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By *alcon43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’m fed up getting messages from people that live over a 100 miles away saying ‘I’m worth travelling for’. What do they expect if we were to meet? Chances are there’d be no connection and it would be a long way to travel for a coffee!

Does anyone else get messages like this? Is it flattering or derogatory?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But that's true I am worth travelling for, my verification proves it.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'm more than willing to travel long distances to meet someone but that's only after many messages and the feeling that there's some sort of connection and attraction there.

The idea that you'd travel 100 miles to have a coffee with someone you don't know from Adam is ludicrous. It baffles me why someone would send such a message, but then a lot of things on here baffle me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say our meets are spontaneous so I'll politely decline. Don't think it's ever bothered me. Sometimes I carry on chatting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you would never find out unless you travel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope! Not at all fed up of getting these messages. So worth it

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"I'm more than willing to travel long distances to meet someone but that's only after many messages and the feeling that there's some sort of connection and attraction there.

The idea that you'd travel 100 miles to have a coffee with someone you don't know from Adam is ludicrous. It baffles me why someone would send such a message, but then a lot of things on here baffle me."

This ^ I am willing to travel some distance and I have had people travel quite a way to meet me even though I’m clear it’s just for a coffee. I would need to get to know someone quite well first though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not fussy i do the travelling normally

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By *alcon43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I just think it’s a bit OTT at times though. Hardly conducive to having regular fun either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I travel all over and I do long distance meets with other plans (sight seeing etc) so if we don’t hit it off it’s not a waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think they're just desperate after contacting all the local profiles and getting no replies. I just tell them I'm not worth more than a 5 minute drive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m fed up getting messages from people that live over a 100 miles away saying ‘I’m worth traveling for’. What do they expect if we were to meet? "

Yes, I get a lot of these - often as introductory messages.

I feel that it's rather offensive because they are making assumptions about what I'm like, without actually trying to find out.

I always avoid them - because having someone travel a long distance always puts one or the other under a sense of "obligation" to be friendly, and probably to be available.

On a meet, I want to be able to just walk away if anything doesn't feel right - without any feeling of remorse or "let-down"...

They may say that they are happy to take the chance - but that's when they are horny and think that it's bound to work out. They're not so friendly when they've driven all that way and are told to go away...

Does anyone actually say Yes to these approaches...?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't see the point if they are 100 miles away, I'd say probably 20 miles max.

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't mind travelling but do get fed up with the first message being "when you coming to see me" etc and they are the other side of the country. An instant delete now. If they can't make the effort then I'm definitely not. Be nice if they actually said they would travel even half way.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"I just think it’s a bit OTT at times though. Hardly conducive to having regular fun either.

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Yes, not ideal for a regular thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m fed up getting messages from people that live over a 100 miles away saying ‘I’m worth travelling for’. What do they expect if we were to meet? Chances are there’d be no connection and it would be a long way to travel for a coffee!

Does anyone else get messages like this? Is it flattering or derogatory? "
surely it's flattering it is in no way a negative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope! Not at all fed up of getting these messages. So worth it "

Okay... I have to be admit that no one has actually messaged me saying that they would be worth the journey. That's kinda braggy. But if you mean getting messages from folk but you think it's an unrealistic thing because of the distance, then that doesn't deter me if we click and I think we'll get on. I'll take the gamble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to travel for meets, adds to the excitement. Not been disappointed yet!

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

We travel not a problem.

Like to book a city brack then find a meet in that area..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We travel not a problem.

Like to book a city brack then find a meet in that area.."
I love bracks and bracklesham

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4


"I’m fed up getting messages from people that live over a 100 miles away saying ‘I’m worth travelling for’. What do they expect if we were to meet? Chances are there’d be no connection and it would be a long way to travel for a coffee!

Does anyone else get messages like this? Is it flattering or derogatory? "

Flattering and we'll worth the effort who wants to swing with people down the road when you can have a adventure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get no end of winks from people who live 100 miles away or more. 10 miles is about my realistic limit unless someone really stands out and seems special.

It bugs me too when I say "sorry you are too far" and they reply "but I will travel". Sorry but I wasn't about to invite you to

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port


"I'm more than willing to travel long distances to meet someone but that's only after many messages and the feeling that there's some sort of connection and attraction there.

The idea that you'd travel 100 miles to have a coffee with someone you don't know from Adam is ludicrous. It baffles me why someone would send such a message, but then a lot of things on here baffle me.

This ^ I am willing to travel some distance and I have had people travel quite a way to meet me even though I’m clear it’s just for a coffee. I would need to get to know someone quite well first though. "

Some people are well worth an extra few miles and a small detour,even if they do get through a huge amount of coffee!

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I prefer a bit of distance and don’t mind travelling at all once I’ve got to know someone. The nearest of my special fab friends is at least 45 minutes away and another is an hour away. I have stayed over at ones house and he’s stayed at mine a few times and it’s always great fun and just adds to the experience. I’m not keen on the idea of meeting anyone from right on my doorstep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best meets I've travelled for. But it's not been random. We have built up friendship first by lots of chatting do when finally meet its like meeting a old friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would’ve thought it was flattering to have someone offer to travel to meet? I’ve done it a few times for socials and had a great time with no expectations or obligation on either part.

Surely they’re adults and capable of making their own choices as to whether they want to travel?

For those saying they think they’d be under an obligation, is that just your assumption or have you actually had experience of someone expecting more just because they’ve decided to make the journey?

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By *exual SuperheroesCouple
over a year ago

Watford / York

It is absolutley worth taking the chance on someone far away!

