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Thoughts on the wink.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So.. The wink button. What's the etiquette? Is it a hello or a can I message you? I have never been winker or winkee. Does anyone use it or just skip to the message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never check my winks. So I think they’re pointless personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just shows interest like a smile in a bar ,if the other likes the look could lead to more has for us a time or two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to bulk delete same with random friends requests lol

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Useless

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"I never check my winks. So I think they’re pointless personally "

I’m the same but seeing the counter thing on my homepage bugs me so I just go in and bulk delete. I don’t see the point of them.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

No I rarely look at who's winked so people need to message I think.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I don't mind them from people who have read what I'm looking for and even wink back if I like their profile.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I rarely check them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look but only to see which eejit didn't read the profile

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I ignore winks and bulk delete them every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, you see, the THEORY of the wink is very sound and if only everyone used them in the way that I assume they were intended they could be a great innovation, and dare I say actually one of the most useful features of the site!

So many ladies complain that they get loads of messages from unsuitable men.

So many men complain that they spend ages writing messages to women, only for them to be deleted or ignored.

Surely, if everyone used the wink system PROPERLY, a wink would signify initial interest. If reciprocated, then this would open up the opportunity to start a message exchange - and then it would be up to the parties involved to ensure they made it interesting enough to sustain correspondence.

But it would cut out the ‘wasted’ effort from unwanted long messages up front if everyone played the game!

I know many people consider them lazy, but spending 20 minutes writing a bespoke piece of prose to every person that takes your fancy is more of a waste of time if you don’t appeal to the person who you’re writing to!

An initial wink wink exchange would solve this!

But sadly, unless most of the site change their attitudes to winks then they’re largely useless!

Which is a shame!

(p.s. always happy to receive winks here!! )

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By *unstargangstarCouple
over a year ago

romford

Love the wink button. I can check who it is then check through their profile and see if we like them. Them message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, you see, the THEORY of the wink is very sound and if only everyone used them in the way that I assume they were intended they could be a great innovation, and dare I say actually one of the most useful features of the site!

So many ladies complain that they get loads of messages from unsuitable men.

So many men complain that they spend ages writing messages to women, only for them to be deleted or ignored.

Surely, if everyone used the wink system PROPERLY, a wink would signify initial interest. If reciprocated, then this would open up the opportunity to start a message exchange - and then it would be up to the parties involved to ensure they made it interesting enough to sustain correspondence.

But it would cut out the ‘wasted’ effort from unwanted long messages up front if everyone played the game!

I know many people consider them lazy, but spending 20 minutes writing a bespoke piece of prose to every person that takes your fancy is more of a waste of time if you don’t appeal to the person who you’re writing to!

An initial wink wink exchange would solve this!

But sadly, unless most of the site change their attitudes to winks then they’re largely useless!

Which is a shame!

(p.s. always happy to receive winks here!! )"

But i only usually get winks off men who are totally unsuitable ...

Too short/too far away/too married.. they are more of a chance their arm type of wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, you see, the THEORY of the wink is very sound and if only everyone used them in the way that I assume they were intended they could be a great innovation, and dare I say actually one of the most useful features of the site!

So many ladies complain that they get loads of messages from unsuitable men.

So many men complain that they spend ages writing messages to women, only for them to be deleted or ignored.

Surely, if everyone used the wink system PROPERLY, a wink would signify initial interest. If reciprocated, then this would open up the opportunity to start a message exchange - and then it would be up to the parties involved to ensure they made it interesting enough to sustain correspondence.

But it would cut out the ‘wasted’ effort from unwanted long messages up front if everyone played the game!

I know many people consider them lazy, but spending 20 minutes writing a bespoke piece of prose to every person that takes your fancy is more of a waste of time if you don’t appeal to the person who you’re writing to!

An initial wink wink exchange would solve this!

But sadly, unless most of the site change their attitudes to winks then they’re largely useless!

Which is a shame!

(p.s. always happy to receive winks here!! )

But i only usually get winks off men who are totally unsuitable ...

Too short/too far away/too married.. they are more of a chance their arm type of wink "

In which case don’t reciprocate - if everyone used winks PROPERLY (which I know they don’t!!) then they’d know it was no match and not message you!

