FabSwingers.com forum: does being on fab

By *good-being-bad OP Man
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes fab distorted my views on few things tbh and pretty sure it is not a good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope it affects me not it would always be their loss, some women have obviously got inflated egos as a result of all this but they tend to be unmessageable thank the lord

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I think it can do if you let it yes.

I spent Sat night with one of the most gorgeous specimens of men I have seen - along with my very delicious fb, and in bed with my fb last night I did ask him how the fook I managed to pull a guy so feckin hot and out of my league!?

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

Not really... I know I am awesome

Just waiting for the rest of the world to realise it as well.....

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't receive vast amounts of mail.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

I’ve never been told I’m ‘not my type’ quite so frequently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it can do if you let it yes.

What did your FB say?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am."

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Yes. Having a best friend also on here you see blokes just send the same messages to every lady.

From the absolute jaw-dropping stunners to the let’s say ‘less desirable’. When you start to think that way every ‘charming’ first message is a bit of a yawn fest! I just prefer the banter of my regular inboxers that chat about ‘every day’ stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do feel that fab has changed my view of myself but for the better. I’ve been made to feel far more sexually attractive than I did before I joined

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's actually re-calibrated my view of my own personal attractiveness - for years I didn't think of myself as being particularly attractive (and still don't to an extent) but since being on Fab I have come to (albeit grudgingly) accept that I do have a level of attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive ."

Not in my case. I get very little attention either online or in clubs, hence my conclusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know my worth ... I certainly don’t think to myself ‘ god I’m lucky to have landed this hot guy/woman’

I know what I want to say but just can’t articulate it !!!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I think it can do if you let it yes.

Are these two different people or the same guy?

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I don’t believe the many messages I get telling me how gorgeous, sexy, fabulous, etc etc I get. Most haven’t met me so it’s just BS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, doesn't distort my views. Somethings are just the way that they are.

There will always be far more men than women on here.

The majority of my messages will be ignored.

Women will receive abusive messages

And newbies will moan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I don’t believe the many messages I get telling me how gorgeous, sexy, fabulous, etc etc I get. Most haven’t met me so it’s just BS. "

This

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I know what I am and I know what I’m not ... a compliment from someone you’re probably unlikely to meet but you’re fab friends with, means so much more than the endless messages about how gorgeous you are from people that just want to get mucky with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t believe the many messages I get telling me how gorgeous, sexy, fabulous, etc etc I get. Most haven’t met me so it’s just BS. "

Yup and yes

The complete bull that’s sent !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's actually re-calibrated my view of my own personal attractiveness - for years I didn't think of myself as being particularly attractive (and still don't to an extent) but since being on Fab I have come to (albeit grudgingly) accept that I do have a level of attraction."

This for me too x

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

This for me too x "

Me too a bit, but still not going to be something I can accept for quite a long time. Easier to remember the negative things people said to you 20 years ago than the positive things someone said last week annoyingly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys I've met from here are the same level of attractiveness as guys I've dated or who have approached me in the real world. There's no distortion and I know what I'm capable of pulling in the real world. But being on fab for so long, in an environment where guys want to be approached and are actively seeking women, it's completely different to the real world.

On here I wouldn't think twice about messaging a guy I was attracted to and asking to meet him, in the real world I'm struggling!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't receive vast amounts of mail."
you should though

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I came on Fab with a very lowly view of myself and though it hasn't been plain sailing, Fab has well and truly changed the way I view my own attractiveness. Through meeting and interacting with women I see that I'm actually quite normal and not the ugly guy I'd thought I was. After a lifetime of low self-esteem and put downs the boost that has given me has simply been life-changing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t believe the many messages I get telling me how gorgeous, sexy, fabulous, etc etc I get. Most haven’t met me so it’s just BS. "

You're gorgeous bae

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Anyone for a National League North standard guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is flattering to get messaged but it doesn't give me a big ego, most messages are from guys who send the same message to a dozen others one after the other

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I think it can do if you let it yes.

Years ago I worked with one of the most gorgeous men I'd ever seen. He was the kind of man men envied and women drooled over...I just enjoyed the view. No matter what he wore he looked like a model. He tanned easily and always looked sunkissed.

I remember we were walking in together and I said jokingly now aren't you a sight for sore eyes...he blushed and said I should stop teasing him. It dawned on me this gorgeous creature thought I was kidding.

