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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any ex vets or police on here with PTSD or flashbacks?

Please share your experience and if it has affected your social & sex life.

Those who doesn’t directly have these problems need not comments

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ex Prison Officer, involved in a number of traumatic incidents in the 6 years I was in the Service (deaths in custody, assaults, stabbings). First 5 years after leaving the job had real issues with substance abuse (self medicating)nightmares, anxiety and anger management problems. They have dissipated to an extent but occasionally still wake up in cold sweats and still get the occasional flashback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep having nightmares, just affects my sleep really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ex Prison Officer, involved in a number of traumatic incidents in the 6 years I was in the Service (deaths in custody, assaults, stabbings). First 5 years after leaving the job had real issues with substance abuse (self medicating)nightmares, anxiety and anger management problems. They have dissipated to an extent but occasionally still wake up in cold sweats and still get the occasional flashback."

It’s been a while now since I’ve had flashbacks. And occasionally my mood goes from happy mofo to very dull, no mood to do anything at all.

Incident happened nearly two years ago. At first I was totally fine for about 8 months to a year occasionally with a few thoughts or flashbacks it it never affected me until recently.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Keep having nightmares, just affects my sleep really. "

Quite similar to your situation.

Nightmares, sudden mood changing, and earlier this year I’ve had a lot of serious violence thoughts which lead to irregular heart rate but no intention of hurting anyone including myself.

Told my doc that, and he said as long as I have no intention in hurting anyone, my self control is still fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ex Prison Officer, involved in a number of traumatic incidents in the 6 years I was in the Service (deaths in custody, assaults, stabbings). First 5 years after leaving the job had real issues with substance abuse (self medicating)nightmares, anxiety and anger management problems. They have dissipated to an extent but occasionally still wake up in cold sweats and still get the occasional flashback.

It’s been a while now since I’ve had flashbacks. And occasionally my mood goes from happy mofo to very dull, no mood to do anything at all.

Incident happened nearly two years ago. At first I was totally fine for about 8 months to a year occasionally with a few thoughts or flashbacks it it never affected me until recently."

Have you received any counselling? It will get better with time trust me. Try and find someone who you can talk to about it, don’t bottle things up and don’t try and put on a brave face as this will only exacerbate the condition.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ex Prison Officer, involved in a number of traumatic incidents in the 6 years I was in the Service (deaths in custody, assaults, stabbings). First 5 years after leaving the job had real issues with substance abuse (self medicating)nightmares, anxiety and anger management problems. They have dissipated to an extent but occasionally still wake up in cold sweats and still get the occasional flashback.

It’s been a while now since I’ve had flashbacks. And occasionally my mood goes from happy mofo to very dull, no mood to do anything at all.

Incident happened nearly two years ago. At first I was totally fine for about 8 months to a year occasionally with a few thoughts or flashbacks it it never affected me until recently.

Have you received any counselling? It will get better with time trust me. Try and find someone who you can talk to about it, don’t bottle things up and don’t try and put on a brave face as this will only exacerbate the condition. "

I did in the beginning. I’ve even mentioned to my airmen medical examiner. We had a talk and I was perfectly fine.

I like to say the normal me is more calm and logical. Lately, occasionally it just blast out until the moment my thought of legal terms kicks in, then I’ll pull myself back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Problem is I don’t want to talk to any friends about it. Especially in UK, when I bring up the topic about guns. First response is how much they disagree with firearms. Then... never quite get into the topic. So, The only person I could talk to is my dad who’s ex police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex husband was a victim to PTSD, Falklands Vet in the Royal Navy, sadly he couldn't cope no more and ended his life 6yrs ago, we had been divorced 2 yrs prior to that.. Was a difficult 12 years with him before he was diagnosed with the condition.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Have you tried to see if there are any Facebook groups set up?

There must be some support.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My ex husband was a victim to PTSD, Falklands Vet in the Royal Navy, sadly he couldn't cope no more and ended his life 6yrs ago, we had been divorced 2 yrs prior to that.. Was a difficult 12 years with him before he was diagnosed with the condition. "

Sorry for your loss.

I know it’s a very complicated process you had to go through.

I’ve met friends back in the states such as my ex’s brother in law who took his own life with a bullet(ex Iraq vet)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you tried to see if there are any Facebook groups set up?

There must be some support. "

There is support there for the person and their families, but unless the person is ready to open up support groups don't help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you tried to see if there are any Facebook groups set up?

There must be some support. "

I wouldn’t go on Facebook. My personal profile is linked to too many contacts that I don’t wish them seeing which group I have connection with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex husband was a victim to PTSD, Falklands Vet in the Royal Navy, sadly he couldn't cope no more and ended his life 6yrs ago, we had been divorced 2 yrs prior to that.. Was a difficult 12 years with him before he was diagnosed with the condition.

Sorry for your loss.

I know it’s a very complicated process you had to go through.

