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By *r.ring OP   Man
over a year ago

totton

Now please don’t judge me. I know there are lots on here that will. So for those that can’t read my wife knows I have a sex life out side of are sexless marriage. Just as long as it’s kept in the shadows and I’m respectful about where or what I’m doing. So I met a really nice woman on here and I have had lots of fun with her. That was 3 weeks ago she wants me to herself and not to be married so today she posted pics of are meets to the mrs Facebook. Now what the fuck is that about. ? Any in sight ??? Please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics of sex meets? Call the police, it's revenge porn.

Block her. It's an incredibly shit thing to do. Hope your wife is ok.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Pics of sex meets? Call the police, it's revenge porn.

Block her. It's an incredibly shit thing to do. Hope your wife is ok."

Exactly this. It's a crime.

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By *r.ring OP   Man
over a year ago

totton

It’s going to end are fragile marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s definitely revenge porn, which carries a jail term. You need to report her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now please don’t judge me. I know there are lots on here that will. So for those that can’t read my wife knows I have a sex life out side of are sexless marriage. Just as long as it’s kept in the shadows and I’m respectful about where or what I’m doing. So I met a really nice woman on here and I have had lots of fun with her. That was 3 weeks ago she wants me to herself and not to be married so today she posted pics of are meets to the mrs Facebook. Now what the fuck is that about. ? Any in sight ??? Please. "
she doesn't believe your wife is allowing you to meet women for sex, you've turned her down and she feels used, a woman scorned is a lethal weapon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s going to end are fragile marriage. "

If your marriage is fragile perhaps divorce is for the best. You'll both feel like utter shut for a while but the freedom is worth it in the end. She may not be totally happy with you fucking other women but not want to rock the boat.

Or you could try and talk to her and you both get over it and move on together. It might make you stroner.

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

In some way you knew this was going to happen.

Time to bend over and take the bullet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others said it’s revenge porn. Also, you must be very open for her to find your wife on face book and why let her take photos, isn’t that risky anyway in the wrong hands. If you have permission to play, fair enough, but isn’t discretion important for both you and your wife?

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

It’s like the old joke about practicing safe sex by never giving them your phone number. I hope you have learned a valuable lesson about privacy here.

I hope you work things out

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By *r.ring OP   Man
over a year ago

totton

I thank you all for your input I hope you are happy in your glass house “Colgate” yes of corse are marriage was in a bad way I was trying to fulfil my happiness needs and keep everything together for the kids. It was sort off working. The other people from here that I’ve had the pleasure of meeting have all been ok as I have never covered anything up. I have spoken to the police and they have agreed with all of you. So I thank you for your suggestions on that front. In some ways I’m pleased it’s all out in the open but I think I’ve got some really shitty months coming up.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Now please don’t judge me. I know there are lots on here that will. So for those that can’t read my wife knows I have a sex life out side of are sexless marriage. Just as long as it’s kept in the shadows and I’m respectful about where or what I’m doing. So I met a really nice woman on here and I have had lots of fun with her. That was 3 weeks ago she wants me to herself and not to be married so today she posted pics of are meets to the mrs Facebook. Now what the fuck is that about. ? Any in sight ??? Please. "

Not such a nice woman hey? And obviously untrustworthy. Hoping you don't jump out of the pan and into the fire with this one.

Start thinking with your brain and not your dick.

Good luck.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Time to pull up the drawbridge!

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By *mp411Man
over a year ago

chester


"Now please don’t judge me. I know there are lots on here that will. So for those that can’t read my wife knows I have a sex life out side of are sexless marriage. Just as long as it’s kept in the shadows and I’m respectful about where or what I’m doing. So I met a really nice woman on here and I have had lots of fun with her. That was 3 weeks ago she wants me to herself and not to be married so today she posted pics of are meets to the mrs Facebook. Now what the fuck is that about. ? Any in sight ??? Please.

Not such a nice woman hey? And obviously untrustworthy. Hoping you don't jump out of the pan and into the fire with this one.

Start thinking with your brain and not your dick.

Good luck."

