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Moral Dilemma 1

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So heres the dilemma

You just found out that your partner has been texting a meet you had recently, it has been getting quite intimate, and find out that there was discussion about a one on one meeting between the two.

What would you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask them?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'd be less than impressed if that was out of our agreed limits.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Would first of all be dependent on how you found out.

Also, was this all open?

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

With this meet was it a social ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dump them for me the trust would be gone

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Arrange to meet as a couple again and have it out with both of them face to face.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It was not a social, and it was done secretly.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I would stop the swinging and have a discussion to see if I thought we could get over it or not...I don't think I would though, never been in that position so hard to say. Good luck.

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....


"It was not a social, and it was done secretly."

Ask lots of questions, that’s not acceptable.if the boot was in the other foot how would they react?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So heres the dilemma

You just found out that your partner has been texting a meet you had recently, it has been getting quite intimate, and find out that there was discussion about a one on one meeting between the two.

What would you do?"
put the house in your oldest sons name

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish


"It was not a social, and it was done secretly."

Hope you can talk and sort this... I'm not sure I could get over a breech in trust like that. Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was not a social, and it was done secretly.

Hope you can talk and sort this... I'm not sure I could get over a breech in trust like that. Good luck xx"

Strong relationships survive all sorts if both partners believe it's worth it.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

The whole point of a 'swinging relationship' is the openness & honesty.

There shouldn't need to secrets or sneaking round.

If there is, then I'd be wondering what else thst person had kept secret from me, and whether they were the right person for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s an interesting question and one that happens surprisingly often!

It’s why I often smile when in the regular cheater-tarring threads all the couples say how loved up they are and how disgusting cheaters are and how they’d happily give up swinging if their partner wanted to stop etc, when I know full well from direct personal experience and those of very trusted friends that the ‘let’s meet 1 on 1 but don’t tell my other half’ thing happens very frequently!!

I don’t know if this is a ‘real’ scenario or just a hypothetical situation to stimulate debate but I guess all you can do is have an adult to adult talk and discuss it through, understand where each is coming from, reset boundaries and hope you can move forward from there!

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By *forfuntimesCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"The whole point of a 'swinging relationship' is the openness & honesty.

There shouldn't need to secrets or sneaking round.

If there is, then I'd be wondering what else thst person had kept secret from me, and whether they were the right person for me "

This all the way

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I'd put them in a full nelson

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It was not a social, and it was done secretly.

Hope you can talk and sort this... I'm not sure I could get over a breech in trust like that. Good luck xx

Strong relationships survive all sorts if both partners believe it's worth it. "
whats strong about a relationship when ones being dishonest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was not a social, and it was done secretly.

Hope you can talk and sort this... I'm not sure I could get over a breech in trust like that. Good luck xx

Strong relationships survive all sorts if both partners believe it's worth it. whats strong about a relationship when ones being dishonest"

People make mistakes. We're all only human. Nothing is black and white.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish


"It was not a social, and it was done secretly.

Hope you can talk and sort this... I'm not sure I could get over a breech in trust like that. Good luck xx

Strong relationships survive all sorts if both partners believe it's worth it. "

This is very true, but trust is so important.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Ask her what she was planning on wearing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask them?"

This

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It was not a social, and it was done secretly.

Hope you can talk and sort this... I'm not sure I could get over a breech in trust like that. Good luck xx

Strong relationships survive all sorts if both partners believe it's worth it. whats strong about a relationship when ones being dishonest

People make mistakes. We're all only human. Nothing is black and white. "
i agree nothing is black and white. There is absolutly know reason for my partner to break my trust as we do have a strong relationship. If they couldnt be honest the relationship is broken and id be gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask her what she was planning on wearing"
bib and brace set with 6" stilettos

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Ask her what she was planning on wearingbib and brace set with 6" stilettos "

Steel toe cap stilletos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd fire them

I'd ask them what they playing out.

Dirty laundry discussion is a betrayal of trust.

A bit like veris... All they supposed to be is a description of what that person is and a true likeness to what there profile says. Not an in depth knowledge of how the fuck was or suck was

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare


"So heres the dilemma

You just found out that your partner has been texting a meet you had recently, it has been getting quite intimate, and find out that there was discussion about a one on one meeting between the two.

What would you do?"

Depends on what 'rules' you guys laid out at the start. Either way you need to confront them about it.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Talk to them and find out what is going on. If it is outside of our agreed boundaries then need to clear up any misunderstanding.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Secret messages are not part of a swinging relationship. It's all about trust an honesty. When my fiance and swinging partner met someone behind my back.. ..i gave him chance to explain and then booted him out.

If it is not what you agreed, then think if you could ever trust them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did you find out? Did they tell you about it? If it’s all been done in secret and it’s not what you agreed between yourselves for your swinging life, then I’d ask them outright.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Partner as in my husband? He'd get stabbed x

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"I dump them for me the trust would be gone"

x storm x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How did you find out? Did they tell you about it? If it’s all been done in secret and it’s not what you agreed between yourselves for your swinging life, then I’d ask them outright. "

Casually looking at their texts perhaps?

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