FabSwingers.com forum: Why worry

By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Has anyone else seen the clip of a guru giving a speech about the most powerful 5 letter word?

In it he talks about a flow diagram that goes as follows

Do you have a problem? No. Why worry?

Do you have a problem? Yes. Can you do anything about it? No. Why worry?

Do you have a problem? Yes. Can you do anything about it? Yes. Why worry?

I'm trying to adopt this as my personal mantra now.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

It's a good way to approach things, particularly if you're prone to worrying and overthinking

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

My sister has been using that for years. She describes it as the pointless emotion.

I worry about her.

I go with, It will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not yet the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's how my best friend lives her life and it's brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good thread OP.

I've been trying to think that way for quite a while now and it does work. Most of the time anyway.

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

I'm one of lifes worriers, but have slowly learnt not to worry so much as hubby pretty much lives by that mantra.

I also try and find something joyful everyday, no matter how small - I certainly feel a much happier person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a natural born worrier.

It affects my nerves so much sometimes that I shake and feel very unwell.

I'm stressing about flying on Friday so got some sedatives, but I could do with some right now.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Another good thing I was taught was think of problems as weather.

Can you do anything about the weather? No. So why worry about it?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

https://youtu.be/9YRjX3A_8cM

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

imo bad advice.

There are things you can change and things you can't. The key is to focus on what you can change and not worry about what you can't.

What is up to you, your emotions, judgments, attitude, perspective, desires, decisions which a lot of people blame others for.

What is not up to you

Weather, the economy, circumstances (yes and no), other people’s emotions, judgments, trends, disasters etc.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"imo bad advice.

There are things you can change and things you can't. The key is to focus on what you can change and not worry about what you can't.

What is up to you, your emotions, judgments, attitude, perspective, desires, decisions which a lot of people blame others for.

What is not up to you

Weather, the economy, circumstances (yes and no), other people’s emotions, judgments, trends, disasters etc."

That's exactly what it's saying.... Can you do something about a problem? Yes. Great, then why worry? No? Then why worry.... It's going to happen anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"imo bad advice.

There are things you can change and things you can't. The key is to focus on what you can change and not worry about what you can't.

What is up to you, your emotions, judgments, attitude, perspective, desires, decisions which a lot of people blame others for.

What is not up to you

Weather, the economy, circumstances (yes and no), other people’s emotions, judgments, trends, disasters etc.

That's exactly what it's saying.... Can you do something about a problem? Yes. Great, then why worry? No? Then why worry.... It's going to happen anyway. "

There’s a gert huge asteroid on collision course with earth. I can’t do owt about it, but I’m damn well gonna worry about it!

But yeah, I get the idea. The thing is the theory is a bit black and white - in reality you *might* be able to do something about a situation but it might be a struggle to achieve it.

eg debt worries. Can you feed your kids next week? Telling someone not to worry about it is all well and good, but life isn’t as simple as that!

For most trivial matters though I agree with the sentiment, and indeed I tend to let things wash over me and let what will be, be if I can’t directly influence it!

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By *ocbigMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

No worries

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