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Feel like the sober one on a night out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You come to random internet strangers for advice?

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By *ayMyName123Man
over a year ago

Barnsley


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

"

I’m the sober one too but I find I don’t have to drink to have a good time I like to remember good times

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You come to random internet strangers for advice?"

Yes, there's a mixed bag on here, from barristers to clinical psychologists to people that are just older with more life experience than I do. Also this place isn't random, I've been here 8 years and know most of the regulars.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"You come to random internet strangers for advice?"

sometimes its the best way to get impartial, unbiased advice

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

if it is starting to annoy can you just hide your profile and not log on for a bit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don’t you just hide or filter up your profile which will sort out the messaging and pop in and out when the time suits you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

"

I know them feels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You come to random internet strangers for advice?

Yes, there's a mixed bag on here, from barristers to clinical psychologists to people that are just older with more life experience than I do. Also this place isn't random, I've been here 8 years and know most of the regulars. "

Dont come on other than when you need advise so.

Sounds like you need a break from the place

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if it is starting to annoy can you just hide your profile and not log on for a bit?"

I've had my profile hidden for ages, only uncovered it whilst I'm online and posting, stuck the age filters on 99 to stop messages.

Just feel a bit meh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

I’m the sober one too but I find I don’t have to drink to have a good time I like to remember good times "

Same

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

I know them feels."

Do you feel like you know there's nothing that you want from here in regards to meeting people but can't put your finger on why you actually stay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

I know them feels.

Do you feel like you know there's nothing that you want from here in regards to meeting people but can't put your finger on why you actually stay? "

I'm in a bit of a strange situation personally at the moment, but yeah.

I guess ultimately it's because there is always the possibility for something amazing to crop up over the next hill. Either that or just habit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

"

Funny you say this, I feel exactly the same. I just can’t delete it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

I know them feels.

Do you feel like you know there's nothing that you want from here in regards to meeting people but can't put your finger on why you actually stay?

I'm in a bit of a strange situation personally at the moment, but yeah.

I guess ultimately it's because there is always the possibility for something amazing to crop up over the next hill. Either that or just habit."

You've got more chance of meeting a woman that would want something meaningful and substantial than me meeting a guy looking for the same.

I like a guy in the real world and it's annoying me. I haven't got the balls to move it forward, he's not either but quizzes me whenever I see him, what I've been doing, am I on dating sites, am I speaking to any guys etc, I feel like saying just either ask me out or stop asking me stuff cos I can't make it any clearer I'm completely available!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

I know them feels.

Do you feel like you know there's nothing that you want from here in regards to meeting people but can't put your finger on why you actually stay?

I'm in a bit of a strange situation personally at the moment, but yeah.

I guess ultimately it's because there is always the possibility for something amazing to crop up over the next hill. Either that or just habit.

You've got more chance of meeting a woman that would want something meaningful and substantial than me meeting a guy looking for the same.

I like a guy in the real world and it's annoying me. I haven't got the balls to move it forward, he's not either but quizzes me whenever I see him, what I've been doing, am I on dating sites, am I speaking to any guys etc, I feel like saying just either ask me out or stop asking me stuff cos I can't make it any clearer I'm completely available!"

Just ask him out ffs!

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Ask him out! Going by your pics on here he's hardly likely to say no

This place isn't going anywhere, you can always pop back on to say hello every now and again

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

I know them feels.

Do you feel like you know there's nothing that you want from here in regards to meeting people but can't put your finger on why you actually stay?

I'm in a bit of a strange situation personally at the moment, but yeah.

I guess ultimately it's because there is always the possibility for something amazing to crop up over the next hill. Either that or just habit.

You've got more chance of meeting a woman that would want something meaningful and substantial than me meeting a guy looking for the same.

I like a guy in the real world and it's annoying me. I haven't got the balls to move it forward, he's not either but quizzes me whenever I see him, what I've been doing, am I on dating sites, am I speaking to any guys etc, I feel like saying just either ask me out or stop asking me stuff cos I can't make it any clearer I'm completely available!"

What you are looking for is unlikely to be found in here . It never has been . This is more of a scratch an itch type of site . Not somewhere to find the guy that is prepared to be exclusive , good looking , well hung , and likely to enjoy the fun that you do , forsaking all others .

I agree there are some interesting people here though , from psychologists to solicitors , but for the most part even they are simply on here looking for a quick fuck .

Sure there’s a few on the forums who will give you advice when you need it , but is that advice any use ? There’s the $64,000 question that only you can answer .

Just as an aside , we are only really in here for the forums now , swinging has just gotten so boring now . We haven’t met anyone for two months now , and it’s unlikely we will again soon .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

"

I've been feeling similar for a good while now, for a multitude of reasons.

I enjoy messages in relation to a forum topic or chatting with someone with whom there's a connection, other than that I find it a bit tedious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel free to message me for a chat anytime im a normal person that enjoys normal chat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have a drink cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

I know them feels.

Do you feel like you know there's nothing that you want from here in regards to meeting people but can't put your finger on why you actually stay?

I'm in a bit of a strange situation personally at the moment, but yeah.

I guess ultimately it's because there is always the possibility for something amazing to crop up over the next hill. Either that or just habit.

You've got more chance of meeting a woman that would want something meaningful and substantial than me meeting a guy looking for the same.

I like a guy in the real world and it's annoying me. I haven't got the balls to move it forward, he's not either but quizzes me whenever I see him, what I've been doing, am I on dating sites, am I speaking to any guys etc, I feel like saying just either ask me out or stop asking me stuff cos I can't make it any clearer I'm completely available!"

Say it, you've got nothing to lose. Otherwise you're just left in this weird limbo waiting for him to do something about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Felt like it for a while on here now, looks like everyone around me is pissed and enjoying themselves but I'm sober.

Seeing flirtiness makes me cringe, getting messages annoys me, I'd fuck off but know if I deleted this there'd be a time where I'd need to pop on for advice.

"

You're on the wrong site if you aren't clicking with the nature of it.

The only advice i can give you as a user is to break down that forth wall barrier of you'll never get comfortable with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it is just modern life that makes many feel like this , the thrill of the chase , unknown and slight thrill makes this site exciting , but then can leave people feeling empty , I find it interesting because we all have something in common and at the same time nothing , ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you just need a short break from it, we can all get like that from time to time.

Sometimes I feel like everyone is having fun except me, but it's not the case. It's often other things that are going on in your life away from Fab that can impact on your feelings on this place.

Take time out to do things that make you feel happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the flirting on here, its fucking embarrassing sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, sounds like you need to take a short break to recharge. Just hide your account for a while and reconnect with the world around you. The Fab urge and interest will return ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does get you like that.......... hide your profile for a while, come back when ya mojo returns .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree with the flirting on here, its fucking embarrassing sometimes."

Maybe it is when you’re the outsider looking in on the flirting. When you’re in the zone, it’s fun.

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By *tsJeanLucMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I haven’t d*unk since before November, how do you think I feel when I see all my friends posting pictures etc of them drinking?

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

We've not played for over two years, most, if not all of our friends from here we have on Facebook, and chat on the phone... I only stay for the forums because I know when I'm having a bout of insomnia there will be somebody online at stupid o'clock to have a bit of a chat with. Mumsnet are all a bit too straightlaced for banter at 3am

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