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Why do men get so nasty and horrible when a lady said no you are not my type or just said no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is no need to be nasty and horrible if you get rejected or you don't get a reply just man up and grow a set then move on or does it make you feel big making ladies cry and upset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry about that, I wasn't aware of my behaviour.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Bruised ego. The poor sausages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bruised ego. The poor sausages"
you think all men act like that?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For me I don’t mind no, for me it’s the meh in clubs. If you asked someone said ok sorry nice chatting but not our play type - Would be ok fair enough happy days move on, or not now come and find me later.

It doesn’t make me angry or rude. Just a bit hmmm - I say there word confuduled.

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Because they're emotionally stunted and feel overly entitled?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women can be just as bad

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By *ools47Woman
over a year ago

Failsworth

Because they think how dare a woman not want this amazing specimen of manhood,

I've had all sorts of abuse in the time when I did reply with a 'No, sorry. Now I just delete a lot less hassle.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Because they think how dare a woman not want this amazing specimen of manhood,

I've had all sorts of abuse in the time when I did reply with a 'No, sorry. Now I just delete a lot less hassle."

See I know I am not everyone’s cup of tea. That makes it more fun trying to find out if I am or not

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By *ittlevixenWoman
over a year ago

Mold North Wales


"There is no need to be nasty and horrible if you get rejected or you don't get a reply just man up and grow a set then move on or does it make you feel big making ladies cry and upset "

I get abused via message all the time whether I don’t reply or message back saying sorry you’re not my type.

Ive has to result to blocking from the offset now as it’s easier, not my preference but I don’t want to be abused either

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bruised ego. The poor sausages you think all men act like that?"
i didn't say all I know lots do I've seen the nasty messages they get and not nice

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By *ittlevixenWoman
over a year ago

Mold North Wales


"Because they think how dare a woman not want this amazing specimen of manhood,

I've had all sorts of abuse in the time when I did reply with a 'No, sorry. Now I just delete a lot less hassle."

I tried delete and they tend to message again wanting to know why you deleted their message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is no need to be nasty and horrible if you get rejected or you don't get a reply just man up and grow a set then move on or does it make you feel big making ladies cry and upset

I get abused via message all the time whether I don’t reply or message back saying sorry you’re not my type.

Ive has to result to blocking from the offset now as it’s easier, not my preference but I don’t want to be abused either"
and you shouldn't get abuse on here it's about having fun not being pissed off with all men

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"There is no need to be nasty and horrible if you get rejected or you don't get a reply just man up and grow a set then move on or does it make you feel big making ladies cry and upset

I get abused via message all the time whether I don’t reply or message back saying sorry you’re not my type.

Ive has to result to blocking from the offset now as it’s easier, not my preference but I don’t want to be abused either"

Two suggestions ..

1. If it causes you grief change something.. the site provides tools to prevent single males or any of gender from messaging you.. that would .vastly cut down on the abuse. You choose who can message you by instigating contact.

2. continue as you are.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"There is no need to be nasty and horrible if you get rejected or you don't get a reply just man up and grow a set then move on or does it make you feel big making ladies cry and upset

I get abused via message all the time whether I don’t reply or message back saying sorry you’re not my type.

Ive has to result to blocking from the offset now as it’s easier, not my preference but I don’t want to be abused eitherand you shouldn't get abuse on here it's about having fun not being pissed off with all men "

Pissed off with some men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person can be male or female,some might take it bad some may take it with a pinch of salt and think nothing of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time i got abuse for saying i wasnt meeting atm...something it clearly states on the profile..so now i no longer respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad you mentioned it. I'll stop doing it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The men (or women) that send abusive messages are pathetic -wouldn't say these things to your face. Keyboard warriors- sad people.

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By *iverpool LoverMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Maybe change the title of thread to "why do some people get nasty when they are told sorry but your not my type"

As in my experience this isn't just a man thing, I've had a nasty message or two when I've declined an offer from women.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Never really received much abuse .... maybe I scare them by the profile

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London


"Bruised ego. The poor sausages you think all men act like that?"

No. Only the ones respond with hateful nonsense when they get knocked back. Keep up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no need to be nasty and horrible if you get rejected or you don't get a reply just man up and grow a set then move on or does it make you feel big making ladies cry and upset

I get abused via message all the time whether I don’t reply or message back saying sorry you’re not my type.