Long story short we had an affair. I remember a colleague spotted the way I looked at him and said he's gorgeous, shame he doesn't like fat women, we laughed at that...I thought of that on Saturday when he contacted me to see if I was free for a drink...I was washing my hair!

Point is, no one is out of our league we're just limited by our own insecurities.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Not really ,I'm lucky to have had some great meets ,but I know I'm nothing special.

I think some people (men,women and couples)do tend to have the attitude that they are really hot and as a result speak to others in a not very nice manner.

However ,you get these types everywhere.Some men will allow women to get away with this if they think they are hot enough though,I think that's the difference.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Distort, no.

Ego boosting from the obviously generic spammed 'I'm so bloody gorgeous' messages doesn't happen. In my head I still sometimes see myself as the very podgy, brace wearing slightly spotty student I was. Being on here has helped me realise that I am and can be attractive to different people - it's my own insecurities that stops me. I get approached on here and in real life so I don't think I do have a distorted view.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

People here are the same as irl. There are so many who will say anything to get in your knickers and on a site like this you get a lot of that. You would be really naive if you let that go to your head.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I think it can do if you let it yes.

Point is, no one is out of our league we're just limited by our own insecurities. "
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I like that last line,so true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab has been quite helpful to me. I've always had my confidence issues but Fab has shown that there are people who actually do find me attractive. And now, instead of questioning why they would do such a thing and judging them for having such poor taste, I just accept it (most of the time)

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I have a mirror. It tells me exactly which parts of me are attractive and which are not. I am attracted to the same kind of men in and out of the scene, and the same kind of men approach me - but of course not in the street, that would be just creepy

. My profile scares off about 95% of the other men,so I do not get hundreds of messages to distort anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of messages I receive saying your stunning, beautiful, gorgeous blah blah blah when they haven't even seen my face is ridiculous. I could look like Shrek for all they know.

So I don't take much notice of them as I know they are just saying what they think I want to hear.

However, I've met quite a few people and they do pay me compliments which I try to accept though I find it incredibly difficult because I'm slated in my 'real life' for how I look. So that keeps me well and truly grounded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The amount of messages I receive saying your stunning, beautiful, gorgeous blah blah blah when they haven't even seen my face is ridiculous. I could look like Shrek for all they know.

So I don't take much notice of them as I know they are just saying what they think I want to hear.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"The amount of messages I receive saying your stunning, beautiful, gorgeous blah blah blah when they haven't even seen my face is ridiculous. I could look like Shrek for all they know.

So I don't take much notice of them as I know they are just saying what they think I want to hear.

Don’t be harsh... you mean Fiona

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The amount of messages I receive saying your stunning, beautiful, gorgeous blah blah blah when they haven't even seen my face is ridiculous. I could look like Shrek for all they know.

So I don't take much notice of them as I know they are just saying what they think I want to hear.

Don’t be harsh... you mean Fiona

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The amount of messages I receive saying your stunning, beautiful, gorgeous blah blah blah when they haven't even seen my face is ridiculous. I could look like Shrek for all they know.

So I don't take much notice of them as I know they are just saying what they think I want to hear.

Nah.....he's much more handsome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I get hundreds of messages on here - yet little attention in *the real world*. Likely because my face isn’t exposed on here.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

"The amount of messages I receive saying your stunning, beautiful, gorgeous blah blah blah when they haven't even seen my face is ridiculous. I could look like Shrek for all they know.

So I don't take much notice of them as I know they are just saying what they think I want to hear.

Nah.....he's much more handsome "

Face pic Friday tells us otherwise! We’ve been lucky enough to see your beautiful smiley face.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I don’t rate myself that high but as long as the person I’m with doesn’t find me too hideous, I’m happy

. I certainly take all the compliments I receive in my in box with a massive pinch of salt. Much as most of the other ladies do I imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Essentially Fab is full of sexual (and in some cases) emotional con artists trying to schmooze you out of your under-crackers.

Lip service is all it is.

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

No but it does show how many people use the site to fulfil their want for particular types of people because in the real world they wouldn't be upfront and open about it because of how it may be perceived by those close to them.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I don't think it has distorted my view, I take any compliments with a pinch of salt anyway ,until someone's met me and then still wants to bump uglies.

Attraction is so subjective and difficult to quantify.

