FabSwingers.com forum: Bare back bi guys on here and fabguys

By *ogerit OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

There are 4 guys on this site in bristol fucking everything that moves everyday bareback.also on fabguys same 4 are doing same.so say on prep which stops hiv.but does not stop stds.all 4 have at some point disappeared for 2 weeks at a time and i assume have caught something because they say im not meeting for 2 weeks but not going away.

They have desolated bristol for anyone else as they have fucked nearly every bottom bi or gay guy in bristol.

These are mature guys who should have more sense not young bucks trying to get laid.

Ruined this fantastic site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyday? Dont they work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if people are stupid enough to have sex with strangers without protection !!!

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"There are 4 guys on this site in bristol fucking everything that moves everyday bareback.also on fabguys same 4 are doing same.so say on prep which stops hiv.but does not stop stds.all 4 have at some point disappeared for 2 weeks at a time and i assume have caught something because they say im not meeting for 2 weeks but not going away.

They have desolated bristol for anyone else as they have fucked nearly every bottom bi or gay guy in bristol.

These are mature guys who should have more sense not young bucks trying to get laid.

Ruined this fantastic site"

So you’re saying every gay guy in Bristol goes bareback??

Sweeping statement much ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why has it ruined it for anyone?? Why can't you meet the lady you mention on your profile status?? (She may have insisted on protection)

Just use protection yourself, drama over!

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By *ikerdaveMan
over a year ago

redcar

If your using protection what's your problem? Lots of assumptions being made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your using protection what's your problem? Lots of assumptions being made"

Exactly

(Can't pm you I'm too young, what are you shaving chest, balls ?)

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Well if people are stupid enough to have sex with strangers without protection !!!

I agree , but the problem is that oral is rarely protected , and there are a plethora of stds that can still be passed on even with the use of a condom .

One of the greatest criticisms of gay and bi guys over the years has been their devil may care attitude to sex . Look at Cottaging and dogging which are almost exclusively their domain now . We have seen their ways , and it’s scary . Waiting outside a toilet block and going inside with every guy that goes in , often bareback .

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Well if people are stupid enough to have sex with strangers without protection !!!

I agree , but the problem is that oral is rarely protected , and there are a plethora of stds that can still be passed on even with the use of a condom .

I have seen exactly what you are describing there, I used to go cottaging , but not for about 15 years now, and bareback was rife then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ye we have the same in ireland

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By *ogerit OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

Exactly obviously they got a problem wanting to meet someone different every day.its like a competition to them to see who can fuck more than the other one.

And they are all over 50 one is 64.

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By *ogerit OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

No she never used protection.

So even oral is risky after the guy has bare backed over 245 people in a year

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By *ogerit OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

No one weras protection for oral.this guy has had over 245 bareback meets in a year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have desolated bristol for anyone else as they have fucked nearly every bottom bi or gay guy in bristol.

These are mature guys who should have more sense not young bucks trying to get laid.

Ruined this fantastic site"

How on earth have they ruined the site? There will be loads more people doing the same that aren't on here. If you think fucking strangers is ever 'safe', you are naïve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t worry about what other people are doing personally. You know that using protection is the right thing to do. If others don’t want to, let them make those risks. They’re only hurting themselves at the end of the day, and the people that they’re fucking are just as bad.

It’s a great filter tho!!

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Exactly obviously they got a problem wanting to meet someone different every day.its like a competition to them to see who can fuck more than the other one.

And they are all over 50 one is 64.

If you use the 'reply + quote' button we will know which post you are replying to.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"If you use the 'reply + quote' button we will know which post you are replying to.

I wanna shag you Missus

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

They have desolated bristol for anyone else as they have fucked nearly every bottom bi or gay guy in bristol.

These are mature guys who should have more sense not young bucks trying to get laid.

Ruined this fantastic site

How on earth have they ruined the site? There will be loads more people doing the same that aren't on here. If you think fucking strangers is ever 'safe', you are naïve."

