FabSwingers.com forum: Rejection

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just love to get a reply bl full stop... I send nice messages etc and feck all in return..

Guess some men are not man enough to take it lol.. block button for then can't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a simple no thanks should be enough. If not interested then that’s cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they think swingers fuck everyone that asks. It blows their mind when someone says no. They never considered that was an option.

You're asking for sex and they offered. Why on earth would you say no.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I find the majority can handle a no thanks perfectly well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?"
really omg see I never see any of this negative stuff very occasionally you get a negative reply from a woman but rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find the majority can handle a no thanks perfectly well. "

Yes I agree.

And if someone is abusive just block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet to happen

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?"

It's not just men. Have seen plenty of ladies ranting about being turned down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno insecurity I Suppose

If I send a message and get no reply or it’s deleted I just figure I’m not their cup of tea and move on to the next rejection lol

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I think you’ll find that many men handle it very well every week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you’ll find that many men handle it very well every week. "
handle yes that's the optimum word men are always handling it ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I handle rejection fine. Some men spoil it for the rest of us.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

There are one or two who despite claiming to be adults certainly like to spit out their dummy and throw their toys out the pram!! If someone doesn't like being rejected then this site definitely isn't for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are one or two who despite claiming to be adults certainly like to spit out their dummy and throw their toys out the pram!! If someone doesn't like being rejected then this site definitely isn't for them."
just say yes to me I will be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Raggy dolls raggy dolls

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Oh go on then

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By *eanne n AliCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Have to be honest when we have said a polite no thanks to people most are accepting but there are also couples, women and TV's who can't accept a polite rejection and get quite abusive about it. We have even been blocked by people we have turned down. Kind of answers our questions about why they have no verifications a lot of the time.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?"

You shouldn't have to block people straight after replying but I would if I were you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh go on then

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see I'm happy now x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Oh go on then

see I'm happy now x"

Can't have you feeling sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Les femmes aussi ont du mal a accepté qu'on leur disent: 'non, merci'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it quite amusing when some throw a hissy fit after rejection.

I can just imagine them stamping their feet,their little faces turning purple as steam bellows out their ears.

Wouldn't make me have a change of heart,just find them quite amusing.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I find it quite amusing when some throw a hissy fit after rejection.

I can just imagine them stamping their feet,their little faces turning purple as steam bellows out their ears.

Wouldn't make me have a change of heart,just find them quite amusing."

I'm glad I'm not the only one to have that image

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?"

Quite a general statement, I am certain there have been lots of men who have backed off once you said no.

I think its because it invokes negative feelings by the accused, and shock at being called something preposterious.

Think about it, on average how much do we avoid unpleasant people? quite alot right?

So look at in perspective, the barrier to avoiding people like that is non-existent on the internet, especially this site. Therefore its more likely for anyone to be subject to abuse or negative feelings.

There are ways of remediating situations like that. But it always starts with reporting them, then blocking them.

The power to shape the fab experience is in its users hands.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

When I send a polite ‘no thank you’ I generally get one back thanking me for replying.

F&B is correct though I’m sure that women (and others) can be as bad. It’s not the gender that’s the issue, it’s the personality I think

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I only had one who had a bit of a rant. Called me a snob, said I thought I was too good for him.

Could’ve been right

I just deleted and blocked him so he’d never know anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouais t'as bein raison ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Les femmes aussi ont du mal a accepté qu'on leur disent: 'non, merci' "

Mon ami barbu dit la vérité

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Loving the #notallmen.

There is a distinct issue with men treating women on here as sex workers even before the rejection stage. It starts from their opening messages. Yesterday I received from a random stranger "I'm in XXX hotel but I'm bored. Can you come and keep me company".

Once I heard a woman on a train talking about fab swingers, saying that men use it as if it were free prostitution. I tend to agree with that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

You shouldn't have to block people straight after replying but I would if I were you."

Yes and yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men think we are free prostitutes and should have sex with anyone who asks.

I can find it entertaining when they have a paddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loving the #notallmen.

Once I heard a woman on a train talking about fab swingers, saying that men use it as if it were free prostitution. I tend to agree with that."
you've generalised again I'm a man and don't regard women in that way ever

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Quite a general statement, I am certain there have been lots of men who have backed off once you said no.

I think its because it invokes negative feelings by the accused, and shock at being called something preposterious.

Think about it, on average how much do we avoid unpleasant people? quite alot right?

There are ways of remediating situations like that. But it always starts with reporting them, then blocking them.

The power to shape the fab experience is in its users hands.

Yes I shape it by replying politely. Don't put the onus on me to stop men sending shitty messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a lot of that too. The ones who send a load of abuse and them block you make me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Loving the #notallmen.

Once I heard a woman on a train talking about fab swingers, saying that men use it as if it were free prostitution. I tend to agree with that.you've generalised again I'm a man and don't regard women in that way ever "

And how are you helping? You must walk into sexual abuse counselling sessions and declare yourself as a non abuser. Then everyone can go home and everything is fine

I'm not interested in what you 'dont' do. I'm interested in why men do what I have stated in my op.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get a lot of that too. The ones who send a load of abuse and them block you make me laugh. "

Well they need 'control'! Shame they have no self control!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You obviously haven’t read the swingers guide to being a swinger. Swingers fuck ANYONE who is keen

Shocking.

In all seriousness, it’s shit. No need for abuse at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some men think we are free prostitutes and should have sex with anyone who asks.

I can find it entertaining when they have a paddy. "

After telling one guy my sexual liberation is not my sexual availability to him, he told me I should make myself available to whoever wants me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience it’s couples who behave in this way far far more than men. When I had my couples profile the guys were respectful and polite about ‘no thanks’ couples on the other hand were on occasion rude and abusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Frustration I'm guessing.