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By *allisto2000Woman
over a year ago

Stafford ish

I agree with you.... my confidence in myself was always pretty low. Then 10 weeks ago I was introduced to fab and I have seen my confidence grow immensely. Once you realise how it all works, don’t take it too seriously and start having some fun.....

It can work in your favour. Just stay true to yourself and stay grounded. Don’t let it either, knock your confidence or elevate it to arrogance and it will be fun for all concerned.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?"

For me, I've found the complete opposite. I've never considered myself to be at all attractive in any way, but within the swinging environment I feel that I can punch well above my weight.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definetly op alot of the time feel like your unattractive and never going to get a meet

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Not really, I don't get much attention on here but I when I go on a night out there are usually attractive women smiling at me, chatting me up and even groping my arse or arms at the bar when I'm trying to get a drink depending how d*unk and forward they are! I'm certainly no Brad Pitt but I do alright so that's how I judge my attractiveness away from here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think i get just as much attention on here as in life tbf

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I think it can do if you let it yes.

What did your FB say? "

Gave me some waffle about no such thing as leagues and how different people find different things attractive blah blah. True I suppose, but then asked if me n him were in the same league....

I had no idea how to answer him as I truly don't know! I know I obv find him attractive but after 18months I blummin well should!! Lol

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?"

I think you've summed it up well.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I think it can do if you let it yes.

Are these two different people or the same guy? "

Eh? Obv two different people lol. One was a new meet, the other I have been seeing 18 months lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it can do if you let it yes.

What did your FB say?

Gave me some waffle about no such thing as leagues and how different people find different things attractive blah blah. True I suppose, but then asked if me n him were in the same league....

I had no idea how to answer him as I truly don't know! I know I obv find him attractive but after 18months I blummin well should!! Lol

Maybe he (fb) was wondering if you thought he (fb) was hot as fuck too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't receive loads of mail (thank god) and I also still don't think I'm particularly attractive, there's plenty more women more attractive than I on here.

Saying that, even if I did receive loads of mail I wouldn't be delusional. I don't believe compliments from randomers on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can have the opposite effect?

You learn to take rejection and feel a little bit more empowered and in control?

People you wink to as you thought they may be out of your league contact you, and others you message delete. Suddenly you realise you're only responsible for your efforts and responses and the rest is down to whatever the heck happens.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I think it can do if you let it yes.

Point is, no one is out of our league we're just limited by our own insecurities. "

You are probably very right - and we all have them in varying degrees. Its what makes us human

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By *rlo67Man
over a year ago

Dumfries

Yes. My self esteem has dropped like a stone. When looking for a relationship on POF/Badoo/Tinder I received as many messages as I sent but here I feel toxic (with a few wonderful expections). The knock backs for an older single man are brutal.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I think it can do if you let it yes.

What did your FB say?

Gave me some waffle about no such thing as leagues and how different people find different things attractive blah blah. True I suppose, but then asked if me n him were in the same league....

I had no idea how to answer him as I truly don't know! I know I obv find him attractive but after 18months I blummin well should!! Lol

Maybe he (fb) was wondering if you thought he (fb) was hot as fuck too.

He knows I am into him - there is no denying I am for lots of reasons. I did reaffirm that for him though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I look in the mirror every morning when I shave. Well through one eye....

Fab with all its superficiality just confirms what I already know....

That if beauty is only skin deep I was born inside out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far from inundated and an under no illusion about my level of attractiveness.

I'm as suspicious here as I would be in real life when ridiculously hot guys message, when I know for a fact in real life they wouldn't give me the time of day.

It hasn't distorted my perception of myself, but has made me more inclined to believe that guys when horny, will give all sorts of empty compliments if they think it will get them somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a mixed bag for me. Very rarely get messaged back from people locally. Sometimes get looks from people way further afield. It's really weird

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Fab does not distort my view of myself. I know how it works and it's severe limitations so I don't rely on it. I think reading some profiles and reading some forum posts that probably many women do have a real life persona and a fab one and can be very popular on fab for obvious reasons but not in real life but you see it in clubs too. it's ok with me everyone is entitled to seek a sex life.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No. I know how attractive i am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will just say this

Looks fade

Persona stays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always known I'm ugly so nothings changed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do apay complemts of corse i do but im more attracted to funny things that pretty things iv no idea if this has a baring at all as i got bored reading the openeng post sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attractiveness to me isn't your torso or cock or hairy balls.