If he’s fucked 245 bare back in a year , and each of those he’s fucked has been with only 10% as many as he has , that’s 25 x 245 which is 6,125 people who are associated with this one guy .

You and I both know there’s no such thing as safe sex , but there’s safer sex .

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

That thread title is a bit of a tongue twister!

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

"That thread title is a bit of a tongue twister! "

Which is a risk all of its own.

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By *ogerit OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

Dont be a dick i said 4 of them

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By *ogerit OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

I know.

There are another 3 as well done nearly same amount.a lot of them same as he has seen.but doesn't leave a lot of choice for the rest of us does it.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Dont be a dick i said 4 of them"

The irony of the avatar..

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Dont be a dick i said 4 of them

The irony of the avatar.."

Spunky penises equate to bareback then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a grip op

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I don't get your problem? Do you play bareback?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I don't get your problem? Do you play bareback? "

I play Backgammon if that's any good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"I don't get your problem? Do you play bareback?

I play Backgammon if that's any good?

I've always wanted to learn Backgammon... I've recently mastered Chinese Chequers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get your problem? Do you play bareback?

I play Backgammon if that's any good?

Lol guy above has creased me ^ haha

Chill out chuck a rubber on it or a wellie

As the old man always said

“ if your with a scrubber, wear a rubber”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for this public announcement.....

But if you play safe..... why do you care what others do?

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

If you've posted this as a public service announcement, worth remembering that only a teeny tiny fraction of this site use the forums.

If you're genuinely concerned, speak to your local LGBT center or sexual health clinic

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Thank you for this public announcement.....

But if you play safe..... why do you care what others do?"

Because the only safe sex is no sex, there is always a risk, so the safety of your partners is important.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

I live in Bristol, I am on both fab sites, I have no idea who you are talking about and I'm having the time of my life with some lovely men from all over the city.

I'm sorry to hear of your bad experience. But it doesn't make Bristol a bad place nor does it ruin either site. Both are working very well for me at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they caught something from someone else, there must be more than the Bristol Four.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just guy and bi guys so many ladies and couples too, it would Seam they don't care who they go with and what they catch. I intend to stay clean and healthy.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Op there is this very special thing called choice, you may or may not have heard of it so I’ll explain it for you.

Some people choose to have bareback sex.......that’s ok, it’s their choice.

Some people choose to have safer sex.......that’s ok, it’s their choice.

Some people choose to have no sex at all.......that’s also ok, it’s their choice.

The great thing about choice is that it’s up to you. No one is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to do anything.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

"It's not just guy and bi guys so many ladies and couples too, it would Seam they don't care who they go with and what they catch. I intend to stay clean and healthy."

Surely that's all anyone ever can do - look after your own health and let others worry about theirs. It's what I do.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"I know.

There are another 3 as well done nearly same amount.a lot of them same as he has seen.but doesn't leave a lot of choice for the rest of us does it.

So you guys have sex with guys that have bareback sex, which according to the op post is just about every guy in Bristol. So they've done you a favour then really haven't they if you are that worried about your health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know.

There are another 3 as well done nearly same amount.a lot of them same as he has seen.but doesn't leave a lot of choice for the rest of us does it.

I think the Op just wants to rant....

When reading this thread it reminded me of a joke.....

What’s the difference between a whore and a bitch?

A whore will fuck everyone .... but a bitch will fuck everyone but you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well if people are stupid enough to have sex with strangers without protection !!!

I agree , but the problem is that oral is rarely protected , and there are a plethora of stds that can still be passed on even with the use of a condom .

It’s their right to do and to play as they see fit . It’s our right to choose not to engage with them . The problem is when you just don’t know who they are and what and who’ve they’ve been with . It’s a risky game this swinging malarkey ! ."
there does a lot who do that, and a lot of straight guys who do it has well,I for one have never done it and never will, it disgusting and seedy

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"I know.

