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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Recently got invited to join a couple and another guy for mmmf. First time I'd ever been involved in this so was bit nervous already. Cut to 5 mins later whilst she's sucking me I look down and the other guy is elbow deep in her (sorry to be graphic), it struck me then that I was not ready for this and just wanted to leave as soon as possible lol.

Anyone else had moments in their swinging life where they have felt out of their depth?

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

When I play playing pool in the club on Saturday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not myself but my friend was involved in his first mmf when he realised it wasn't for him. He said he had to go to the loo and hid in there til they were in the throes of passion then bolted past them and out the hotel room. He even left his shoes behind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but I couldn't leave. I was just more careful about later meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fully understand the situation there........ not a great feeling either

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not that i can recall. Always felt a bit nervous when doing things for the first time but never out of my depth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fully understand the situation there........ not a great feeling either "

Yes, and the fantasy is often far different from the reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fully understand the situation there........ not a great feeling either

Yes, and the fantasy is often far different from the reality."

Exactly .......... however I’ve had a couple of FFM that once I get the nerves outta the way we’re the best thing ever..... so worth overcoming the nerves

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I only put myself in situations I'm happy and comfortable in. My first 3sum encounter was with guys who I knew and introduced to each other before any action took place.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I was having a social with a ‘dom guy’ and within 5 mins he was telling me about his range of extra large dildos and would I fuck him up the arse with them. Not that dom then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only put myself in situations I'm happy and comfortable in. My first 3sum encounter was with guys who I knew and introduced to each other before any action took place. "

Best way to be........ and they work out much better fun that way too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was having a social with a ‘dom guy’ and within 5 mins he was telling me about his range of extra large dildos and would I fuck him up the arse with them. Not that dom then "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not myself but my friend was involved in his first mmf when he realised it wasn't for him. He said he had to go to the loo and hid in there til they were in the throes of passion then bolted past them and out the hotel room. He even left his shoes behind "

Haha I can relate. I left my towel in the room and had to ask for another at the club reception lol

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I only put myself in situations I'm happy and comfortable in. My first 3sum encounter was with guys who I knew and introduced to each other before any action took place.

Best way to be........ and they work out much better fun that way too "

I think there are less nerves involved that way...when everyone knows the other people.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

First time at Chams for me. Took me a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a mmff and I didn’t like what one of the guys was going despite me saying no.

I sat in the loo for hours awaiting them to finish so I could give the other female a lift ( I had given her a lift there ). Afterwards she said oh that’s ok you could have left me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said not outta my depth but nervous at the start.

Hell i get nervous about socials

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"First time at Chams for me. Took me a while "

Why did you feel like that there? First club experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only put myself in situations I'm happy and comfortable in. My first 3sum encounter was with guys who I knew and introduced to each other before any action took place.

Best way to be........ and they work out much better fun that way too

I think there are less nerves involved that way...when everyone knows the other people."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Whats the best least offensive way out of these situations?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats the best least offensive way out of these situations? "

Just say you’re not comfortable and this isn’t for you, bide them a good evening and get out of there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not myself but my friend was involved in his first mmf when he realised it wasn't for him. He said he had to go to the loo and hid in there til they were in the throes of passion then bolted past them and out the hotel room. He even left his shoes behind

Haha I can relate. I left my towel in the room and had to ask for another at the club reception lol "

So, at your recently advertised ' fab legend mmf' you were envisaging a game of cribbage, and a nice glass of Tokaji?

You shoulda said. I would have been there like a shot

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Whats the best least offensive way out of these situations? "
you say im sorry but this isnt working.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats the best least offensive way out of these situations? "

There was a similar thread a while back. Saying you feel ill/ need fresh air seemed to be a popular idea.

Just don't stay as you'll feel like shit afterwards.

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

Elbow deep ?

Never look down buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats the best least offensive way out of these situations? "

Just be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently got invited to join a couple and another guy for mmmf. First time I'd ever been involved in this so was bit nervous already. Cut to 5 mins later whilst she's sucking me I look down and the other guy is elbow deep in her (sorry to be graphic), it struck me then that I was not ready for this and just wanted to leave as soon as possible lol.

Anyone else had moments in their swinging life where they have felt out of their depth?

"

Yes

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op. Did you explain to them in advance you where a newbie to it?