Couldn’t have said it better myself

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

The woman sounds like a bunny boiler.

I'm sorry this has happened but if your wife knew you were meeting other women anyway don't you think your marriage is salvageable? It was this crazy woman....not you kind of thing?

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"The woman sounds like a bunny boiler.

I'm sorry this has happened but if your wife knew you were meeting other women anyway don't you think your marriage is salvageable? It was this crazy woman....not you kind of thing?"

If it had been kept to just his wife then maybe. But putting it on such a public forum has and will cause much wider fallout among family and friends, which is worse as the shame is then public. Many this he can be dealt with in private much more easily than when there is judgement and expectations from outside.

OP, glad you reported it, and I am sure I am not the only one wishing you the best in getting through this as painlessly as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit dumb to take pictures together in your position, and to give her enough info to find you on FB.

I do pity your wife because being cuckolded on public media must be mortifying for her.

I don't have much sympathy for you really OP.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Sad as it may seem, maybe you need to reevaluate your sexual conquests.

If you chat to your wife about it, then it can only go one way or the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fb the worst invention in history

Causes much more harm that good never had it and never will

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Now please don’t judge me. I know there are lots on here that will. So for those that can’t read my wife knows I have a sex life out side of are sexless marriage. Just as long as it’s kept in the shadows and I’m respectful about where or what I’m doing. So I met a really nice woman on here and I have had lots of fun with her. That was 3 weeks ago she wants me to herself and not to be married so today she posted pics of are meets to the mrs Facebook. Now what the fuck is that about. ? Any in sight ??? Please. "

You've answered your own question, it's about her wanting you not to be married. She doesn't want you to herself, if she did she'd know that her actions would Mr that unlikely. There's no huge insights to be gained here, you got hooked up with a woman who set out to destroy your relationship.

I'm sorry that this has happened, especially sorry that your wife has been publicly humiliated. However it might be worth reflecting on the part you played in this by being so open with an acquaintance and how respectful it was to give out information that allowed this woman to find you'd wife on Facebook.

I hope you both can find a resolution that causes the least hurt to the most people.

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By *r.ring OP   Man
over a year ago

totton


"Bit dumb to take pictures together in your position, and to give her enough info to find you on FB.

I do pity your wife because being cuckolded on public media must be mortifying for her.

I don't have much sympathy for you really OP."

I wasn’t looking for sympathy are marriage was shit and we both knew it. But I still love her and I think she still loves me. Know for what ever reason we don’t have a physical relationship (there are good clear reasons why not) I don’t think any one deserves this level of public exposure. One secret I did have was that I’m bi so the pics have outed me as well.

Did I really deserve this. ??

The police have told me to contact the other guy as he is clearly shown in the pics. She has committed a hate crime against him as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we look around on fab there are so many people on here in so many different situation, so I’m not going to judge. And with the way social media is it wouldn’t have been hard for her to find your wife I’m sure, but I’m sorry her privacy settings allowed this woman to do this to her.

My heart goes out to your wife as she is going to be feeling so humiliated right now.

I’m pleased you have gone to the Police. It’s the right thing to do.

I would suggest as other have said for now it’s focusing on making sure your wife and family are ok and maybe completely stepping away from fab and any extra martial stuff whilst you figure out where to go from here.

Communication, communication, communication and accepting you fucked up.

But also Good luck to you & your family as it’s a really nasty thing for you all to have done to you. x

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By *verageguy123Man
over a year ago

Selby

Clearly someone who doesn’t understand how swinging works. Block the bunny boiler and report her on here to save her next victim

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"Now please don’t judge me. I know there are lots on here that will. So for those that can’t read my wife knows I have a sex life out side of are sexless marriage. Just as long as it’s kept in the shadows and I’m respectful about where or what I’m doing. So I met a really nice woman on here and I have had lots of fun with her. That was 3 weeks ago she wants me to herself and not to be married so today she posted pics of are meets to the mrs Facebook. Now what the fuck is that about. ? Any in sight ??? Please. "

Agree, steer clear of the loon, call the police and please, please, please use our not are so I don't suffer a haemorrhage.

