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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

I'm currently losing my dad 2 cancer . He hasn't got long left and I have no idea what too do . Is there anyone that has or is going through this or somthing like this that fancys a chat .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through. I’ve lost both parents to cancer, so know how difficult it is.

Happy to chat.

MacMillan have a good online site too with lots of info.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to read your post.

Just be there for him in whatever way you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Sorry to hear that.

Waiting for test results for my dad.

Cancer sucks, just be there when they want you to be and make most of the time you have together.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

So sorry to read this.

We had my Uncles funeral today after he battled a tumour on his liver and then sepsis.

There aren't any words that canake it better but at the same talking does help.

There are loads of organisations that can provide emotional support to the family. Macmillan nurses are fantastic too and can also help put you in contact with people to give you support.

(((Hugs)))

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

I'm trying 2 be strong f9r my mum as she only has my dad . She is trying 2 do it on her own and won't except help .

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By *trawberry MojitoWoman
over a year ago

over the hill & far away, like Princess Fiona.

I lost my mum to cancer last year. Its horrible and all you can do is be there. Good luck and wishing you well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm trying 2 be strong f9r my mum as she only has my dad . She is trying 2 do it on her own and won't except help . "

You have to let people deal with it in their own way. My Mum was like that when my Dad was ill. If the MacMillan or District Nurses are coming in, maybe have a chat to them. They’re usually good to talk to and very helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dad has battled two lots of cancer and is living with prostate cancer regular testing found the growth on his kidney so the prostate saved his life if that makes sense. Just enjoy the here and now that's all I can suggest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm trying 2 be strong f9r my mum as she only has my dad . She is trying 2 do it on her own and won't except help . "

My mum is the same she's there for everyone else and she finds it hard to ask for help. But she is of to see family tomorrowill staying over so I am looking after dad so I am taking him to the pub lol x

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Sorry everyone 2 hear your sad news . Sending u all hugs . Maybe I should ask for help. I just find it hard asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something I've experienced but I do work in healthcare and see a lot of this. Didn't want to read and run. Just love your dad, enjoy the time you have together. So sorry to hear you're going g theory go this xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry everyone 2 hear your sad news . Sending u all hugs . Maybe I should ask for help. I just find it hard asking "

Mind me asking what cancer x

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I'm trying 2 be strong f9r my mum as she only has my dad . She is trying 2 do it on her own and won't except help . "

She also has you. Leave nothing unsaid.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Sorry everyone 2 hear your sad news . Sending u all hugs . Maybe I should ask for help. I just find it hard asking "

I'm sorry to read about your father, and your mother trying to cope with it all. You're finding it hard not to have help/someone to talk to about it so just ask.

See if you can get a MacMillan buddy. They might be able to persuade your mother to accept help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry everyone 2 hear your sad news . Sending u all hugs . Maybe I should ask for help. I just find it hard asking "

I have no words for you i'm sorry . ... my mum has days at most and i find it difficult .... all i can do share the love with you brother

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Was gallbladder wasn't noticed till it was stage 4 now spread all over

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

"Sorry everyone 2 hear your sad news . Sending u all hugs . Maybe I should ask for help. I just find it hard asking

I have no words for you i'm sorry . ... my mum has days at most and i find it difficult .... all i can do share the love with you brother "

Is horrible isn't it stay strong for her

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

One thing I have never been good at is asking for help but is about time I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make every day count and make memories.

My mum is battling cancer, even though its not been classed as terminal yet, its not looking hopeful

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By *agluvrMan
over a year ago

Airdrie

"I'm currently losing my dad 2 cancer . He hasn't got long left and I have no idea what too do . Is there anyone that has or is going through this or somthing like this that fancys a chat ."

I'm so sorry to read this. I lost my own dad to cancer 12 years ago next weekend, and I remember it like it was yesterday.

If you need to talk, feel free to drop me a PM anytime. I'm not always on here but when I am I'll be more than happy to reply to you. Best advice I can give you right now though is to make sure that he knows you're there and that you love him.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The only thing you can do is be there and provide support. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sharing virtual hugs to you all...

It's such a cruel disease x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm currently losing my dad 2 cancer . He hasn't got long left and I have no idea what too do . Is there anyone that has or is going through this or somthing like this that fancys a chat ."

There is very little you can actually 'do' that's part of it- the powerlessness.

I lost my Dad in November to pancreatic cancer and it's a horrible way to go.

The only thing you can do is spend whatever time you have as best you can with them.

And remember your mum is just coping the best way she knows how, try to be kind to one another. You are all running on heightened emotions at this time.

