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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If your spouse or significant other told you that you could go out with other guys (or girls) and have all the sex you wanted to with them, but he/she would also do the same. Would you be okay with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been in that position so dunno

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Of cause i would been doing it for the past 13 years

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

It would be ideal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah that could work, an open style relationship..

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yes, with certain boundaries in place. Would you op?

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Almost like our arrangement. But with boundaries, and probably not whoever, whenever sort of thing.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

No , unless we were both present at every meet .

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

With agreed boundaries yes it works

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Nope, if she's getting fucked I want to at the very least be watching it.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Yes, definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure. It would depend on the relationship. If I had a partner open to swinging then I would be happy to experiment and see what feels right for us both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your spouse or significant other told you that you could go out with other guys (or girls) and have all the sex you wanted to with them, but he/she would also do the same. Would you be okay with it?"

No.

It’s not something either of us would want to consider anyway.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

Have you factored in that she will get twenty fucks for every one you get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your spouse or significant other told you that you could go out with other guys (or girls) and have all the sex you wanted to with them, but he/she would also do the same. Would you be okay with it?"

Here it goes lol...

No.

Just over a year ago my husband told me the thought of other men fucking me turned him on, and would I be interested at all. I said I’d think about it, and made a fab profile just to ease myself into it. Eventually I agreed. I asked if he wanted to sleep with anyone else and was glad when he said no. We have this conversation every month or so - I’ve told him he can if he wants, but he doesn’t.

And yes, I’m glad. Currently, I’m not confident in myself for him to sleep with anyone else. However, I’m more open minded about it than I was a year ago. So maybe one day I’ll encourage it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He allows me to have meets alone but he doesnt meet alone..

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"And yes, I’m glad. Currently, I’m not confident in myself for him to sleep with anyone else. However, I’m more open minded about it than I was a year ago. So maybe one day I’ll encourage it. "

So you tell him he can if he wants to but you're glad when he doesn't? And you're not confident in yourself for him to but you still say he can? What a mindfuck. Women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And yes, I’m glad. Currently, I’m not confident in myself for him to sleep with anyone else. However, I’m more open minded about it than I was a year ago. So maybe one day I’ll encourage it.

So you tell him he can if he wants to but you're glad when he doesn't? And you're not confident in yourself for him to but you still say he can? What a mindfuck. Women!

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If he was to do it, he has my blessing. I’d rather he came out and said he wanted to do it, than go behind my back. Not that I ever think he’d go behind my back, but seems hypocritical of me to tell him no, let me fuck other men, but you can’t

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Nope, if she's getting fucked I want to at the very least be watching it."

This for us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,done that,my wife had one guy that she saw regularly,I had a couple of ladies that I would see. The man my wife was seeing ended it & the two ladies I was seeing both stopped due to health problems. My wife is no longer looking. I'm still embracing the open marriage thing.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"If he was to do it, he has my blessing. I’d rather he came out and said he wanted to do it, than go behind my back. Not that I ever think he’d go behind my back, but seems hypocritical of me to tell him no, let me fuck other men, but you can’t "

My point was more - why say he can do something like fuck others when you're not fully behind it? I wouldn't consider it my partner's blessing if he was umming and not confident with it - I'd tell him to stop asking something he is uncomfortable with and own his feelings.

Meh. Relationship dynamics are complicated and individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he was to do it, he has my blessing. I’d rather he came out and said he wanted to do it, than go behind my back. Not that I ever think he’d go behind my back, but seems hypocritical of me to tell him no, let me fuck other men, but you can’t

My point was more - why say he can do something like fuck others when you're not fully behind it? I wouldn't consider it my partner's blessing if he was umming and not confident with it - I'd tell him to stop asking something he is uncomfortable with and own his feelings.

Meh. Relationship dynamics are complicated and individual.

