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"My marriage has recently ended. The husband is still in our house on the settee looking for a house share (our young kids don't know yet,so we're keeping things normal until he has somewhere to go and they know where dad will be). We were in an open marriage, but unfortunately I was the only one being honest. He's currently seeing a girl that he basically has been having an affair with for the last 7 years (who manages to cheat in an open marriage, honestly!). Since I ended things, I've continued to see people as I refuse to let this stop me enjoying my life. The problem is I feel a bit hypocritical, like I should be sat at home mourning the loss of my marriage. Am I stupid for feeling like this?" It maybe because he is still there anyone living your life as usual, it may hit you once he has gone and left the house, so be prepared for the emotional upheaval then and rally your freinds around you sending a virtual hug and all the best wishes for a smooth transition, be true to yourself and keep swinging xxx | |||
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"My marriage has recently ended. The husband is still in our house on the settee looking for a house share" (our young kids don't know yet,so we're keeping things normal until he has somewhere to go and they know where dad will be) When the above changes perhaps your feelings will " We were in an open marriage, but unfortunately I was the only one being honest. He's currently seeing a girl that he basically has been having an affair with for the last 7 years (who manages to cheat in an open marriage, honestly!). Since I ended things, I've continued to see people as I refuse to let this stop me enjoying my life. The problem is I feel a bit hypocritical, like I should be sat at home mourning the loss of my marriage. Am I stupid for feeling like this?" | |||
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"You're not being hypocritical at all, unless you weren't honest, which you've stated you have been. I hope things work out as far as the kids go and that the transition is as smooth as possible for ya. " Thanks, it's my biggest worry telling them we're splitting up | |||
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"You're not being hypocritical at all, unless you weren't honest, which you've stated you have been. I hope things work out as far as the kids go and that the transition is as smooth as possible for ya. Thanks, it's my biggest worry telling them we're splitting up " It will be a difficult thing to open up to them about but it’s not uncommon these days and if everyone involved will be happier then it’s best for them in the long run. As for yourself OP, everyone has different ways of coping and dealing with things. You seem to be aware of the feelings and the situation you find yourself in. The only advice I’d offer would be to not get too heavily involved with anyone too quickly. Relationships are complicated. Wish you and your family well | |||
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"My marriage has recently ended. The husband is still in our house on the settee looking for a house share (our young kids don't know yet,so we're keeping things normal until he has somewhere to go and they know where dad will be). We were in an open marriage, but unfortunately I was the only one being honest. He's currently seeing a girl that he basically has been having an affair with for the last 7 years (who manages to cheat in an open marriage, honestly!). Since I ended things, I've continued to see people as I refuse to let this stop me enjoying my life. The problem is I feel a bit hypocritical, like I should be sat at home mourning the loss of my marriage. Am I stupid for feeling like this?" Nobody is stupid for feeling anything. You deal with stuff in your own way. Don't underestimate your kids though. They will have noticed dad's on the settee and be wondering why. | |||
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"What was the reason that he didn't tell you x" Too many lies to count. Dug himself a hole for that last 7 years which just kept getting deeper. I could forgive some stuff but not the rest. | |||
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"You're not being hypocritical at all, unless you weren't honest, which you've stated you have been. I hope things work out as far as the kids go and that the transition is as smooth as possible for ya. Thanks, it's my biggest worry telling them we're splitting up " It's of little comfort I'm sure but when they look around the classroom they will see a large percentage of pupils who's parents have split up | |||
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