FabSwingers.com forum: abusive messsges

By *good-being-bad OP Man
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I Read often that ladies and others (I've had one abusive message myself) receive abuse for various reasons..

I often read folk are on other dating sites apps etc..

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Do you suffer the same type or level or do you get any abuse on other sites you might be a member of ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m quite lucky, I don’t think I’ve had any direct abusive messages. I did have one guy bad mouthing me to others (alleging I was barebacking loads of women) because he was narked someone met me before him .. but other than that Fab has been relatively abuse free for me (to my face, anyway! God only knows what is said behind my back!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a man threaten to r*pe me when he was turned down but he was reported and blocked...next!!!

No such abuse on the dating site I'm on though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok. What makes an abusive message abusive.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

nope I have received worse abuse on here than any other sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had abuse on here ranging from outright racism, to insults about my size, looks, and everything in between.

When I was on a dating site it was no different, a polite “No thanks but good luck in your search” would get me abuse and someone even going as far as to find me on Facebook to send me abuse via messenger there too!

All it does is verify that I was right to not meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get messages full stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I had a few of those aggressors in my years of being on fab.

For eg.

When I say no, it means no, yet some people can't accept no as an answer.

Or when people don't believe me and make assumptions of their own and oooh gag me with a block.

On the whole it's not too bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've probably had a handful of abusive messages at most.

I have had one female member badmouth me to her meets and potential meets. Going so far as showing them my face pic and making up extraordinary lies.

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

Have had one or two messages that could be termed unstable but the vast vast majority are spot on , whether interested or not

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I don’t tend to get abusive messages luckily. I don’t have anything to compare it to because I’m not on any other sites.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I've had it about my age and the number of veri's i've attained

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By *ovingittwoCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Had someone turn quite aggressive a while ago, descended pretty quickly from flirty messages to very full on. I know this is a sex site but we are all people with feelings x

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Yeah exactly most people don’t see that

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Like I’ve had abuse and accusations that I’m cheating on a partner which I don’t have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In six years I’ve only had 3 or 4.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"In six years I’ve only had 3 or 4. "

Very lucky

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

The worst we have had is the ‘your birds fat anyway’ after being knocked back. Just laugh at how sad it is and block

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In six years I’ve only had 3 or 4.

Very lucky"

I guess so

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"In six years I’ve only had 3 or 4.

Very lucky

I guess so

Luckier than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In six years I’ve only had 3 or 4.

Very lucky

I guess so

Luckier than others

I’ve never had an abusive message as a reply. Only as first message.

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By *verageguy123Man
over a year ago

Selby

I got a load of abuse and called fake a couple of weeks ago after turning down a meet with a local woman because my daughter was at home and asleep. I wouldn’t mind but I was polite about it and got 7 abusing replies before pressing the beloved block button

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"In six years I’ve only had 3 or 4.

Very lucky

I guess so

Luckier than others

I’ve never had an abusive message as a reply. Only as first message. "

I’ve had them as both first messages and replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few on here at the start, fewer now as I’m more ruthless in how I handle rubbish, short messages from guys typing with one hand.

I’ve had it on the one dating site that I use when I shut down a rather leering approach from someone.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It seems worse here, for whatever reasons

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Never had any really, certainly not on this profile.

On my original single female profile I had a run in with a strangely deranged lady who met somebody I met before me and decided to follow me from his and trash my car then badmouth me to anyone who had verified me. Police were involved

Never had the problems with abusive messages when I've said no thanks others seem to have though

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"Never had any really, certainly not on this profile.

Never had the problems with abusive messages when I've said no thanks others seem to have though

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crank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id love an abusivie message... Any message will do haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my first week back I had 3 abusive messages, think it was because they assumed I was a newbie. All reported. Had 1 abusive message on pof when I was on there for not replying but never had abuse anywhere else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up dating sites. I got the usual crap from guys I'd declined.

but I think I get worse here. if I reply politely with a no thanks, then I'm a fat slag they didn't want anyway

if I ignore the initial message I get a second message telling me I'm being reported for not replying (yes this has just happened)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On my first week back I had 3 abusive messages, think it was because they assumed I was a newbie. All reported. Had 1 abusive message on pof when I was on there for not replying but never had abuse anywhere else "

Its sad that people feel the need to abuse others..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one guy call me a slut for not sending him pussy pics..