Not liking rejection isn't gender specific though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get a lot of that too. The ones who send a load of abuse and them block you make me laugh.

Well they need 'control'! Shame they have no self control!"

It’s the control that makes a man hot

just more for the block list!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You obviously haven’t read the swingers guide to being a swinger. Swingers fuck ANYONE who is keen

Shocking.

In all seriousness, it’s shit. No need for abuse at all

you're right ... I must read that one. maybe I can do that when. I'm laying back being penetrated by someone who happened to be interested in me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In my experience it’s couples who behave in this way far far more than men. When I had my couples profile the guys were respectful and polite about ‘no thanks’ couples on the other hand were on occasion rude and abusive. "

Probably because there is a man involved. Men behave differently when other men are around ... And couples are usually the man speaking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Probably because there is a man involved. Men behave differently when other men are around ... And couples are usually the man speaking."

Sorry I didn't see that you were a man. Not sure you can compare your experience to that of a woman's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You obviously haven’t read the swingers guide to being a swinger. Swingers fuck ANYONE who is keen

Shocking.

In all seriousness, it’s shit. No need for abuse at all

Hahaha so true.

My favourite is “you’re fat anyway” or “you’re ugly anyway”

So tell me, mr abusive why did you send 6 messages in a row asking to stick your penis inside me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loving the #notallmen.

And how are you helping? You must walk into sexual abuse counselling sessions and declare yourself as a non abuser. Then everyone can go home and everything is fine

I'm not interested in what you 'dont' do. I'm interested in why men do what I have stated in my op."
I can't speak for them and I don't condone anyone that does it but you're inferring all men have this attitude and you are wrong...... My comments based on that premise and it seems if men are to be abusive your only tool is to block, I do however find it hard to believe so much of this is reported, it can't all be down to the men are some antagonised in some way? Who knows but in instances of abuse you have no choice but to block. I have only one example of such abuse coming my way for no reason she swore at me and blocked me so I couldn't reply ha made me laugh ce La vie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You obviously haven’t read the swingers guide to being a swinger. Swingers fuck ANYONE who is keen

Shocking.

In all seriousness, it’s shit. No need for abuse at all

you're right ... I must read that one. maybe I can do that when. I'm laying back being penetrated by someone who happened to be interested in me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You obviously haven’t read the swingers guide to being a swinger. Swingers fuck ANYONE who is keen

Shocking.

In all seriousness, it’s shit. No need for abuse at all

Hahaha so true.

My favourite is “you’re fat anyway” or “you’re ugly anyway”

So tell me, mr abusive why did you send 6 messages in a row asking to stick your penis inside me?

Exactly!!!!! It baffles me! Is the male ego THAT fragile that you can’t handle a simple no?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Loving the #notallmen.

And how are you helping? You must walk into sexual abuse counselling sessions and declare yourself as a non abuser. Then everyone can go home and everything is fine

I'm not interested in what you 'dont' do. I'm interested in why men do what I have stated in my op.I can't speak for them and I don't condone anyone that does it but you're inferring all men have this attitude and you are wrong...... My comments based on that premise and it seems if men are to be abusive your only tool is to block, I do however find it hard to believe so much of this is reported, it can't all be down to the men are some antagonised in some way? Who knows but in instances of abuse you have no choice but to block. I have only one example of such abuse coming my way for no reason she swore at me and blocked me so I couldn't reply ha made me laugh ce La vie

Im so sorry that you've had to deal with one woman being abusive. Thanks for proving my point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You obviously haven’t read the swingers guide to being a swinger. Swingers fuck ANYONE who is keen

Shocking.

In all seriousness, it’s shit. No need for abuse at all

Hahaha so true.

My favourite is “you’re fat anyway” or “you’re ugly anyway”

So tell me, mr abusive why did you send 6 messages in a row asking to stick your penis inside me?

Exactly!!!!! It baffles me! Is the male ego THAT fragile that you can’t handle a simple no?

If literally is that fragile ... Hence that men need to derail a post about women disliking how men treat them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loving the #notallmen.

And how are you helping? You must walk into sexual abuse counselling sessions and declare yourself as a non abuser. Then everyone can go home and everything is fine

Antagonised?

Yes of course sending a “No thanks but I hope you find what you’re looking for, have a nice day” is antagonising them, so much so they reply with racial abuse & fat shaming... I’ve had this countless times, now I won’t bother, I’ll delete & block if necessary

God forbid someone actually be in the wrong without being provoked. It seems a lot on here find it hard to believe there are so many abusive people who get nasty after the smallest thing, if only some of you could be flies on the wall whilst we are reading our messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You obviously haven’t read the swingers guide to being a swinger. Swingers fuck ANYONE who is keen

Shocking.

In all seriousness, it’s shit. No need for abuse at all

Hahaha so true.

My favourite is “you’re fat anyway” or “you’re ugly anyway”

So tell me, mr abusive why did you send 6 messages in a row asking to stick your penis inside me?

Exactly!!!!! It baffles me! Is the male ego THAT fragile that you can’t handle a simple no?

I think it is for many.

Even some of those who claim to be “genuine” and “nice guys” can’t help but slide a dig in when you politely reject them sometimes, it’s as if it’s within their nature.

Rejection is part of life, if you can’t take it, you should not be on a website like this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners Maketh Man.…. not on Fab though apparently!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You obviously haven’t read the swingers guide to being a swinger. Swingers fuck ANYONE who is keen

Shocking.

