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By *dam1971 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford

This phrase either brings a wistful smile to your face or a tightening of the chest. The question is, how do you know when the worse you’re in now is too bad?

Do you both need to agree that a relationship is past saving?

Your thoughts are welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If one isn’t happy , you can’t stay to try to save it unless both really want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This phrase either brings a wistful smile to your face or a tightening of the chest. The question is, how do you know when the worse you’re in now is too bad?

Do you both need to agree that a relationship is past saving?

Your thoughts are welcome "
only you can know that, what do you lose if you walk away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This phrase either brings a wistful smile to your face or a tightening of the chest. The question is, how do you know when the worse you’re in now is too bad?

Do you both need to agree that a relationship is past saving?

Your thoughts are welcome "

Not if it's making your life a misery

People can change

Some stay because they have kids

Or scared of losing house car kids

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By *dam1971 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"This phrase either brings a wistful smile to your face or a tightening of the chest. The question is, how do you know when the worse you’re in now is too bad?

Do you both need to agree that a relationship is past saving?

Your thoughts are welcome only you can know that, what do you lose if you walk away? "

I don’t mind if I lose everything but I’d prefer the children not to lose the family home

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

When you start saying you're only staying because of the kids, pets, can't afford own place, practically everything else but the one person you're with you know it's time to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This phrase either brings a wistful smile to your face or a tightening of the chest. The question is, how do you know when the worse you’re in now is too bad?

Do you both need to agree that a relationship is past saving?

Your thoughts are welcome only you can know that, what do you lose if you walk away?

I don’t mind if I lose everything but I’d prefer the children not to lose the family home"

Many people agree that they stay in the family home until age 18 with the main carer, then the property is sold. Children are more resilient though than we give them credit for and adjust to change more easily than adults often do. So they’d cope with moving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all you are thinking of is the children losing their family home then it’s time to walk away. Believe me kids get damaged a lot more by you staying when it’s not a happy home x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think once your trust is gone it’s beyond saving. So if the worse involves trust it’s time to call it a day. Painful as that may be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend's parents separated two weeks after her 18th birthday and she really resented them staying desperately unhappily together "for her sake".

Do what's right for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This phrase either brings a wistful smile to your face or a tightening of the chest. The question is, how do you know when the worse you’re in now is too bad?

Do you both need to agree that a relationship is past saving?

Your thoughts are welcome only you can know that, what do you lose if you walk away?

I don’t mind if I lose everything but I’d prefer the children not to lose the family home"

If you sold it they'd have to move to a smaller/ cheaper place? People move all the time. They'd get used to a new place.

I think it depends on how bad the home life is. Can you put on a brave face until the kids are old enough to leave home? Or is the home atmosphere like treading on eggshells?

I'd suggest researching divorce and financial orders/ consent orders. Knowledge is power, know your rights. If you're being emotionally black-mailed to stay, know that you're worth more than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This phrase either brings a wistful smile to your face or a tightening of the chest. The question is, how do you know when the worse you’re in now is too bad?

Do you both need to agree that a relationship is past saving?

Your thoughts are welcome only you can know that, what do you lose if you walk away?

I don’t mind if I lose everything but I’d prefer the children not to lose the family home"
Well walk away on good terms don't get solicitors involved and start your single life but communicate with everyone including your children

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Your kids are effected at any age, it was the hardest decision I made, I had too it was killing me slowly inside. Ms

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By *ervously excitedCouple
over a year ago

perranporth

I walked away taking only my ex wife's savings so the late teen children (I had raised) could stay in the house (that I had built) . Within weeks my ex moved her new partner is so the children couldn't wait to move out. My consideration for my children cost me about 300k. I have no pension, a small home and no savings. She has a 500k house, a 25k annual pension and savings that were hidden. However, I have the respect and love of my children! Think long and hard before taking a low settlement.

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow


"When you start saying you're only staying because of the kids, pets, can't afford own place, practically everything else but the one person you're with you know it's time to go. "

Exactly this. I would hate to be in a relationship with someone who was there for every reason other than loving me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This phrase either brings a wistful smile to your face or a tightening of the chest. The question is, how do you know when the worse you’re in now is too bad?

Do you both need to agree that a relationship is past saving?

Your thoughts are welcome "

When you start canvassing opinion on the internet

For questions you already have answers for

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