And another guy because I hadn't had time to meet him (single mum of 3) he said it was people like me that are the reason people like him are single and that i would have a gaping cavern for a pussy... I tried to message back but he'd blocked me!

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

A few, always reported and block.

Just wondering if reporting actually does anything? Three strikes and out? A caution? Time on the naughty step?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get abuse on here, but it doesn't bother me. They are the ones who have an issue, usually jealousy fuelled or they are annoyed that I won't meet them, or I've met others and not them, or I've met someone that they have and can't handle it, all sorts of reasons. That is their problem and not mine.

I'm not on any other site to compare with.

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By *mushkittenWoman
over a year ago

manchester

I have little time in life for myself so no i dont tolerate abuse or vile behaviour in any part of of my life its block delete report n if the fuker wont fuk off its dexter knives deep water n kill kit time lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily for no abusive message have been sent to us but plenty of dan right rude ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've probably had a handful of abusive messages at most.

I have had one female member badmouth me to her meets and potential meets. Going so far as showing them my face pic and making up extraordinary lies."

I had something similar. She is a complete weirdo! Started new male profiles to get around my filters to abuse me. All sorts of weird and wonderful stuff!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a man threaten to r*pe me when he was turned down but he was reported and blocked...next!!!

No such abuse on the dating site I'm on though."

Same (wonder if it was the same idiot),said he was going to r*pe all my holes. Vile excuse of a man. Doubt he’d had been impressed had someone spoken to his wife/mother/daughter/mum in that manner.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"I've had a man threaten to r*pe me when he was turned down but he was reported and blocked...next!!!

No such abuse on the dating site I'm on though.

Same (wonder if it was the same idiot),said he was going to r*pe all my holes. Vile excuse of a man. Doubt he’d had been impressed had someone spoken to his wife/mother/daughter/mum in that manner."

Interestingly, I get a LOT more abusive messages on dating sites, and I always reply back to them using their own words but putting a reference to their mum in there. Amazing how many of them get offended about that.

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

I've had a couple in 8 years, because the guys in question couldn't handle being told 'not interested'. Nowadays if I'm not interested I tend to block the sender before deleting their message. Sometimes they are silly enough to make new profiles to try and have another go but they soon get reported.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some abusive messages at the weekend is why I have temporarily removed any kind of profile pic...some women need to worry about their own lives and not mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had them before but they don’t phase me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only a couple - a tranny in Worthing that I wasn't interested in and a chap in Northampton because I didnt want to meet him.

Neither bothered me one jot and in fact both made me laugh - but then I dont get many messages so had the time to laugh about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had someone turn quite aggressive a while ago, descended pretty quickly from flirty messages to very full on. I know this is a sex site but we are all people with feelings x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some abusive messages at the weekend is why I have temporarily removed any kind of profile pic...some women need to worry about their own lives and not mine

If they don't like your profile pic, all the more reason to show it. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nope I have received worse abuse on here than any other sites"

Sorry to hear that

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Keyboard warrior scumbags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some abusive messages at the weekend is why I have temporarily removed any kind of profile pic...some women need to worry about their own lives and not mine

If they don't like your profile pic, all the more reason to show it. x"

Oh it'll be back, bigger and better than before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of incoming messages pass me by as in they get bulk deleted, so I might have had more than previously thought.

I’ve actually had more abusive messages from Facebook group pages / forums that I’ve joined in with than I can recal from here, although these are minimal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only had two unpleasant messages, and that was because they were knobbers.

I have found if i’m polite then i get politeness back. In fact all the men seem glad they even got a reply, regardless of the content.

Never had abuse on any other sites.

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By *illyKMan
over a year ago

milton keynes

I quite like it! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never received any abuse on here from anyone . When saying no to someone we do usually block after to filter them out . Maybe that’s why ?

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Not exactly abusive, maybe arsey. I get that all day in my work and I’m pretty damn good at giving it back. I find it hard sometimes to not reply, which is what I want to do. But really they’re not worth my time. I block. I don’t delete, I leave the message, let’s my husband see it, it also helps fuck with their mind why I never deleted it but blocked them!

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ok. What makes an abusive message abusive.

Abuse.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

We've had some vile messages. Really, what does it achieve?

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By *good-being-bad OP Man
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

From this small sample seems to be 'fab' is worse for abusive messages than the dating sites..

I see comments periodically that folk see the same folk on other dating sites( I'm on a couple of others )as well as this site and wondered if there was a correlation.

Twunts seems an appropriate word for all who send abuse.

