FabSwingers.com forum: Time to reply

By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

i'm a go with the flow sort of chap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but I found out that if you don't reply inside 24 hours you get blocked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with the flow.

If I message someone new I delete the sent one. I had a reply 4 months after sending one which resulted in a meet.

People have lives outside FAB I sometimes take a couple of days to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with the flow...no need to rush

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just go with the flow.

If I message someone new I delete the sent one. I had a reply 4 months after sending one which resulted in a meet.

People have lives outside FAB I sometimes take a couple of days to reply."

I’m still awaiting, maybe

I’ll get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never really know what's going on in anyone's life, how important this place is to them, how many other messages they've got, etc, etc. Best not to stress about reply times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are to be limits

Do I have to set a diary reminder too

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"There are to be limits

Do I have to set a diary reminder too

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I've actually just discovered I've been blocked by a bloke that seemed perfectly decent...I can only presume it was because he wasn't getting instant replies....well ..I do work,study, look after my child by myself and run a house....fancy not being glued to my phone 24/7

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I just go with the flow like it depends on how long the message is

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Depends on the conversation, if it's casual there's no time scale but if it's just before a meet it needs to be pretty prompt!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm guessing some guys do because I wrote a nice reply 3 or 4 days after I got the message only to press send and get the dreaded 'sorry you can't send mail to this user'. So I counter blocked the impatient git!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply as soon as I discover the message. Don't get many so it is easy to keep on top of.

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By *ools47Woman
over a year ago

Failsworth

"There are to be limits

Do I have to set a diary reminder too

I've actually just discovered I've been blocked by a bloke that seemed perfectly decent...I can only presume it was because he wasn't getting instant replies....well ..I do work,study, look after my child by myself and run a house....fancy not being glued to my phone 24/7

I have had the exact same thing happen today. Shouldn't have to apologise for working lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No but I found out that if you don't reply inside 24 hours you get blocked!"

I don't block like that. Not my thing

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"I'm guessing some guys do because I wrote a nice reply 3 or 4 days after I got the message only to press send and get the dreaded 'sorry you can't send mail to this user'. So I counter blocked the impatient git!!

I've had that with a few people because I told that I was busy working they blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with flow we all floating same river some just in different boats

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By *ymaleMan
over a year ago

nr Bradford

Go with the flow and don't get pissy about such things. Life's too short!

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Go with the flow and don't get pissy about such things. Life's too short!"

I’m not getting ‘pissy’ over anything. Not sure what gives you that impression.

My reason for the thread was the impatience of men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pfft, if they reply they reply, if they don’t then it’s their loss, sister! Move on!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

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Depends who it is, if you've got to know someone and been chatting a while then it's noticeable when the replies change but for the most part we the guys count ourselves lucky we get any replies

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

I've had very unpleasant abuse more than once for not replying within literally 20 mins to messages I didn't even know I'd been sent. I'd much rather they blocked me if they feel that bloody strongly about it

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By *J647Couple
over a year ago

Daventry

We often reply late as a couple I always ask A & show her the message as we work different shifts it can take a while, do agree with other poster if its close to a arranged meet needs to be sooner rather than later.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Some women, especially the ones that post new pics almost daily, get a huge number of messages. I can be chatting to someone and then they post a new pic and my reply will get lost in the mix.

It can then take a while to get a response.

It would be good if messages from people on your friends list could be filtered or prioritised or flagged to distinguish them from the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it very strange that people block someone seating w reply

Like many have already said I just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* awaiting.... bloody predictive text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go with the flow and don't get pissy about such things. Life's too short!

I’m not getting ‘pissy’ over anything. Not sure what gives you that impression.

My reason for the thread was the impatience of men.

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awwww what guy you chatting to is getting impatient?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do, I have a blackbook but I am not 'racist' I have BLACK friend.

Btw you need to reply to the message I sent you 6 months ago.

#youknowwhoyouare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I do, I have a blackbook but I am not 'racist' I have BLACK friend.

Btw you need to reply to the message I sent you 6 months ago.

#youknowwhoyouare"
sorry but I've treasured that message and can't reply for fear of rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I do, I have a blackbook but I am not 'racist' I have BLACK friend.

Btw you need to reply to the message I sent you 6 months ago.

#youknowwhoyouaresorry but I've treasured that message and can't reply for fear of rejection "

#blessyou

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By *ymaleMan
over a year ago

nr Bradford

"Go with the flow and don't get pissy about such things. Life's too short!

I’m not getting ‘pissy’ over anything. Not sure what gives you that impression.

My reason for the thread was the impatience of men.

Sorry, not having a dig, just a general statement of my approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I do, I have a blackbook but I am not 'racist' I have BLACK friend.

Btw you need to reply to the message I sent you 6 months ago.

#youknowwhoyouaresorry but I've treasured that message and can't reply for fear of rejection

#blessyou"
for I have sinned, thankyou father

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Men get 'replies'?