You need to hold me in conversation not message me

Yummy... Hi

Yes it's a compliment but warns me off

Unattractive messages Can I fuck you now, can I lick your pussy as a first message... Please don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The amount of messages I receive saying your stunning, beautiful, gorgeous blah blah blah when they haven't even seen my face is ridiculous. I could look like Shrek for all they know.

So I don't take much notice of them as I know they are just saying what they think I want to hear.

Don’t be harsh... you mean Fiona

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Fullerton now she was hot

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

The opposite for me, my confidence and self esteem have grown since being on here. I've taken some knocks and still have the odd wobble but but overall I'm far far more body confident than I was pre fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds a tad big-headed but I actually think based onwho I am, the demographic I represent I’m more attractive than most...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initially, with all the attention I received on here I did feel I must be reasonably attractive but fast forward 2 years, my view of myself is totally fucked up.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I've never had a problem meeting people in the real world, and same on fab, so no difference for me to be honest.

Just a bit of a bigger gene pool so to speak !

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By *irk Diggler 02Man
over a year ago

Swindon

"I don't receive vast amounts of mail."

Who are you kidding!!!??

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I think fab in the past has had the adverse affect on me... it can create total head fuck if your not in the right frame of mind... some time out has sorted that though... and yes I’m lucky to get lots of messages but I don’t take that as direct boost for me... after a shag maybe haha but that’s all!!

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By *irk Diggler 02Man
over a year ago

Swindon

I’d like to think I’m comfortable in my own skin and do get compliments from women in the outside world, it’s on here that it does tend to get distorted!!? As you get similar compliments but that’s it, you try and expand on the conversation for it to eventually fall on deaf ears, or an unread message!? Frustrating as they’ve actually engaged in an initial convo!?

Oh and p:s, I’ve had to have a cheeky sneak peek at the women on this thread and have to say....you’re all telling porkies....not attractive my ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?"

I don't chase anybody on here so I never get rejected I let them come to me but agreed many fems here are Fab deluded.

Yes they get mailed a lot but think about how many times you hear them say the men here are either fake or no show.

How much of that fanmail leads to anything..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite low in confidence anyway, but Fab and other sites do lower it with each rejection. I used to think of myself as quite fuck ugly, but this past week or so I have started to think that maybe I'm not so bad. Nothing's really given me reason to think that, I just caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and realised I'm not some hideous CHUD with a third eye.

I've been told I've got nice eyes and a cheeky grin by a few women before, I don't see it myself, but I'll take their word for it.

I think the reason I get knocked back is because of my photos. I'm not a photo kind of person which means I barely take any and they look shit anyway because my phone is a potato.

I was with my cousin the other night, we went to a club and got talking to this couple from Manchester. Even though I'm quite shy and I don't ever make the first move in a club / bar, I will talk to someone if they approach me first. So when the lass started talking to me being friendly, I felt quite relaxed and she put me at ease, meaning I was able to talk to her. If she didn't have a boyfriend I probably would have asked her to dance.

I'd probably be able to approach women more if I didn't second guess myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anything I have stronger self esteem now than when I joined. I’m fitter, healthier and more content. I’ve always been an acquired taste that few acquire. I accept that now rather than seek to change it.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I have mirrors and self-awareness, they are more accurate than fab.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

"I do feel that fab has changed my view of myself but for the better. I’ve been made to feel far more sexually attractive than I did before I joined"

We found similar but we take the flattery with a pinch of salt tbh and remain grounded lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup...I think I am bloody gorgeous!

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I don’t rate myself that high but as long as the person I’m with doesn’t find me too hideous, I’m happy

. I certainly take all the compliments I receive in my in box with a massive pinch of salt. Much as most of the other ladies do I imagine. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive ."