Perhaps a more in depth study is needed where are our friends at Sydney university when you need them..

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I have several unpleasant replies after saying no thanks to people. I seem to get a lot of grief if I tell people that I am not meeting at present due to family issues or health. Apparently at that point I should leave the site, as chatting and attending a club and getting to know people is timewasting and makes me a teasing whore. Who knew it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this one loads of pof after not responding: "you're disgusting snyway. I should have just messaged you on fab instead and got a quick shag from you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get this one loads of pof after not responding: "you're disgusting snyway. I should have just messaged you on fab instead and got a quick shag from you.""

Hahaha. I got this from someone who tried to add me on Facebook and sent me a message via messenger wanting a date.

I politely told him that even if he did go on to contact me on Fab (I checked me Look @ me and there he was) it would still be a big fat no.

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By *onnyJohnMan
over a year ago

Doncaster

Only had a very very few of what could even remotely be described as abusive messages and have certainly never ever sent any on this or any other site... I can't understand the need to send them, even in response to getting one, just block them.

Even should one get a simple "no thanks" then either don't reply and leave it at that or reply and thank them for their time and wish them well, I'll never understand the need to get abusive.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Had one, but on another site, nothing bad here at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I have had one abusive message, in the 2 and a half years I have been on here, for saying "no thank you". Had one almost begging and telling me I was for him, when I told him he wasn't for me. The only real abuse I've ever gotten was from other females, via status updates and messaging guys to tell them how disgusting I was and if they had met me they had no standards or if they had even only spoken to me they would not meet them. One used to pretty much message the nearest guys to her, that had met me in any capacity, to tell them that she would never meet them because they knew me

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Best just to ignore them.... they need to grow up

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Worse on here as many have a sense of entitlement. Couples and singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Worse on here as many have a sense of entitlement. Couples and singles. "

Im entitled to you

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I've had a few trying to be abusive over my profile saying it's pathetic but I've actually laughed as life's to short to worry about it.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Worse on here as many have a sense of entitlement. Couples and singles.

Im entitled to you

Move to Cornwall then lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Worse on here as many have a sense of entitlement. Couples and singles.

Im entitled to you

Move to Cornwall then lol.

Maybe a holiday tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few. Normally when I say thanks but not for me. I just report and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually get abuse when I say No, sorry. Guys send a message giving me compliments liking my pics and profile, saying they tick all my boxes. But when I'm not interested then they suddenly change their tone and say I'm not their type.. Really? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get much abuse because I don't reply to messages whose profiles I'm not interested in.

Works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve only had two unpleasant messages, and that was because they were knobbers.

I have found if i’m polite then i get politeness back. In fact all the men seem glad they even got a reply, regardless of the content.

Never had abuse on any other sites. "

I find men are usually nice when I reply.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We’ve never had any abusive messages - the worst we ever received was a woman sending us ‘???’ when we said we didn’t want to meet, so we’ve been pretty lucky really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess weve been lucky not had any abusive messages not that ive seen anyway but Im sure hubby would of told me if we had

we rarely reply to messages so maybe thats y

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh I've had multiple..

Some saying how disgusting I look and I shouldn't be in here as I'm too fat..

Some not liking I'm online and haven't yet read their message so have started saying I'm a whore and a time waster

Some not liking the phrase no and then posting face pic and kik name for everyone to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've probably had a handful of abusive messages at most.

I have had one female member badmouth me to her meets and potential meets. Going so far as showing them my face pic and making up extraordinary lies."

Jesus what the hell is her issue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've probably had a handful of abusive messages at most.

I have had one female member badmouth me to her meets and potential meets. Going so far as showing them my face pic and making up extraordinary lies.

Jesus what the hell is her issue?

I've no idea! She was a popular forumite too.

She's gone now so my fab life is a lot more enjoyable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being on fab has been the reason for most of the abuse ive had on vanilla sites ... apparently it makes me disgusting and pity the man who meets me and thinks i am a good person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've probably had a handful of abusive messages at most.

I have had one female member badmouth me to her meets and potential meets. Going so far as showing them my face pic and making up extraordinary lies.

Jesus what the hell is her issue?

I've no idea! She was a popular forumite too.

She's gone now so my fab life is a lot more enjoyable

I’ve had similar from a former female forumite too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all the time I have been here I have only ever received real abusive messages from one guy and that was only last week. I didn't retaliate just answered ok or yes. Reported him!

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