging?"

I have, really exciting... gets the blood pumping

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just when u really want a shag wouldnt it be great to speed things up a bit (after all it is a site for casual shagging)instead of endless messaging

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere

"Is there a section for instant hook ups

Tinder?"

Really, all the women are looking for long term.

It matters not they see my face on there and don't match anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you want though. People want different things. I can’t do random sex then just go. Not for me. I need a connection. Maybe that’s more a woman thing though! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just when u really want a shag wouldnt it be great to speed things up a bit (after all it is a site for casual shagging)instead of endless messaging"

Get a fwb then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just when u really want a shag wouldnt it be great to speed things up a bit (after all it is a site for casual shagging)instead of endless messaging"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Had one looking for new one open to female offers still the thrill of the unknown is very exciting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it in the past, once was amazing, the other couple of times I could have done without really as they did very little for me. Not done it for years until recently with a guy I messaged who was staying in a local hotel. Messaged Wednesday, Thursday was sitting on his face!!

It scratched an itch but I generally don't do it but it can be incredibly horny. I've been chatting to a guy I'm hopefully meeting next week for a few weeks now and the build up so far has been the best, in fact I've not wanted to meet someone new from here this much. Better not be a no show

I prefer to chat or have a social first for my own piece of mind but certainly wouldn't rule out another spontaneous meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done it once or twice first mixed results

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had one looking for new one open to female offers still the thrill of the unknown is very exciting"

I wish you luck

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just when u really want a shag wouldnt it be great to speed things up a bit (after all it is a site for casual shagging)instead of endless messaging"

It's a site for how people want to use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet and sent half an hour chatting then to bed I prefer it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just when u really want a shag wouldnt it be great to speed things up a bit (after all it is a site for casual shagging)instead of endless messaging

It's a site for how people want to use it"

Exactly. I’m not a swinger, not everyone is

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Depends what you want though. People want different things. I can’t do random sex then just go. Not for me. I need a connection. Maybe that’s more a woman thing though! Lol "

Not at all - sex is both meaningless and usually unsatisfactory for me without any connection and chemistry. Most of my meets have been after months of swapping messages and getting to know one another.

The only slight exception to that is when I've been to clubs and met people there but that has usually been as part of a couple so the dynamic is slightly different and is more about the shared experience, and even then there has to be an element of connection in the social area first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends what you want though. People want different things. I can’t do random sex then just go. Not for me. I need a connection. Maybe that’s more a woman thing though! Lol

Yeah that was probably a bit unfair. There are men who think like that too to be fair

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"This thread really highlights the different ways of thinking between men and women. It seems the males want absolutely everything for as little input as possible. "

Psssssst. I may have been joking somewhat. But don’t tell anyone

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

"Had one looking for new one open to female offers still the thrill of the unknown is very exciting"

Is it a site for casual shagging really though? People use it for there own reasons. I like I thought it would be a good place to meet people looking for more adventurous sexual experiences when I first joined tbh

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Depends what you want though. People want different things. I can’t do random sex then just go. Not for me. I need a connection. Maybe that’s more a woman thing though! Lol

Yeah that was probably a bit unfair. There are men who think like that too to be fair

Ultimately we're all here for our own reasons and different things we're looking for and there's no right or wrong way of approaching the site from that respect.

Unfortunately there are some (and I'm sad to say it *is* mostly men) who don't appreciate that, and who do get frustrated when people won't drop everything to run out and meet them - as a bi male and also as part of a couples profile I can speak from personal experience on that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends what you want though. People want different things. I can’t do random sex then just go. Not for me. I need a connection. Maybe that’s more a woman thing though! Lol

Yeah that was probably a bit unfair. There are men who think like that too to be fair

Ultimately we're all here for our own reasons and different things we're looking for and there's no right or wrong way of approaching the site from that respect.

That’s totally fine though. So much stuff on this site isn’t for me but it doesn’t bother me. I always say if all parties agree anything goes. Each to their own

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

No!

I prefer to have a coffee and chat first so the lady in question can get to know me a little and then feel more relaxed so that we can feel comfortable in each others company.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Depends what you want though. People want different things. I can’t do random sex then just go. Not for me. I need a connection. Maybe that’s more a woman thing though! Lol

Yeah that was probably a bit unfair. There are men who think like that too to be fair

Ultimately we're all here for our own reasons and different things we're looking for and there's no right or wrong way of approaching the site from that respect.

That’s totally fine though. So much stuff on this site isn’t for me but it doesn’t bother me. I always say if all parties agree anything goes. Each to their own "

Exactly

So long as everyone appreciates and accepts that then all's well - my point was sadly that's not always the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tinder?"