There are another 3 as well done nearly same amount.a lot of them same as he has seen.but doesn't leave a lot of choice for the rest of us does it.

I think the Op just wants to rant....

When reading this thread it reminded me of a joke.....

What’s the difference between a whore and a bitch?

A whore will fuck everyone .... but a bitch will fuck everyone but you...."

I think you've got that spot on, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they caught something from someone else, there must be more than the Bristol Four."

The Bristol Four.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I love all the obtuse comments. The OP may not articulate himself well, but his point is perfectly valid. Condoms are not the glass slipper of swinging, one third of you will experience a condom break and then you're down to barebacking. Some people are so desperate to be woke libertarians that they subvert their common fucking sense. Going around spreading disease is wrong, get a grip.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I bet their cocks look like a lion bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I bet their cocks look like a lion bar

Ahhh I used to love a lion bar

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By *utmegsMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"I love all the obtuse comments. The OP may not articulate himself well, but his point is perfectly valid. Condoms are not the glass slipper of swinging, one third of you will experience a condom break and then you're down to barebacking. Some people are so desperate to be woke libertarians that they subvert their common fucking sense. Going around spreading disease is wrong, get a grip. "

Spot on.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Exactly this

The ignorance is deafening on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to drag up a new thread, but I didn’t think it was worth me creating my own.

I agree with the sentiments shared by the OP.

I just joined and quit fabguys within 24hrs. The site is an absolute cesspit. It’s easily the most depraved website I’ve ever been on. I’ve been offered bareback sex endless times, someone wanted to talk to me about sex between family members, there’s tons of photo’s of people that clearly have STI’s (you can visibly see the infections), and there’s a lot of odd people - I would say 98% of them are strange people. It’s disgusting. Fab needs to do something to clean it up and promote safe sex and normal behaviour.

Also, they need to find a way to tie the sexual preferences and verifications between profiles that are on both sites (fabswingers and fabguys). I’m shocked at how many people say they’re straight on here, but are bi on fab guys with 50+ verifications from men. Same with men that claim they’re bi on here, but say they’re are gay on fabguys. I reckon a lot of women would be shocked if they joined that site.

Since users intermingle between the two sites (and two demographics) its important the fab team clean up that guys site or shut it down to prevent the spread of STI’s. Seriously.

Sorry to rant, but that site really knocked me sick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to drag up a new thread, but I didn’t think it was worth me creating my own.

I agree with the sentiments shared by the OP.

Since users intermingle between the two sites (and two demographics) its important the fab team clean up that guys site or shut it down to prevent the spread of STI’s. Seriously.

Sorry to rant, but that site really knocked me sick."

Why on earth is it fabs job?! People need to take responsibility for themselves, and their own health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to drag up a new thread, but I didn’t think it was worth me creating my own.

I agree with the sentiments shared by the OP.

Since users intermingle between the two sites (and two demographics) its important the fab team clean up that guys site or shut it down to prevent the spread of STI’s. Seriously.

Sorry to rant, but that site really knocked me sick.

Why on earth is it fabs job?! People need to take responsibility for themselves, and their own health. "

And fab can make that easier by sharing data, profiles and verifications between the two sites.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Sorry to drag up a new thread, but I didn’t think it was worth me creating my own.

I agree with the sentiments shared by the OP.

Since users intermingle between the two sites (and two demographics) its important the fab team clean up that guys site or shut it down to prevent the spread of STI’s. Seriously.

Sorry to rant, but that site really knocked me sick.

Why on earth is it fabs job?! People need to take responsibility for themselves, and their own health.

And fab can make that easier by sharing data, profiles and verifications between the two sites."

How would that work?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

“Desolated Bristol”?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab Guys is rank, I gave it couple of goes but had to leave. It was very sleazy, full of kink and oddballs and full of the worse types of gay and bi stereotypes you can get. I think gay and bi men or just the curious who are new to it all would get very bad impressions and wrong impressions of gay and bi men from that site.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I have profiles on both sites. I don't bareback. The ones on fabguys who bareback are incredible in number but then they are honest about it.