In all seriousness, it’s shit. No need for abuse at all

Hahaha so true.

My favourite is “you’re fat anyway” or “you’re ugly anyway”

So tell me, mr abusive why did you send 6 messages in a row asking to stick your penis inside me?

Exactly!!!!! It baffles me! Is the male ego THAT fragile that you can’t handle a simple no?

I think it is for many.

Even some of those who claim to be “genuine” and “nice guys” can’t help but slide a dig in when you politely reject them sometimes, it’s as if it’s within their nature.

Rejection is part of life, if you can’t take it, you should not be on a website like this!"

Any man who claims to be nice or genuine or respectful is an immediate block for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You obviously haven’t read the swingers guide to being a swinger. Swingers fuck ANYONE who is keen

Shocking.

In all seriousness, it’s shit. No need for abuse at all

Hahaha so true.

My favourite is “you’re fat anyway” or “you’re ugly anyway”

So tell me, mr abusive why did you send 6 messages in a row asking to stick your penis inside me?

Exactly!!!!! It baffles me! Is the male ego THAT fragile that you can’t handle a simple no?

I think it is for many.

Even some of those who claim to be “genuine” and “nice guys” can’t help but slide a dig in when you politely reject them sometimes, it’s as if it’s within their nature.

Rejection is part of life, if you can’t take it, you should not be on a website like this!

Any man who claims to be nice or genuine or respectful is an immediate block for me. "

When they protest they are nice, genuine or a gentlemen they automatically are not.

Anyone who is any of those things doesnt actually need to say they are! I find the ones who have any of those three words in their profile the worst of them all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg theirs no hope for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My god! This isn’t going well.

Where have all the good men gone!!! (Now I’m singing!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because there is a man involved. Men behave differently when other men are around ... And couples are usually the man speaking.

Sorry I didn't see that you were a man. Not sure you can compare your experience to that of a woman's."

I did state ‘on my couples profile’ and my ex partner also had a SF profile on which her experience was very similar.

I appreciate your bad experience but people are the issue, not just guys. Please don’t go generalising a whole gender because some of them are unable to handle their emotions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re here. Always waiting for that singing voice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because there is a man involved. Men behave differently when other men are around ... And couples are usually the man speaking.

Sorry I didn't see that you were a man. Not sure you can compare your experience to that of a woman's.

I did state ‘on my couples profile’ and my ex partner also had a SF profile on which her experience was very similar.

I appreciate your bad experience but people are the issue, not just guys. Please don’t go generalising a whole gender because some of them are unable to handle their emotions. "

She’s talking about her experience.

Why do so many on here feel the need to say “Not all guys”, we know it’s not all guys, when people make a post without being specific for the easily offended they’re obviously talking about their own experiences.

If you aren’t one of the guys she mentions I can’t see why this would bother you. I’ve seen and received plenty of “Women are this and that” I don’t feel the need to shout “Not all women” because I know it’s not all women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get a lot of that too. The ones who send a load of abuse and them block you make me laugh.

Well they need 'control'! Shame they have no self control!"

They are very childish in my opinion. Throwing a fit because they can't have what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?"

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I get a lot of that too. The ones who send a load of abuse and them block you make me laugh.

Well they need 'control'! Shame they have no self control!

They are very childish in my opinion. Throwing a fit because they can't have what they want

Oh then the ones who get all possessive if you do meet and say they don't like to "share their toys" WTF is that all about??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You obviously haven’t read the swingers guide to being a swinger. Swingers fuck ANYONE who is keen

Shocking.

In all seriousness, it’s shit. No need for abuse at all

Hahaha so true.

My favourite is “you’re fat anyway” or “you’re ugly anyway”

So tell me, mr abusive why did you send 6 messages in a row asking to stick your penis inside me?

Haha omg, this. How many times I've had this happen, well I couldn't begin to count. Hilarious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too"

Really?!

Nobody would’ve ever guessed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get a lot of that too. The ones who send a load of abuse and them block you make me laugh.

Well they need 'control'! Shame they have no self control!

They are very childish in my opinion. Throwing a fit because they can't have what they want

Oh then the ones who get all possessive if you do meet and say they don't like to "share their toys" WTF is that all about??

I never have that as I make it clear from day one I'm here to share. It's swinging, not dating. Men need to accept that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too"

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You obviously haven’t read the swingers guide to being a swinger. Swingers fuck ANYONE who is keen

Shocking.

In all seriousness, it’s shit. No need for abuse at all

Hahaha so true.

My favourite is “you’re fat anyway” or “you’re ugly anyway”

So tell me, mr abusive why did you send 6 messages in a row asking to stick your penis inside me?

Haha omg, this. How many times I've had this happen, well I couldn't begin to count. Hilarious

It makes me laugh out loud.

They put so much effort into giving you compliments and letting you know badly they want to get into your knickers then you politely reject them and all of a sudden you’re the ugliest thing in the planet...

So they’re either lying about you being ugly or they’re desperate with no standards and want to have sex with what they consider ugly women! Backwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably due to the women that turn them down rudely. Men are human beings too. If all their messages are ignored or get a rude reply from some entitled woman that thinks only her feelings matter, no wonder they get fed up.

Oh shit what am I talking about??! Women are blame free. Women are never rude. It's all men.

Some people are on here looking for sex. If they mail me asking for sex and I'm not interested I say no thank you because we're just not compatible. I don't lose my mind over it and rant about how dare they want something different to me. Weird how I pretty much never get abuse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Probably because there is a man involved. Men behave differently when other men are around ... And couples are usually the man speaking.

Sorry I didn't see that you were a man. Not sure you can compare your experience to that of a woman's.