I disagree ... if you are in any way realistic, copy and paste messages and totally generic chat up lines really quickly make it obvious to you that most guys don't give a crap what you look like they will just say anything to get sex ... so it ends up having the opposite effect ... instead of going to your head it makes you start to think even the genuine compliments are bs and you can feel uglier and uglier ... i usually quit for a bit when it gets to that stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be happy if I got 1 complement a year on here lol. I guess I'm better in person than through internet chat.. or at least that's what I tell myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?"
yes I look in mirror after I've seen a few on here and think I've got a chance

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Fab has increased my confidence not lessened it but also made me more emotionally secure against cyber rejection. Sometimes the pixels just don’t arrange themselves how you want.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

I agree with you in part. I think that if your positive body image depends on faux flattery it's going to nose dive as soon as the flattery stops (once you're out of most people's age range lol). If you have a strong and realistic sense of yourself and the confidence that goes with it you know when compliments and insults alik are valid, and neither alters your view of yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sexy and I know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't receive vast amounts of mail."

It might be because you once said on a thread that you like to chew men and spit them out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

I do have a strong and realistic sense of myself, plus confidence, but this can be undermined by receiving little attention on here or in clubs. I think this is probably the wrong environment for me and I would be better off somewhere where my kind of looks, personality and other qualities would be more in demand/appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get lots of messages on here as I’m looking for more than casual so I’m happy with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also don’t meet guys that would be any different than I would meet outside of here. My standards are the same. I do find it hard to actually find guys that I’m attracted to on fab.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I don't receive vast amounts of mail.

It might be because you once said on a thread that you like to chew men and spit them out

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and fuck me are you ever going to let her forget it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just had what I already know, confirmed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

Somewhere with a more psychological/intellectual/ spiritual bent. I have a couple of ideas. In the meantime I will stay here for the social side as have made some good friends, it's just the sexual side which has been a bit of a dead loss for the kind of connected, regular sex I prefer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also don’t meet guys that would be any different than I would meet outside of here. My standards are the same. I do find it hard to actually find guys that I’m attracted to on fab. "
but this is life we are all the same here as we are there I don't understand the difference at all, this site is a meeting point with a specific topic of agenda which of course has different degrees of severity dependent on the messagee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

Where is this place you talk of ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

Where is this place you talk of ?"

Haha, Nirvana probably!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Nope. I know I'm an uggo on here and in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

Where is this place you talk of ?

Haha, Nirvana probably! "

Nevermind.

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By *good-being-bad OP Man
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

Where is this place you talk of ?"

When I read spiritual and psychological I was thinking one of those cults you hear about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

Where is this place you talk of ?

When I read spiritual and psychological I was thinking one of those cults you hear about

"
ahhhh OK like the manson family I used to play squash with a guy I nicknamed Charlie ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The rejection doesn’t make me feel less attractive at all. I see it as I’m not their cup of tea. I get more attention when I go to parties. I’ve even msged a few ladies and they have read and deleted the msg but then spoken to me in a party and we’ve got on.

Also Veri’s help a lot being a single Male. Shows you’re real, genuine and active (not necessarily playing).

It’s all about your self confidence and being able to take rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

Where is this place you talk of ?

When I read spiritual and psychological I was thinking one of those cults you hear about

ahhhh OK like the manson family I used to play squash with a guy I nicknamed Charlie ha"

No I didn't mean a cult, just a more enlightened environment than here which I find pretty soulless much of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am in a sexless marriage. the attention i get makes me feel better about myself. i am realistic though because i am 57 and know most of it is generic guy praise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The rejection doesn’t make me feel less attractive at all. I see it as I’m not their cup of tea. I get more attention when I go to parties. I’ve even msged a few ladies and they have read and deleted the msg but then spoken to me in a party and we’ve got on.

Also Veri’s help a lot being a single Male. Shows you’re real, genuine and active (not necessarily playing).

It’s all about your self confidence and being able to take rejection. "

If you went to parties and were totally ignored there too, do you think that would affect your self confidence?

I think the site would be very different if it was the women constantly getting rejected instead of the men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am.

That’s a strange answer , and one I certainly wouldn’t expect . I totally agree with the op , and would say they fab gives women the chance to feel more , rather than less attractive .

Where is this place you talk of ?

When I read spiritual and psychological I was thinking one of those cults you hear about

ahhhh OK like the manson family I used to play squash with a guy I nicknamed Charlie ha

No I didn't mean a cult, just a more enlightened environment than here which I find pretty soulless much of the time "
Hey it is what it is, the place to set a meet, meeting people is the only way and in your case I think definitely the only way, most people will become quite appealing in the flesh having already applied your censorship to them and their profile, I'm a people person I enjoy meeting and chatting to people it's an everyday thing for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab. "

A well balanced person on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter? "

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?"

