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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So am I THAT bad???

Over the last month I have sent out approx 15 messages to females or couples that tick everything that I am looking for, and also i am what they are looking for too.

The messages get read, some deleted straight away, others left with no reply

Maybe people don’t want to meet socially first?

My preferred method of finding out if there’s any attraction and also to see if we all get along... no point in meeting for fun of your not attracted to each other?

I’m not into meeting and fucking instantly, I like to get to know the person(s) I may be getting intimate with.... not just one off ‘bedpost ticks’

Come on guys n girls, tell me where I’m going wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not really doing anything wrong it's just the numbers game your one in 200 that's fab for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So am I THAT bad???

Over the last month I have sent out approx 15 messages to females or couples that tick everything that I am looking for, and also i am what they are looking for too.

The messages get read, some deleted straight away, others left with no reply

Maybe people don’t want to meet socially first?

My preferred method of finding out if there’s any attraction and also to see if we all get along... no point in meeting for fun of your not attracted to each other?

I’m not into meeting and fucking instantly, I like to get to know the person(s) I may be getting intimate with.... not just one off ‘bedpost ticks’

Come on guys n girls, tell me where I’m going wrong "

You’re trying to cheat in the game of connect 4

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol connect 4 is a great game

So 15 messages sent.... another 185 to go if it’s as the poster above said? Lol

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By *ur1ou2Man
over a year ago

Prudhoe

Don’t take it personally - I get that too as I suspect do a loy if people - especially single guys.

Might be worth looking a bit closer on their profiles

Yes some are quite active and maybe just pickie - but some I have found don’t meet often at all and last verification was months ago

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

What you're doing wrong is expecting Fab to deliver more than just chat and profiles; it ain't Ronseal, it doesn't do what (you think) it says on the tin.

Have absolutely no expectations of Fab and you'll not be disappointed. If you really want to meet people then go to the socials and the clubs.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

15 messages is nothing. You say your what they are looking for. Obviously your not.

Do you send a face photo with your introductary message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a numbers game buddy! We as blokes are completely out numbered. Don’t take it personally, I hardly get any replies. Messages get deleted without being read all the time. Move on and keep trying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What you're doing wrong is expecting Fab to deliver more than just chat and profiles; it ain't Ronseal, it doesn't do what (you think) it says on the tin.

Have absolutely no expectations of Fab and you'll not be disappointed. If you really want to meet people then go to the socials and the clubs."

Erm.... thanks for the pointless advise there, as you can see I visit a club (with my wife) every weekend... and have no trouble making friends there.

I don’t expect this site to be instashag like a majority of men... just don’t seem to get any replies from the ladies or couples within my local area

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If you're messaging and asking for a social in the first message I'd say that's where you're going wrong. Well, it would put me off, I don't know if I'd want to meet someone for a social until we exchange a few messages and face pics first at least.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you're messaging and asking for a social in the first message I'd say that's where you're going wrong. Well, it would put me off, I don't know if I'd want to meet someone for a social until we exchange a few messages and face pics first at least. "

The profiles I message are all asking for socials first.... I don’t just jump in and ask straight away, I compliment their profile and pictures, try and initiate a chat and then if all goes well... a social coffee.

The first messages are not getting replies for me to initiate anything else though haha

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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My advise would be forget sending messages and stick to clubs and social events,

For most people if there isn't a instant attraction when viewing a profile they wont reply, Its easier to get that feeling when meeting in person then reading a profile or looking at their photos

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My advise would be forget sending messages and stick to clubs and social events,

For most people if there isn't a instant attraction when viewing a profile they wont reply, Its easier to get that feeling when meeting in person then reading a profile or looking at their photos "

Leave them all for you then eh? Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you are doing anything wrong. As someone said above, it is a numbers game. 15 messages is not a lot. Though it does show you are selective in your choices which is always good, the fact that there are so little who fit your criteria (and you feel you fit theirs) could be the reason behind not getting replies.

Hopefully someone will reply to you and I'm pleased you have fun away from your singles profile, which hopefully takes the sting away a little, whilst you continue searching .

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

As said before don't take it

personally OP as its just a numbers game

as most of the ladies on here get tons of msgs to deal with and they often just don't have time to reply to all of them.

One woman i met recently said she was trying to deal with 500 msgs a day on here.

Maybe try and make your msgs stand out a bit more and having a funny subject headline to your msg can often help to stand out.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"My advise would be forget sending messages and stick to clubs and social events,

For most people if there isn't a instant attraction when viewing a profile they wont reply, Its easier to get that feeling when meeting in person then reading a profile or looking at their photos

Leave them all for you then eh? Haha"

I rarely send messages, If that approach isn't working for you stick to what is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe I’m too picky?

The funny approach works sometimes, well it works better in the club scene, just not so much on here.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"What you're doing wrong is expecting Fab to deliver more than just chat and profiles; it ain't Ronseal, it doesn't do what (you think) it says on the tin.

Have absolutely no expectations of Fab and you'll not be disappointed. If you really want to meet people then go to the socials and the clubs.

Erm.... thanks for the pointless advise there, as you can see I visit a club (with my wife) every weekend... and have no trouble making friends there.

I don’t expect this site to be instashag like a majority of men... just don’t seem to get any replies from the ladies or couples within my local area "
maybe sticking to clubs is the way to go if your having success there but not here

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Maybe I’m too picky?

