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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Whats your thoughts on how to approach the first message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With caution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a finger.

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By *veready69Man
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

Dick pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be light hearted, witty and complimentary ... You're building a rapport as you would with anyone you met for the first time ... it's no different.

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere

Don't waste such time and effort

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Be light hearted, witty and complimentary ... You're building a rapport as you would with anyone you met for the first time ... it's no different. "

This

Plus without a gallery of cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be light hearted, witty and complimentary ... You're building a rapport as you would with anyone you met for the first time ... it's no different.

This

Plus without a gallery of cock pics "

And yet if we set up an art gallery of dick pics, a pop up gallery if you will, people from this site would visit in hoards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely don't say 'hi' in your first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very carefully! More than hi how’s u? No dick pics unless asked

We tend to reply to people who say a little about themselves and attach a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like hi how's you. You had a nice weekend. Think I'm the only person who likes these messages tho lol x

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Very tentatively when I open it. I would say I savor the moment, trying not to read it in a hurry, sometimes I might even mark it as unread so I can have the moment all over again

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Be light hearted, witty and complimentary ... You're building a rapport as you would with anyone you met for the first time ... it's no different.

This

Plus without a gallery of cock pics

And yet if we set up an art gallery of dick pics, a pop up gallery if you will, people from this site would visit in hoards"

Some would but many wouldn't - especially if it were a gallery of disembodied ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely don't say 'hi' in your first message "

Should he ask if he can go down your rabbit hole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely don't say 'hi' in your first message

Should he ask if he can go down your rabbit hole"

Yes I'd sooner that than 'hi' or 'you ok?'...just sounds boring..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely don't say 'hi' in your first message

Should he ask if he can go down your rabbit hole

'you ok?'...just sounds boring.."

Only acceptable if theyre called annie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely don't say 'hi' in your first message

Should he ask if he can go down your rabbit hole

'you ok?'...just sounds boring..

Only acceptable if theyre called annie"

Who's annie

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

First - ensure that you understand what the recipients are looking for, as well as as much about them as possible - checking that you really match their expectations.

Be positive and upbeat, tailoring the message to them. Share why you're a match and what you have to offer.

Include some pics that give a good overview of your looks.

They'll view your profile if they are possibly interested - so ensure it matches or adds more and sells you well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually base it on their profile and what they are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely don't say 'hi' in your first message

Should he ask if he can go down your rabbit hole

'you ok?'...just sounds boring..

Only acceptable if theyre called annie

Who's annie"

Its a michael jackson song

And this is what i meant in the thread about never havint sex again haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have get it right,OP, please pass it on to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely don't say 'hi' in your first message

Should he ask if he can go down your rabbit hole

'you ok?'...just sounds boring..

Only acceptable if theyre called annie

Who's annie

Its a michael jackson song

And this is what i meant in the thread about never havint sex again haha"

Aahh I get what you mean now..Annie you ok..you ok Annie lol

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By *MP3Man
over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

Display literacy, wit, poise, warmth, a knowledge of art, music, culture, French cuisine, wine and by all means show your pecs, quads and even glutes but ffs OP, keep it well and truly covered in your tight white pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Display literacy, wit, poise, warmth, a knowledge of art, music, culture, French cuisine, wine and by all means show your pecs, quads and even glutes but ffs OP, keep it well and truly covered in your tight white pants "

Not forgetting FAF!

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

Ask her boob size?

(I'm only joking!)

I always start with just a brief msg

saying hello,would you like to have a

chat and if lucky enough to get a reply

then expand a bit more and try and build

a connection and always try and add a bit of humour to my msgs but no politics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually tell them that I fell in love with them and ask them if I can consumate the wedding and do a post anal sex wedding ceremony.

End up getting blocked.

Don't know why as I am a genuine polite guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats your thoughts on how to approach the first message? "

Delete unread, that seem to be a popular reaction if you get one.

*thats what your asking isn’t it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please don't say 'hi, how's you" it just sounds lazy and so offputting.

I personally find cock pictures offputting. I don't know why men don't understand that as women we see a lot of cocks of here.. A LOT ! There is nothing unique is c interesting about them so I'd suggest changing your profile picture because (and this is just me) the profile picture in itself would put me off.

Try reading the profile and messaging to say what you liked about it and why you're interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standard is dick pic and in the heading fancy a fuck isn’t it or are you free? Haha!! I think just something short simple and complementary of the person as that’s the reason your messaging them.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"First - ensure that you understand what the recipients are looking for, as well as as much about them as possible - checking that you really match their expectations.

Be positive and upbeat, tailoring the message to them. Share why you're a match and what you have to offer.

Include some pics that give a good overview of your looks.

They'll view your profile if they are possibly interested - so ensure it matches or adds more and sells you well. "

This is your answer...

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By *ools47Woman
over a year ago

Failsworth

Make sure you're profiles not hidden and that you've made an effort on your own profile before clicking that message button.

Effort in, effort out.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I doubt any words you'd type would alter a person's mind if they didn't find you attractive.

There's no magic formula ...everyone is different as you can see from the responses on this thread.

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