Not really, when they say hello beautiful an my profile is hidden

It is distorting my view on men though. How they all treat women. Most of them being in relationships an on here. An still they can do as they please. Yet the moment a woman is on here she’s some how desperate or should be grateful for any attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together. "

I get that when I meet guys from here, they are surprised that I’m ‘normal’ (hate that word) I just end up wondering what kind of people have they met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together.

I get that when I meet guys from here, they are surprised that I’m ‘normal’ (hate that word) I just end up wondering what kind of people have they met? "

Well, you do hear some horror stories. People are just very odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea what what it is that attracts men to me; on here or the real world.

Most men, when I'm out, look at my boobs first, and then my face, and stomach. It's probably the stomach that puts them off.

On here, I don't show any of those so it's probably pure luck that they came across my profile, then decided to message me because I'm a woman looking for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?

Not really, when they say hello beautiful an my profile is hidden

"
yes but have you considered they may have seen your profile or pics before you hid it or them?

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

harbourough

I know exactly what I am and my limitations - and I say so in my communications.

Humility and sanity are vital whether you are on fabs or the real world

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

No, I know where I stand in the pecking order of attractiveness.

Fab just reaffirms my opinion

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?"

I think it has, in the cases of some women, unfortunately created a few narcissistic primadonas! Many of the guys who contact me are sycophantic in their messaging (you’re stunning/gorgeous/best on here etc!) and I’m sure they send similar/identical messages to many women! Some clearly believe the crap and act accordingly!

My self confidence/worth isn’t really based on my looks (just as well as I’m fifty next month!) and I know I’m not gorgeous - but not fugly either!

If you’re confident and comfortable in your own skin, whether male or female, then I don’t think the artificial world of fab (where fannies rule and dicks are ten a penny!) will affect you detrimentally! If you’re not - it will - either positively or negatively dependant on your sex and your experiences on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together.

I get that when I meet guys from here, they are surprised that I’m ‘normal’ (hate that word) I just end up wondering what kind of people have they met?

Well, you do hear some horror stories. People are just very odd. "

I did have 2 different women message me from here. It gave me an insight into what these guys meant. I had to block them in the end, some of the things they said was not right at all. I won’t judge people in their choices but some things was quite disturbing. They seemed to like that I would listen and opened up to me but I was worried about their mental state.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?

My self confidence/worth isn’t really based on my looks (just as well as I’m fifty next month!) and I know I’m not gorgeous - but not fugly either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really take much notice these days. I’m old and wise enough to know that some women will find me attractive and some won’t. I pay no mind to those that don’t and I’m happy that a few do fancy me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?

Not really, when they say hello beautiful an my profile is hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not attractive to women judging by the amount of replies that I receive on here. I have a fantastic personality which I hope will carry me through. Beauty is only skin deep after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together.

I get that when I meet guys from here, they are surprised that I’m ‘normal’ (hate that word) I just end up wondering what kind of people have they met?

Well, you do hear some horror stories. People are just very odd.

I’ve been having perfectly good conversations with ladies and all of a sudden they have turned bat shit crazy and I’ve had to block them. No rhyme or reason to it. It’s not just on here tho, it’s just life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together.

I get that when I meet guys from here, they are surprised that I’m ‘normal’ (hate that word) I just end up wondering what kind of people have they met?

Well, you do hear some horror stories. People are just very odd.

I tend to have more male friends than female ones for that reason. I’m more sane that way. As much as I love my best friend, she can drive me mental if too much time is spent with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together.

I get that when I meet guys from here, they are surprised that I’m ‘normal’ (hate that word) I just end up wondering what kind of people have they met?

Well, you do hear some horror stories. People are just very odd.

I just get the ones that want to make me bleed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together.

I get that when I meet guys from here, they are surprised that I’m ‘normal’ (hate that word) I just end up wondering what kind of people have they met?

Well, you do hear some horror stories. People are just very odd.

I just get the ones that want to make me bleed.

Us women have been doing that for years

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together.

I get that when I meet guys from here, they are surprised that I’m ‘normal’ (hate that word) I just end up wondering what kind of people have they met?

Well, you do hear some horror stories. People are just very odd.

I just get the ones that want to make me bleed.

Bitches be crazy Hatter. Bitches be crazy.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

Fab has never altered how I felt about myself.I don't compare myself to others.I'm me and I'm comfortable with who I am.Words from strangers over the internet doesn't influence my thoughts of how attractive, unattractive I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together.

