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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m chatting on a dating site and we swapped numbers earlier and started chatting from 7pm, then spoke on the phone, laughed and joked no awkwardness at all. I had to end our phone call after about an hour to see to my kids, which I think he thinks I was being funny. Ok so we carry on after ten mins Then randomly he text me mid conversation a weird message, along the lines of “chill will you I went out for milk” then again one min later “ don’t be mad “

Now considering we were talking about early philosophise in the 17th century I’m pretty certain that message wasn’t for me.

So I just said ooops you sent it to the wrong person, to which he decided to say “ no I was being random to see how you’d react” I then had two options (1) ignore his bullshit and carry on (2) call him out on it and he’d accuse me of being mad and paranoid so I chose option (1). So we chat more for another hour and he stops and says, please wait one min I’ll be back! This was over an hour ago! He’s been online as I can see. So is he being funny as I stalled him previously and is testing me ? Or is he being a dick?

Because I seriously wouldn’t do that to anyone unless I had to (hence my kids)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m chatting on a dating site and we swapped numbers earlier and started chatting from 7pm, then spoke on the phone, laughed and joked no awkwardness at all. I had to end our phone call after about an hour to see to my kids, which I think he thinks I was being funny. Ok so we carry on after ten mins Then randomly he text me mid conversation a weird message, along the lines of “chill will you I went out for milk” then again one min later “ don’t be mad “

Now considering we were talking about early philosophise in the 17th century I’m pretty certain that message wasn’t for me.

So I just said ooops you sent it to the wrong person, to which he decided to say “ no I was being random to see how you’d react” I then had two options (1) ignore his bullshit and carry on (2) call him out on it and he’d accuse me of being mad and paranoid so I chose option (1). So we chat more for another hour and he stops and says, please wait one min I’ll be back! This was over an hour ago! He’s been online as I can see. So is he being funny as I stalled him previously and is testing me ? Or is he being a dick?

Because I seriously wouldn’t do that to anyone unless I had to (hence my kids)

"

It does sound like he's being a dick but then again he could've accidentally left himself logged in. Personally I'd drop it into the conversation next time you speak to see what he says.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well from what youve said i think hes trying to talk to two of you at the same time and cant multitask

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By *reckledbumWoman
over a year ago

Blackpool

Most will probably say your overthinking the whole thing. But I am not most. Honestly just leave him to it. He sounds like a game player! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m chatting on a dating site and we swapped numbers earlier and started chatting from 7pm, then spoke on the phone, laughed and joked no awkwardness at all. I had to end our phone call after about an hour to see to my kids, which I think he thinks I was being funny. Ok so we carry on after ten mins Then randomly he text me mid conversation a weird message, along the lines of “chill will you I went out for milk” then again one min later “ don’t be mad “

Now considering we were talking about early philosophise in the 17th century I’m pretty certain that message wasn’t for me.

So I just said ooops you sent it to the wrong person, to which he decided to say “ no I was being random to see how you’d react” I then had two options (1) ignore his bullshit and carry on (2) call him out on it and he’d accuse me of being mad and paranoid so I chose option (1). So we chat more for another hour and he stops and says, please wait one min I’ll be back! This was over an hour ago! He’s been online as I can see. So is he being funny as I stalled him previously and is testing me ? Or is he being a dick?

Because I seriously wouldn’t do that to anyone unless I had to (hence my kids)

It does sound like he's being a dick but then again he could've accidentally left himself logged in. Personally I'd drop it into the conversation next time you speak to see what he says."

You can’t leave yourself accidentally logged into WhatsApp! But yes I do think the same and not even bring it up. But I do think somethings not right. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope ! He sounds like the kind of person who would push your buttons just you see how you'll react which is never a good sign. No one has time for childish mind games.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well from what youve said i think hes trying to talk to two of you at the same time and cant multitask"

I said to him that’s fine if you are! As we’ve only just met , but don’t insult me by pretending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think hes a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'd say he s being a dick.

If some one is lucky enough to chat to u, they should givevu their full attention..

Failing that be honest with u.

I'd say leave him to it..if he come grovelling back and apologises then u can decided if he deserves another chance x

I don't think u need to give Any one 2nd chances if they fuck I it up first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m chatting on a dating site and we swapped numbers earlier and started chatting from 7pm, then spoke on the phone, laughed and joked no awkwardness at all. I had to end our phone call after about an hour to see to my kids, which I think he thinks I was being funny. Ok so we carry on after ten mins Then randomly he text me mid conversation a weird message, along the lines of “chill will you I went out for milk” then again one min later “ don’t be mad “

Now considering we were talking about early philosophise in the 17th century I’m pretty certain that message wasn’t for me.

So I just said ooops you sent it to the wrong person, to which he decided to say “ no I was being random to see how you’d react” I then had two options (1) ignore his bullshit and carry on (2) call him out on it and he’d accuse me of being mad and paranoid so I chose option (1). So we chat more for another hour and he stops and says, please wait one min I’ll be back! This was over an hour ago! He’s been online as I can see. So is he being funny as I stalled him previously and is testing me ? Or is he being a dick?

Because I seriously wouldn’t do that to anyone unless I had to (hence my kids)

It does sound like he's being a dick but then again he could've accidentally left himself logged in. Personally I'd drop it into the conversation next time you speak to see what he says.