I did state ‘on my couples profile’ and my ex partner also had a SF profile on which her experience was very similar.

I appreciate your bad experience but people are the issue, not just guys. Please don’t go generalising a whole gender because some of them are unable to handle their emotions. "

You made it about all men. I didn't.

I said men. Enough men giving enough women enough shit to make a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get a lot of that too. The ones who send a load of abuse and them block you make me laugh.

Well they need 'control'! Shame they have no self control!

They are very childish in my opinion. Throwing a fit because they can't have what they want

Oh then the ones who get all possessive if you do meet and say they don't like to "share their toys" WTF is that all about??

I never have that as I make it clear from day one I'm here to share. It's swinging, not dating. Men need to accept that

And we get told it’s us that are possessive. Like hell!

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over a year ago

Newport

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because there is a man involved. Men behave differently when other men are around ... And couples are usually the man speaking.

Sorry I didn't see that you were a man. Not sure you can compare your experience to that of a woman's.

I did state ‘on my couples profile’ and my ex partner also had a SF profile on which her experience was very similar.

I appreciate your bad experience but people are the issue, not just guys. Please don’t go generalising a whole gender because some of them are unable to handle their emotions.

She’s talking about her experience.

I guess I’m just reading the posts as they’re written and I should start adding a mental ‘some’ in front of every post that refers to men.

*shrugs*

I’m not attempting to detract from the issue at hand, I’m attempting to broaden the scope by pointing out that some people do this, regardless of gender, and yes I would make this point if the thread were aimed at any other gender too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Probably due to the women that turn them down rudely. Men are human beings too. If all their messages are ignored or get a rude reply from some entitled woman that thinks only her feelings matter, no wonder they get fed up.

Oh shit what am I talking about??! Women are blame free. Women are never rude. It's all men.

Yes it must be my fault. This last one specifically mentioned it was because I had not responded to him. Yes, my fault. So glad you don't get abuse. Now what was your point?

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over a year ago

Oh shit what am I talking about??! Women are blame free. Women are never rude. It's all men.

Since when did men become human beings? Wow thanks for telling us!

What is entitled is thinking you’re guaranteed sex and that no one should be able to politely say no to you, so much so that you feel the need to abuse someone to make yourself feel better about the fact you got rejected.

I’m sure someone will send you a compliment after this pick me post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Probably because there is a man involved. Men behave differently when other men are around ... And couples are usually the man speaking.

Sorry I didn't see that you were a man. Not sure you can compare your experience to that of a woman's.

I did state ‘on my couples profile’ and my ex partner also had a SF profile on which her experience was very similar.

I appreciate your bad experience but people are the issue, not just guys. Please don’t go generalising a whole gender because some of them are unable to handle their emotions.

She’s talking about her experience.

I guess I’m just reading the posts as they’re written and I should start adding a mental ‘some’ in front of every post that refers to men.

*shrugs*

I love the fact you're a man telling me this. Just perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because there is a man involved. Men behave differently when other men are around ... And couples are usually the man speaking.

Sorry I didn't see that you were a man. Not sure you can compare your experience to that of a woman's.

I did state ‘on my couples profile’ and my ex partner also had a SF profile on which her experience was very similar.

I appreciate your bad experience but people are the issue, not just guys. Please don’t go generalising a whole gender because some of them are unable to handle their emotions.

She’s talking about her experience.

I guess I’m just reading the posts as they’re written and I should start adding a mental ‘some’ in front of every post that refers to men.

*shrugs*

Of course other people do this regardless of gender but this is about one persons experiences.

Why do you feel the need to ignore someone else’s experiences and make it a “not all men” post? It’s just silly. As I said, if you aren’t the type of man she talks about you really shouldn’t be bothered by this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loving the #notallmen.

Once I heard a woman on a train talking about fab swingers, saying that men use it as if it were free prostitution. I tend to agree with that."

It seems to becoming more of an issue - I rarely had that attitude in the past because I make it clear on my profile that I am not after one night stands. However many men on here don't read profiles at all and think of any woman on here as being available for a free f**ck to suit them.

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By *orningtonCroissantMan
over a year ago

notts and humberside

Very well put! Swingers are just as choosy as anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get a lot of that too. The ones who send a load of abuse and them block you make me laugh.

Well they need 'control'! Shame they have no self control!

They are very childish in my opinion. Throwing a fit because they can't have what they want

Oh then the ones who get all possessive if you do meet and say they don't like to "share their toys" WTF is that all about??

Again childish behaviour. It's mine so no one else can have it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Loving the #notallmen.

Once I heard a woman on a train talking about fab swingers, saying that men use it as if it were free prostitution. I tend to agree with that.

Definitely agree. Also even my experience on pof has changed. If I decline someone, I get the 'how much for a night' message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because there is a man involved. Men behave differently when other men are around ... And couples are usually the man speaking.

Sorry I didn't see that you were a man. Not sure you can compare your experience to that of a woman's.

I did state ‘on my couples profile’ and my ex partner also had a SF profile on which her experience was very similar.

I appreciate your bad experience but people are the issue, not just guys. Please don’t go generalising a whole gender because some of them are unable to handle their emotions.

She’s talking about her experience.

I guess I’m just reading the posts as they’re written and I should start adding a mental ‘some’ in front of every post that refers to men.

*shrugs*

I love the fact you're a man telling me this. Just perfect."

Some women bring it on themselves. Why on earth they look for men to fuck when they clearly hate them, I'll never know. Issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loving the #notallmen.

Once I heard a woman on a train talking about fab swingers, saying that men use it as if it were free prostitution. I tend to agree with that.