I get that when I meet guys from here, they are surprised that I’m ‘normal’ (hate that word) I just end up wondering what kind of people have they met?

Well, you do hear some horror stories. People are just very odd.

I just get the ones that want to make me bleed.

You been dating Angelina Jolie wannabes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together.

I get that when I meet guys from here, they are surprised that I’m ‘normal’ (hate that word) I just end up wondering what kind of people have they met?

Well, you do hear some horror stories. People are just very odd.

I just get the ones that want to make me bleed.

Bitches be crazy Hatter. Bitches be crazy."

True dat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well balanced person won't have a distorted view of their attractiveness because of fab.

A well balanced person on fab

Am I on the wrong site then Hatter?

Not at all, it's just not often you see those things put together.

I get that when I meet guys from here, they are surprised that I’m ‘normal’ (hate that word) I just end up wondering what kind of people have they met?

Well, you do hear some horror stories. People are just very odd.

I just get the ones that want to make me bleed.

You been dating Angelina Jolie wannabes? "

I wish

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

We have a life in the real world and fab is just one of the sites we're on. So no as we meet many who have never heard of this site, so no delusions here.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I'm am ugly cunt but it really doesn't bother me , it's not like I can have a face transplant . And at least I have a modicum of intelligence. I think just be yourself and eventually you'll find someone that appreciates that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm quite low in confidence anyway, but Fab and other sites do lower it with each rejection. I used to think of myself as quite fuck ugly, but this past week or so I have started to think that maybe I'm not so bad. Nothing's really given me reason to think that, I just caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and realised I'm not some hideous CHUD with a third eye.

I've been told I've got nice eyes and a cheeky grin by a few women before, I don't see it myself, but I'll take their word for it.

I think the reason I get knocked back is because of my photos. I'm not a photo kind of person which means I barely take any and they look shit anyway because my phone is a potato.

I'd probably be able to approach women more if I didn't second guess myself.

1st August pic is the best one (do have nice eyes) you look very awkward in the most recent one

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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No. I am fully aware I look like shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I am fully aware I look like shit "

What mirror have you been looking at?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I am fully aware I look the shit "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it can do if you let it yes.

Point is, no one is out of our league we're just limited by our own insecurities. "

Totally agree with this.

Some people just do not see themselves how others do.

Maybe the majority of people on fab are looking for short term acquaintances and therefore if their interests align, then that's all that matters. Of course you need to be attracted to someone, though that's only my opinion. Reading some of the messages from men who say I'm so attractive yet have only seen my feet/boobs/ass, makes me quite cynical about a lot of people on here.

I guess that's why I met only from the forum. It gave me a chance to get to know someone, find out what they were about, what makes them tick and usually exchange face pics.

It needed to be the whole package for me before I considered meeting someone.

My own view of myself? I'm sure everyone has hang ups about something. I've yet to meet someone who is 100% confident about themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?

Not really, when they say hello beautiful an my profile is hidden

yes but have you considered they may have seen your profile or pics before you hid it or them?"

It’s still only body parts. I’m not a hello beautiful kind of person. It’s a nice ice breaker. But every time we talk. Just admit, you forgot my name haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also Veri’s help a lot being a single Male. Shows you’re real, genuine and active (not necessarily playing).

It’s all about your self confidence and being able to take rejection.

If you went to parties and were totally ignored there too, do you think that would affect your self confidence?

I think the site would be very different if it was the women constantly getting rejected instead of the men. "

It’s happened and I’ve chosen not to return to that club/party. However I haven’t and won’t openly bad mouth the party. It just wasn’t for me.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?

My self confidence/worth isn’t really based on my looks (just as well as I’m fifty next month!) and I know I’m not gorgeous - but not fugly either!

No - but I thought the thread was about experiences in general?

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?"

I think as a couple it makes both of you feel better about yourself. Can't comment on any of the other categories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does being on fab distort your view of how attractive you are..

Ladies receive vast amounts of mail and they often say "from guys who wouldn't look twice at me in the real world"..

It's been said "Brad Pitt would struggle on here" . Guys because there is a high percentage of rejection does it make you feel less attractive

Ladies deluded by fab.?..guys downbeat and lower in confidence because of fab ?

