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By *nglishgent0069 OP   Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Do veris actually influence you in any way?

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Don't know about influence as I prefer to make my own mind up about people, but I do enjoy reading them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I always look through veris before agreeing to a meet. For example if all his veris are of people nothing like me then I would think actually why would he be interested in me or if he has been with people that don't do safe sex etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been told more than two can help with with your chances but it's mostly your profile I have seen people say get verified by cam hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do veris actually influence you in any way? "

Yes. We look as much at the verifications our targets have left as those that have been left for them. It tells us a lot about how they see relationships and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then can help get an idea but you have to remember they are subjective. Always better to draw your own conclusions and not to be too influenced by others. There pleasures could be your turn offs!

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I always take time to read veri’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish it didn’t, Ive had two men keen to meet me and they’ve always met beautiful, blonde slim women...which I’m not lol. Makes me feel like I’m not worth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. If someone's previous meets have all been slim, petite and big boobed then I'd instantly question why they were interested in me.

I also look for how they like to play. If the way they play is different to mine, then we obviously aren't going to be compatible so saves wasting everyone's time.

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By *nglishgent0069 OP   Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'm asking as I've recently been told that there is a secret code that some us to warn others. Lol

No idea what the code is though so don't ask. And for the record I think that most one here have a type but it's not set in stone. So ladies if a man seems interested in you he probably is. X

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Do veris actually influence you in any way? "

Course it does. If i see someone that i wouldn't play with in their verifications,for whatever reasons then it could put me off meeting them. But Some times I won't look at them in case that happens ha. Especially if i really fancy them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. They do.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Its a yes from me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a good read... no one is gonna post a bad one now are they...

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

For me they help paint a picture but they aren’t the be all and end all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them, I'm not a fan of overly graphic ones

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By *ammskiMan
over a year ago

lytham st.annes


"Its a yes from me..."
. It’s a yes from me too,helps paint a picture of what they like

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I like to see that someone has them and I do also read the veris they write too. I don’t like overly graphic. I think they help build a pic of someone.

Just because someone chooses not to show them is not a bad thing though. I wouldn’t want to show something overly graphic.

Also people who have left the site - any veris they’ve left will have disappeared off someone’s account too

So it’s not the be all and end all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somewhat.

Following that good old veri trail, if someone I was talking to left an overly graphic one for a previous meet then I know they're not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do veris actually influence you in any way? "

They do, but the relevance to us is who the verification is from.

If it’s someone we’re genuinely interested in and they have a verification from someone we’ve met at a social it gives us the confidence to trust they are who they say they are.

As people often say here, the verification trail is very important.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Always a good read... no one is gonna post a bad one now are they... "

I don’t think I’ve ever received a bad one to be honest lol

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I read them, I'm not a fan of overly graphic ones"

We'll remember that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always like to check them out.....but not a deal breaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have influenced my decision, yes. If someone is overly graphic, it definitely puts me off considering meeting them.

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

100 per cent , they are other ppls input into you if your genuine clean and safe and most importantly not a nut job by not having any or choosing to hide them ppl don’t know they I know it’s can be difficult for non verified ppl to initially get verified , but as this thread will probably show there are ppl willing to meet unverified , me I would not for safety reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would meet some one if they ticked my boxes, whether they were verified or not. If they had verifications and they had a similar theme....turned up as arranged....smelt lovely....respectful....it would just be icing on the cake so to speak.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Yes .

If there are names on the veri trail that we know to be the type we wouldn’t meet , we block them . It doesn’t matter how much we may fancy them , it isn’t gonna happen .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes .

If there are names on the veri trail that we know to be the type we wouldn’t meet , we block them . It doesn’t matter how much we may fancy them , it isn’t gonna happen .

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Yeah, if they meet high risk people then it's not for me.

Life is not about removing all risk, its about keeping them acceptable. With so many men/women/trans on here, if they show they will jump in bed with the riskiest of the lot, then they are just simply not for me at all.

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By *nglishgent0069 OP   Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I would meet some one if they ticked my boxes, whether they were verified or not. If they had verifications and they had a similar theme....turned up as arranged....smelt lovely....respectful....it would just be icing on the cake so to speak."

Pity I'm the wrong age and distance.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I wish it didn’t, Ive had two men keen to meet me and they’ve always met beautiful, blonde slim women...which I’m not lol. Makes me feel like I’m not worth "

You're getting quite humorous in yer old age

*accepts slap the back of ma head

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Yeah, if they meet high risk people then it's not for me.

Life is not about removing all risk, its about keeping them acceptable. With so many men/women/trans on here, if they show they will jump in bed with the riskiest of the lot, then they are just simply not for me at all. "

How would you know they meet high risk people if it’s not mentioned? Bare back photos can be of that with an ex etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wherever possible I like to make my own mind up about the individual. Reading veris gives more of an insight in to the one that types them I find.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I only really look at veris to help me judge if I think people will be a reliable meet beyond that I take them as I find them after all one persons best meet is another persons worst, some that come off full of bravado n an over confident dick publicly could be the nicest person you could speak to n meet privately depends on each persons chemistry with another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only in a sence that its more info

Appart from that il make up my own mind about a person its the only fair thing i can do

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

They do give a little idea that they turned up, but make our own mind up about the actual experience with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would meet some one if they ticked my boxes, whether they were verified or not. If they had verifications and they had a similar theme....turned up as arranged....smelt lovely....respectful....it would just be icing on the cake so to speak.