Ive has to result to blocking from the offset now as it’s easier, not my preference but I don’t want to be abused eitherand you shouldn't get abuse on here it's about having fun not being pissed off with all men "

Its not all men that is the problem..

Just the entitled few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being rejected is part of the lifestyle. Have the dignity to say "No worries it was nice talking' and a thick enough skin not to take it personally.

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

To be honest only weve had a few abusive replies to "not for me sorry "

And they were not all from single males, we get rejected thats just part of fab "oh well move on" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience it’s not only guys that do this, infact it was very rare that we received nasty messages in any form from guys.

People can be dicks, not just guys. A nice bit of virtue signalling there though OP

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I haven’t experienced this. When I politely say ‘no thank you’ I normally receive a message thanking me for my response.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

If I can rejected and someone has taken the time to say that I normally will write back and say thanks and happy swinging in the future

I know this sounds silly is that people do talk in this scene and one bad reaction can have concequeces

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair, I rarely get this

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Doesn’t bother me in the slightest

I think it’s quite funny when they get nasty and can’t take a polite rejection

It’s just when they say....I could change your mind or how could you possibly not want me

Get a bloody life and move on

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Been rejected is not nice it’s part of life on Fabs , dating sites , jobs , promotion just move on no need to be nasty about it.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

It's not often I get knocked back mainly due to the fact I don't ask or chase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn’t bother me in the slightest

I think it’s quite funny when they get nasty and can’t take a polite rejection

It’s just when they say....I could change your mind or how could you possibly not want me

Get a bloody life and move on"

Lol, I like this... I love the "so I'm not your type then?"

Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos there not real men simple as that really not mature enough to handle rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why anyone should get nasty with anyone. I've had the same from women when I would much prefer a thanks but no thanks or even no reply at all instead of nasty comments.

I just think those who do reply in a nasty way have no respect for anyone. It also demonstrates what sort of person they are and confirms they're not someone you should meet up with.

I like to think I'm polite and diplomatic in my replies positive or negative and if someone says no to me then I accept that and respect that I'm notvwhaf that person is looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe change the title of thread to "why do some people get nasty when they are told sorry but your not my type"

As in my experience this isn't just a man thing, I've had a nasty message or two when I've declined an offer from women."

I’ve been told on a few occasions the choice language some women use when rejected, not to mention trying to sabotage future meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not experienced that.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

why are you so worried, as a decent bloke yourself you'll reap the benefit of other blokes being twats.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"There is no need to be nasty and horrible if you get rejected or you don't get a reply just man up and grow a set then move on or does it make you feel big making ladies cry and upset "

My Hero. Where's the horse?

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

It's cald a lak of respect.

Sumthing that a lot seem to have from wot I've hard.

That sed most people in the forms do have respect for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women can get the same btw but only when they are on tgeir period.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"why are you so worried, as a decent bloke yourself you'll reap the benefit of other blokes being twats. "
I'm not worried but I think they do spoil fab by being nasty when they don't get what they want and make lots of women on here leave you know what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s entitlement.

They think because we are on a site like this they are entitled to have sex with us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s entitlement.

They think because we are on a site like this they are entitled to have sex with us. "

I could say the same ! I am not JUST a nice body I have feelings !

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

You don't want to know the wsy some women react when they are rejected...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s entitlement.

They think because we are on a site like this they are entitled to have sex with us.

I could say the same ! I am not JUST a nice body I have feelings ! "
long as you have a big cock they don’t care!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s entitlement.

They think because we are on a site like this they are entitled to have sex with us.

I could say the same ! I am not JUST a nice body I have feelings ! long as you have a big cock they don’t care! "

I don't have that either !

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

No excuse for an rude or abusive message.

However...I've been on here just over a year and I can count the number of arsey responses I've had on one hand.

I don't get thousands of messages a week but I do generally get a few hundred.

I send a "nice but not for me" message, and 99per cent of them accept it.

Am I just lucky or do different vibes/pics/messages attract different responses?

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By *illy2018TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

It's their way of congratulating you for making the right choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of a generalisation, I’m pretty chill when I get told I’m not what they’re looking for. Rejection is 9/10ths of Fab, best get used to it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I no I'm not everyone's cup of tea but I wouldn't go as far as being nasty to someone just cause they say I'm not there type take it on the chin move on

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