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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My girlfriend and I have recently agreed to an open relationship. It started off as a long distance, but since we both crave the physical side of things, it made sense to move in this direction.

She finds it really easy to meet people whereas I struggle a bit. Can anyone who's been in an open relationship shed any light on how to safely navigate these waters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in an open relationship on here , as long as your honest and don't cheat, your possibly going into an open relationship so why would you?

Good luck

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

There's a book called "The Ethical Slut" i'd recommend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm in an open relationship on here , as long as your honest and don't cheat, your possibly going into an open relationship so why would you?

Good luck "

Does cheating still exist in open relationships?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in an open relationship on here , as long as your honest and don't cheat, your possibly going into an open relationship so why would you?

Good luck

Does cheating still exist in open relationships?"

Yes! I've heard a few stories seems pretty stupid if you ask me , as I said before be honest say when your meeting where and when my partner doesn't want details neither do I as long as we both have a fun time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My girlfriend and I have recently agreed to an open relationship. It started off as a long distance, but since we both crave the physical side of things, it made sense to move in this direction.

She finds it really easy to meet people whereas I struggle a bit. Can anyone who's been in an open relationship shed any light on how to safely navigate these waters? "

What aspect of it are you struggling with?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's a book called "The Ethical Slut" i'd recommend"

I'll check it out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What aspect of it are you struggling with?"

Meeting people who are okay with me being in an OR.

Most people are monogamous, so not sure where to look!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in an open relationship on here , as long as your honest and don't cheat, your possibly going into an open relationship so why would you?

Good luck

Does cheating still exist in open relationships?"

My soon to be ex husband managed it spectacularly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My soon to be ex husband managed it spectacularly"

I was about to ask how he met other people but I realise that may be inappropriate...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What aspect of it are you struggling with?

Meeting people who are okay with me being in an OR.

Most people are monogamous, so not sure where to look!"

Oh so you’re less struggling with being in an OR, more struggling to find meets. Is it because people want to meet someone single, or because they might not believe your relationship is open (eg. not wanting to meet someone cheating)? Or is it that people haven’t wanted to meet you per se? All would invoke different actions to combat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh so you’re less struggling with being in an OR, more struggling to find meets. Is it because people want to meet someone single, or because they might not believe your relationship is open (eg. not wanting to meet someone cheating)? Or is it that people haven’t wanted to meet you per se? All would invoke different actions to combat. "

There's just some things that are out of my control (people just not wanting to me). I'm just a little lost on where to meet people, and a follow on from that is telling them I'm also seeing someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My soon to be ex husband managed it spectacularly

I was about to ask how he met other people but I realise that may be inappropriate..."

He met them on tinder, on fab, at work, but mostly went back to the girl he'd had an affair with at the beginning of our marriage

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Its also called do what you want when you what with who ever you want....as long as you say what you're doing.

Why be in a relationship at all...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He met them on tinder, on fab, at work, but mostly went back to the girl he'd had an affair with at the beginning of our marriage"

I'm sorry to hear that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its also called do what you want when you what with who ever you want....as long as you say what you're doing.

Why be in a relationship at all... "

It was either this or ending it completely, and neither of us wanted the latter

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Its also called do what you want when you what with who ever you want....as long as you say what you're doing.

Why be in a relationship at all...

It was either this or ending it completely, and neither of us wanted the latter"

Then thats an as and when thingy. Good luck anyhow.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I'm in an open relationship on here , as long as your honest and don't cheat, your possibly going into an open relationship so why would you?

Good luck

Does cheating still exist in open relationships?

My soon to be ex husband managed it spectacularly"

I've been thinking of open relationships a lot recently but this aspect of it worries me a bit.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

We thought of this but decided against it. Whilst the idea/reality of fucking someone else is hot, falling in love with someone else would kill us. So not for us. You have to think of all potential possibilities and how it would effect you. If not then why be in a relationship? Communication is key. If you decide to go for it them maybe a poly lifestyle would work.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'm in an open relationship on here , as long as your honest and don't cheat, your possibly going into an open relationship so why would you?

Good luck

Does cheating still exist in open relationships?