Yup

On their terms

In their time frame

When and how it suits them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for the lovely offer. But i’m Not meeting athe moment. Happy fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because there is a man involved. Men behave differently when other men are around ... And couples are usually the man speaking.

Sorry I didn't see that you were a man. Not sure you can compare your experience to that of a woman's.

I did state ‘on my couples profile’ and my ex partner also had a SF profile on which her experience was very similar.

I appreciate your bad experience but people are the issue, not just guys. Please don’t go generalising a whole gender because some of them are unable to handle their emotions.

She’s talking about her experience.

I guess I’m just reading the posts as they’re written and I should start adding a mental ‘some’ in front of every post that refers to men.

*shrugs*

I love the fact you're a man telling me this. Just perfect.

Some women bring it on themselves. Why on earth they look for men to fuck when they clearly hate them, I'll never know. Issues. "

Pick me! Pick me!

You must have wonderful powers to be able to tell from posts whether women hate men or not!

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

Devil's advocate here 'hi'

I can't handle rejection

The last man that rejected me got a right load of abuse which I wasn't proud of. That was definitely insecurity on my part

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Devil's advocate here 'hi'

I can't handle rejection

The last man that rejected me got a right load of abuse which I wasn't proud of. That was definitely insecurity on my part

And?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Devil's advocate here 'hi'

I can't handle rejection

The last man that rejected me got a right load of abuse which I wasn't proud of. That was definitely insecurity on my part

That's very adult of you to admit. I'm sure everyone has done the same at some point. Has it made you more sympathetic when you turn men down?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find the majority can handle a no thanks perfectly well. "

I find the majority of men aren't rapists. There is still a problem with men raping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?"

You have a most explicit and interesting profile with definite likes and dislikes. I would suggest most dont read this when contacting you. You sound devine to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How fucked up is the mentality here that someone speaking out against shitty behaviour receives all sorts of derailment. But the one who comes along to admit there are doing something wrong is congratulated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Devil's advocate here 'hi'

I can't handle rejection

The last man that rejected me got a right load of abuse which I wasn't proud of. That was definitely insecurity on my part

It should never ever resort to abuse, there just is never any need.

I get that some people can’t handle rejection but on a site like this you really need to have a thick skin and be able to take rejection, if you can’t, probably best to not message anyone and make them come to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

You have a most explicit and interesting profile with definite likes and dislikes. I would suggest most dont read this when contacting you. You sound devine to me"

Thank you. I can handle the not reading to a point. But the abuse is inexcusable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

You have a most explicit and interesting profile with definite likes and dislikes. I would suggest most dont read this when contacting you. You sound devine to me"

Ever so slightly missing the point there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

You have a most explicit and interesting profile with definite likes and dislikes. I would suggest most dont read this when contacting you. You sound devine to me

Thank you. I can handle the not reading to a point. But the abuse is inexcusable."

You are correct. Have an amazing life. Your way x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Inability to handle rejection is perfectly valid. But you need to handle that yourself.

Abusing someone is never excusable. You choose to do that. And poeple are abusing others with no basis all the time. Abuse is always the fault of the abuser.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How fucked up is the mentality here that someone speaking out against shitty behaviour receives all sorts of derailment. But the one who comes along to admit there are doing something wrong is congratulated."

Humans have an inherent need to be part of the club.

To be accepted

No one wants to be the one to stand up and say " this isnt right" because they risk becoming ostracised themselves.

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

"Devil's advocate here 'hi'

I can't handle rejection

The last man that rejected me got a right load of abuse which I wasn't proud of. That was definitely insecurity on my part

And?"

trying to make the point that we are ALL human, whether man or woman

It was also very tongue in cheek because I don't get rejected on here..but if I did I'm saying I guess I might react in the same way on the odd occasion...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Humans have an inherent need to be part of the club.

To be accepted

No one wants to be the one to stand up and say " this isnt right" because they risk becoming ostracised themselves."

Yep. I have no issue being an outsider even if im the last one standing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Devil's advocate here 'hi'

I can't handle rejection

The last man that rejected me got a right load of abuse which I wasn't proud of. That was definitely insecurity on my part

And?"

I think she’s echoing my point.

She’s posting her experiences, just as you are, neither makes the other less valid.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I have no issues with being rejected it happens all the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Devil's advocate here 'hi'

I can't handle rejection

The last man that rejected me got a right load of abuse which I wasn't proud of. That was definitely insecurity on my part

And?

I think she’s echoing my point.

She’s posting her experiences, just as you are, neither makes the other less valid. "

I must have missed one of your other posts talking abiut the human condition or supporting mens rights or some other bs. Do you always derail?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have no issues with being rejected it happens all the time

Same here! In fact I'd rather be rejected than accepted because someone can't get anyone better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humans have an inherent need to be part of the club.

To be accepted

No one wants to be the one to stand up and say " this isnt right" because they risk becoming ostracised themselves.

Yep. I have no issue being an outsider even if im the last one standing."

Me neither.

In fact, Im more than happy to be an outsider.

And often am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said it before but I think what would help is a "thanks but no thanks" type Fab reply button people can press. I'm sure this would stop a lot of the "problems" because the frustration can build-up if you get no replys at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Humans have an inherent need to be part of the club.

To be accepted

No one wants to be the one to stand up and say " this isnt right" because they risk becoming ostracised themselves.

Yep. I have no issue being an outsider even if im the last one standing.

Me neither.

In fact, Im more than happy to be an outsider.