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By *r.ring OP   Man
over a year ago

totton

I’ve never had any problems in the past with being open. Most people on here appear to like this as they know where they stand.

As for blocking her that has little if not no effect as this site will let you have as many profiles as you like.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"Now please don’t judge me. I know there are lots on here that will. So for those that can’t read my wife knows I have a sex life out side of are sexless marriage. Just as long as it’s kept in the shadows and I’m respectful about where or what I’m doing. So I met a really nice woman on here and I have had lots of fun with her. That was 3 weeks ago she wants me to herself and not to be married so today she posted pics of are meets to the mrs Facebook. Now what the fuck is that about. ? Any in sight ??? Please.

Agree, steer clear of the loon, call the police and please, please, please use our not are so I don't suffer a haemorrhage. "

Also, don't you think you would be happier freeing you and your wife from this marriage and finding somebody you could be closer with?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I’ve never had any problems in the past with being open. Most people on here appear to like this as they know where they stand.

As for blocking her that has little if not no effect as this site will let you have as many profiles as you like. "

Well it only takes one.

You need to be dealing with your current problem and blocking is one piece in the jigsaw.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Sorry to hear that... Why would anyone do that

She's not going to win any brownie points from you or your wife ....pure madness and spite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit dumb to take pictures together in your position, and to give her enough info to find you on FB.

I do pity your wife because being cuckolded on public media must be mortifying for her.

I don't have much sympathy for you really OP.

I wasn’t looking for sympathy are marriage was shit and we both knew it. But I still love her and I think she still loves me. Know for what ever reason we don’t have a physical relationship (there are good clear reasons why not) I don’t think any one deserves this level of public exposure. One secret I did have was that I’m bi so the pics have outed me as well.

Did I really deserve this. ??

The police have told me to contact the other guy as he is clearly shown in the pics. She has committed a hate crime against him as well. "

Yeah- I judged you, I hold my hands up.

Not for playing away, more for being naive enough to hurt your family doing it.

She did break the law though- so at least you can punish her.

Won't change the fallout though, it's mainly just sad really.

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By *r.ring OP   Man
over a year ago

totton

All she has achieved is to put the end date on my marriage I had hoped to keep going for a bit longer for the kids. She has broken the law and the police are going to come and see me about that she has also exposed the other guy in the pics so the police are interested in that as well. As I said I’m no angel yes I should be more guarding in the future but we all need to be able trust others...don’t we ??? I had sex with her for 6days /evenings straight most times well in to the early hours. At some point along the way I think anyone would begin to think there is a level of trust built up. You have to talk about stuff .. right ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All she has achieved is to put the end date on my marriage I had hoped to keep going for a bit longer for the kids. She has broken the law and the police are going to come and see me about that she has also exposed the other guy in the pics so the police are interested in that as well. As I said I’m no angel yes I should be more guarding in the future but we all need to be able trust others...don’t we ??? I had sex with her for 6days /evenings straight most times well in to the early hours. At some point along the way I think anyone would begin to think there is a level of trust built up. You have to talk about stuff .. right ?? "

In my opinion no, you don’t have to give enough information for your wife to be found on Facebook. Maybe subconsciously you wanted something to happen, after all you’re on here now when your marriage is on the rocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The woman sounds like a bunny boiler.

I'm sorry this has happened but if your wife knew you were meeting other women anyway don't you think your marriage is salvageable? It was this crazy woman....not you kind of thing?

If it had been kept to just his wife then maybe. But putting it on such a public forum has and will cause much wider fallout among family and friends, which is worse as the shame is then public. Many this he can be dealt with in private much more easily than when there is judgement and expectations from outside.

OP, glad you reported it, and I am sure I am not the only one wishing you the best in getting through this as painlessly as possible."
are his family and friends here or are you saying they've seen it on Fb?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All she has achieved is to put the end date on my marriage I had hoped to keep going for a bit longer for the kids. She has broken the law and the police are going to come and see me about that she has also exposed the other guy in the pics so the police are interested in that as well. As I said I’m no angel yes I should be more guarding in the future but we all need to be able trust others...don’t we ??? I had sex with her for 6days /evenings straight most times well in to the early hours. At some point along the way I think anyone would begin to think there is a level of trust built up. You have to talk about stuff .. right ??