My soon to be ex husband managed it spectacularly

I've been thinking of open relationships a lot recently but this aspect of it worries me a bit. "

That is the behaviour of someone who would cheat, whether the relationship is open or monogamous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife & I have been in an open relationship for the last few years. She used to see a man regularly,but he ended it,since then she's not seen anyone. I've found a couple of ladies through another site,one of which didn't go anywhere,the other has become a good friend. So for me it's worked ok. I guess it's not for every couple though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We're both still quite young so we don't have any significant commitments to each other (a house or a family), so we thought we'd experiment with others and see how it goes.

The main reason we're doing this is because of distance. We do care about each other and don't want to hold the other back because of distance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in an open relationship on here , as long as your honest and don't cheat, your possibly going into an open relationship so why would you?

Good luck

Does cheating still exist in open relationships?

My soon to be ex husband managed it spectacularly

I've been thinking of open relationships a lot recently but this aspect of it worries me a bit. "

If it's done properly then it can be a wonderful thing, alas it wasn't meant to be for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are currently looking for a bi lady to join us. We intend to treat her as part of our relationship and just have fun together.

Wether that fun is as a threesome or on weekends away as a couple (in any order)

But I think the key is all three being honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its also called do what you want when you what with who ever you want....as long as you say what you're doing.

Why be in a relationship at all... "

Some people want emotional monogamy. I know I do but I would consider an open thing if I had a serious partner.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op. Im in an open relationship and have been for nearly 13 years. Works perfectly for us. I think the reason you are struggling is because not everyone wants to meet someone in an open relationship and also your the male half. Males in general struggle more than females

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in an open relationship on here , as long as your honest and don't cheat, your possibly going into an open relationship so why would you?

Good luck

Does cheating still exist in open relationships?"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in an open relationship on here , as long as your honest and don't cheat, your possibly going into an open relationship so why would you?

Good luck

Does cheating still exist in open relationships?

Yes. "

Have you ever been deceitful?

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By *oisineandAlCouple
over a year ago

limerick

I'm in an open relationship. As long as you are open, be honest, communicate with each, respect each other, don't cheat I.e hide anything from each other, even trust each other. Hubby is vanilla, I'm Dominant, when I'm doing a session knows exactly where, who I am with etc .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op. Im in an open relationship and have been for nearly 13 years. Works perfectly for us. I think the reason you are struggling is because not everyone wants to meet someone in an open relationship and also your the male half. Males in general struggle more than females"

Thanks for sharing your experience! I guess I have to chat to people that interest me and see if they get respond. Was Fabs the only place you met other people?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Op. Im in an open relationship and have been for nearly 13 years. Works perfectly for us. I think the reason you are struggling is because not everyone wants to meet someone in an open relationship and also your the male half. Males in general struggle more than females

Thanks for sharing your experience! I guess I have to chat to people that interest me and see if they get respond. Was Fabs the only place you met other people?"
this and other such sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in an open relationship on here , as long as your honest and don't cheat, your possibly going into an open relationship so why would you?

Good luck

Does cheating still exist in open relationships?

Yes.

Have you ever been deceitful?"

In my relationship? No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in an open relationship on here , as long as your honest and don't cheat, your possibly going into an open relationship so why would you?

Good luck

Does cheating still exist in open relationships?

Yes.

Have you ever been deceitful?

In my relationship? No "

Good answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....is she on here?

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Depends on how comfortable you are with it. Many on here don’t mind if you are in a relationship or not. Read up on poly lifestyles.

Same advice as any newbie go to socials, clubs and meet people.

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By *otYourUsualGirlWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

I am poly, married, husband and partner as well.

Feel free to message me about it (anyone) if you have any questions.

My husband and I really struggle to find people for relationships as most people are monogamous and don't get it.

As I am mainly looking for sex and D/s, I have it a lot easier as I can look on here. He does struggle though.

As for if cheating can occur in open relationships - yes. Cheating is breaking the rules set out between the two of you.

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By *oisineandAlCouple
over a year ago

limerick


"I'm in an open relationship. As long as you are open, be honest, communicate with each, respect each other, don't cheat I.e hide anything from each other, even trust each other. Hubby is vanilla, I'm Dominant, when I'm doing a session knows exactly where, who I am with etc . "

Have I ever cheated?

Never had any reason to. If you are honest with each other. No reason to cheat. We have been together over 10 years, trust and honesty

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Its also called do what you want when you what with who ever you want....as long as you say what you're doing.

Why be in a relationship at all...

Some people want emotional monogamy. I know I do but I would consider an open thing if I had a serious partner."

That's how I try to explain it too x.

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