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By *isces Woman OP   Woman
over a year ago

West London

I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah that's not good. What made you think that?

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Report!

What an utter arsehole if he did!

What makes you suspect he did?

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

If I'm doubt get yourself checked out - ASAP! If your suspicions are correct and he did 'stealth' you, he may have also done it with others.

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By *isces Woman OP   Woman
over a year ago

West London

But feeling he came over my tits although when I turned round he didn't have a condom on. He said he popped the 2 used ones in my bin in the bathroom only to find no wrappers or said condoms in my bin. Must have taken them with him.

Strange behaviour...

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By *isces Woman OP   Woman
over a year ago

West London

I fully intend to get checked. I haven't named him as yet

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I fully intend to get checked. I haven't named him as yet"

Don't name him on here, but you could report him to admin, not sure what they can do though.

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By *rodigalMan
over a year ago

sunderland

Not good x

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

It's a difficult one. I suspect the OP is probably right and he did stealth her and that's appalling behaviour , but if he didnt cum inside her, it can't be proven.. He would just say he did take the used condoms away with him and never said he put them in her bin.

I think it's a getting checked out and putting down to experience thing...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I fully intend to get checked. I haven't named him as yet"

Don't name him at all. Nothing can be done about it without evidence.

Take advice from the GUM clinic on the best time to get checked. I think that the day after sex would be too soon.

What you HAVE done is made it clear to forum users that you MAY have had unprotected sex. Best that you don't arrange any more meets until you are given the okay.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

When you speak to the GUM clinic ask for advice about evidence for a possible police prosecution. Or give the non-emergency number (101 I think) a ring for some advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be argued that this is a form of non-consensual sex if it was made explicitly clear to the arsehole in question that your meet was “safe sex only”. Could be wrong but I’m fairly sure that an incident like this is the very reason that Julian Asante is facing non-consensual sex allegations (or was) in Sweden as he had sneakily barebacked a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not cool at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would think the same that it becomes non consensual if he took the condom off without your permission.

In terms of testing, GUM advise 2 weeks before testing unless you develop specific symptoms sooner. You can go sooner but might need to test again after a specific time.

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By *isces Woman OP   Woman
over a year ago

West London

Getting tested, hidden profile taking time out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say it was definitely non consensual if you want them to use a condom and they carry on without. I had a hotel meet where he didn't want to wear one after we'd discussed before the meet I only play safe, he was supposedly fine with this. He said he'd pull out, I said he could fuck off and showed him the door. I sent a veri saying what an arse he was and what he'd done. He left the site shortly after. No one has the right to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear this OP and hope you're ok.

No point naming or reporting as nothing will be done.

Focus on yourself. Go and get checked out, I'm sure everything will be absolutely fine but your mind won't be at rest until you do.

Look after yourself OP. Big hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on Earth would someone do this?

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By *verageguy123Man
over a year ago

Selby

Totally disrespectful, personally I would always respect the wishes of others and hopefully have a repeat meet from it. Nobody should have to leave a meet with any worries about anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fully intend to get checked. I haven't named him as yet

Don't name him on here, but you could report him to admin, not sure what they can do though."
excommunicate him

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

It amazes me how many people try this sort of thing. It is bad enough having to control those who have safe sex only on their profile and then try and push for bareback during the meet but then agreeing to it and stealthing is just appauling.

I don't want ti be alarmist and I suspect the risk is small but whilst the advise on GUM visits is right for most STIs a visit within 24h would potentially allow PEP treatment if HIV is considered.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Trust your gut instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on....."

You started cowgirl with raincoat on? Did you not check he had put a condom on? You say you felt he came over your tits, then you turned around. Was that to proceed with doggy. If that was the case then surely you would gave known he didn't have a condom on and you turned to allow doggy. I'm just asking questions here I'm not condoning the action at all.

I never leave my condoms at the ladies house. I always take my mine away with me. Just as a precautionary measure and dispose at my place.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish


"I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on.....

You started cowgirl with raincoat on? Did you not check he had put a condom on? You say you felt he came over your tits, then you turned around. Was that to proceed with doggy. If that was the case then surely you would gave known he didn't have a condom on and you turned to allow doggy. I'm just asking questions here I'm not condoning the action at all.

I never leave my condoms at the ladies house. I always take my mine away with me. Just as a precautionary measure and dispose at my place."

Why? I mean taking the used condom away with you? Precaution of what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on.....

You started cowgirl with raincoat on? Did you not check he had put a condom on? You say you felt he came over your tits, then you turned around. Was that to proceed with doggy. If that was the case then surely you would gave known he didn't have a condom on and you turned to allow doggy. I'm just asking questions here I'm not condoning the action at all.

I never leave my condoms at the ladies house. I always take my mine away with me. Just as a precautionary measure and dispose at my place.

Why? I mean taking the used condom away with you? Precaution of what?"

Dont like leaving my seed at the scene .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on....."
you felt more sensation on the inward maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a court case a few years back a female stalker had rummaged through a married mans dustbin found a used condom and smeared the cum into her knickers and claimed she had been rxped by the man. Let's be honest there are some pretty strange people out there. Stealthing is something to watch out for in gay saunas, some many guys want bareback only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on.....

You started cowgirl with raincoat on? Did you not check he had put a condom on? You say you felt he came over your tits, then you turned around. Was that to proceed with doggy. If that was the case then surely you would gave known he didn't have a condom on and you turned to allow doggy. I'm just asking questions here I'm not condoning the action at all.

I never leave my condoms at the ladies house. I always take my mine away with me. Just as a precautionary measure and dispose at my place.

Why? I mean taking the used condom away with you? Precaution of what?

Dont like leaving my seed at the scene . "

I don’t understand this mentality. You’re happy enough to place your genitals inside someone else but you can’t trust that they’re not going to do ‘something’ with your ejaculate?! Perhaps you should meet people that you have built up a connection or trust with beforehand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to move away from the OP.

What happened to you sounds truly awful. I hope that things work out for the best for you.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I didn't know this had a name.

Are you still in contact with him or have you blocked him? I'd have a conversation to make it clear his behaviour is out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather random but have you checked its not actually inside you?

I had a meet where the condom had come off while inside. Luckily the gentleman I was with told me of the situation and we were able to remove it after some awkward rummaging and both arranged to be tested.

But maybe he felt embarrassed? It's no excuse but better to rule it out.

Hopefully he hasn't stooped so long as to stealth you. People that do this really are the scum of the earth

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's worth reporting as such details on record help to influence action to take - especially if not an isolated incident.

Consider how you could retain more visibility and control in future - it may limit choice but keeps you safer.

People behaving this way should be stopped and have sanctions and punishments as appropriate.

Should someone get pregnant, there's also an additional care need that helps support this incident being recorded.

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

Hot... but illegal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hot... but illegal "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im a bit confused. Was there ever a condom in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy did this to me 2 years ago so I know how you feel, he’s actually a member on here now aswell.

Thankfully all clear and no pregnancy scare but the wait is worrying.

I hope you’re okay & all results come back clear.

The fact your meet has hidden his profile is very very telling in my opinion.

If you have any female friends on here it would probably be a good idea to warn them of this person just in case. X

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By *endoverhappyMan
over a year ago

Darlington

Can I ask why you have a hidden profile too op ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask why you have a hidden profile too op ?"

She said why.

“Getting tested, hidden profile taking time out.”

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By *isces Woman OP   Woman
over a year ago

West London

He's popped back up so I've reported him to the admin bods.

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4


"He's popped back up so I've reported him to the admin bods."

All cLear then ? Should of reported to the police

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