FabSwingers.com forum: It’s perfect....until it’s not.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you believe in a perfect relationship?

If not, why?

If yes, what is your definition?

Had a conversation with someone about how they can’t believe anyone ajas a perfect relationship, wether it’s marraige, partner ship etc. I’m curious to see what people’s views are.

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By *un Mike 2019Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I believe there’s no such thing as “perfect”. I think we should all strive for it but there’s always going to be elements that you just don’t see eye to eye on and it’s about how you handle this.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Perfect for me, may be someone sharing the same relationship and life goals, including wanting to put the effort in to work together to overcome obstacles, support each other, and having similar ideas over trust, loyalty, and respect.

Each person's "perfect" and vision on that maybe different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe in perfect at all and expect the unexpected somehow.

However, I do believe in knowing yourself before getting into a relationship and ultimately somewhat knowing the other person too so as to get the best of the relationship.

Some ppl fall quickly in love with the idea of love and for what the person represent through his/her social status or physical traits and quickly realised that their personality traits are not compatible.

So if one's desire is to find and form the 'perfect' relationship, one first need to know oneself first and know what one wants.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No, I don't think so if going with the definition of a perfect relationship being pure happiness and love. No quibbles or wobbles etc.

I think there are naturally ups and downs to a relationship, it's how you get through the less than 'perfect' times that makes one perfect. Perfect in its imperfections if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Relationships take work, you have to be willing to compromise, be able to listen and acknowledge when in the wrong. You have to keep the sexual flame burning bright and most importantly you BOTH want the marriage/relationship to work.

The moment one of you starts pulling away is when it can go tits up.

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over a year ago

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By *rrol.BMan
over a year ago

Wrexham

I think a perfect relationship could only exist within a perfect world.

As we live in a world of ups and downs it is more about how we deal with the issues that arise.

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

Nothing can be perfect for a sustained length of time. You might have moments of fleeting perfection. What comprises your view of a perfect relationship may be different today than a year or 10 years from now.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No I don't. Every relationship has it's flaws. There is such a relationship as perfect for the people that are in it though. Part of what makes a long term relationship possible is that it is fluid, needs working on and grows as the people in it change.

I think a lot of relationships fail because people feel they should be perfect and a lot of people never enter relationships because they seek perfection.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

No I don't and I've wasted to many years trying to make them so. In the end they all turn to shit or at least for me they do....

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

No one is perfect so the illusion that any relationship could be is ridiculous x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No one is perfect so the illusion that any relationship could be is ridiculous x "

Sounds like a fortune cookie I once got?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I don't and I've wasted to many years trying to make them so. In the end they all turn to shit or at least for me they do...."

Pessimistic, cheer up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I don't. Every relationship has it's flaws. There is such a relationship as perfect for the people that are in it though. Part of what makes a long term relationship possible is that it is fluid, needs working on and grows as the people in it change.

I think a lot of relationships fail because people feel they should be perfect and a lot of people never enter relationships because they seek perfection."

So what’s the answer, don’t seek perfection? But rather seek what makes you ultimately happy?

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Absokutely yes, we are very close to having that, and both committed to getting there.

If we still get no further it's pretty perfect

I think it's a shame people are willing to settle for so much less.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nothing can be perfect for a sustained length of time. You might have moments of fleeting perfection. What comprises your view of a perfect relationship may be different today than a year or 10 years from now."

I agree, people change, possibly making the thing that once made them feel perfect, feel something else. (Don’t be rude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perfect for me, may be someone sharing the same relationship and life goals, including wanting to put the effort in to work together to overcome obstacles, support each other, and having similar ideas over trust, loyalty, and respect.

Each person's "perfect" and vision on that maybe different.

