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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi i would like some advice please abd opinions, i am wanting to visit a club for the first time but im so nervous abd scared ! Im bbw so that worries me that ill get there and be sat in corner all night looking awkward .on my first visit i just want to go for the social side i think and get a feel for what its like , things that are bothering me are what to wear ,the best nights to go on a first visit ect im of lover of black / mixed race guys any suggestions advice would be gratefully appreciated xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Some clubs have bbw nights which you might enjoy for your first experience but rest assured whatever night you go there are all different shapes and sizes there. Wear what you feel comfortable in

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You won’t be left alone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take the plunge and have fun. Lots of men love BBW including me. I guarantee you will not be left alone. Enjoy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people are really friendly in my experience and I’ve been to a few.

And there’s never any pressure to do anything.

Wear something that makes you feel sexy.

Just think, I’ll probably meet some nice people, watch sex, have a glass of wine... you might have some amazing sex with someone nice or you might not?! (take your fav toy, if you don’t meet anyone, you can always enjoy yourself

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

It might help to contact the club you are going to beforehand, many have profiles on here otherwise call or email them, explain its your first time and they will do their best to put you at ease and may be able to introduce you to people once you arrive.

There are lots of BBW events and BMFCs are also popular.

Whatever happens be confident, it's nothing like going to a normal nightclub and feeling self conscious because you feel bigger than everyone else... You will find all shapes and sizes and people are generally very accepting and friendly.

I always swear by a short stretchy lace dress by Ann Summers called Britney... I'm a size 22/24 and a large/Xlarge is plenty big enough. It's racy without being too out there(!). Maybe a little black dress? Something you feel comfortable, confident and sexy in.

Have fun xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most people are really friendly in my experience and I’ve been to a few.

And there’s never any pressure to do anything.

Wear something that makes you feel sexy.

Just think, I’ll probably meet some nice people, watch sex, have a glass of wine... you might have some amazing sex with someone nice or you might not?! (take your fav toy, if you don’t meet anyone, you can always enjoy yourself

"
lol yes i could do that just got to choose the right club im from sheffield but dont want to go local x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't feel nervous hun.

hope that that sentence cured your nervous feeling

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some clubs have bbw nights which you might enjoy for your first experience but rest assured whatever night you go there are all different shapes and sizes there. Wear what you feel comfortable in"
its stupid cos i am a confident person buy im not one that would feel comfortable going in all the stockings n stuff it doesnt mean i dont dress nice lol its just id feel uncomfortable but thanks for your reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to a few though those days are over for me now.

Yeah I felt extremely nervous, it's not every day you meet people in your underwear but after a while it feels pretty normal.

Also I'm on the bigger side and like others have said, there's all shapes and sizes. Try and feel confident in yourself, you're not there to please others, you are your own person and you decide what you do.

Head up, boobs out (not literally unless you want to!) and strut your stuff

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By *ayMyName123Man
over a year ago

Barnsley


"Hi i would like some advice please abd opinions, i am wanting to visit a club for the first time but im so nervous abd scared ! Im bbw so that worries me that ill get there and be sat in corner all night looking awkward .on my first visit i just want to go for the social side i think and get a feel for what its like , things that are bothering me are what to wear ,the best nights to go on a first visit ect im of lover of black / mixed race guys any suggestions advice would be gratefully appreciated xx"

Miss lipsy , I’ve only been to one Club went on my own a few months back now to La Chambre in Sheffield I’d highly recommend it really friendly staff , I’ve been on a Wednesday and a Friday busier on a Friday few more single guys on a Friday than couples worth going on they’re website finding out all details for your specific preferences , or look on their page on here hope that helps feel free to message me if you want any more info I’ll try my best x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people are really friendly in my experience and I’ve been to a few.

And there’s never any pressure to do anything.

Wear something that makes you feel sexy.

Just think, I’ll probably meet some nice people, watch sex, have a glass of wine... you might have some amazing sex with someone nice or you might not?! (take your fav toy, if you don’t meet anyone, you can always enjoy yourself

lol yes i could do that just got to choose the right club im from sheffield but dont want to go local x"
you are welcome to jumo in with me to a Manchester club some time if you like.. I come up the m1 to junction 34 I think it is. X

But seriously you will not have any issues at a club x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most people are really friendly in my experience and I’ve been to a few.

And there’s never any pressure to do anything.

Wear something that makes you feel sexy.

Just think, I’ll probably meet some nice people, watch sex, have a glass of wine... you might have some amazing sex with someone nice or you might not?! (take your fav toy, if you don’t meet anyone, you can always enjoy yourself

lol yes i could do that just got to choose the right club im from sheffield but dont want to go local x you are welcome to jumo in with me to a Manchester club some time if you like.. I come up the m1 to junction 34 I think it is. X

But seriously you will not have any issues at a club x "
thankyou might take you up on that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some clubs have bbw nights which you might enjoy for your first experience but rest assured whatever night you go there are all different shapes and sizes there. Wear what you feel comfortable in"
thsnkyou x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You won’t be left alone! "
lol hope not x

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Try one of the more social orienated nights, you'll find after a couple of drinks your nerves will soon drift away

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Wear whatever you feel comfortable in. You can take sexier stuff to change in to if you want.

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By *..TheCurvyPetrolHead...Woman
over a year ago

St Helens

I will admit my first visit to a club was with a male friend so I could see what the scene was like. We went a few times.

I then decided to go alone once we parted ways. I went to Eureka's and I was nervous. I got there in day clothes and found the loos and changed into my sexy outfit. Everyone else wears sexy outfits. It feels normal. Please trust me on this. I was approached by men.

I'm a 14-16. Not slim in any sense. I have a large tummy which I don't like. But I completely forget about it in clubs! Clubs are amazing for your ego!

I went to Pandora's in Leeds and met a few guys who I now talk to. Going again as a single female this Saturday.

Just go and see what happens. You will know if it is for you or not. If not then leave. I have always thought this. I have also met other females in the loos and you can chat with them.

As a single female I always try and make an effort to speak to people. Conversation normally happens at the bar and they might introduce you to other people.

Hope this helps OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi i would like some advice please abd opinions, i am wanting to visit a club for the first time but im so nervous abd scared ! Im bbw so that worries me that ill get there and be sat in corner all night looking awkward .on my first visit i just want to go for the social side i think and get a feel for what its like , things that are bothering me are what to wear ,the best nights to go on a first visit ect im of lover of black / mixed race guys any suggestions advice would be gratefully appreciated xx"

You're way braver than I. I would absolutely love to experience a club, even if only the once, and I am very confident in the vanilla world but in actual fact, what I have read in the forums has actually put me off trying and not the opposite

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