What are these 'replies' of which you speak?

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Normally as soon as I see them, however if someone gets needy then the alarm bells start to ring and slow down deliberately. Then if that goes the way I expected blocks follow.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Assume no reply and can't ever be disappointed.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Assume no reply and can't ever be disappointed.

The thread is about the impatience of man....

I don’t sit waiting for replies to messages.

The Male brain is very strange!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Assume no reply and can't ever be disappointed.

The thread is about the impatience of man....

I don’t sit waiting for replies to messages.

The Male brain is very strange!!!"

Unless it's a clear no from us, in which case the reply is sent immediately, we take a while to reply. We want to make sure both of us read the message, both read profile and had a little discussion before replying. While this process is in progress we do get men messaging us again as soon as 2 minutes after one of us read the message asking where did they go wrong as we've not replied

That does help with our decision

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the other hand if it's clear from the message that our profile hasn't been read we adopt the attitude of "if you can't be bothered reading our profile we can't be bothered replying to your message".

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"Assume no reply and can't ever be disappointed.

The thread is about the impatience of man....

I don’t sit waiting for replies to messages.

The Male brain is very strange!!!"
I'll wager that guys reply to you much quicker on average than ladies reply to mine, sheer quantity of messages dictates that .

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Assume no reply and can't ever be disappointed.

The thread is about the impatience of man....

I don’t sit waiting for replies to messages.

The Male brain is very strange!!! I'll wager that guys reply to you much quicker on average than ladies reply to mine, sheer quantity of messages dictates that ."

It’s just the impatience of them. I have a life outside Fab. I may just hide the profile which is easier!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Assume no reply and can't ever be disappointed.

The thread is about the impatience of man....

I don’t sit waiting for replies to messages.

The Male brain is very strange!!! I'll wager that guys reply to you much quicker on average than ladies reply to mine, sheer quantity of messages dictates that .

It’s just the impatience of them. I have a life outside Fab. I may just hide the profile which is easier!!"
I'm not impatient ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

sort of, but I must confess that if someone cant in my opinion be bothered to reply after 24hrs I do block people not all but most. I find its just bad manners. I know you gals have a huge inbox but after 48hrs that's enough I think.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I don't message guys so can't comment .. Folk of all genders get impatient and message more than once before a reply..

I consider it another filter

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"Assume no reply and can't ever be disappointed.

The thread is about the impatience of man....

I don’t sit waiting for replies to messages.

The Male brain is very strange!!! I'll wager that guys reply to you much quicker on average than ladies reply to mine, sheer quantity of messages dictates that .

It’s just the impatience of them. I have a life outside Fab. I may just hide the profile which is easier!!"

No I get that, just answering your point about not waiting for replies, you probably don't need to. My original point is as a bloke to not expect a reply and if you get one, be happy.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

Harsh!

They may be on holiday or ill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bothered as long as iv said my bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

sort of, but I must confess that if

someone cant in my opinion be bothered to reply after 24hrs I do block people not all but most. I find its just bad manners. I know you gals have a huge inbox but after 48hrs that's enough I think.

Harsh!

They may be on holiday or ill."

Yeah possibly a bit harsh if Im honest.

But you can see they are or have been online and have read your message and have been active. I think for you guys its an easier way of the gals rejecting you and not having to bother saying No Thanks. Which is ok and that's how I tend to treat it so I block, not all but most.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

sort of, but I must confess that if

someone cant in my opinion be bothered to reply after 24hrs I do block people not all but most. I find its just bad manners. I know you gals have a huge inbox but after 48hrs that's enough I think.

Harsh!

They may be on holiday or ill.

Yeah possibly a bit harsh if Im honest.

I show on line 24/7 but I’m not on line as such as I have a life away from here. You’re generalising all ladies on here the same, we are not all the same. I reply to every message and only block the ones who tend to annoy or expect too much from me. Yes you’re harsh (joke)

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"Assume no reply and can't ever be disappointed.

The thread is about the impatience of man....

I don’t sit waiting for replies to messages.

The Male brain is very strange!!!"

I think you'll find that you are the unusual female here

Every female I've return absolutely obsessed about speed of reply of text messages and who's turn it is, etc. My current partner included.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really wait for a reply on here, I just go about my day and check now and then when I’m not busy. I’m happy to pick up a conversation a week later if that’s when they finally reply!

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Assume no reply and can't ever be disappointed.

The thread is about the impatience of man....

I don’t sit waiting for replies to messages.

The Male brain is very strange!!!

I think you'll find that you are the unusual female here

Every female I've return absolutely obsessed about speed of reply of text messages and who's turn it is, etc. My current partner included. "

Sorry who is replying? M or F please?

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Answer when I read them.

My message count is at 18, and sometimes it goes down as I get new ones and I never know I even got a new one.

I try not to just keep refreshing the inbox as its not healthy.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"Assume no reply and can't ever be disappointed.

The thread is about the impatience of man....