I’ve met friends back in the states such as my ex’s brother in law who took his own life with a bullet(ex Iraq vet)"

Thanks hun,

Wasn't easy at the time and still now I think if only, but he is finally at peace, poor man was tormented morning , noon and night for years and nobody ever considered it could be related to the Falklands conflict, as it was a number of years after it ended, but PTSD doesn't have a sell by or best before date, hope you manage to get the right support .

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My ex husband was a victim to PTSD, Falklands Vet in the Royal Navy, sadly he couldn't cope no more and ended his life 6yrs ago, we had been divorced 2 yrs prior to that.. Was a difficult 12 years with him before he was diagnosed with the condition.

Sorry for your loss.

I know it’s a very complicated process you had to go through.

I’ve met friends back in the states such as my ex’s brother in law who took his own life with a bullet(ex Iraq vet)

Thanks hun,

Wasn't easy at the time and still now I think if only, but he is finally at peace, poor man was tormented morning , noon and night for years and nobody ever considered it could be related to the Falklands conflict, as it was a number of years after it ended, but PTSD doesn't have a sell by or best before date, hope you manage to get the right support .

Xxx "

The most tiring part is to remain logical and not let my temper take over me.

Temper ruins everything.

It also scares people around me when they see the angry side of me which everyone won’t appreciate that type of behaviour

It’s the moment of that spark when it ignites.. that’s the part I struggle the most.

Of course, nightmares, flashback are uncontrollable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex husband was a victim to PTSD, Falklands Vet in the Royal Navy, sadly he couldn't cope no more and ended his life 6yrs ago, we had been divorced 2 yrs prior to that.. Was a difficult 12 years with him before he was diagnosed with the condition.

Sorry for your loss.

I know it’s a very complicated process you had to go through.

I’ve met friends back in the states such as my ex’s brother in law who took his own life with a bullet(ex Iraq vet)

Thanks hun,

Wasn't easy at the time and still now I think if only, but he is finally at peace, poor man was tormented morning , noon and night for years and nobody ever considered it could be related to the Falklands conflict, as it was a number of years after it ended, but PTSD doesn't have a sell by or best before date, hope you manage to get the right support .

Xxx

The most tiring part is to remain logical and not let my temper take over me.

Temper ruins everything.

It also scares people around me when they see the angry side of me which everyone won’t appreciate that type of behaviour

It’s the moment of that spark when it ignites.. that’s the part I struggle the most.

Of course, nightmares, flashback are uncontrollable"

Know exactly were you are coming from, he would tire so easily, because he was trying so hard to keep his emotions and temper under control, middle of the bight sleep terrors were awful..

Good luck xxx

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

My brother is a Professor in Australia who did some research into treatment for PTSD with Vietnam veterans with a lot of success. Its based on physical activity, not therapy as its tailored to types that were active in their roles(military).

Australia have a good record for breakthroughs in treatment for psychological disorders..you could search online...

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Without going into details on here Dick has ptsd from Bosnia and working with the UN.

Mine somewhat different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My ex husband was a victim to PTSD, Falklands Vet in the Royal Navy, sadly he couldn't cope no more and ended his life 6yrs ago, we had been divorced 2 yrs prior to that.. Was a difficult 12 years with him before he was diagnosed with the condition.

Sorry for your loss.

I know it’s a very complicated process you had to go through.

I’ve met friends back in the states such as my ex’s brother in law who took his own life with a bullet(ex Iraq vet)

Thanks hun,

Wasn't easy at the time and still now I think if only, but he is finally at peace, poor man was tormented morning , noon and night for years and nobody ever considered it could be related to the Falklands conflict, as it was a number of years after it ended, but PTSD doesn't have a sell by or best before date, hope you manage to get the right support .

Xxx

The most tiring part is to remain logical and not let my temper take over me.

Temper ruins everything.

It also scares people around me when they see the angry side of me which everyone won’t appreciate that type of behaviour

It’s the moment of that spark when it ignites.. that’s the part I struggle the most.

Of course, nightmares, flashback are uncontrollable

Know exactly were you are coming from, he would tire so easily, because he was trying so hard to keep his emotions and temper under control, middle of the bight sleep terrors were awful..

Good luck xxx"

Thanks.

May all be well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still can't get my head around how it is still a condition which is very little understood yet alone recognised.

My father in law suffered PTSD,a soldier, toured Vietnam/Nortern Ireland, went to Bremen learned of being posted to NI again, had a breakdown. Formally discharged... Once teetotal, ended up an alchoholic, remained that way for the next 20 years until my firstborn, he went sober and neber touched alchohol for 20 years, damage was done, he died of liver cancer which had spread to his lungs, pancreas and stomach.

I wish he'd got the support he neeed all those years ago :/

Separately my son is a games developer and just produced his first game, based around the story of the Unknown Soldier and explores PTSD.

Aetherfall Games/Only Shadows if anyone would like to research.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m guessing from your terminology you are a US vet, not UK? Apologies if I’m wrong?

