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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What happen lately with Gp Practice and hospitals lately where in the old day they all have bed side manners when seeing someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m guessing they’re all stressed and under pressure but I’m lucky in that I really like my Doctor when I see him, good chap and always tells me things straight!

I guess as in all aspects of life you get good and not so good and it’s luck of the draw!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Are you always happy and approachable in your job OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who sees the NHS from both sides on an almost daily basis I'd say that 99.9% of the staff I see are incredibly dedicated and professional in the way they conduct themselves. Guess you've been unlucky OP.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I think overall they do their best in difficult circumstances. It’s not an easy role to have these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happen lately with Gp Practice and hospitals lately where in the old day they all have bed side manners when seeing someone?

Speaking as someone who makes regular visits to hospital, I think these comments are totally uncalled for.

Our NHS staff work exceptionally hard and considering how little they are given to work with.

I certainly have not found any member of staff who struggles with 'bedside manners', in fact I have found quite the opposite.

Maybe I am in the minority??

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"I think overall they do their best in difficult circumstances. It’s not an easy role to have these days. "

Agreed, you only have to see Panarma this week and the Dr who sadly played a part in a boys death, to see how difficult it is for the staff in general. The circumstances surrounding this event are more typical of what goes on than we'd imagine, so much to go wrong, yet they still just get on with it, when most would be going off on one in our own non-nhs job.

Biggest hugs to anyone working in these conditions x

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"What happen lately with Gp Practice and hospitals lately where in the old day they all have bed side manners when seeing someone?

Speaking as someone who makes regular visits to hospital, I think these comments are totally uncalled for.

Our NHS staff work exceptionally hard and considering how little they are given to work with.

I certainly have not found any member of staff who struggles with 'bedside manners', in fact I have found quite the opposite.

Maybe I am in the minority??"

For the last couple of years I have had to use the NHS. They were incredible with me at what was a very difficult time. I received excellent care right the way through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happen lately with Gp Practice and hospitals lately where in the old day they all have bed side manners when seeing someone?

Speaking as someone who makes regular visits to hospital, I think these comments are totally uncalled for.

Our NHS staff work exceptionally hard and considering how little they are given to work with.

I certainly have not found any member of staff who struggles with 'bedside manners', in fact I have found quite the opposite.

Maybe I am in the minority??

For the last couple of years I have had to use the NHS. They were incredible with me at what was a very difficult time. I received excellent care right the way through. "

So I am not the only one!

Hence why we think it is so unfair to make bad comments about them.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

OP ... what is it you want them.to say or do ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happen lately with Gp Practice and hospitals lately where in the old day they all have bed side manners when seeing someone?

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My GPs lovely very attractive to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP ... what is it you want them.to say or do ??"

We have come to the opinion that some people on here don't actually know what to post, hence they will post anything that might attract attention.

If you were to ask people from other parts of the world, our NHS is stll FAR better than what they have available to them.

What was it like in your old country OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a job for far too many now. Nothing like it used to be. A good nurse/carer now is worth their weight in gold as they are very rare x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, it would appear that all posters, bar the OP, seem to think the NHS does an incredible job. I think perhaps, reading between the lines, that a few of us have really needed the help of the NHS, rather than going to see the Dr. because you've got a cold.

Free at point of treatment, if you're ill you'll genuinely be seen quickly. 14 day pathway............

.......... C. works full time in the NHS and has done for 30+ years, it is by no means perfect and it is creaking at the edges, but to moan about "Bed Side Manner" is just poor form, what were you hoping for OP? A HJ perhaps? This isn't Carry on Nurse.

I'm angry and it's not even 8am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, it would appear that all posters, bar the OP, seem to think the NHS does an incredible job. I think perhaps, reading between the lines, that a few of us have really needed the help of the NHS, rather than going to see the Dr. because you've got a cold.

Free at point of treatment, if you're ill you'll genuinely be seen quickly. 14 day pathway............

I'm angry and it's not even 8am.

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HJ horse jump?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free at point of treatment, if you're ill you'll genuinely be seen quickly. 14 day pathway............

I'm angry and it's not even 8am.

Agree totally.

I would be nice to see a reply from the OP after making such a comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free at point of treatment, if you're ill you'll genuinely be seen quickly. 14 day pathway............

I'm angry and it's not even 8am.

The bedside manner you have in that type of job is the difference in it being just a job or you truly being one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free at point of treatment, if you're ill you'll genuinely be seen quickly. 14 day pathway............

I'm angry and it's not even 8am.

The bedside manner you have in that type of job is the difference in it being just a job or you truly being one x "
Being a carry on Nurse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have very regular appointments, mostly at hospital, but would apply the "they're wonderful in a really pressured environment" comment to GPs too.

C'mon, OP. Give them a break!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free at point of treatment, if you're ill you'll genuinely be seen quickly. 14 day pathway............

I'm angry and it's not even 8am.

The bedside manner you have in that type of job is the difference in it being just a job or you truly being one x Being a carry on Nurse?"

Feck aff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free at point of treatment, if you're ill you'll genuinely be seen quickly. 14 day pathway............

I'm angry and it's not even 8am.

The bedside manner you have in that type of job is the difference in it being just a job or you truly being one x Being a carry on Nurse?

Feck aff

x"
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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have used NHS hospitals a lot and I have never had any issues at all with " bedside manner". All staff start by saying. "Hello my name is ..." I am truly grateful for the NHS.

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

The NHS is such a hot potato that it is seen as poor form to criticise it; politically or even in a fab forum.

Yes, there are many dedicated staff, yes it is free to use, yes it is (perceived) as the envy of the world.

