FabSwingers.com forum: Does true love exist?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love food

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love cheese

Cheese is my true love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love cheese

Cheese is my true love

Update**

We love food

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say it does, but I don't think it's this thing that just happens. It requires a little bit of effort, and a bit of investment on both sides. Feels are definitely real, and anyone who has been through a breakup they didn't want can tell you exactly how it feels when your stomach feels empty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love cheese

Cheese is my true love

Update**

We love food"

No... I love cheese

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a Disney myth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think it exists in the form it has been sold to us through myths, old tales and Hollywood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im dunno about tru love but im loving fab at the minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one."

The ONE can happen several times. I’ve found it with two people, it wasn’t forever but it happened and it was great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one.

The ONE can happen several times. I’ve found it with two people, it wasn’t forever but it happened and it was great. "

I like this

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes, it does. As lots of people have said it isn't the rubbish we're sold in books and films.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one."

You can have true love for someone. It’s the reciprocation that causes the problem.

If you both have an instant attraction an want the same thing. I think true love will follow. It’s no walk in the park though. An I think it’s on its way out. So many older generation, have been together 60 years. Your lucky if couples make 10 years today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my eyes I have found the one. As long as she feels the same I will do everything to ensure we remain together.

I fall in love with her more and more each day

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I believe in true love,absolutely, but I don't think it's limited to a one time offer in your life.

I think people sometimes miss someone lovely while they search for "the one" as there's no perfect fit we all have to wiggle and adjust a bit to make a life together.

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By *lbert_shlossedMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I love my mum and dad to bits, but sometimes I could str*ngle them!!.

Maybe it's true love when they really fucking annoy you at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe in true love,absolutely, but I don't think it's limited to a one time offer in your life.

I think people sometimes miss someone lovely while they search for "the one" as there's no perfect fit we all have to wiggle and adjust a bit to make a life together."

I never look for the next one, I look for the ‘one’ it may come along a few times but I grab it with both hands and enjoy it while it lasts.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I love coffee

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes it does Shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love coffee "

But do you shove the coffee beans into your human bean?

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Yes without a doubt. And at different levels.

I've found it twice, but the intensity of the two times is shockingly different.

And been in lust loads of times, and when younger mistook that for love, it wears off though.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

True love does exist but in my experience it is transient, it is very hard to capture and hold a feeling like that over a long period of time. People change over time both physically and emotionally and the light that burns twice as bright only burns half as long .

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Not a clue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *hatty479Man
over a year ago

Lewisham

"Don't think it exists in the form it has been sold to us through myths, old tales and Hollywood. "

Wait so I've been climbing towers, slaying dragons for nothing?! (Throws shield, goes to pub)

One of the problems when you're younger is definitly seperating lust from love. It's like years later, you think about past relationships and try to work out if you did love them or simply lusted after them, then try to work out if it was a shared feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think it exists in the form it has been sold to us through myths, old tales and Hollywood.

Wait so I've been climbing towers, slaying dragons for nothing?! (Throws shield, goes to pub)

Haha I am afraid so pal !

But yes, totally agree with you there. With time you realise or at least start to question that 'love' you had for your exes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the rear view mirror, yes !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a Disney myth. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to think so but for me it has not been found yet. I've been in long relationships where i thought from my side at least it was a genuine love only to find it was one sided.

One day maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have definitely been in love... a profound love. There is something timeless and more real than real about it. Like that moment is a beacon in time which still exists out there resonating and will do so forever more. And yet it is over now. Some people would dismiss this as an illogical impossibility. I think the nature of existence is more complex and poetic than our ape minds can ascertain. So maybe it's like Interstellar or something.

It sounds bizarre saying that I'm looking for "the one" again. But, again, there is maybe something of the dream about all this and maybe something extraordinary is true... a lover behind the fabric of reality calling to me to find her... like a cosmic game of hide and seek. I believe she's there. She was always there

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By *errysMan
over a year ago

milton keynes and kent

It does exist.

You can find it at child birth.

It is instant.

Its overwhelming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry if this derails the thread op (I hope it doesn't) but finding love is like finding god. You need to be open to falling in love. You need to be open and willing to have the experience. And if you are... and you're lucky. You *will* have that experience and it *will* be so extraordinary and recognisably different from anything else you experienced before that you'll immediately think "wow! so this is love!" or "wow! so this is god!"