I know that some people are playing the detective and comparing profiles etc. That's no different to vetting profiles on here but to rant and rave about it seems a little too enthusiastic for me. Sex is a risky business but at least the stated barebackers are honest. The biggest dishonesty are people who state they play safe to fool safer players.

At the end of the day it's a game of chance...

Bristol Backgammon...

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Fab Guys is rank, I gave it couple of goes but had to leave. It was very sleazy, full of kink and oddballs and full of the worse types of gay and bi stereotypes you can get. I think gay and bi men or just the curious who are new to it all would get very bad impressions and wrong impressions of gay and bi men from that site. "

Full of the worst type of gay and bi stereotypes... Please elaborate..

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Sorry to drag up a new thread, but I didn’t think it was worth me creating my own.

I agree with the sentiments shared by the OP.

Since users intermingle between the two sites (and two demographics) its important the fab team clean up that guys site or shut it down to prevent the spread of STI’s. Seriously.

Sorry to rant, but that site really knocked me sick.

Why on earth is it fabs job?! People need to take responsibility for themselves, and their own health.

And fab can make that easier by sharing data, profiles and verifications between the two sites."

Totally disagree, we are responsible for our own health, shutting down fabguys wouldn't stop the spread of sti's, people would still have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to drag up a new thread, but I didn’t think it was worth me creating my own.

I agree with the sentiments shared by the OP.

Since users intermingle between the two sites (and two demographics) its important the fab team clean up that guys site or shut it down to prevent the spread of STI’s. Seriously.

Sorry to rant, but that site really knocked me sick."

So you didnt know that guys on here lie?

And alot on here, claiming to be straight, also have a profile on there?

And you were offered bareback, amongst other things?

Welcome to the world of an average woman on Fab. We have to put up with that shit every day, my love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to drag up a new thread, but I didn’t think it was worth me creating my own.

I agree with the sentiments shared by the OP.

Since users intermingle between the two sites (and two demographics) its important the fab team clean up that guys site or shut it down to prevent the spread of STI’s. Seriously.

Sorry to rant, but that site really knocked me sick.

So you didnt know that guys on here lie?

And alot on here, claiming to be straight, also have a profile on there?

And you were offered bareback, amongst other things?

Welcome to the world of an average woman on Fab. We have to put up with that shit every day, my love"

I get those things every day on here too. But Trust me, this other site is a whole different level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to drag up a new thread, but I didn’t think it was worth me creating my own.

I agree with the sentiments shared by the OP.

Since users intermingle between the two sites (and two demographics) its important the fab team clean up that guys site or shut it down to prevent the spread of STI’s. Seriously.

Sorry to rant, but that site really knocked me sick.

So you didnt know that guys on here lie?

And alot on here, claiming to be straight, also have a profile on there?

And you were offered bareback, amongst other things?

Welcome to the world of an average woman on Fab. We have to put up with that shit every day, my love

I get those things every day on here too. But Trust me, this other site is a whole different level."

I somehow doubt that

Most of the guys on there are also on here.

Alot of forum users claiming to be straight, with Fab guys profiles

I find it quite funny

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Sorry to drag up a new thread, but I didn’t think it was worth me creating my own.

I agree with the sentiments shared by the OP.

Since users intermingle between the two sites (and two demographics) its important the fab team clean up that guys site or shut it down to prevent the spread of STI’s. Seriously.

Sorry to rant, but that site really knocked me sick.

So you didnt know that guys on here lie?

And alot on here, claiming to be straight, also have a profile on there?

And you were offered bareback, amongst other things?

Welcome to the world of an average woman on Fab. We have to put up with that shit every day, my love

I get those things every day on here too. But Trust me, this other site is a whole different level.

I somehow doubt that

Most of the guys on there are also on here.