Pity I'm the wrong age and distance. "

Oh yeah, you again, lol.

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By *nglishgent0069 OP   Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I only really look at veris to help me judge if I think people will be a reliable meet beyond that I take them as I find them after all one persons best meet is another persons worst, some that come off full of bravado n an over confident dick publicly could be the nicest person you could speak to n meet privately depends on each persons chemistry with another "

So glad you said that.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Yes they do, but I focus more on the ones they leave for others. If someone leaves another person a graphic veri, it kinda makes me think they've met purely for the sex side and that is all they've focussed on. That kind of meet isn't for me. I'm more than sex.

I also like to see variety in the veris they leave for others, as to me that says they've treated each person as an individual rather than a sex organ.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never meet anybody without a veri. People met us but we are part of the couples/single females movement. Much easier than for the single male. If not we would of gone to a club and got signed off. No effort no reward in our book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read them, I'm not a fan of overly graphic ones"

Some can be just waay too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do like to see verifications as if gives a small insight into what someone is like. It also shows whether they do actually meet for play or social.

We understand people have their reasons for hiding them, but it can make us wonder a few things if they aren't willing to show any at all.

We do also appreciate though that one mans meat is another mans poison so we only look at them as an indication, and would never base our decision whether to meet someone on verifications alone, as there are so many other factors to consider.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do not influence us..we pick on how they come across when we chat about a meet we have advertised.. we can be the opposite to no veris..too many can actually put us off..only for the reason of, we like the anticipation of meeting someone a little bit nervous..just adds to the fun and the unknown of it, and it gives others a chance too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read them and those they have left. Gives a fuller picture along with messages and forum interactions. Hate graphic ones but the Mills and Boon ones really take me to the fair!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't place too much on them unless there are hundreds...

I don't publish my own by choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't place too much on them unless there are hundreds...

I don't publish my own by choice "

Do you have hundreds?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I don't place too much on them unless there are hundreds...

I don't publish my own by choice

Do you have hundreds? "

She'd have one more if it was up to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’ve been useful in the past when I’ve been unsure about someone, the veri / veri trail has then confirmed my thoughts.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Yes but at the end of the day I make my own mind up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do veris actually influence you in any way? "
they do some yes if they are maybe considering meeting you and look through to see who you've met previously some are put off big time

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

I’m a little on the shy side and in some I guess a bit socially awkward at first, although if I’ve been chatting to someone online I find it much easier to talk in person. I look at the verifications of people I like the profiles of to see if I’m even remotely similar to the type of guys they usually meet to then decide whether or not to message. Don’t get me wrong, I can take rejections and don’t turn nasty like a lot of guys seeem to, but it’s still disheartening when you don’t get a response. That’s my theory but still doesn’t seem to work

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By *imeros Not ErosMan
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Not entirely sure how someone writes a verification on me. Also, I was going to write a verification for a couple I met last weekend, but I don't know where to start. I click on manage verification icon and it doesn't seem to allow me to make any or recieve verifications. Help!

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

Sometimes they do. Who they've been with and are they good veris or just polite ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do veris actually influence you in any way?

Yes. We look as much at the verifications our targets have left as those that have been left for them. It tells us a lot about how they see relationships and women."

Do you see women as the bullseye?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do veris actually influence you in any way?

Yes. We look as much at the verifications our targets have left as those that have been left for them. It tells us a lot about how they see relationships and women.

Do you see women as the bullseye?"
Well they're the target

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Not entirely sure how someone writes a verification on me. Also, I was going to write a verification for a couple I met last weekend, but I don't know where to start. I click on manage verification icon and it doesn't seem to allow me to make any or recieve verifications. Help!"

You can't verify someone until you are verified yourself - so you either need to ask the couple to verify you first - or if neither of you are verified - one of you could always pop in the chat rooms and get a webcam veri and then you should be able to verify

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Not entirely sure how someone writes a verification on me. Also, I was going to write a verification for a couple I met last weekend, but I don't know where to start. I click on manage verification icon and it doesn't seem to allow me to make any or recieve verifications. Help!"

Someone who’s already verified needs to verify you first. You can’t verify anyone until you’ve been verified. Then you look at their profile and click the options tab and it’s there “verify genuine”

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I look at other people's veris out of interest and nothing more really - if they're all overly graphic and the recipient has left equally graphic ones then I find it a turn off but that's about the only thing that would influence me really.

Otherwise I prefer to make my own mind up rather than take someone else's word for it.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I think if there is a common theme, it does give a good indication. However, face to face in a club is a lot better test if there is chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We definitely pay attention to veris.

For starters, they must have been verified by meet in the last 6 months or have had plenty of veris if longer than 6 months.

We read a profile over a year old with lots of veris but they all stated that they had met the couple at various parties but not one of them mentioned playing.. most expressed disappointment at not playing. We decided not to pursue that particular profile.

We are not a fan of massively graphic veris either.

So in short, veris are important ha ha.

Eve. x

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Yes. Important to me.

I wouldn’t meet people who don’t have any and I like to read them before I choose whether to message them.

Quality over quantity always means being selective, even for a Fab man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they matter.

Once chatted to a guy who was fairly attractive and I was thinking of meeting. Checked out his veris and he had one from a lady who had public photos on her profile showing unprotected sex and she had ALOT of veris - good for her and he may have used something with her but seeing that was enough to put me off.

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