As such, it is a real thing. It does exist. It can be replicated and is enough of a widespread phenomenon that the cultural "myths" about it aren't actually myths at all to many people.

Science will try to explain what it is in terms of the physical reactions that go off in the brain when you feel love. But what incites those reactions? And are those reactions creating the feeling of being in love or is the feeling of being in love creating those reactions?

People who have experienced profound love, as well as people who have experienced god, both describe these experiences as life changing and more real than real; that the rest of what life has to offer pales into insignificance; that the whole purpose of life is for those things; that they would happily give themselves over entirely to those things.

Again, I hope this doesn't derail your thread op but I felt this was an interesting comparison to make

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester

"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one."

Oh this one will run and run.

There'll be bucket loads of cynical, bitter comments rolling forth, many bitching that those who say it does exist are just kidding themselves.

Well we've managed many decades and it ain't dead yet. But then we've fought our way through good times, bad times, bereavements and loss together and come out the other side of it all stronger. comrades in arms as well as lovers. It will be so until death.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one.

Oh this one will run and run.

There'll be bucket loads of cynical, bitter comments rolling forth, many bitching that those who say it does exist are just kidding themselves.

It just doesn't get laid out on plate

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester

"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one.

It just doesn't get laid out on plate "

Exactly. Nothing worthwhile in life is ever easy-peasy fairyland and unicorns.

If it's worthwhile you put in the effort and you fight for it tooth and nail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love cheese

Cheese is my true love

I could just imagine tying you to your bed blindfolding you and feeding you cheese

You got to love cheese Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in love once.

Don't remember her name.

She was Brazilian; or Chinese, something weird.

I met her in the toilet of a Tesco Extra and we snogged for hours.

Then we parted ways, never to see each other again.

That's it right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it does exist. And if you find it and hold on to it you’re very lucky.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I didn't believe in love for a very long time. It always felt like an unchievable goal that fools chased.

Then we met and over time things slotted into place and it was like finding my missing piece.

Now, yes I absolutely believe it's real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100%. We believe it does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it does x

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I believe... and hopefully one day when the time is right it will happen! But in the words of Phil Collins... “you can’t hurry love....”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been in love, but I do believe it exists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my eyes I have found the one. As long as she feels the same I will do everything to ensure we remain together.

I fall in love with her more and more each day "

So nice to read! Congratulations, lucky both of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some, sure. For me, probably not.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes it does. Well my definition. I had no clue what it was or if it existed until i found it. 13 years on and when i think i cant love him anymore he says or does something and a new wave of love comes flooding through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it does. Well my definition. I had no clue what it was or if it existed until i found it. 13 years on and when i think i cant love him anymore he says or does something and a new wave of love comes flooding through"

That's beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For some, sure. For me, probably not. "

^this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry if this derails the thread op (I hope it doesn't) but finding love is like finding god. You need to be open to falling in love. You need to be open and willing to have the experience. And if you are... and you're lucky. You *will* have that experience and it *will* be so extraordinary and recognisably different from anything else you experienced before that you'll immediately think "wow! so this is love!" or "wow! so this is god!"

As such, it is a real thing. It does exist. It can be replicated and is enough of a widespread phenomenon that the cultural "myths" about it aren't actually myths at all to many people.

Again, I hope this doesn't derail your thread op but I felt this was an interesting comparison to make

Is that love or some sort of obsession though, sounds like a brainwashing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only just as my cock explodes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my eyes I have found the one. As long as she feels the same I will do everything to ensure we remain together.

I fall in love with her more and more each day "

Aww how lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one.

It just doesn't get laid out on plate

Exactly. Nothing worthwhile in life is ever easy-peasy fairyland and unicorns.

If it's worthwhile you put in the effort and you fight for it tooth and nail.

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sort of smitten with Pooch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my eyes I have found the one. As long as she feels the same I will do everything to ensure we remain together.

I fall in love with her more and more each day "

You charmer you

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yep I do, pretty sure SSS does too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is that love or some sort of obsession though, sounds like a brainwashing. "

Western education and reasoning tutors us over many years to approach the world with a certain mindset. That's a form of brainwashing. But we can unlearn it. For example, if you practice meditation it is possible to train your mind to silence the dvd commentary in it and experience the now with a profound hitherto unexperienced directness. From this can come a much more holistic experience of everything being interconnected that kind of flies in the face of much western thinking yet feels much truer to those who have had that experience.