You can’t leave yourself accidentally logged into WhatsApp! But yes I do think the same and not even bring it up. But I do think somethings not right. X"

Oh on WhatsApp then yeah something's seems strange then, but like I said if a conversation comes up about something like this then slip it in about this situation. Xx

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By *issyme555TV/TS
over a year ago

Motherwell

You had a really reason to end the call sounds like he was just being an arse follow your instincts they are probly right what ever they are. Love that pic op

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You had a really reason to end the call sounds like he was just being an arse follow your instincts they are probly right what ever they are. Love that pic op"

My instincts are usually right, hence my need to write this. And when I’ve wrote it and read it back and replies, it’s confirmed it oh well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You had a really reason to end the call sounds like he was just being an arse follow your instincts they are probly right what ever they are. Love that pic op

My instincts are usually right, hence my need to write this. And when I’ve wrote it and read it back and replies, it’s confirmed it oh well. "

You'll find someone who isn't going to treat you like a dick.

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By *issyme555TV/TS
over a year ago

Motherwell


"You had a really reason to end the call sounds like he was just being an arse follow your instincts they are probly right what ever they are. Love that pic op

My instincts are usually right, hence my need to write this. And when I’ve wrote it and read it back and replies, it’s confirmed it oh well. "

Oh well indeed you can do better it'll be he's loss. Any man worth he's salt would wait as long as you asked and wouldn't feel the need to do it back. It still could be innocent tho

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

The other message sounded like he may have been texting his otherhalf. Just a thought. Either way it was odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m chatting on a dating site and we swapped numbers earlier and started chatting from 7pm, then spoke on the phone, laughed and joked no awkwardness at all. I had to end our phone call after about an hour to see to my kids, which I think he thinks I was being funny. Ok so we carry on after ten mins Then randomly he text me mid conversation a weird message, along the lines of “chill will you I went out for milk” then again one min later “ don’t be mad “

Now considering we were talking about early philosophise in the 17th century I’m pretty certain that message wasn’t for me.

So I just said ooops you sent it to the wrong person, to which he decided to say “ no I was being random to see how you’d react” I then had two options (1) ignore his bullshit and carry on (2) call him out on it and he’d accuse me of being mad and paranoid so I chose option (1). So we chat more for another hour and he stops and says, please wait one min I’ll be back! This was over an hour ago! He’s been online as I can see. So is he being funny as I stalled him previously and is testing me ? Or is he being a dick?

Because I seriously wouldn’t do that to anyone unless I had to (hence my kids)

It does sound like he's being a dick but then again he could've accidentally left himself logged in. Personally I'd drop it into the conversation next time you speak to see what he says.

You can’t leave yourself accidentally logged into WhatsApp! But yes I do think the same and not even bring it up. But I do think somethings not right. X"

Trust your instincts

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"The other message sounded like he may have been texting his otherhalf. Just a thought. Either way it was odd."

That was my thought too - either way he's game playing and are you really interested in that OP? I know I wouldn't be

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

Popcorn player

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Popcorn player "

Grab me a seat I like mine sweet

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

Most definitely in a relationship or married is my opinion x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most definitely in a relationship or married is my opinion x "

Yep my thinking too x

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4


"Popcorn player

Grab me a seat I like mine sweet "

Only got salty

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Popcorn player

Grab me a seat I like mine sweet

Only got salty "

Damn, I’ll just sit here on my fence waiting for something bitter sweet to come along (said in the voice of someone from Deep South ten-a-see)

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4


"Popcorn player

Grab me a seat I like mine sweet

Only got salty

Damn, I’ll just sit here on my fence waiting for something bitter sweet to come along (said in the voice of someone from Deep South ten-a-see) "

Ooo I could do my John Wayne impression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He definitely sounds like a waste of time .

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Game player and/or head worker.

Go with your gut and swerve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To think a guy on here can play games, hah SMH

To those idiots that do are lucky; its the less successful guys that are actually good.

Can be indenial but its fact

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny


"I’m chatting on a dating site and we swapped numbers earlier and started chatting from 7pm, then spoke on the phone, laughed and joked no awkwardness at all. I had to end our phone call after about an hour to see to my kids, which I think he thinks I was being funny. Ok so we carry on after ten mins Then randomly he text me mid conversation a weird message, along the lines of “chill will you I went out for milk” then again one min later “ don’t be mad “

Now considering we were talking about early philosophise in the 17th century I’m pretty certain that message wasn’t for me.

So I just said ooops you sent it to the wrong person, to which he decided to say “ no I was being random to see how you’d react” I then had two options (1) ignore his bullshit and carry on (2) call him out on it and he’d accuse me of being mad and paranoid so I chose option (1). So we chat more for another hour and he stops and says, please wait one min I’ll be back! This was over an hour ago! He’s been online as I can see. So is he being funny as I stalled him previously and is testing me ? Or is he being a dick?

Because I seriously wouldn’t do that to anyone unless I had to (hence my kids)

"

lucky escape....run.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"To think a guy on here can play games, hah SMH

To those idiots that do are lucky; its the less successful guys that are actually good.

Can be indenial but its fact "
it was on a dating site

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

As others have said above, he's either in a relationship or playing head games (or both).

He sounds just like my ex.

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By *om and BarbaraCouple
over a year ago

Moreton in Marsh


"The other message sounded like he may have been texting his otherhalf. Just a thought. Either way it was odd."

That's exactly what we were thinking too!

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

He was texting someone else, sent it to you and tried to cover it up by saying he was being random. Move on, he's not worth the effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It definitely sounds like the message was meant for someone else. If it wasn't and it's part of a game well that's worse and sounds like he's a bit unhinged. I would definately move on

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

At my age and stage in life I don't override my instincts or waste time over thinking. He sounds attached...I'd move on.

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