I can relate to this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I believe there’s no such thing as “perfect”. I think we should all strive for it but there’s always going to be elements that you just don’t see eye to eye on and it’s about how you handle this. "

Maybe understand that it’s ‘your type of perfect’. Instead of comparing to someone else’s that you’ve tried to make, possibly? I think wanting to compromise is Kay, instead of feeling you ‘must’ change for someone else.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I’ve had a long term relationship with my right hand. It’s been pretty perfect so far. It doesn’t even get jealous when I switch to using my left.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't believe in perfect at all and expect the unexpected somehow.

However, I do believe in knowing yourself before getting into a relationship and ultimately somewhat knowing the other person too so as to get the best of the relationship.

So if one's desire is to find and form the 'perfect' relationship, one first need to know oneself first and know what one wants. "

Do you know yourself? Do you believe someone can give you a perfect relationship if they know themselves too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's perfect for a while, then it's less than perfect and then carries on like that.

As others have said, it's down to the couple, if they both want it to work, they'll get through the tough times.

Kinda long winded but what I mean is both parties need to want to commit through bad and good times.

No one is perfect and neither should expect the other to be

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think a lot of relationships fail because people feel they should be perfect and a lot of people never enter relationships because they seek perfection.

So what’s the answer, don’t seek perfection? But rather seek what makes you ultimately happy? "

I don't have the answer. There is perfect "for you".

Seek what suits you, what's right at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My relationship is perfect for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My relationship is perfect for me"
let me guess. Your married to yourself aren’t you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the perfect marriage, subjectively,is where both partners work through the bad times and really appreciate the good times together. Healthy doses of respect for each other and compromise on difficult issues are also beneficial.

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My relationship is perfect for me let me guess. Your married to yourself aren’t you? "

No, but I am married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My relationship is perfect for me let me guess. Your married to yourself aren’t you?

No, but I am married"

Do you feel like you are stuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My relationship is perfect for me let me guess. Your married to yourself aren’t you?

No, but I am married

Do you feel like you are stuck? "

No. Why would I feel like that? I just said my relationship is perfect for me. If I felt stuck, it wouldn’t be perfect. Stop fishing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the perfect marriage, subjectively,is where both partners work through the bad times and really appreciate the good times together. Healthy doses of respect for each other and compromise on difficult issues are also beneficial.

Fuzz"

This

after 37 years- I think we've got it sussed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of relationships fail because people feel they should be perfect and a lot of people never enter relationships because they seek perfection."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuzz"

This

21 Years and a lot of working through whatever has faced us, together, and a love that grows stronger when you think it's not possible to love them more

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think you can have a perfect relationship to a point. That point being where you both change, want different things, life factors come in to play.

If you don't/can't talk about stuff that's when you start growing apart and the longer you leave it the harder it is to get back to some sort of perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing in this world is perfect yet society, media all give this perception of perfection which I believe is unattainable by anyone.

As far as a relationship is concerned I am fully committed to it through the good and the bad, the happy and sad. I know I will never be perfect but through my actions if I can give my partner that one moment where she thinks I am everything she wants that would be perfect for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nothing in this world is perfect yet society, media all give this perception of perfection which I believe is unattainable by anyone.

Or....I hope for her to believe she’s perfect for that one moment, I think that’s where it should begin.

*falls into a bed of daises under the sunshine listening to the mammas and papas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im in the perfect relationship for "me" other people might hate my idea of perfect

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

In my head yes, in reality no.

But hey, I spend a lot of time in my own little bubble so who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult one. I’ve been married forever and we have the perfect relationship apart from the sex and intimacy now. You definitely need that too though.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I think it depends on what you consider a perfect relationship to be, for me it would be one where no compromise was ever necessary. Realistically speaking there is more chance of finding rocking horse shit as no 2 ppl are the same. Everyone’s perception of perfect is also different often influenced by how much or little their rose tinted spectacles are. After saying that I haven’t needed to compromise in this relationship so maybe I have the perfect relationship, only time will tell. I certainly want it to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should never be too rosy eyed going into a relationship as you know things won't be perfect. Be realistic, work hard and it'll be all you ever wanted.

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