And often am"

Same here...I just didn't want to deal with people incorrectly presuming I was deliberately playing devil's advocate or being difficult. Oh wait, do I care? No!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Said it before but I think what would help is a "thanks but no thanks" type Fab reply button people can press. I'm sure this would stop a lot of the "problems" because the frustration can build-up if you get no replys at all.

No. The problem is the mentality. There is no block or no thanks button offline. Deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Devil's advocate here 'hi'

I can't handle rejection

The last man that rejected me got a right load of abuse which I wasn't proud of. That was definitely insecurity on my part

And?

I think she’s echoing my point.

She’s posting her experiences, just as you are, neither makes the other less valid.

I must have missed one of your other posts talking abiut the human condition or supporting mens rights or some other bs. Do you always derail?"

Men’s rights? No, the human condition; yes.

I was seeking to broaden the scope of the thread but obviously you don’t. I hope you get the agreement and platitudes that you’re looking for.

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By *ay40xMan
over a year ago

Bromley

Wow sounds like you’ve met one of the many assholes on here that ruin it for the rest of us!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Devil's advocate here 'hi'

I can't handle rejection

The last man that rejected me got a right load of abuse which I wasn't proud of. That was definitely insecurity on my part

And?

I think she’s echoing my point.

She’s posting her experiences, just as you are, neither makes the other less valid.

I must have missed one of your other posts talking abiut the human condition or supporting mens rights or some other bs. Do you always derail?

Men’s rights? No, the human condition; yes.

I was seeking to broaden the scope of the thread but obviously you don’t. I hope you get the agreement and platitudes that you’re looking for. "

I'm not. I asked why men can't handle rejection. If you can't answer then move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rejection

we all suffer from it.

could you image being told no for a new job and being prissy like some are on here! NO so maybe they need to respectful and use manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Devil's advocate here 'hi'

I can't handle rejection

The last man that rejected me got a right load of abuse which I wasn't proud of. That was definitely insecurity on my part

And?

I think she’s echoing my point.

She’s posting her experiences, just as you are, neither makes the other less valid.

I must have missed one of your other posts talking abiut the human condition or supporting mens rights or some other bs. Do you always derail?

Men’s rights? No, the human condition; yes.

I was seeking to broaden the scope of the thread but obviously you don’t. I hope you get the agreement and platitudes that you’re looking for.

I'm not. I asked why men can't handle rejection. If you can't answer then move on."

as some men think they are worthy and better than anyone

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By *tsJeanLucMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

If I get rejected I get rejected, move on it’s that simple lol not everybody is going to like you and you’re not going to meet everybodies tastes

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I had one guy accuse me of being a single mum on benefits because I said thanks but no thanks then contradicted himself by calling me a cleaner when I told him what my job actually is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine."

You said men can't handle rejection in an open forum. You opened up the discussion, I merely pointed out that some women can be arses too. If you're going to criticise the men, then my point is just as valid. If you weren't expecting comments you don't like back, don't post them in a open forum

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

No, it's the entitlement of some

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would guess that they just assume everyone woman on here just wants to have sex with anyone that comes along. A no thanks is sufficent enough for me. And i should know. I get a lot of them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I send a polite ‘no thank you’ I generally get one back thanking me for replying.

F&B is correct though I’m sure that women (and others) can be as bad. It’s not the gender that’s the issue, it’s the personality I think

100% right. There's no harm in good manners I'll always wish people good luck even if I'm not what they're looking for. Some not all just lack that human decency to be civil.

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By *verageguy123Man
over a year ago

Selby

Believe it or not there are some women on here who can’t handle it either, I was accused of being fake and all sorts the other day just for not wanting to meet someone who insisted on bareback

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple
over a year ago

Kings Hill

I just had someone name call because I said no thanks, they asked for some feedback and I gave it, I wasn’t rude, they did ask and it’s only my opinion. Then they blocked me, which is their prerogative, so now I can’t even email a reply back to their offensive! Grrrrrr!

The blonde x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Or maybe you should make your own thread talking about the abusive women instead of trying to derail someone else’s and take away from their experiences?

This is about her experiences, if a man posted this I wouldn’t then come on and start posting NOT ALL WOMEN or how men have done the same to me, I’d understand his experiences and let him know the good outweigh the bad on here and he should block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool."

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them"

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Or maybe you should make your own thread talking about the abusive women instead of trying to derail someone else’s and take away from their experiences?

Men only care about other men when women start talking about their shitty behaviour. Because they have the privilege of not being affected by the shit women have to deal with. They are so scared of losing their perch on the top of the privilege pole they will do anything to maintain it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?"

I love the willful ignorance at the extreme end of the scale of shitty messages. Violence, r4pe, murder? Shall I go on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?"

Not at all. Where have I said that? I was just pointing out that some women can be just as nasty. It would have been a better question to ask why people generally can't handle rejection as opposed to singling out men. And no should be enough regardless of sex.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

No kidding it’s like bunny boilers anonymous on here at times

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over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

I’m only seeking men so my abuse has only been from men, so if I were to make a post about the abuse I’ve received it would be about the men who’ve sent me it, I can’t understand why people posting about their experiences bothers some this much.

I can only assume that it’s because his post has hit a raw nerve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

No kidding it’s like bunny boilers anonymous on here at times

Do you go to BBA groups often?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"When I send a polite ‘no thank you’ I generally get one back thanking me for replying.

F&B is correct though I’m sure that women (and others) can be as bad. It’s not the gender that’s the issue, it’s the personality I think

100% right. There's no harm in good manners I'll always wish people good luck even if I'm not what they're looking for. Some not all just lack that human decency to be civil."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

I can only assume that it’s because his post has hit a raw nerve. "

I don't think either of you are capable of understanding the concept of a forum today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

I can only assume that it’s because his post has hit a raw nerve.