The reality, is that there are many who work within the NHS who let the good ones down. I did say many not few. Whether it is the way those I mentioned feel they have been treated by the “managers” administrators and bureaucrats. Perhaps that has ingrained a feeling of resentment. The long hours may also have a bearing. Frankly my experiences have often been very negative.

GPs who are, at best dismissive and condescending. I feel like I’m treated as a malingerer when presenting symptoms caused by an NHS procedure. A procedure that I was not given a full explanation of in advance either.

Prescribed drugs I was left on for way longer than was healthy. To the point where a blood test (that I organised) revealed imminent liver damage.

Being mixed up with other patients when in hospital. The wrong drugs being offered and thankfully ME again being the one who (through a fugg of morphine) spotted the error.

Having to run (with a serious spinal injury) to the nurses station because no one answered the buzzer when a fellow patient was choking.

NHS dentist performing knee jerk procedures with no acknowledgement towards future solutions. It was a dentist in Nepal who could not believe what the Uk dentist had done.

These are all things that I have experienced in the last ten years. So by all means support the NHS but please don’t be so blinkered that everything and everyone in it is perfect.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I have good bedside manners , i remove the knickes say good morning pussy , open wide ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being fair now, maybe you could tell us what bad things you have experienced OP?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

There are miserable buggers in every profession, the NHS is no different. I don't think it's getting worse in that regard though.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I think this might be a snowflake thing you know. Dr's and nurses haven't changed it'd just you can't say anything to anyone these days without offending them in some way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The is one GP in my local practice I refuse to see as his manner is abrupt and he never seems to actually listen to me. I'm guessing there are patients who think he is wonderful too though.

Remember they are people not just NHS staff and you can't always connect with everyone you meet. Also bear in mind it's a two way thing how you gel.

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

Remember they are people not just NHS staff and you can't always connect with everyone you meet. Also bear in mind it's a two way thing how you gel. "

I wanted to say that. That the staff are people like in other professional fields. They can have good days and bad days.

But bear in mind that they are people. People who often go the extra mile within their jobs and that is to be applauded. They are not super human saints and those with the power are by no means gods; in spite of what they may have had instilled whilst becoming specialists or surgeons.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

My doc for my leg condition is brilliant. My GF fancies the pants of him and part of that is not just how handsome he is but how kind and empathetic he is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would love to know what made you post this OP.

Care to share it with us??

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By *issmaliceWoman
over a year ago

Ipswich

The fact is as with anything it can be good and bad. Professionalism is not always demonstrated as it should be. I myself have worked in the health and social care sector for a number of years and experienced both the good and the bad.

It’s a definite delicate debate as ultimately the so called customers or even service users or patients are people, and that can unfortunately lie forgotten amongst the beaurocrats. As in any job people become complacent and the service is not as it should be.

It’s a long standing argument that many people can debate. Something as simple as a smile and a friendly approach can make all the difference. However with staff shortage and a highly pressurised shift the simple things lie forgotten.

As with anything it boils down to the ability of the individuals. Their compassion for the patient. Their knowledge. Their ability to fulfil the role. The duties required are of such importance that the behind the scenes things that mean the service suffer shouldn’t be an issue. And yet they are.

People have bad days. People crack. It’s basic human nature. And it’s something that really should not occur within this industry. People within healthcare should quite frankly care. They should make the time and the effort. Because good service makes all the difference.

The people seeking help are in a vulnerable situation so it becomes so much more than bad service at McDonald’s. This is peoples health. Peoples well being. The repocussions are so much more stark. It’s appauling to hear stories of the treatment people receive and the consequences of bad service. Of basic needs not being met and left ignored.

There are gaps everywhere within healthcare and the NHS is a shining example of this. The outstanding is remembered. The terrible is never forgotten. And the mediocre is common place. This is completely unacceptable.

I apologise if I went off topic but this issue is something that should be shouted about. Basic bedside manners are integral.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago Drs would talk over their patients, treat them as diseases instead of people, and make choices for them without even giving the options because "Drs knew best". Drs would often behave like they were a god.

However that was normal for that time so people didn't tend to complain about it. Not every health professional gets it right but I think in general things have improved.

Tink x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i not say anything bad about them i just wondering due to my last doctor always asking me about my family member when i seem him but now he become an mp so i do not see him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than happy to demonstrate my bedside manners if any lady requires!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i not say anything bad about them i just wondering due to my last doctor always asking me about my family member when i seem him but now he become an mp so i do not see him

Is any of that written in English?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i not say anything bad about them i just wondering due to my last doctor always asking me about my family member when i seem him but now he become an mp so i do not see him

My interpretation of your thread was that doctors did not have the same bedside manner these days as they used to. I think in anybody's book that's a critisism.

Personally, I've not experienced any difference over the years. Given the huge pressures doctors face in the NHS these days I find that remarkable. There are always individuals who we do not communicate with as well as we do with others but as the old saying goes...it takes two. Some people want to be mollycoddled and don't always want to hear advice. I'd rather have honesty delivered in a pleasant way and the high standard of care I currently receive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being honest, we feel that there are people who post controversial topics on here just to get a reaction, and therefore draw attention to themselves.

We still don't understand why they need to do it.

Doctors and Nurses are so over-worked it is unbelievable.

We know a Doctor who refuses to take a holiday in case her patients go without treatment. Now THAT is dedication and does not deserve bad-mouthing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My GP is an absolutely lovely guy, but there's a month waiting list to see him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this might be a snowflake thing you know. Dr's and nurses haven't changed it'd just you can't say anything to anyone these days without offending them in some way or another. "

I agree

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