My self confidence/worth isn’t really based on my looks (just as well as I’m fifty next month!) and I know I’m not gorgeous - but not fugly either!

No - but I thought the thread was about experiences in general? "
it is but generalisations may affect and include many but not all, I'm a realist some women here are attainable but are unattainable by their persona, some just aren't here to be messaged they already have their groupies and the others who keep a low profile are the stalwart of the site, egos come and go little bit like the media building somebody up then tiring of them and knocking them right back down.

The best place to be middle of the road under the radar you get all the best choices none of the divas

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Only in the sense that it makes me feel I must be far less attractive than I think I am."

Ditto. Not one match or forum flattery in over eighty Matchmaking threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t believe the many messages I get telling me how gorgeous, sexy, fabulous, etc etc I get. Most haven’t met me so it’s just BS. "

well i would fly to Meath every now and again , lets face it , you are gorgeous

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By *aucyknickersWoman
over a year ago

Midlands ish

I don’t think my lack of self confidence is helpful on here, my assumption is that 99.9% of my messages are for the initially made reason (I happen to be a ‘rare’ female type) rather than because I am in any way attractive to them. Makes me suspicious initially which is unfair for those who are genuine.

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By *good-being-bad OP Man
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Also Veri’s help a lot being a single Male. Shows you’re real, genuine and active (not necessarily playing).

It’s all about your self confidence and being able to take rejection.

If you went to parties and were totally ignored there too, do you think that would affect your self confidence?

I think the site would be very different if it was the women constantly getting rejected instead of the men. "

I've said no thanks to a lady that I didn't find attractive.. I asked on my post if guys confidence was affected by no thanks or no response ...

Same question to ladies would yours ?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Also Veri’s help a lot being a single Male. Shows you’re real, genuine and active (not necessarily playing).

It’s all about your self confidence and being able to take rejection.

If you went to parties and were totally ignored there too, do you think that would affect your self confidence?

I think the site would be very different if it was the women constantly getting rejected instead of the men.

I've said no thanks to a lady that I didn't find attractive.. I asked on my post if guys confidence was affected by no thanks or no response ...

Same question to ladies would yours ?"

I've sent first messages and had 'no, thanks' responses as well as blocks. I just take the view that I wouldn't have known if I hadn't asked.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"No. I am fully aware I look like shit

What mirror have you been looking at?"

The looking glass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I’m not attractive and being on here doesn’t affect that - I just inflict my nakedness on the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No..im quite aware im fat with a funny nose. Just being on here has made me realise that there are some people that find that attractive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No..im quite aware im fat with a funny nose. Just being on here has made me realise that there are some people that find that attractive!"

Welcome back

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"No..im quite aware im fat with a funny nose. Just being on here has made me realise that there are some people that find that attractive!"

Your nose didn't make me laugh.

You're very attractive and you wouldn't count as fat to some at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it dont. I have always had a high confidence level. I work hard in the gym to have my body and getting fabs and comments about it is fun and it keeps me wanting to improving it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the confidence before I came on fab x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite comfortable with who I am. I don't feel my self opinion is distorted by fab. I'm well aware that compliments should be taken with a pinch of salt on here, as there is a hidden agenda behind it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm quite comfortable with who I am. I don't feel my self opinion is distorted by fab. I'm well aware that compliments should be taken with a pinch of salt on here, as there is a hidden agenda behind it

Depends whos giving you them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No..im quite aware im fat with a funny nose. Just being on here has made me realise that there are some people that find that attractive!

Welcome back

Thanks! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No..im quite aware im fat with a funny nose. Just being on here has made me realise that there are some people that find that attractive!

Your nose didn't make me laugh.

You're very attractive and you wouldn't count as fat to some at all.

Ahhhh!!! You are just too bloody lovely! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends whos giving you them

You just love the welsh accent

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By *parkle13Woman
over a year ago

Dundee

Quiet the opposite I'm put off cause get called ,stunning ect and they can only see boobs ...so makes me think most are shallow and would shag a sheep if it had an ok ass and tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where there's one there's the other. Like a little lamb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea definitely made me feel a little like no one is after the type of guy I am. Aha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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you're gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab and the dating apps has boosted my confidence. I don't know what I'm doing right or if it's just sheer luck. But I've had some really enjoyable moments connecting with women on both

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’m confident.

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