Loooooooool

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ya coffee first and then the bed looks a good option still nothing like opening that bedroom door knowing a total stranger is going to open the door and ur trousers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No ~ could be a weirdo."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Could be a great person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like warm sociable dogging! Can have a drink in comfort watching the gf enjoying. We love the spontaneous perversion of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m glad I got popcorn out... this was a great read!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I know some have had great meets doing this but you also read about situations like this going very badly wrong. I value my life more than a shag...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If both parties are intent on an immediate shag on meeting then its not 'spontaneous' to me. Its a planned instant shag. Thats cool if its what you want.

But for me I always prefer a social meet first with no expectations or agendas. But having said that on 3 occasions I have then gone on to play right after the coffee quite spontaneously ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tinder/instashag/bumble etc in my experience are not what they say on the tin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Tinder is so useless anyway the shag after the coffee is so good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could be a great person"

Could still be a total weirdo. Not willing to take my chances.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Op you will mostly find that the people on Fab who tend to want the instant shag meets that you described tend to be single men. Few single women and couples will be looking forward king for that same and most often prefer to chat and get to know someone first.

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

Never I’m always to worried about my wallet dropping out of my trousers in the skip and not being able to find it lol

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Op you will mostly find that the people on Fab who tend to want the instant shag meets that you described tend to be single men. Few single women and couples will be looking forward king for that same and most often prefer to chat and get to know someone first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah we're very wary of those who say no to a social meet first. Just gives the impression that either they're very lazy or that they're not really capable of stimulating conversation, which, for us is a must before any possible shenanigans

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

"Does anyone do an instant shag bypassing drinks or coffee meets and meeting just after lots of messaging?"

well that's what tends to happen at clubs...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone do an instant shag bypassing drinks or coffee meets and meeting just after lots of messaging?"

I have met after messaging and a chat on cam

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Could be a great person

Could still be a total weirdo. Not willing to take my chances.

Absolutely ~ it's really not worth the risk.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Just when u really want a shag wouldnt it be great to speed things up a bit (after all it is a site for casual shagging)instead of endless messaging"

I think they’re called prostitutes, at least you’ll have a guarantee

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Years ago i used to use the chat lines basically it was dial a fuck. Sometimes id be having three meets aday. Those days are long now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't..

There are so many weirdos out there..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Depends what you want though. People want different things. I can’t do random sex then just go. Not for me. I need a connection. Maybe that’s more a woman thing though! Lol

Yeah that was probably a bit unfair. There are men who think like that too to be fair

Ultimately we're all here for our own reasons and different things we're looking for and there's no right or wrong way of approaching the site from that respect.

And as a female, I can also speak from personal experience too. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did it a couple of times when I first joined but then I got myself in a very very tricky situation so will never do it again. In fact, even after lots and lots of messages I've been in a difficult situation with a psycho from hell. So now, I insist on social first.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Not for me, especially when I’ve got kids to look after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're both unverified how the hell do you verify each other lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry change if subject

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"If you're both unverified how the hell do you verify each other lol "

One needs to get cam verified then verify the other by meet, then the other can meet verify back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do socials..if I meet it's for one reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me, I like a social first......... but then that’s me, weird probably lol

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Not for me, I like a social first......... but then that’s me, weird probably lol

I always thought you were a bit weird lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have once with a woman. Wouldn’t with a man though. "

Sexist.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Have once with a woman. Wouldn’t with a man though.

Sexist."

Safer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not for me, I like a social first......... but then that’s me, weird probably lol

I always thought you were a bit weird lol

You know me so well lol

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Nope, swinging for me is about the friendships as well as the sex. I wouldn't wanna fuck someone I wouldn't wanna hang out with.

Clubs are different, I do act upon urges more in clubs, I'd like to think I'm in a safe environment.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Does anyone do an instant shag bypassing drinks or coffee meets and meeting just after lots of messaging?"

Yes, but you might need a bicycle repair kit and a good pump

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"Just when u really want a shag wouldnt it be great to speed things up a bit (after all it is a site for casual shagging)instead of endless messaging"

It's really not

If you want a fuck and go, you have two options. 1, See a sex worker. 2, Shag a man.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Not for me, I like a social first......... but then that’s me, weird probably lol

I always thought you were a bit weird lol

You know me so well lol

Mwah lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not for me, I like a social first......... but then that’s me, weird probably lol

I always thought you were a bit weird lol

You know me so well lol

Mwah lol "

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