Alot of forum users claiming to be straight, with Fab guys profiles

I find it quite funny"

I love how it's suddenly an issue when a man has to put up with it but we get called stuck up, or up our own arses if we object to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to drag up a new thread, but I didn’t think it was worth me creating my own.

I agree with the sentiments shared by the OP.

Since users intermingle between the two sites (and two demographics) its important the fab team clean up that guys site or shut it down to prevent the spread of STI’s. Seriously.

Sorry to rant, but that site really knocked me sick.

So you didnt know that guys on here lie?

And alot on here, claiming to be straight, also have a profile on there?

And you were offered bareback, amongst other things?

Welcome to the world of an average woman on Fab. We have to put up with that shit every day, my love

I get those things every day on here too. But Trust me, this other site is a whole different level.

I somehow doubt that

Most of the guys on there are also on here.

Alot of forum users claiming to be straight, with Fab guys profiles

I find it quite funny

I love how it's suddenly an issue when a man has to put up with it but we get called stuck up, or up our own arses if we object to it."

Yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You two clearly have some kind of issues to do with gender and whatever. I have no idea how this turned to a man vs woman thing.

However, I am fully aware (as much as I can be, without being a woman) of the things women face. BUT you’re totally skewing the argument and missing the point.

That site if full of obvious STI’s which can visibly see (most of these people have dozens of verifications too), and illegal activity such as the family thing I mentioned above - and it’s waaaay worse than it is on this site. Shockingly so. This isn’t about man vs woman. It’s about shutting that shithole down or managing it better. It’s about trying to prevent the spread of STD’s from these sleazy guys to women (and men) on this site. And it’s about using the tools at their disposal to enable people to be aware of who they’re dealing with.

Though of course, feel free to turn this into a gender argument for no reason.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"You two clearly have some kind of issues to do with gender and whatever. I have no idea how this turned to a man vs woman thing.

However, I am fully aware (as much as I can be, without being a woman) of the things women face. BUT you’re totally skewing the argument and missing the point.

Though of course, feel free to turn this into a gender argument for no reason. "

With all due respect, I have no idea how bad fabguys is, but you have no idea the type of messages women receive on here either so how can you say it's way worse? The things you've mentioned, bareback, family scenarios, various illegal activities, I've been offered here on fab many many times.

If we all take personal responsibility for our own safety surely that's the best approach? If someone is displaying visible signs of an std, well wouldn't you just avoid that person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You two clearly have some kind of issues to do with gender and whatever. I have no idea how this turned to a man vs woman thing.

However, I am fully aware (as much as I can be, without being a woman) of the things women face. BUT you’re totally skewing the argument and missing the point.

Though of course, feel free to turn this into a gender argument for no reason.

If we all take personal responsibility for our own safety surely that's the best approach? If someone is displaying visible signs of an std, well wouldn't you just avoid that person? "

Yup

Ive been offered all that

And worse

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I've been on fab guys for years and fab swingers for a couple. I like being on both sites.

I actually think the men on fab guys are more polite and respectful than the straight guys on here.

I look after myself with regards to who I have sex with and how. And I have quite a bit of sex from both sites and I'm STI free.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"You two clearly have some kind of issues to do with gender and whatever. I have no idea how this turned to a man vs woman thing.

However, I am fully aware (as much as I can be, without being a woman) of the things women face. BUT you’re totally skewing the argument and missing the point.

Though of course, feel free to turn this into a gender argument for no reason. "

The illegal comments, bareback etc, we get that here too. Some of the messages I've had are obscene.

The point I'm trying to make is that we do put up with it here, just because you don't see it, it doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

Fab have no responsibility to stop the spread of sti's, that's for us to take responsibility for as individuals.

I'm making a point about the man/woman thing because we have been putting up with that nonsense for years, we just deal with it then get abused for not replying to messages or being stuck up.

You need to get a thicker skin and realise that your sexual health is YOUR responsibility, not the site owners.