The best message I have ever recieved was from someone 200+ miles away! That message turned into the most amazing connection, the best sex I had only ever dreamed about before, and meeting someone who I now cant imagine not being part of my life 3

Yeah the distance is frustrating at times but we make it work & I am so so glad I took the chance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the adventure but it's about building trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m fed up getting messages from people that live over a 100 miles away saying ‘I’m worth travelling for’. What do they expect if we were to meet? Chances are there’d be no connection and it would be a long way to travel for a coffee!

Does anyone else get messages like this? Is it flattering or derogatory? "

I don't let distance get in the way if there is a good connection. Mostly they travel to me because of my ties, but it isn't always the case.

I take time to build a connection like that and it's not like I am exactly prolific. One lovely man and I had a two year gap between our first and second meets.

Cliché though it may be, I prefer quality over quantity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are happy to travel then I would take a chance I think. Obviously get to know them a bit more through messaging first, you can tell if its someone you're going to get along with then, rather than just after a message or two.

The whole saying of the 'you're worth travelling for' is a bit cringey to begin with if they dont know you. You could be awful, how do they know

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I like the adventure but it's about building trust"
not only that but also knowing to get to know the person and knowing there’s that spark there and also being able to have a laugh and get on with each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like the adventure but it's about building trust not only that but also knowing to get to know the person and knowing there’s that spark there and also being able to have a laugh and get on with each other "
well that of course but for single guy sometimes you have to travel to get a meet

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We will sometimes travel a huge distance to meet someone, but will plan a weekend in the near area so it's no big deal if there's no chemistry.

Cal

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I like the adventure but it's about building trust not only that but also knowing to get to know the person and knowing there’s that spark there and also being able to have a laugh and get on with each other well that of course but for single guy sometimes you have to travel to get a meet "

That’s true but then that’s personal preference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like the adventure but it's about building trust not only that but also knowing to get to know the person and knowing there’s that spark there and also being able to have a laugh and get on with each other well that of course but for single guy sometimes you have to travel to get a meet

That’s true but then that’s personal preference? "
I guess but some people live in small towns and locals might float their boat or vice versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree and I’ve said I only do a social so it’s a long drive for that. I always think up to 30 miles being reasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would happily travel long distances to meet people, and have done already. Never any pressure to play either (though we always have up to now). What better excuse for an overnight stay and making a sexy weekend of it

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

MK

Thats something i do all the time, rarely do i meet anyone local, all my meets 50-100 at least miles one way or more. have done a 350mile before one way.

No desperate just people up north are far better than south, further you go the better the meets

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By *ast_And_CuriousMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Thats something i do all the time, rarely do i meet anyone local, all my meets 50-100 at least miles one way or more. have done a 350mile before one way.

No desperate just people up north are far better than south, further you go the better the meets"

So it's true Northern birds are a lot dirtier?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just on the way back from a 321 miles trip (one way) to meet someone for the weekend.

Well worth the trip....

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I'd travel to Japan for coffee with marica hase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m fed up getting messages from people that live over a 100 miles away saying ‘I’m worth travelling for’. What do they expect if we were to meet? Chances are there’d be no connection and it would be a long way to travel for a coffee!

Does anyone else get messages like this? Is it flattering or derogatory? "

I hate it. I wouldn’t like anyone to travel that far to meet me (there are very rare exceptions). I’m not worth it. And it puts far too much pressure on me

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I travel a fair bit for work so I’m often looking for people that are not near me but with who I could meet in the future when I’m much nearer them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Travel broadens the mind....

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Travel broadens the mind...."

Think that's referring to international travel rather than a day trip to Scunthorpe

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've no interest in meeting people from 100s of miles away. Hardly likely to turn up anyway, so no point.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

I don't meet people who are a long distance away. I'm nervous enough with meeting new guys why on earth would I want to add extra stress on top of that?

The further the distance the more they will be disappointed if in real live there is no sexual attraction, the more pressured I'd feel if it was only me that didn't want sex, what if the sex wasn't as good as they imagined! That's a long way for mediocre or no sex! Stress stress stress! No thanks!

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"I’m fed up getting messages from people that live over a 100 miles away saying ‘I’m worth travelling for’. What do they expect if we were to meet? Chances are there’d be no connection and it would be a long way to travel for a coffee!

Does anyone else get messages like this? Is it flattering or derogatory? "

Maybe it's a Scottish guy thing? The Proclaimers would walk 500 miles and then walk 500 more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m fed up getting messages from people that live over a 100 miles away saying ‘I’m worth travelling for’. What do they expect if we were to meet? Chances are there’d be no connection and it would be a long way to travel for a coffee!

Does anyone else get messages like this? Is it flattering or derogatory?

I hate it. I wouldn’t like anyone to travel that far to meet me (there are very rare exceptions). I’m not worth it. And it puts far too much pressure on me"

that's exactly how I feel, have had a fair few offer to travel from London to meet me, that's a 5 or 6 hour drive each way, not very realistic after they've had a wank and I'd feel under loads of pressure to make it feel worth it

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Travel broadens the mind....

Think that's referring to international travel rather than a day trip to Scunthorpe "

Scunthorpes well worth a visit... Especially as we live there

Nita

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"I’m fed up getting messages from people that live over a 100 miles away saying ‘I’m worth travelling for’. What do they expect if we were to meet? Chances are there’d be no connection and it would be a long way to travel for a coffee!

Does anyone else get messages like this? Is it flattering or derogatory? "

I think you should take it as a compliment OP

Seems to be a slight gender difference of opinion here. Generally the guys saying they would happily travel. Women expecting a meet just round the corner.

Is it weight of numbers or entitlement that makes for your decision?

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