Surely it’s better to get a wink off an unsuitable guy than have them waste 20 minutes writing a tailored message to you if you have no interest in them whatsoever. Win / win for both parties!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think ppl wink to show they like your profile if u wink back i guess u like theirs too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, you see, the THEORY of the wink is very sound and if only everyone used them in the way that I assume they were intended they could be a great innovation, and dare I say actually one of the most useful features of the site!

So many ladies complain that they get loads of messages from unsuitable men.

So many men complain that they spend ages writing messages to women, only for them to be deleted or ignored.

Surely, if everyone used the wink system PROPERLY, a wink would signify initial interest. If reciprocated, then this would open up the opportunity to start a message exchange - and then it would be up to the parties involved to ensure they made it interesting enough to sustain correspondence.

But it would cut out the ‘wasted’ effort from unwanted long messages up front if everyone played the game!

I know many people consider them lazy, but spending 20 minutes writing a bespoke piece of prose to every person that takes your fancy is more of a waste of time if you don’t appeal to the person who you’re writing to!

An initial wink wink exchange would solve this!

But sadly, unless most of the site change their attitudes to winks then they’re largely useless!

Which is a shame!

(p.s. always happy to receive winks here!! )"

Very well put. I like to receive winks & do send the odd one if someone's profile appeals,as a carefully composed message will probably be deleted or ignored anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a way to say that you want them for their personalities and not their physical attributes

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By *odestyB007Woman
over a year ago

Winchester

Really like the wink button, show some interest and see if it's mutual or says hi I'm back to old friends

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Completely harmless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my most memorable Fab friendships all started with a wino

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my most memorable Fab friendships all started with a wino"

Did it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my most memorable Fab friendships all started with a wino

Did it "

I think surely a few Pb

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my most memorable Fab friendships all started with a wino

Did it "

Frickin’ fat fingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, you see, the THEORY of the wink is very sound and if only everyone used them in the way that I assume they were intended they could be a great innovation, and dare I say actually one of the most useful features of the site!

So many ladies complain that they get loads of messages from unsuitable men.

So many men complain that they spend ages writing messages to women, only for them to be deleted or ignored.

Surely, if everyone used the wink system PROPERLY, a wink would signify initial interest. If reciprocated, then this would open up the opportunity to start a message exchange - and then it would be up to the parties involved to ensure they made it interesting enough to sustain correspondence.

But it would cut out the ‘wasted’ effort from unwanted long messages up front if everyone played the game!

I know many people consider them lazy, but spending 20 minutes writing a bespoke piece of prose to every person that takes your fancy is more of a waste of time if you don’t appeal to the person who you’re writing to!

An initial wink wink exchange would solve this!

But sadly, unless most of the site change their attitudes to winks then they’re largely useless!

Which is a shame!

(p.s. always happy to receive winks here!! )"

I completely agree with you on that. People who don’t check their winks are probably those who don’t check their messages either.

I had my first wink from fabbing a pic. I sent a message thanking them for the wink and paid a compliment. I got a message back. Now I don’t know if that was them being polite or if a prolonged chat will ensure. I think that was used properly.

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

x


"So.. The wink button. What's the etiquette? Is it a hello or a can I message you? I have never been winker or winkee. Does anyone use it or just skip to the message?"

I use it all the time .. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol...................of course the "wink" button is useful. About 2 mins ago i had a wink from a couple who's profile i had looked at. Nothing has happened yet. But peeps and "couples" in particular that just ignore and delete winks as a matter of course are missing out on all sorts is my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at the profiles of people who wink, and message if interested. Hate it though when you message reply to a wink and then get a blank or a "not interested". Maybe a lot of people wink without reading a profile.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

We see a wink as a kinda 'check me out'

Generally though it's from profiles with little effort put into them.

I'm a pictures gal - if I don't see anything I like then I won't wink back. 'XX'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always used winks. If we like the look of the winkee we will either wink back or message.

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Love the wink button. I can check who it is then check through their profile and see if we like them. Them message them. "

That’s what I do. Or if I’ve sent a wink and get one back I’ll then send a message.

XX

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