In my opinion no, you don’t have to give enough information for your wife to be found on Facebook. Maybe subconsciously you wanted something to happen, after all you’re on here now when your marriage is on the rocks. "

Most people facebooks are linked to their phone numbers and if you find the husband not hard to go one step further and then find the wife.

Plus I had a weird experience a couple of months ago where I had two fabsters suddenly turn up in my people you might know on Facebook both of which I chatted to last year and 99% sure I only ever had kik contact with them. So I think it would be pretty easier for her it find the wife sadly.

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By *r.ring OP   Man
over a year ago

totton


"All she has achieved is to put the end date on my marriage I had hoped to keep going for a bit longer for the kids. She has broken the law and the police are going to come and see me about that she has also exposed the other guy in the pics so the police are interested in that as well. As I said I’m no angel yes I should be more guarding in the future but we all need to be able trust others...don’t we ??? I had sex with her for 6days /evenings straight most times well in to the early hours. At some point along the way I think anyone would begin to think there is a level of trust built up. You have to talk about stuff .. right ??

In my opinion no, you don’t have to give enough information for your wife to be found on Facebook. Maybe subconsciously you wanted something to happen, after all you’re on here now when your marriage is on the rocks.

Most people facebooks are linked to their phone numbers and if you find the husband not hard to go one step further and then find the wife.

Plus I had a weird experience a couple of months ago where I had two fabsters suddenly turn up in my people you might know on Facebook both of which I chatted to last year and 99% sure I only ever had kik contact with them. So I think it would be pretty easier for her it find the wife sadly. "

It’s very easy to find out who is who and who they know with even a basic smart phone it can take email info and names and attach them to contact info on you phone. This is a tool that I use for work. The thing is she knows my surname and there are only a handful of families with the same name on the south coast. So really not much of a challenge at all. I know her name etc.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"All she has achieved is to put the end date on my marriage I had hoped to keep going for a bit longer for the kids. She has broken the law and the police are going to come and see me about that she has also exposed the other guy in the pics so the police are interested in that as well. As I said I’m no angel yes I should be more guarding in the future but we all need to be able trust others...don’t we ??? I had sex with her for 6days /evenings straight most times well in to the early hours. At some point along the way I think anyone would begin to think there is a level of trust built up. You have to talk about stuff .. right ??

In my opinion no, you don’t have to give enough information for your wife to be found on Facebook. Maybe subconsciously you wanted something to happen, after all you’re on here now when your marriage is on the rocks.

Most people facebooks are linked to their phone numbers and if you find the husband not hard to go one step further and then find the wife.

Plus I had a weird experience a couple of months ago where I had two fabsters suddenly turn up in my people you might know on Facebook both of which I chatted to last year and 99% sure I only ever had kik contact with them. So I think it would be pretty easier for her it find the wife sadly. "

I had something similar a few years ago. I had over a dozen suggestions for fb friends from ladies I had met either through here or other dating apps. And I had met all of them when I had another phone (in between I had switched both contracts and number). I have no idea how they could have migrated across as none of the ladies had been on my social media

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"All she has achieved is to put the end date on my marriage I had hoped to keep going for a bit longer for the kids. She has broken the law and the police are going to come and see me about that she has also exposed the other guy in the pics so the police are interested in that as well. As I said I’m no angel yes I should be more guarding in the future but we all need to be able trust others...don’t we ??? I had sex with her for 6days /evenings straight most times well in to the early hours. At some point along the way I think anyone would begin to think there is a level of trust built up. You have to talk about stuff .. right ?? "

We don't trust anyone, cynical probably but a sensible precaution. You have to talk of course but not about personal details.

It's done. You need to deal with the fallout now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an incredibly selfish woman she is. Report her to the police then focus on your wife and marriage for a while.

Maybe don't give personal details out to the next person you meet. Not everyone is trustworthy.

Good luck OP and hope you can sort it out.

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