The funny approach works sometimes, well it works better in the club scene, just not so much on here.

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theres your answer stick to clubs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe I’m too picky?

The funny approach works sometimes, well it works better in the club scene, just not so much on here.

theres your answer stick to clubs"

Miss smiles.... why don’t you just say what you mean? Haha

I’m not going UNLOS ... sorry to disappoint you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Maybe I’m too picky?

The funny approach works sometimes, well it works better in the club scene, just not so much on here.

theres your answer stick to clubs

Miss smiles.... why don’t you just say what you mean? Haha

I’m not going UNLOS ... sorry to disappoint you "
thats not what i ment at all . You can use the forums and site as you wish but if your getting all your action in clubs and not from here then surely thats what you would do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe I’m too picky?

The funny approach works sometimes, well it works better in the club scene, just not so much on here.

theres your answer stick to clubs

Miss smiles.... why don’t you just say what you mean? Haha

I’m not going UNLOS ... sorry to disappoint you thats not what i ment at all . You can use the forums and site as you wish but if your getting all your action in clubs and not from here then surely thats what you would do"

Oh thank you very much haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don’t recal asking for a profile review

Although I have been told by several people it’s a good write up, and my pics are ok too... not got a dozen of my cock at different angles... men seem to think that will gain the interest, it according to the forum replies that method is a fail at the first hurdle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t recal asking for a profile review

Although I have been told by several people it’s a good write up, and my pics are ok too... not got a dozen of my cock at different angles... men seem to think that will gain the interest, it according to the forum replies that method is a fail at the first hurdle.

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I don't see the poster above as actually reviewing your profile. Just pointing out the different factors that need to take place, to garner a positive response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t recal asking for a profile review

Although I have been told by several people it’s a good write up, and my pics are ok too... not got a dozen of my cock at different angles... men seem to think that will gain the interest, it according to the forum replies that method is a fail at the first hurdle.

"

You asked why you maybe aren’t getting messages....I gave a response as to maybe why you don’t.

I’ve deleted my post, if you felt I was giving profile advice.

Good luck with everything...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry.... maybe I read your last post wrongly

It did look to me that you was being a profile critique.

Ok.... so will ask about that then... what could do with changing ?

Now I’m open for the critiques

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op. Just a thought. Do the profiles you message have will meet cross dressers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So am I THAT bad???

Over the last month I have sent out approx 15 messages to females or couples that tick everything that I am looking for, and also i am what they are looking for too.

The messages get read, some deleted straight away, others left with no reply

Happens to me all the time. Use to it now lol.

Maybe people don’t want to meet socially first?

My preferred method of finding out if there’s any attraction and also to see if we all get along... no point in meeting for fun of your not attracted to each other?

I’m not into meeting and fucking instantly, I like to get to know the person(s) I may be getting intimate with.... not just one off ‘bedpost ticks’

Come on guys n girls, tell me where I’m going wrong "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op. Just a thought. Do the profiles you message have will meet cross dressers?"

Erm yes... it’s in their interests ticked anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A follow up... it’s only the knickers Mrs smiles, not a full cross dresser

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"A follow up... it’s only the knickers Mrs smiles, not a full cross dresser "
wearing womens lingerie is a cross dresser. I personally love a hard cock through womens silk knickers but not everyone is into it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A follow up... it’s only the knickers Mrs smiles, not a full cross dresser wearing womens lingerie is a cross dresser. I personally love a hard cock through womens silk knickers but not everyone is into it. "

Silk or satin bring my favourite to wear

As you say, plenty don’t like it, so I just stick to the ones that have it as an interest... or they message me first (doubtful) haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude. I haven't had a meet off here in one year and nine months...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dude. I haven't had a meet off here in one year and nine months..."

Unsurprising.... maybe look closer to home for the reason why you don’t get any mate

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"So am I THAT bad???

Over the last month I have sent out approx 15 messages to females or couples that tick everything that I am looking for, and also i am what they are looking for too.

The messages get read, some deleted straight away, others left with no reply

Maybe people don’t want to meet socially first?

My preferred method of finding out if there’s any attraction and also to see if we all get along... no point in meeting for fun of your not attracted to each other?

I’m not into meeting and fucking instantly, I like to get to know the person(s) I may be getting intimate with.... not just one off ‘bedpost ticks’

Come on guys n girls, tell me where I’m going wrong "

If you’re not into meeting and fucking instantly would you maybe be better on a dating site like pof?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dude. I haven't had a meet off here in one year and nine months...

Unsurprising.... maybe look closer to home for the reason why you don’t get any mate "

Ey my profile is top dollar. Put plenty of thought into my profile text. And I always upload new photos...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No... I have a wife at home that I’m more than happy with, I’m not looking for a relationship, just people who I can become friends with too.... not interested in ticks on bedposts

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Dude. I haven't had a meet off here in one year and nine months..."
well i can pinpoint your problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dude. I haven't had a meet off here in one year and nine months...well i can pinpoint your problem "

He’s a young kid... he may learn one day lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dude. I haven't had a meet off here in one year and nine months...well i can pinpoint your problem

He’s a young kid... he may learn one day lol "

We're deviating from the point here I feel

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p they probably get lots of emails and might just delete them in batches. Just join in with forum chat and cam chat...good luck!

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