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Yes, complicated and individual - it’s not as if I’ve said ‘go and fuck someone if you want but I’m not 100% sure how I’d feel about it’. The conversations have been a lot more in depth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could never be okay for me the thought of it makes me sick to the core - unfortunately or fortunately depends how you see it i could never be in a relationship where that would be acceptable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, with certain boundaries in place. Would you op? "

Yes I'd one to think I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i wouldn’t.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"If he was to do it, he has my blessing. I’d rather he came out and said he wanted to do it, than go behind my back. Not that I ever think he’d go behind my back, but seems hypocritical of me to tell him no, let me fuck other men, but you can’t

My point was more - why say he can do something like fuck others when you're not fully behind it? I wouldn't consider it my partner's blessing if he was umming and not confident with it - I'd tell him to stop asking something he is uncomfortable with and own his feelings.

Meh. Relationship dynamics are complicated and individual.

Yes, complicated and individual - it’s not as if I’ve said ‘go and fuck someone if you want but I’m not 100% sure how I’d feel about it’. The conversations have been a lot more in depth "

Everyone’s own personal circumstances are just that. Very personal to them and something that suits their dynamics. It’s not always something that is easy to explain to another person, nor something we should feel we have to. If it works for us then that’s what counts.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Yep, that would be fine with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Yes, I'd be fine with that.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Nope, if she's getting fucked I want to at the very least be watching it.

This for us too "

And me, I wouldn't want to meet without Dick being presented.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Meh. Relationship dynamics are complicated and individual.

Everyone’s own personal circumstances are just that. Very personal to them and something that suits their dynamics. It’s not always something that is easy to explain to another person, nor something we should feel we have to. If it works for us then that’s what counts."

Agreed - relationships are complicated and individual as I typed up ^ there. No one has to explain anything ever really - on the same hand, sometimes on a thread a person may comment on a post. I think when you post on a forum, you realise there might be interaction, no? I was interested in the post and thought I'd comment.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Anyway - apologies Op for the sort of tangent!

To answer the question, yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyway - apologies Op for the sort of tangent!

To answer the question, yes."

No apologies needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Queen Leviosa’s husband here to confirm and explain...

I asked her how she’d feel about sleeping with other men. My decision.

Nope, I don’t want to sleep with anyone else. I have my wife’s blessing but nope, I still don’t want too.

If I ever wanted to, it’s not as if I’d go on a night out, fuck someone then tell her the next day. We would discuss it, take things slow, and I’d start actively using fab (I use it to lurk the forums really). And if she didn’t feel comfortable, it wouldn’t go ahead. Same as if I said I no longer liked her sleeping with other men, she’d stop.

All about communication, respect and understanding

And it’s not as if anyone can truly understand anyone else’s relationship anyway

Would I like this situation in the future, where we both sleep with other people, but not as a couple? Probably not. I’m not a ‘cuck’ but Queen Leviosa fucking other men and telling me about it/sending me videos is what does it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given it messed up my last relationship, I'd never do that again.

I guess if you're both 100% sure then fine, it could work for you but as long as I'm in a relationship, I'll never go through that again. It was too painful for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At this particular moment in my life yes. It might have been different years back or in times to come.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Queen Leviosa’s husband here to confirm and explain...

I asked her how she’d feel about sleeping with other men. My decision.

Nope, I don’t want to sleep with anyone else. I have my wife’s blessing but nope, I still don’t want too.

If I ever wanted to, it’s not as if I’d go on a night out, fuck someone then tell her the next day. We would discuss it, take things slow, and I’d start actively using fab (I use it to lurk the forums really). And if she didn’t feel comfortable, it wouldn’t go ahead. Same as if I said I no longer liked her sleeping with other men, she’d stop.

All about communication, respect and understanding

And it’s not as if anyone can truly understand anyone else’s relationship anyway

Would I like this situation in the future, where we both sleep with other people, but not as a couple? Probably not. I’m not a ‘cuck’ but Queen Leviosa fucking other men and telling me about it/sending me videos is what does it for me. "

Wow. Whatever makes me happy. It's not anyone else's business at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you factored in that she will get twenty fucks for every one you get "

Was thinking that myself.

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