FabSwingers.com forum: Stalker alert!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so I’ve got a bit of a stalker, he’s contacted me on a dating platform commenting on me being on here, no big deal as I sometimes have face pics on here and can easily be recognised and it wouldn’t bother me if I was. It was more the way he knew where I lived and the questions he was asking that has made me come to the conclusion that it’s someone I know.

I was bitten a good few years ago by a catfish profile that in turn ended up to be my ex (kids dad) it was very surreal in hindsight I should of realised but it wasn’t until I spotted something on a picture that everything fell into place. I felt totally violated and was actually physically sick!

Anyway back to my question, aside from blocking (as I’ve done ) but I’m assuming this person is someone I know and may have my number as I’ve had a few no caller ID phone calls lately , what else can I do if this escalates? Or has anyone any similar situations?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call the Police. They take stalking very seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got a problem with my ex keeps making profiles on here, I’ve been advised to keep a diary of what happens and any messages, then go to the police. I hope whoever it is just stops and leaves you alone, hopefully the block will work x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Contact the police and keep a record of any correspondence. Hope you get it resolved OP xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consider talking to the police, stalking is a criminal offence and at last taken seriously

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I will do, the more I think about it there’s been a few instances which has made me think something isn’t right lately. I’ll start making note of things

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

". It was more the way he knew where I lived and the questions he was asking that has made me come to the conclusion that it’s someone I know.

Sorry to hear this.

Someone you know, or a complete stranger?

You can block profiles. They make a new one and then you spot the similarities.

I'd be on my toes for a while, watching out for anything odd, online or in life, that doesn't seem to add up.

Chances are it is a harmless geek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve got a problem with my ex keeps making profiles on here, I’ve been advised to keep a diary of what happens and any messages, then go to the police. I hope whoever it is just stops and leaves you alone, hopefully the block will work x "

This always for men and women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep photos of everything, screenshot on your phone and put in a folder in case you need to print it off at a later date.

And i mean everything (that raises your suspicions).

Emails, instant messages, texts, missed call logs. Everything.

That way they can cross reference if they have to and you have shitloads of evidence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Keep photos of everything, screenshot on your phone and put in a folder in case you need to print it off at a later date.

And i mean everything (that raises your suspicions).

Emails, instant messages, texts, missed call logs. Everything.

That way they can cross reference if they have to and you have shitloads of evidence.

I’ve started to do this in my notes,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

". It was more the way he knew where I lived and the questions he was asking that has made me come to the conclusion that it’s someone I know.

Sorry to hear this.

Someone you know, or a complete stranger?

You can block profiles. They make a new one and then you spot the similarities.

I'd be on my toes for a while, watching out for anything odd, online or in life, that doesn't seem to add up.

Chances are it is a harmless geek"

I get the feeling it’s someone I know but haven’t met , but I’ve had a few instances over the past few months where a certain person keeps coming back with different profiles different numbers texting randomly but I’ve called them out. I’ve threatened with police a few months ago and they backed off , yet slowly happening again. Maybe I’m paranoid but my gut is hackled.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Apart from the advice already given. Set your message filters so you cant be contacted by new profiles, profiles with no verifications and no photos. Change your user name and consider changing your location. This will make you more difficult to contact if the person makes new profiles.

If you think they're gleaning information about you from fab delete your profile and set up a new one with the above in place.

Hope you get it sorted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Apart from the advice already given. Set your message filters so you cant be contacted by new profiles, profiles with no verifications and no photos. Change your user name and consider changing your location. This will make you more difficult to contact if the person makes new profiles.

If you think they're gleaning information about you from fab delete your profile and set up a new one with the above in place.

Hope you get it sorted."

Thank you. I’ve akready made my location more ambiguous, I can’t see the point in anything else as this person knows who I am and contacted me on another site. Would a change of user name make me vanish off their hotlist ? Or would I just show as different name?

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Paladin is a national stalking charity. They can advise and help.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If you think they're gleaning information about you from fab delete your profile and set up a new one with the above in place.

Hope you get it sorted.

You'd just show under a new name I think.

I can see why you don't think there's much point though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you think they're gleaning information about you from fab delete your profile and set up a new one with the above in place.

Hope you get it sorted.

You'd just show under a new name I think.

I can see why you don't think there's much point though.

I don’t mean that in a lazy way, I was just wandering if there’s any point changing user name as this person obviously has me hotlisted. I’ve changed the rest of my settings though

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By *irk Diggler 02Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Make sure you contact the police L and as everyone else has mentioned keep a record of every situation!! Changing your name on here won’t take them off their Hotlist but you can create a new profile and narrow down who can contact you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Make sure you contact the police L and as everyone else has mentioned keep a record of every situation!! Changing your name on here won’t take them off their Hotlist but you can create a new profile and narrow down who can contact you! "

I won’t change my username as yet as I find it useless, but I will swap to new profile if it comes to it. If set all my filters tight so fingers crossed it’s just a chancer x

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