I don’t sit waiting for replies to messages.

The Male brain is very strange!!!

I think you'll find that you are the unusual female here

Every female I've return absolutely obsessed about speed of reply of text messages and who's turn it is, etc. My current partner included.

Sorry who is replying? M or F please?

M, but I can guarantee you F agrees, lol.

Not on here maybe, as replies don't matter, but I know I'm in trouble if I don't reply quickly enough to personal messages, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely go with the flow some reply some don’t simply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

sort of, but I must confess that if

someone cant in my opinion be bothered to reply after 24hrs I do block people not all but most. I find its just bad manners. I know you gals have a huge inbox but after 48hrs that's enough I think.

Harsh!

They may be on holiday or ill.

Yeah possibly a bit harsh if Im honest.

Your defo not the norm if you reply to all your messages as alas I don't get that. So what do you suggest leave the message open ? also what is the etiquette re deleting messages ? What I mean is if I sent a message didn't get a reply then find it deleted surely it means the ladies not interested or am I getting that wrong too ?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Some women, especially the ones that post new pics almost daily, get a huge number of messages. I can be chatting to someone and then they post a new pic and my reply will get lost in the mix.

It can then take a while to get a response.

It would be good if messages from people on your friends list could be filtered or prioritised or flagged to distinguish them from the rest. "

I agree completely with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some women, especially the ones that post new pics almost daily, get a huge number of messages. I can be chatting to someone and then they post a new pic and my reply will get lost in the mix.

It can then take a while to get a response.

It would be good if messages from people on your friends list could be filtered or prioritised or flagged to distinguish them from the rest.

I agree completely with this."
ahhhh like a fast pass, yes I want a fast pass

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

sort of, but I must confess that if

someone cant in my opinion be bothered to reply after 24hrs I do block people not all but most. I find its just bad manners. I know you gals have a huge inbox but after 48hrs that's enough I think.

Harsh!

They may be on holiday or ill.

Yeah possibly a bit harsh if Im honest.

I am different as I’m not meeting people but my profile isn’t up for comment. I’m polite and think all who message me deserves a reply even if it’s negative. I can’t speak for other women but I delete a message after I’ve replied to it unless it’s a friend or someone I’m chatting to.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Some women, especially the ones that post new pics almost daily, get a huge number of messages. I can be chatting to someone and then they post a new pic and my reply will get lost in the mix.

It can then take a while to get a response.

It would be good if messages from people on your friends list could be filtered or prioritised or flagged to distinguish them from the rest.

I agree completely with this.ahhhh like a fast pass, yes I want a fast pass "

You want everything you cheeky boy....

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By *rickyd72Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I definitely go with the flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never blocked over someone not reading my message. I do it myself, so it would be hypocritical if me to block someone for it.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

depends, sometimes i block if they open my message and they dont reply within 24hrs, especially when theyv been on line, obviously some people gets 100s of messages here and can't reply to them all,and why would they because they are not going to like every person who messages but surely if they read a message, like the picture then a few words dsnt take long....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

agreed that's my point its just about manners, I don't mind tellin to Foxtrot Oscar but just ignoring a mssg is just pants !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

agreed that's my point its just about manners, I don't mind tellin to Foxtrot Oscar but just ignoring a mssg is just pants !!

If you get a lot, you don't always see them. I'm not on my messages a lot. So as a result, I also miss a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

agreed that's my point its just about manners, I don't mind tellin to Foxtrot Oscar but just ignoring a mssg is just pants !!

If you get a lot, you don't always see them. I'm not on my messages a lot. So as a result, I also miss a lot

Fair Point Mystique x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care if I get a reply.

However on a previous profile I had to block a stalker who got her arse out if I didn't reply within a certain amount of time, would make barbed cimments if I got verified etc.

Now I give no fucks at all.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

agreed that's my point its just about manners, I don't mind tellin to Foxtrot Oscar but just ignoring a mssg is just pants !!

If you get a lot, you don't always see them. I'm not on my messages a lot. So as a result, I also miss a lot

so you missed my 300 messages??

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

agreed that's my point its just about manners, I don't mind tellin to Foxtrot Oscar but just ignoring a mssg is just pants !!

If you get a lot, you don't always see them. I'm not on my messages a lot. So as a result, I also miss a lot

so you missed my 300 messages??

jokes haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never blocked over someone not reading my message. I do it myself, so it would be hypocritical if me to block someone for it. "
you've never blocked someone for not reading your message? Why would anyone do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell me guys do you set your timers for how long we take to reply to messages or just go with the flow?

Can’t say why I’m asking as it would break forum rules!

sort of, but I must confess that if

someone cant in my opinion be bothered to reply after 24hrs I do block people not all but most. I find its just bad manners. I know you gals have a huge inbox but after 48hrs that's enough I think.

Harsh!

They may be on holiday or ill.

Yeah possibly a bit harsh if Im honest.

Nobody shows online 24/7.

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