FabSwingers.com forum: For all those coping with not-quite-so-good mental health...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Kudos to you. Keep fighting.

(from the current queen of high functioning black doggies)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Great thread.

You're stronger than you know. You are enough as you are, and you deserve to be happy and well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending hugs, it’s a hard slog but you will get through it. That black dog is a persistent companion x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We can get through those doggy days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Peace, love, empathy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

xxxxx

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By *otYourUsualGirlWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Aww. You lot are awesome. x

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Great thread

Stay strong

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

We can do it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not alone

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Hugs of support to all..

And remember...

When you're going through hell, keep going....

Same applies to Scunthorpe

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Hoping that there’s a break in the clouds for anyone feeling in a dark place.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I must admit the black dog seems to have been out of my sight for a while now. I’m aware that it can at least creep into my peripheral vision at any given time but for now, it’s being kept at bay. It is nice to know that there are people on here that understand and empathise though. I’ve never actually had that before x

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Great thread...it's nice to have some uplifting positivity...I currently have my black dog in fir a visit...she's quite settled it seems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good thread, this week has been hard, constantly riddled with self loathing and telling myself I'm not good enough to achieve what I want to.

Keep pushing through it, the tide always goes out eventually.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

yeah i'm starting to believe that everyday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the best way to keep the black dog of depression in his kennel is to keep busy. Even if that means going out for a walk for no reason. I started a project rebuilding an old car just to keep the brain and hands working.

Never doubt yourself even when old Blackie is sat beside you. Just find some set of silly things to do. Sitting and thinking about it doesn't help. Well IMHO.

Posi vibes to all living with any hidden illness. Keep going because you ARE worth it

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

This too shall pass...

Be kind to yourself and try to do something positive every day, that might just be getting up and brushing your teeth today but it's something and tomorrow you can build on that

Love to all

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

A few folk know that I've had some bad days over the last several months... It's sort of nice to know I'm not the only one, but then i hate thinking of others suffering dark times.

Today was really bad, my birthday should have been fun, lots of people sent nice thoughts. I just ended up feeling alone and getting old

Maybe it'll look better after a night's sleep.

Kisses everybody, Polly xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Black dogs ?

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By *arctMan
over a year ago

West of the bann

Yes depression is a big problem I have problems . But getting out of bed early is a great start to the day. Be positive guys/folks. It's great to talk I think about it

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By *arctMan
over a year ago

West of the bann

Talking is best I feel

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

It's amazing how the fab community pulls together like this. I get more comfort from this thread than I do my own family....it's very isolating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing with a black dog is you have to train it. Make it behave. It might not go away, it loyal. But you need to show it who is in control.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

The black dog has been snapping at my heels since the age of 7. Funny enough my actual pooch is black and is my best mate

Can't recommend CAT (Cognitive Analytical Therapy) enough x

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

This is why i love fab. You have a bad day and the forums help pull you out of the dark. Spec love the funny posts but this one is so sweet ty x

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By *heislanderMan
over a year ago

cheshunt

"The black dog has been snapping at my heels since the age of 7. Funny enough my actual pooch is black and is my best mate

Can't recommend CAT (Cognitive Analytical Therapy) enough x"

Your pooch is your best friend because of you, dogs are great judges of character.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to chat with anyone x

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By *mushkittenWoman
over a year ago

manchester

As a 30 yr bi polar eating disorder riden fuk up i say yeh n ty my love. We all all hsve issues n problems we wear mask to hide behind until the day we meet tjat 1 person who says hey you its ok not to be ok we all have issues n days we cant cope n nots not a bad refection on who yor are so yeh bi polar n pround coz to really know me is to find how to love me n in in this day n age thats not a bad think darlins x

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By *mushkittenWoman
over a year ago

manchester

Ps spellings shite coz an on the pinky gin but you get my drift hopefully lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The black dog had me round the throat for 33 years. Approximately 10 weeks ago I took the black dogs teeth out

Our life is good, for the first time Im happy and content ..... I no longer have to take the black dog for a walk everywhere I go or pick up it’s shit in the garden..... you can do this.... I’m living proof.... never, NEVER STOP TRYING XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have depression, anxiety and stress. Struggling at the moment despite taking anti depressionts, having counselling and taking measures to fight it all. This past few weeks has been difficult but probably due to the stress of other health issues. I will win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate that dog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not alone

Trouble is, when that dog arrives you really are alone

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By *airycubbyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Just come out of it after 6 weeks. I work in mental health and all of the above is great. Be kind to yourself and others if you can; try being busy and get some exercise (can be indoors) and reach out of course xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That black dog usually wakes me up around 03:00 every morning. Then I can’t sleep as I’m in fear of what this day willl bring and if I can cope? I seem to escape when I’m running, I find I relax then and enjoy it. The endorphins help but the positivity/uplift is short lived and the cycle is set to repeat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mental health is not so good and I am coping.

Only the brave have scars (visible or not) so as you say OP, keep fighting keep positive.

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've put my black dog to bed many times since my early twenties, only for him to keep rearing his ugly head, it's hard, and lonely, but back to bed he goes....

I feel we can all relate to all your comments, and is good to know we're not alone.. keep fighting the fight x

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

"Black dogs ?

YouTube it.

From another fighter xx

B xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's with all the doggy hate?!?

Haha

The dark voice is mischievous. It wants to convince you it's not pessimism... it's brutal reality... it's not negativity... it's scientific objectivity... it's hard cold fact. It isn't. It's bullshit. Once you've awoken to that realisation several times after being held under its spell, you begin to catch on that it's just a highly manipulative, deluded, malicious voice of self destruction... and you start to try to stop listening to it and put it in the box it deserves to go in. A task that's easier said than done.

The real truth... the True truth is much more loving, inspired, beautiful, and generous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending love and positivity to all that need it

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's with all the doggy hate?!?

Haha

The real truth... the True truth is much more loving, inspired, beautiful, and generous

Winston Churchill referred to his dark days as his 'black dog'. Would have to agree with you soulful

Fuzz

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By *atural-born-thrillerMan
over a year ago

oulton broad

He makes random guest appearances just when I think I’ve sent him away to the kennels .then it’s a case of just going out there and hiding behind the smile and the humour .its nice to know there’s people on here who care x

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By *onny69sMan
over a year ago

Donny

The black dog is certainly snapping at heals lately.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Love and zen hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Utube "self compassion" it may help you all.

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By *lanPartridgeMan
over a year ago

nottingham

We are alone and No One can help. This is not negative by the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Living with someone who has suicidal depression has really tested my mental health to the limit. Its hard. Really hard. I've had no support from anybody and most people just don't understand.

I wasn't given an instruction booklet and there were no guidelines upon diagnosis that I could bring home that detailed how to handle it. There is certainly no way to foresee how things are going to work out. I feel totally shut out of the situation, completely helpless, not needed, unimportant and useless. I've been on a roller-coaster for 8 years of my life.

I really feel for anybody who suffers from it or lives with someone who has it. It's a terrible disease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to say, my inbox is open to anyone who wants to chat, I have had PTSD and it does actually help some people to talk to complete strangers.

If anyone wants to , I am here.

Charlie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt know if i was but good look to those that are

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Kudos to you. Keep fighting.

(from the current queen of high functioning black doggies) "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am currently suffering with anxiety, depression and a complete lack of self confidence, especially in the bedroom. My misses loves this lifestyle, but I am struggling. I know I want to enjoy it as much as her (I have had a rubbish sex life so far), but my head gets in the way all the time. It's an exhaustive downward spiral.

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