I don't think either of you are capable of understanding the concept of a forum today "

I understand perfectly well thank you.

What I don’t understand is why the easily offended and fragile use forums, a place full of opposing opinions. Not for the faint hearted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just had someone name call because I said no thanks, they asked for some feedback and I gave it, I wasn’t rude, they did ask and it’s only my opinion. Then they blocked me, which is their prerogative, so now I can’t even email a reply back to their offensive! Grrrrrr!

The blonde x"

It always make me laugh when they do that, send abuse then block you.

It probably makes them feel good for 5 mins, then they go back to being the nasty individuals they always were!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

I can only assume that it’s because his post has hit a raw nerve. "
Can I just say in my case it hasn't hit a nerve, the Op generalised about men and my comments reflected that and I imagine the other guy who said maybe the comment shouldn't have singled out men perse was reflecting that, we all agree people shouldn't be abusive men or women, frustration plays a key role in the verbal abuse via text that results but it's only text people are much braver in a text, that said still not acceptable

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

No kidding it’s like bunny boilers anonymous on here at times

Do you go to BBA groups often? "

Sorry no, I don’t have details of meetings but the ladies who attend should be able to point you in the right direction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

I can only assume that it’s because his post has hit a raw nerve.

I don't think either of you are capable of understanding the concept of a forum today

I understand perfectly well thank you.

What I don’t understand is why the easily offended and fragile use forums, a place full of opposing opinions. Not for the faint hearted.

That's incredibly ironic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

I can only assume that it’s because his post has hit a raw nerve. Can I just say in my case it hasn't hit a nerve, the Op generalised about men and my comments reflected that and I imagine the other guy who said maybe the comment shouldn't have singled out men perse was reflecting that, we all agree people shouldn't be abusive men or women, frustration plays a key role in the verbal abuse via text that results but it's only text people are much braver in a text, that said still not acceptable "

" frustration plays a key role?"

Are you saying that some women get called fat, ugly whores because men are frustrated?

Can you elaborate please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

No kidding it’s like bunny boilers anonymous on here at times

Do you go to BBA groups often?

Sorry no, I don’t have details of meetings but the ladies who attend should be able to point you in the right direction

Nah not for me.

I just thought since you have an idea of how those meeting go you must attend often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

I can only assume that it’s because his post has hit a raw nerve.

I don't think either of you are capable of understanding the concept of a forum today

I understand perfectly well thank you.

What I don’t understand is why the easily offended and fragile use forums, a place full of opposing opinions. Not for the faint hearted.

That's incredibly ironic"

If you say so.

I’m very sorry that this posts and the ones after them hit a nerve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

No kidding it’s like bunny boilers anonymous on here at times

Do you go to BBA groups often? "

i think some women should get to a BAA group lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

I wouldn’t call talking about the experiences she’s had a generalisation.

If a large percentage of the men who message her are sending her abuse when she politely rejects them it isn’t a generalisation, it’s an observation.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It’s inevitable on an open forum that if you point the finger at one group, other groups will come out to readdress the balance. This isn’t anything new, it happens on practically every thread where a gender is mentioned.

Abuse in messages is nothing new by each gender and will unfortunately continue in some cases. I haven’t experienced it thank goodness.

Judging by the way people communicate on here though it isn’t surprising to me that things get heated. Low tolerance levels

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

No kidding it’s like bunny boilers anonymous on here at times

Do you go to BBA groups often?

Sorry no, I don’t have details of meetings but the ladies who attend should be able to point you in the right direction

Nah not for me.

I just thought since you have an idea of how those meeting go you must attend often. "

It’s comes from life experience and watching some of the appalling displays around the forum, trust me you’ll see it before long

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"It’s inevitable on an open forum that if you point the finger at one group, other groups will come out to readdress the balance. This isn’t anything new, it happens on practically every thread where a gender is mentioned.

Abuse in messages is nothing new by each gender and will unfortunately continue in some cases. I haven’t experienced it thank goodness.

Judging by the way people communicate on here though it isn’t surprising to me that things get heated. Low tolerance levels

More tea and cake required

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Abuse in messages is nothing new by each gender and will unfortunately continue in some cases. I haven’t experienced it thank goodness.

Judging by the way people communicate on here though it isn’t surprising to me that things get heated. Low tolerance levels

More tea and cake required

Now you mention it I could do with both

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

I'd say its all about ego

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Abuse in messages is nothing new by each gender and will unfortunately continue in some cases. I haven’t experienced it thank goodness.

Judging by the way people communicate on here though it isn’t surprising to me that things get heated. Low tolerance levels

More tea and cake required

Now you mention it I could do with both

Swing has cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

" frustration plays a key role?"

Are you saying that some women get called fat, ugly whores because men are frustrated?

Can you elaborate please?"
I don't have to elaborate I've already said abuse is not to be tolerated my comments were aimed at the generalisation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

" frustration plays a key role?"

Are you saying that some women get called fat, ugly whores because men are frustrated?

Can you elaborate please?I don't have to elaborate I've already said abuse is not to be tolerated my comments were aimed at the generalisation

You also said that abuse is borne out of frustration

Hmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

" frustration plays a key role?"

Are you saying that some women get called fat, ugly whores because men are frustrated?

Can you elaborate please?I don't have to elaborate I've already said abuse is not to be tolerated my comments were aimed at the generalisation

You also said that abuse is borne out of frustration

Hmmm"
Well some is wouldn't you agree?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

" frustration plays a key role?"

Are you saying that some women get called fat, ugly whores because men are frustrated?