Practical help for you might include talking therapy- Macmillan or Mind could offer good, (free) help.

Sending platonic hugs x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

So sorry OP. I am supporting my sister in law with terminal cancer. We can't change anything but we can just love and cuddle them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One thing I have never been good at is asking for help but is about time I did "

So sorry for you, it's like a grieving process before their gone. Then it will really hit you and family. Stay strong, don't miss an opportunity to say I love you before you can't even if you have to say it even time you visit. It's going to be hard but you will get through it with support and good friends. Bless you and your dad. x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One thing I have never been good at is asking for help but is about time I did "

Absolutely Dap, find the courage from somewhere and do it.

I did it for something very different years ago and the help was phenomenal .. I still don't regret it.

Do it, and you can always pm me, you know that x

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Thank you so much for your comments send u all hugs x

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By *haneleviMan
over a year ago

Kidderminster

Just buried my grandad 2 days ago afyer suddenly dying of cancer. Was sudden, glad it didn't drag out though. Just works to family etc, don't keep it all inside like I did. Feel free to message also man. Helps to talk, especially if can relate with someone

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I lost my dad just over two years ago to lung cancer, I still can't get my head around it or how two years has passed already. He was far too young to die and there's so much that was left unfinished and things we didn't get to do together. I was with him when he died, me, my mum and his sister all holding him, that night still doesn't feel real but at least he went very peacefully. I can't really offer any advice as I don't think I'm dealing with it well myself, all I can say is be kind to yourself afterwards and let yourself feel whatever comes afterwards rather than bottle it up. Sorry that you're going through this, losing a loved parent is heart wrenching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm currently losing my dad 2 cancer . He hasn't got long left and I have no idea what too do . Is there anyone that has or is going through this or somthing like this that fancys a chat ."

My mum got diagnosed with colon cancer on Monday so at a different stage to you. It’s still a bit of a shock but if you need to talk then pm me. Sorry to hear about your dad. Sending hugs xxx

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

"I'm currently losing my dad 2 cancer . He hasn't got long left and I have no idea what too do . Is there anyone that has or is going through this or somthing like this that fancys a chat .

My mum got diagnosed with colon cancer on Monday so at a different stage to you. It’s still a bit of a shock but if you need to talk then pm me. Sorry to hear about your dad. Sending hugs xxx"

I can't atm but will be able 2 in 4 years. Sorry 2 here about ya mum

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Thanks everyone for ya comments

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

My dad passed away peacefully last Night at 23.20 . I no he would be very proud knowing on the 24th I will be 2 years drink and drug free x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

That's terribly sad I'm sorry to hear that,but yes your dad would be proud.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"My dad passed away peacefully last Night at 23.20 . I no he would be very proud knowing on the 24th I will be 2 years drink and drug free x"

Sorry for your loss op.

I'm sure your dad would be proud of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My dad passed away peacefully last Night at 23.20 . I no he would be very proud knowing on the 24th I will be 2 years drink and drug free x"

I’m sorry to hear that Dapstar , but yes your dad will be very proud of you x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"My dad passed away peacefully last Night at 23.20 . I no he would be very proud knowing on the 24th I will be 2 years drink and drug free x"

So sorry to hear about your Dad and yes of course he would be very proud of you, as I'm sure you are proud of yourself, a great achievement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry for your loss. Your dad is no longer in pain x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so sorry to hear that, your dad has no more suffering now. He would have been very proud of you and still is. Sending you hugs and thoughts are with you at this difficult time x

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Thanks everyone

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sorry OP

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Sorry to hear this OP. Stay strong honey xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for you OP. I lost my mother just weeks ago and ...it's a hard road you're on. Try to be strong and take care of YOU too. Sometimes talking to a stranger who is not emotionally invested in your family helps as friends and family are too close to the whole situation. Use ALL the help you can find. You're not alone. x

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By *agluvrMan
over a year ago

Airdrie

"My dad passed away peacefully last Night at 23.20 . I no he would be very proud knowing on the 24th I will be 2 years drink and drug free x"

I’m so very sorry for your loss. The milestone that you mentioned is one that you should be very proud of and take comfort in the knowledge that he will also have been proud of you.

The grieving process is a long and complicated one and it doesn’t go away, but if you need a bit of support reach out to those around you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MacMillan are shit ??.

My mum knows this!!

They never helped my dad with cancer.

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

So sorry for your loss

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Lost my mum in January to cancer. Some days still knock me for 6. Always free if you need an ear OP

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