FabSwingers.com forum: Self esteem/ego/arrogance?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I remember the days in my early 20s when I would literally fuck anyone who showed an interest in me. Probably because of my own insecurities. Nowadays I actually say no to people and the offers I get.

Maybe being a man slut can eventually develop a sense of self worth or is it just, as someone just informed me after I declined their offer, an act of an 'arrogant prick?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a bum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how you do it I’d have thought..

Maybe ‘In your dreams..’ wasn’t the best line to use?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Having standards isn’t arrogant. Plenty of people who suddenly decide you’re not all that the moment you decline then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's mad how low self esteem works in different ways for people. I can have bouts of low self esteem but it's never manifested in those kind of ways. I've never slept with anyone that wasn't insanely attractive but when faced with these über attractive creatures I get all self conscious and feel intimidated

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Preferences my man. I too was the same in my twenties. Young, dumb and full of swimmers! As we get older we become more discerning.

Of course I can always revert back to that mindless woman snatcher of my early twenties, but these days I tend to sit back, relax, have my life in order and what’ll be will be.

Not arrogant at all. You just have better judgement for your own personal needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember the days in my early 20s when I would literally fuck anyone who showed an interest in me. Probably because of my own insecurities. Nowadays I actually say no to people and the offers I get.

Maybe being a man slut can eventually develop a sense of self worth or is it just, as someone just informed me after I declined their offer, an act of an 'arrogant prick?'

How did you decline them? What did you say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I met M, I used sex in the wrong way (who thought such a thing existed). I would sleep with men just to stop the lonely feeling I had. I’d not long broken up with my ex of 7 years and yeah, I used it as an antidepressant in a way I guess. Wasn’t a good thing though and I’m not proud of it at all. But in my mind it was a nice thing to think men wanted me. In reality they probably would have wanted anyone with a pulse. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, and I’m glad I’m no longer ‘that’ woman. My self esteem is a lot better. M makes me feel sexy and helps me on my bad days. I’m so glad I saw the light in the end!

L x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You should not be insulted simply for declining.

Women here start thread after thread about rude males.....

Here's hoping you were tactful when you said no.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Just because you like everything on the menu doesn’t mean you have to eat it!

Making informed choices is a sign of maturity. If you want more than a one night stand then why not be choosy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some interesting view points guys thanks. And yeh I wasn't rude I just 'you're not my type so no thank you'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im learning more and more its about knowing your own worth

Having standards isnt a bad thing at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not the act of an arrogant prick. You obviously just bruised her fragile ego

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think it can be easy to confuse strong boundaries and self worth as arrogance, or at least an easy accusation to make. It sounds like you were fine, OP.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It seems some people aren't adult enough for this site and can't handle rejection very well. Not everyone is going to be your cup of tea, hence why I am very selective, nothing to do with being arrogant I just know what I want and what I like x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never been one to fuck anything that walks, I just don’t get it.

However having standards isn’t arrogant in the slightest! The person who called you an arrogant prick is no doubt bitter you could ever have the cheek to reject them!

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