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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

How empathetic are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Depends on the situation "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How empathetic are you?

"

I think I am most of the time but it depends a lot on what the empathy is for...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It get too much for me sometimes

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Very. Doesn't mean I sympathise though.

I think empathy is oft misunderstood.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I think that I'm usually quite good at empathising with people.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Hmm. Very in some instances, not so much in others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably TOO caring and soft for my own kind.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

I try to be but will admit to sometimes not being..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on whether i have been in a similar situation to the other person...

if not i can sympathise

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"How empathetic are you?

"

Selectively very empathetic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How empathetic are you?"

Why?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Very. Doesn't mean I sympathise though.

I think empathy is oft misunderstood."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm one extreme or the other x

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"How empathetic are you?

Why? "

Reading some of the threads this evening made me think how some posters would score on an empathy test.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How empathetic are you?

Why?

Reading some of the threads this evening made me think how some posters would score on an empathy test. "

I completely empathise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Probably overly so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not very. I dont get why people get upset with stuff like death, especially pets.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.

"

Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If I have experienced the same situation as someone, I can empathise with them.

If I haven’t, then I’ll try to put myself in their shoes and sympathise with them.

Unless I think they’re being a tool, in which case I’ll call them a twat.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Not very. I dont get why people get upset with stuff like death, especially pets."

Is that because you think of death as just a simple part of life and happens to all of us?

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Very I can empathise with most things.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Very. I've been trying to instil into my children how important being empathetic is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not very. I dont get why people get upset with stuff like death, especially pets.

Is that because you think of death as just a simple part of life and happens to all of us?

"

Maybe, ive seen family, friends visably upset by death or a situation and im just not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I'm very empathetic but if I'm in bad form then I can be very dismissive. Depends too on the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.

Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.

"

It is also wonderfully fascinating, but frustrating when you feel something but can’t express it in words.

Also, it’s just a “read” on emotions and sensing stuff. Not knowing exactly what someone thinks etc (I wish I did, I might be luckier in love!)

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.

Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.

"

For me, with humans especially, it depends on the relationship, I have learned of necessity to block. With animals I am far less able to do that, and animals I love I have no defence against, I cannot disconnect and they feel that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a little bit. I'm a block of wood I think.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Not very. I dont get why people get upset with stuff like death, especially pets.

Is that because you think of death as just a simple part of life and happens to all of us?

Maybe, ive seen family, friends visably upset by death or a situation and im just not. "

What, if anything, would move you to tears?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Honestly I'm very empathetic but if I'm in bad form then I can be very dismissive. Depends too on the situation. "

I think it's healthy to be able to tune out the empathy sometimes.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Sometimes I don't want to feel empathy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My good lady is very empathetic and compassionate and always try’s to see the best in people. I’m slightly more hard bitten and cynical so I think we compliment one another very well.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.

Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.

It is also wonderfully fascinating, but frustrating when you feel something but can’t express it in words.

Also, it’s just a “read” on emotions and sensing stuff. Not knowing exactly what someone thinks etc (I wish I did, I might be luckier in love!)"

I think the lust/love signals we send out block the accuracy of the "reads". They are there but we add caveats to them.

Signed *Old and Very Single*

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.

Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.

For me, with humans especially, it depends on the relationship, I have learned of necessity to block. With animals I am far less able to do that, and animals I love I have no defence against, I cannot disconnect and they feel that. "

Isn't it that very connection that enables the work with them?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Maybe a little bit. I'm a block of wood I think."

Look up one of the tests and see how wood like you are. I suspect it's a soft wood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.

Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.

It is also wonderfully fascinating, but frustrating when you feel something but can’t express it in words.

Also, it’s just a “read” on emotions and sensing stuff. Not knowing exactly what someone thinks etc (I wish I did, I might be luckier in love!)

I think the lust/love signals we send out block the accuracy of the "reads". They are there but we add caveats to them.

Signed *Old and Very Single*

"

I’m still going to organise that session I was mooting with you btw. He and I were in discussion earlier this week!

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.

Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.

It is also wonderfully fascinating, but frustrating when you feel something but can’t express it in words.

Also, it’s just a “read” on emotions and sensing stuff. Not knowing exactly what someone thinks etc (I wish I did, I might be luckier in love!)

I think the lust/love signals we send out block the accuracy of the "reads". They are there but we add caveats to them.

Signed *Old and Very Single*

I’m still going to organise that session I was mooting with you btw. He and I were in discussion earlier this week! "

Over fried egg sandwiches.

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By *lbert_shlossedMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I can't empathise with most people, I just think differently and I'm not very emotional.

To me most things are very much matter of fact things of life and I struggle to understand what people are getting emotional over.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

all depends on the situation and how well I know the person personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea. I’m sure i don’t come across as empathetic but i can be. I’m quite a sensitive soul really.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.

Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.

For me, with humans especially, it depends on the relationship, I have learned of necessity to block. With animals I am far less able to do that, and animals I love I have no defence against, I cannot disconnect and they feel that.

Isn't it that very connection that enables the work with them?

"

It is for the kind of work I like to do yes, you'd be amazed how many people cannot connect with the horses they ride though.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Yes very empathetic if I have been through a similar situation as

someone else..

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

Very; need to be for the vol work I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.

Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.

It is also wonderfully fascinating, but frustrating when you feel something but can’t express it in words.

Also, it’s just a “read” on emotions and sensing stuff. Not knowing exactly what someone thinks etc (I wish I did, I might be luckier in love!)

I think the lust/love signals we send out block the accuracy of the "reads". They are there but we add caveats to them.

Signed *Old and Very Single*

I’m still going to organise that session I was mooting with you btw. He and I were in discussion earlier this week!

Over fried egg sandwiches. "

Hahahahaha yes! Exactly!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How empathetic are you?

"

I feel proper sorry for Dave and his big balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I'm very empathetic, it's a natural state of being for me, and I've developed it even more over 5 years of working in care or patient facing NHS jobs. That being said, if you catch me off work in a foul mood, it's like a different person

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Going by the dictionary definition of empathetic, I'm 50% there. I can understand people's emotions very well. I just don't feel it emotionally. I'm still seeing a therapist about it as it seems to be very deep seated. Trying to expand my emotional repertoire.

I was gutted to find out cheesy garlic bread wasn't an emotion..

This doesn't mean I'm a bad guy. It just means that when I do something nice it's because I have made a conscious decision to do it.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Sadly something that seems to be missing in today’s younger generation.

Personally I blame Social media.

Mr M

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Very but have learnt how to step back as it can be very overwhelming at times and not good for your own health

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Too much. It can be downright exhausting at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite empathic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too much. It can be downright exhausting at times."
cant it just

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Terrible at it.

Combination of work and aspergers has made it quite a challenge. It’s not that I don’t feel it I just don’t what to do with it. Overwhelms

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"Very; need to be for the vol work I do "

Same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly something that seems to be missing in today’s younger generation.

Personally I blame Social media.

Mr M"

Not entirely missing.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Terrible at it.

Combination of work and aspergers has made it quite a challenge. It’s not that I don’t feel it I just don’t what to do with it. Overwhelms "

Even without Asperger's it's not easy to know what to do with it and it can be overwhelming. It's something we learn.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Going by the dictionary definition of empathetic, I'm 50% there. I can understand people's emotions very well. I just don't feel it emotionally. I'm still seeing a therapist about it as it seems to be very deep seated. Trying to expand my emotional repertoire.

I was gutted to find out cheesy garlic bread wasn't an emotion..

This doesn't mean I'm a bad guy. It just means that when I do something nice it's because I have made a conscious decision to do it."

What do you mean cheesy garlic bread isn't an emotion? I'm devastated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very ! But more lunatic and bi polar than empathic though

I hate you #youknowwhoyouare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very ! But more lunatic and bi polar than empathic though

I hate you #youknowwhoyouare"

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"Going by the dictionary definition of empathetic, I'm 50% there. I can understand people's emotions very well. I just don't feel it emotionally. I'm still seeing a therapist about it as it seems to be very deep seated. Trying to expand my emotional repertoire.

I was gutted to find out cheesy garlic bread wasn't an emotion..

This doesn't mean I'm a bad guy. It just means that when I do something nice it's because I have made a conscious decision to do it.

What do you mean cheesy garlic bread isn't an emotion? I'm devastated.

"

That was a very traumatic session. Worse than when recounting that my second cousin's neighbours' plumbers' friends cat was poorly. There were real tears that day.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

I’m very empathetic

It’s the other arseholes who don’t have a clue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I’m in the right frame of mind I can be deeply empathetic, other times I’m too distracted, disinterested or self absorbed to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid to say that age and experience has somewhat dulled my natural empathetic nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Empathy goes hand in hand with my job, I finished my shift last night emotionally and physically exhausted. Whilst I was waiting for the lift, I noticed a lady, I ended up giving her a hug that she so desperately needed, she was so grateful that I understood her. I felt every emotion she felt, the grief, the sadness and the worry and had tears in my eyes afterwards. You know they don’t call us angels for no reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sry empathetic, to my own downfall at times. I have been taken advantage of because I do care too much. Plus emotionally I find it hard to take a step back and I want to solve everyone’s problems x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True empathy is impossible, a persons perception of everything they witness is shaped by many things in their life and all we can ever do to try and understand it, is build a crude replica from pieces from are own experiences.

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