FabSwingers.com forum: Some people can’t handle a no

By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

So I had the male half of a couple message me this morning & I responded politely with a no thanks, well he didn’t seem to handle rejection very well as he accused me of being on benefits and being a single mum.

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Sounds like a proper charmer.

One with a big chip on their shoulder about something.

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Oh definitely, I explained that I have an age limit of people I will meet and he was just generally rude and insolent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I had the male half of a couple message me this morning & I responded politely with a no thanks, well he didn’t seem to handle rejection very well as he accused me of being on benefits and being a single mum.

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

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I don't think I could handle a yes ha

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

How can someone be 'accused' of being a single mum ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hold on, you mean being abusive and rude DOESN'T immediately make a woman instantly wet and want to get into your pants asap? *Takes more t*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there the guy is obviously a douch bag

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Hold on, you mean being abusive and rude DOESN'T immediately make a woman instantly wet and want to get into your pants asap? *Takes more t*

Haha I know right???

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why oh why haven't you dropped everything to meet this delightful man...what a f*****g dickhead.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

Hope you blocked the unsavoury character?

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

The world is full of prannocks!

I've not used that word in a while

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

Hope you blocked the unsavoury character? "

Oh I have don’t worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And there’s people wondering why it’s easier to delete instead of replying...

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"And there’s people wondering why it’s easier to delete instead of replying..."

It was because I hadn’t replied to previous messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

Block and move on. Fuck 'em ... But not literally

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

Block and move on. Fuck 'em ... But not literally

Already have done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

I don't think I could handle a yes ha"

He read the profile well

clearly states you're in an open marriage ... How do you get single mum from that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there’s people wondering why it’s easier to delete instead of replying...

It was because I hadn’t replied to previous messages"

In that scenario I would either not reply or reply and block, as there’s a good chance of retaliation, as you’ve discovered.

On the sites FAQ’s - no reply = no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get some people. No is better than no reply. I've been told no a few times, no need to act like child really. Well I'm sure you'll find better guys in here op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow with his charm I'm surprised your not meeting up

what a catch he must be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get a lot of abuse when I said no as a single fem. I once had a new profile message me telling me I’m a horrible mother and role model because I was on fab. I assume it was someone who knew I have kiddies (it was never on my profile) and I’d said no in the past.

L x

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By *un Mike 2019Man
over a year ago

Bristol

My gf had this recently where a guy didn’t get the want for a social first. He expected her to drop everything and just head round for a fuck. She tried to explain that it’s not like that for either of us and he just starts getting shitty.

I think some guys sign up with expectations of an easy lay only to find out that you still need to be respectful and tactful as well. Imagine the horror at women wanting to have standards... whatever does the world come to??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never needed to

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

The problem is you responded politely, you should have obviously just said "fuck off"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

I don't think I could handle a yes ha

He read the profile well

clearly states you're in an open marriage ... How do you get single mum from that?

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It's all about the pics...... Men can't read you know this

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

The problem is there are little boys on this site trying to act like men....and vice versa. Just like little kids they hate being told no and throw their toys out the pram!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

I don't think I could handle a yes ha

He read the profile well

clearly states you're in an open marriage ... How do you get single mum from that?

It's all about the pics...... Men can't read you know this

He read that she had kids tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

I don't think I could handle a yes ha

He read the profile well

clearly states you're in an open marriage ... How do you get single mum from that?

It's all about the pics...... Men can't read you know this

He read that she had kids tho

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Well its like people reading Spanish they always recognise one word amongst the pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

I don't think I could handle a yes ha

He read the profile well

clearly states you're in an open marriage ... How do you get single mum from that?

And even if she was a single mum is this now classed as being something to be embarrassed about? Since when has being a single mum something to insult someone about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some ppl even send friend request without talking first can you believe that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some ppl even send friend request without talking first can you believe that

I had that cheeky buggers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a tool those sort of folk are not needed in this world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy message me last week to say "I'm in Chichester tomorrow".

I couldn't resist being flippant and sent back to him "Along with hundreds of others - enjoy your visit".

I have never spoken to him before and he lived nearly 100 miles away from me.

He obviously didn't have a sense of humour because later he sent me an absolutely foul message telling me I was a complete time waster, spoiling it for everyone on Fab and that I should f***k off from the site as I wasn't wanted.

There are some real head cases on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete and move on. When you have been here over a year, these sort of messages should just hit the bin and be ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just delete and move on. When you have been here over a year, these sort of messages should just hit the bin and be ignored. "
dana say yes

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By *verageguy123Man
over a year ago

Selby

You should have told him to message back on Friday as it’s giro day so you’d be able to get a bottle of Lambrini and all 12 fathers were picking their kids up

I always thought that a polite no thank you means you’re not what I’m looking for or I’m not interested in meeting at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the hell with wrong with some of the idiotic blokes on here. Obviously being rude to you OP is going to make you change your mind and want to jump his bones!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please all refer to my thread called ‘ All men are dicks’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t realise that I’m not allowed to be fussy because I won’t sleep my way through fab. According to him it’s a “sex site” and I should practically give it away.

All mums are technically on benefits unless you earn +80k. It's called Child Benefit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just delete and move on. When you have been here over a year, these sort of messages should just hit the bin and be ignored. "

I've been here on and off for about 3 years and I have noticed far more rudeness over the last year. And the guy who messaged me had already blocked me so I couldn't retaliate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just delete and move on. When you have been here over a year, these sort of messages should just hit the bin and be ignored. "

Why not start a thread about it and post a status and email the Daily Mail and the Sun

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By *verageguy123Man
over a year ago

Selby

All mums are technically on benefits unless you earn +80k. It's called Child Benefit

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As I get child benefit as a single parent does that make me a woman trapped inside a mans body? Can I claim a benefit if I am? I’m confused now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just delete and move on. When you have been here over a year, these sort of messages should just hit the bin and be ignored.

I've been here on and off for about 3 years and I have noticed far more rudeness over the last year. And the guy who messaged me had already blocked me so I couldn't retaliate

Why would you want to waste energy on retaliation? Just delete/counter block and concentrate on the positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just delete and move on. When you have been here over a year, these sort of messages should just hit the bin and be ignored.

Why not start a thread about it and post a status and email the Daily Mail and the Sun

WTF are you on about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just delete and move on. When you have been here over a year, these sort of messages should just hit the bin and be ignored.

Why not start a thread about it and post a status and email the Daily Mail and the Sun

WTF are you on about? "

“That sort of messages”

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