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Hmmmm were you not advertising over the weekend with a variety of fruit for a MMF fab legend get together ??? Yet you did a runner from this meet. Me smellet some bollocks here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not myself but my friend was involved in his first mmf when he realised it wasn't for him. He said he had to go to the loo and hid in there til they were in the throes of passion then bolted past them and out the hotel room. He even left his shoes behind

Haha I can relate. I left my towel in the room and had to ask for another at the club reception lol

So, at your recently advertised ' fab legend mmf' you were envisaging a game of cribbage, and a nice glass of Tokaji?

You shoulda said. I would have been there like a shot"

Yeah you're right I should specify no fisting

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

You can say “sorry, it’s not for me” and leave, you don’t have to be involved in anything that makes you uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not myself but my friend was involved in his first mmf when he realised it wasn't for him. He said he had to go to the loo and hid in there til they were in the throes of passion then bolted past them and out the hotel room. He even left his shoes behind

Haha I can relate. I left my towel in the room and had to ask for another at the club reception lol

So, at your recently advertised ' fab legend mmf' you were envisaging a game of cribbage, and a nice glass of Tokaji?

You shoulda said. I would have been there like a shot

Yeah you're right I should specify no fisting "

Probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not myself but my friend was involved in his first mmf when he realised it wasn't for him. He said he had to go to the loo and hid in there til they were in the throes of passion then bolted past them and out the hotel room. He even left his shoes behind

Haha I can relate. I left my towel in the room and had to ask for another at the club reception lol

So, at your recently advertised ' fab legend mmf' you were envisaging a game of cribbage, and a nice glass of Tokaji?

You shoulda said. I would have been there like a shot

Yeah you're right I should specify no fisting

Probably

"

You cant really do that in a club though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not myself but my friend was involved in his first mmf when he realised it wasn't for him. He said he had to go to the loo and hid in there til they were in the throes of passion then bolted past them and out the hotel room. He even left his shoes behind

Haha I can relate. I left my towel in the room and had to ask for another at the club reception lol

So, at your recently advertised ' fab legend mmf' you were envisaging a game of cribbage, and a nice glass of Tokaji?

You shoulda said. I would have been there like a shot

Yeah you're right I should specify no fisting

Probably

You cant really do that in a club though"

Oh they did, this is why I felt out my depth lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not myself but my friend was involved in his first mmf when he realised it wasn't for him. He said he had to go to the loo and hid in there til they were in the throes of passion then bolted past them and out the hotel room. He even left his shoes behind

Haha I can relate. I left my towel in the room and had to ask for another at the club reception lol

So, at your recently advertised ' fab legend mmf' you were envisaging a game of cribbage, and a nice glass of Tokaji?

You shoulda said. I would have been there like a shot

Yeah you're right I should specify no fisting

Probably

You cant really do that in a club though

Oh they did, this is why I felt out my depth lol "

You missed my point

Never mind

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Whats the best least offensive way out of these situations? "

Fake an asthma attack... It's worked for me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not myself but my friend was involved in his first mmf when he realised it wasn't for him. He said he had to go to the loo and hid in there til they were in the throes of passion then bolted past them and out the hotel room. He even left his shoes behind

Haha I can relate. I left my towel in the room and had to ask for another at the club reception lol

So, at your recently advertised ' fab legend mmf' you were envisaging a game of cribbage, and a nice glass of Tokaji?

You shoulda said. I would have been there like a shot

Yeah you're right I should specify no fisting

Probably

You cant really do that in a club though

Oh they did, this is why I felt out my depth lol

You missed my point

Never mind"

I'm sure it wasn't an important point anyway

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh ive just remembered one occassion a girl was being beaten and pouring with blood

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh ive just remembered one occassion a girl was being beaten and pouring with blood"

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Not personally but at a club last weekend, several of us playing in the same room.

Woman (on her first visit to any club) walks in to watch.

A couple start trying to talk her into joining in, pressurising her to join in when she'd expressly said she didn't want to.

She was so uncomfortable that we stopped playing, walked her out of the room and gave her a pep talk about her personal comfort and how she should feel able to say no, or to walk away and not feel pressured into doing anything she didn't want to.

Poor woman looked perfectly fine until a few people tried to push her out of her depth.

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