In the U.K. We have the detente veterans service, if you approach your GP and tell them your a veteran the two services work together to get you priority treatment on the NHS.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m guessing from your terminology you are a US vet, not UK? Apologies if I’m wrong?

In the U.K. We have the detente veterans service, if you approach your GP and tell them your a veteran the two services work together to get you priority treatment on the NHS."

I’m not a vet. I just happened to be in a few occasions I had to use firearm to protect myself from being attacked when I used to live in the states.

I’m still quite raw in the UK. Been to NHS once, briefly mentioned my symptoms to the doctor and he said I’m probably just under too much stress.

Generally speaking, this doesn’t normally happen to me. There are just moments and sometimes these moments comes more often than usual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m guessing from your terminology you are a US vet, not UK? Apologies if I’m wrong?

In the U.K. We have the detente veterans service, if you approach your GP and tell them your a veteran the two services work together to get you priority treatment on the NHS.

I’m not a vet. I just happened to be in a few occasions I had to use firearm to protect myself from being attacked when I used to live in the states.

I’m still quite raw in the UK. Been to NHS once, briefly mentioned my symptoms to the doctor and he said I’m probably just under too much stress.

Generally speaking, this doesn’t normally happen to me. There are just moments and sometimes these moments comes more often than usual."

Btw that should have read defence not detente, I was just going by your photo that appears to be in a USAF rig, and your terminology.

Best of luck.

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I really recommend a treatment called EMDR. It is available on the NHS although you may need to do some digging to find the appropriate referral route for your area - is it GP, is it counselling first, is it self-referral etc etc. It teaches the brain to re-process the trauma in a way you can cope with - for me it took 8 sessions and I was done, no more nightmares, panic attacks, flashbacks etc. Absolutely amazing thing. It's very intense but worth the hard work for the effect that it has.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m guessing from your terminology you are a US vet, not UK? Apologies if I’m wrong?

In the U.K. We have the detente veterans service, if you approach your GP and tell them your a veteran the two services work together to get you priority treatment on the NHS.

I’m not a vet. I just happened to be in a few occasions I had to use firearm to protect myself from being attacked when I used to live in the states.

I’m still quite raw in the UK. Been to NHS once, briefly mentioned my symptoms to the doctor and he said I’m probably just under too much stress.

Generally speaking, this doesn’t normally happen to me. There are just moments and sometimes these moments comes more often than usual.

Btw that should have read defence not detente, I was just going by your photo that appears to be in a USAF rig, and your terminology.

Best of luck."

7 years in the states, doing the best I could to remove the accent and improper words

May all be well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any ex vets or police on here with PTSD or flashbacks?

Please share your experience and if it has affected your social & sex life.

Those who doesn’t directly have these problems need not comments

Thanks"

What’s an ex vet? A struck off veranarian or some one reenlisted?

Did NI, Kos, Sirra Leone, SA (on contract security an that was fun) and PMC Work, door Work, CP work, seen some horrid things, really really nasty shit. But I never had PTSD or associated survivors guilt. Yet a guy I know was in the RLC as a chef gets it terribly badly, an his was one tour of bastions cook house. Strange init?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really recommend a treatment called EMDR. It is available on the NHS although you may need to do some digging to find the appropriate referral route for your area - is it GP, is it counselling first, is it self-referral etc etc. It teaches the brain to re-process the trauma in a way you can cope with - for me it took 8 sessions and I was done, no more nightmares, panic attacks, flashbacks etc. Absolutely amazing thing. It's very intense but worth the hard work for the effect that it has. "

Thank you, I’ll have a look on their site

Good luck to you, and wish you remain a healthy life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any ex vets or police on here with PTSD or flashbacks?

Please share your experience and if it has affected your social & sex life.

Those who doesn’t directly have these problems need not comments

Thanks

What’s an ex vet? A struck off veranarian or some one reenlisted?

Did NI, Kos, Sirra Leone, SA (on contract security an that was fun) and PMC Work, door Work, CP work, seen some horrid things, really really nasty shit. But I never had PTSD or associated survivors guilt. Yet a guy I know was in the RLC as a chef gets it terribly badly, an his was one tour of bastions cook house. Strange init? "

I’m glad you have non of the problems others go through whether you chose to do it or not.

I never wanted to carry, it’s the area I lived in was absolute shite because I was a student at that time.

Hope you found humour in this post to have a joyful evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really recommend a treatment called EMDR. It is available on the NHS although you may need to do some digging to find the appropriate referral route for your area - is it GP, is it counselling first, is it self-referral etc etc. It teaches the brain to re-process the trauma in a way you can cope with - for me it took 8 sessions and I was done, no more nightmares, panic attacks, flashbacks etc. Absolutely amazing thing. It's very intense but worth the hard work for the effect that it has.

Thank you, I’ll have a look on their site

Good luck to you, and wish you remain a healthy life"

CBT therapy is BTW the one recommended currently

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