Can you elaborate please?I don't have to elaborate I've already said abuse is not to be tolerated my comments were aimed at the generalisation

You also said that abuse is borne out of frustration

HmmmWell some is wouldn't you agree? "

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection is never nice.

Some can't handle it.

Need to hurt the person who rejected them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rejection is never nice.

Some can't handle it.

Need to hurt the person who rejected them."

No it's not nice and people do lash out but they should at least understand it's an adult site so they should take it and be more adult about it. Trying to get revenge or hurt the rejecting person is for 5 year olds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't men handle rejection in here?

If I am not interested why do I need to ensure your anger?

Why do I need a random accusation of being a sex worker because I don't want to have sex with you?

Works both ways. Women can be dicks too

So make your own post. Don't come here and derail mine.

Interesting you view calling out bad behaviour as criticism. You have literally answered why men behave badly in one go without realising it. Bye fool.

Rejection doesn't bother me, if you don't like someone's response then just block them. Chances are it's just the fight or flight mentality, why do you give a shit if you don't want to meet them

It’s not about giving a shit.

It’s another addressing bad behaviour and abuse on here or do you agree with people being fat shamed, racially abused, threatened and the rest just for politely saying no?

You don’t need to say it, the fact you have more of an issue with Lulu’s post talking about men rather than the abuse she has got speaks volumes.

Why would it have been a better question?

This is her experience not everyone else’s, she shouldn’t have to amend her post to suit the easily offended and the fragile in here.

She’s not singling anyone out, she’s talking about her experiences and the abuse she has received.

I can only assume that it’s because his post has hit a raw nerve.

I don't think either of you are capable of understanding the concept of a forum today

I understand perfectly well thank you.

What I don’t understand is why the easily offended and fragile use forums, a place full of opposing opinions. Not for the faint hearted.

That's incredibly ironic"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rejection is never nice.

Some can't handle it.

Need to hurt the person who rejected them.

So true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rejection is never nice.

Some can't handle it.

Need to hurt the person who rejected them.

Agree. I think maybe that's why any abuse doesn't bother me. I'm relieved I won't be meeting someone like that- I see it as a positive thing. They don't know me so anything they say to try and hurt me is ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of curiosity, approximately what percentage of men reply with abuse when you reject them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just out of curiosity, approximately what percentage of men reply with abuse when you reject them?"
1.4 %

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Abuse is the insecure persons defence mechanism. Its pathetic and says way more about them than you. Be glad you did reject them. Just say thanks for confirming my decision to not want to meet you as the correct one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Abuse is the insecure persons defence mechanism. Its pathetic and says way more about them than you. Be glad you did reject them. Just say thanks for confirming my decision to not want to meet you as the correct one

This!

Exactly my response and then a block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This!

Exactly my response and then a block! "

Or, oh dear, you seem to have spat your dummy out, may I suggest you try the ceebeebies site, this is for adults, not winy little boys but don't worry, I'm sure an adult will be along shortly to assist you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suck it up buttercup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This!

Exactly my response and then a block!

Hahaha love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find blocking is really useful if you block enough it eradicates the need to reply, it acts as a filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just out of curiosity, approximately what percentage of men reply with abuse when you reject them?

1.4 %

Well at least you answered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just out of curiosity, approximately what percentage of men reply with abuse when you reject them?

1.4 %

Well at least you answered

"
Ha hey I'm pretty sure that's theirs at least two people that would have more accurate statistical analysis than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is an interesting study in how the OP takes rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Abuse in messages is nothing new by each gender and will unfortunately continue in some cases. I haven’t experienced it thank goodness.

Judging by the way people communicate on here though it isn’t surprising to me that things get heated. Low tolerance levels

Agreed. Some of the responses on this thread could be deemed rude and/or quite aggressive

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over a year ago

Abuse in messages is nothing new by each gender and will unfortunately continue in some cases. I haven’t experienced it thank goodness.

Judging by the way people communicate on here though it isn’t surprising to me that things get heated. Low tolerance levels

Agreed. Some of the responses on this thread could be deemed rude and/or quite aggressive

"
by George I think you're right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Abuse in messages is nothing new by each gender and will unfortunately continue in some cases. I haven’t experienced it thank goodness.

Judging by the way people communicate on here though it isn’t surprising to me that things get heated. Low tolerance levels

Agreed. Some of the responses on this thread could be deemed rude and/or quite aggressive

by George I think you're right "

It wouldn't be the first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Abuse in messages is nothing new by each gender and will unfortunately continue in some cases. I haven’t experienced it thank goodness.

Judging by the way people communicate on here though it isn’t surprising to me that things get heated. Low tolerance levels

Agreed. Some of the responses on this thread could be deemed rude and/or quite aggressive

by George I think you're right

It wouldn't be the first time

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I believe you it seems I'm only occasionally right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This thread is an interesting study in how the OP takes rejection

Really? How so? I don't resort to taunts.

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By *ast_And_CuriousMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I just tut and move on to the next one. When 99% of women (on Fab) reject you you get used to it pretty quickly haha.

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over a year ago

"I just tut and move on to the next one. When 99% of women (on Fab) reject you you get used to it pretty quickly haha. "

The right persons stars will align with you

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over a year ago

"I just tut and move on to the next one. When 99% of women (on Fab) reject you you get used to it pretty quickly haha. "
Hey its the only way my friend it will happen a lot more

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

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over a year ago

"I just tut and move on to the next one. When 99% of women (on Fab) reject you you get used to it pretty quickly haha. "
Hey its the only way my friend it will happen a lot more

And patients is the quay

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