Falling in love is, in a sense, like this. It's about allowing your mind to approach reality with a different mindset. Love is hidden from you. But you take that leap of faith that it will catch your fall. And it does. But if you don't leap it'll never catch you. It does exist. But you have to allow your mind the freedom to seek it out or you may not find it.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Yep I do, pretty sure SSS does too

TB"

Fuck yeah I do baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is that love or some sort of obsession though, sounds like a brainwashing.

You been watching Jordan Peterson videos on You Tube again ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it does, it’s subjective though isn’t it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe it does, but have yet to find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one."

I don’t believe I have ever been truly in love, so for me I struggle to accept it exists

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Makes me sad that a lot of people don’t believe in true love...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe it does, some people are lucky to find it at least once in their life x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It exists in my heart

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

No.

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By *renshiiCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one.

The ONE can happen several times. I’ve found it with two people, it wasn’t forever but it happened and it was great.

I like this

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. But it’s not like it is in the movies.

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By *renshiiCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

"In my eyes I have found the one. As long as she feels the same I will do everything to ensure we remain together.

I fall in love with her more and more each day "

Awww

that made me smile SO much.

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By *urity555Man
over a year ago

south west

I believe it does.

I’ve been in love several times before, but not like I have with Mr P.

Maybe age, wisdom, security in oneself , changes how your relationships work.

But he’s my best friend, my confidant and my lover.

There’s no jealousy or possessiveness. Just a deep mutual respect and adoration for each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We believe it does we been together 25 years,been through life’s tuff times supported each other in difficult times and couldn’t live without each other ,love one another’s company

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Will tell you in another 33 years time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe in true love,absolutely, but I don't think it's limited to a one time offer in your life.

I think people sometimes miss someone lovely while they search for "the one" as there's no perfect fit we all have to wiggle and adjust a bit to make a life together."

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I believe in a thing called love..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens, when it is reciprocated it is the best thing and it can last a lifetime, unfortunately some peoples lives are shorter than others and then it turns into the worst thing. I now understand how some die of a broken heart, it is actually quite difficult not to. Now I am just trying very hard to avoid ever feeling it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

met my wife when we were 15 still live her to bits shes my best friend and soul mate. I believe in true love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely, it's just being able to see it before it's too late!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one."

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love my mum and dad to bits, but sometimes I could str*ngle them!!.

Maybe it's true love when they really fucking annoy you at the same time

I am the same my mum drives me insane i love her totally but lately i could happily never see her again

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over a year ago

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

Yes of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive always thought if there is such thing as "the one" why would they live near you? They could live in timbuktu for all we know.

I personally think there are lots of people out there that are a good match so its not really the 1 its more like theres about 50,000 and hopefully you meet 1 of them out of the 7 billion on earth.

I think a lot of people settle aswell. Kind of take anyone an put up with all kind of shit but thats not living thats just existing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think by saying the 1 aswell. people convince thenselves that they cant live without a person or they will never love anyone the same again. So in a way you can be trapped in a relationship with "the 1" when there could be a better match out there.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Anyone who has children knows what true love is. It's being willing to sacrifice your life for theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now i agree with that.. unconditional love but some parents dont share our oppinion eg dads who walk out

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"I believe in a thing called love.. "

Sing the rest of it to me, you did that part so well

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"Yes. But it’s not like it is in the movies. "

Yes it's a lot better, there aren't weird staged obstacles and everything else blocking it.

Sometimes you can't actually live with somebody you are truly in love with. That's sad, and happened to me once, I have also lived with somebody I loved, but in a different way a lot easier and for a long time.

But this time as well as true love, and yes of course I would give my life for her without doubt, as I would my daughter, living with her is 100* better than when we were in love and apart. That has been a revelation, we are a much better whole than we were two parts. And I genuinely think only death could now part us.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Yes, but it's a lot messier than Hollywood portrays it.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"Yes, but it's a lot messier than Hollywood portrays it."

Seriously, not for me either time.

All Hollywood love stories just jump from disaster to misery to disaster then eventually end up OK. I couldnt live like that!

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