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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone else have the same issue as me?

My problem is that yes i have a single male profile but i also have a couples profile with my wife(she also has her own)..

Im beginning to think there are quite a few ladies out there that dont believe i have full permission to play alone. In the past when i have tried to explain that i do i either get ignored or blocked.

Your views please...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd meet a cheating man but not a swinging one. Perhaps they feel the same.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Some people are like us and won't meet married men alone whether they have permission or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think its more deceitful if a married swinger has his own profile, regardless of whether the other half gives consent...that goes for men or women

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

The issue is, there are so many blokes on the site that ladies only need the tiniest suggestion of a reason to not choose you and they'll move on. There are plenty with no baggage at all.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won’t meet a married man even if he has his wife’s permission. Because unless the wife is ringing me up and saying she is fine with it, I’m not going to know if what he is saying is the truth.

And I don’t expect the wife to be ringing me anyway lol!

This is probably the same for those who’ve blocked you. Some of us only want to meet with single guys.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I can see both sides of this

Jack and I both have single profiles and a couple one.

I have however spoken to a couple and reassured them that I'm happy for jack to play solo.

In the past I had a man contact saying he had wife's permission to play(she wasnt on fab).Each time I asked go chat to her there was an excuse etc...sadly many men and women are liars about things on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally think its more deceitful if a married swinger has his own profile, regardless of whether the other half gives consent...that goes for men or women "

How so?

I have a singles profile as my husband doesn’t play, has no desire to play. So there’s no point in us having a couples profile.

Op I’m unsure. I’ve had the whole ‘I have permission to play’ speech from a few men, and turns out they don’t. Maybe some people just assume you’re lying from the get go. Maybe they just don’t want to meet married men - permission or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also think that a married man playing with or without permission is still going to be more restricted with his time and things he's "allowed" to do. I would prefer to meet a single guy with more freedom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also think that a married man playing with or without permission is still going to be more restricted with his time and things he's "allowed" to do. I would prefer to meet a single guy with more freedom. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it easier not to meet. That way I neither cause nor get embroiled in any drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won’t meet a married man even if he has his wife’s permission. Because unless the wife is ringing me up and saying she is fine with it, I’m not going to know if what he is saying is the truth.

And I don’t expect the wife to be ringing me anyway lol!

This is probably the same for those who’ve blocked you. Some of us only want to meet with single guys. "

I'd love to meet these women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much like all the many other gripes on here, this can be easily resolved by realising the following...

You don't want to meet someone who doesn't want to meet you. It's never going to work. So just seek out those who do want to meet you and forget about the rest.

If only 1 person wants to meet you and 50 million don't it's neither frustrating nor unfair. It's just the way the world is. You can shout at the earth all you want. But you'll only end up looking a bit of a wally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won’t meet a married man even if he has his wife’s permission. Because unless the wife is ringing me up and saying she is fine with it, I’m not going to know if what he is saying is the truth.

And I don’t expect the wife to be ringing me anyway lol!

This is probably the same for those who’ve blocked you. Some of us only want to meet with single guys.

I'd love to meet these women "

Which women? The accepting wives?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I also think that a married man playing with or without permission is still going to be more restricted with his time and things he's "allowed" to do. I would prefer to meet a single guy with more freedom. "
thats a fair point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Much like all the many other gripes on here, this can be easily resolved by realising the following...

You don't want to meet someone who doesn't want to meet you. It's never going to work. So just seek out those who do want to meet you and forget about the rest.

If only 1 person wants to meet you and 50 million don't it's neither frustrating nor unfair. It's just the way the world is. You can shout at the earth all you want. But you'll only end up looking a bit of a wally "
not complaing about as ive been here long enough to know how it works i was just wondering what peoples views on it were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else have the same issue as me?

My problem is that yes i have a single male profile but i also have a couples profile with my wife(she also has her own)..

Im beginning to think there are quite a few ladies out there that dont believe i have full permission to play alone. In the past when i have tried to explain that i do i either get ignored or blocked.

Your views please..."
mention the couples profile username in your write up

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Much like all the many other gripes on here, this can be easily resolved by realising the following...

You don't want to meet someone who doesn't want to meet you. It's never going to work. So just seek out those who do want to meet you and forget about the rest.

If only 1 person wants to meet you and 50 million don't it's neither frustrating nor unfair. It's just the way the world is. You can shout at the earth all you want. But you'll only end up looking a bit of a wally not complaing about as ive been here long enough to know how it works i was just wondering what peoples views on it were."

If your wife is on here too ,them I don't see why it's a problem tbh.

They can easily chat to her...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easier for a girl I think. I have a single and a couple profile. To be honest I find it easier to get couples for my husband and I on my singles profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally think its more deceitful if a married swinger has his own profile, regardless of whether the other half gives consent...that goes for men or women "

But, singles can't message people who have couples blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else have the same issue as me?

My problem is that yes i have a single male profile but i also have a couples profile with my wife(she also has her own)..

Im beginning to think there are quite a few ladies out there that dont believe i have full permission to play alone. In the past when i have tried to explain that i do i either get ignored or blocked.

Your views please...mention the couples profile username in your write up "

gives a bit of transparency then. People can check if they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't say anything in the first place, like all the other married men on here that don't...If you have permission only you needs to know that

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

OP I'm in a similar position to you and as you'll see from my profile text have cross-referenced both the couples profile and my partners profile in my text and make it clear that she can be contacted if "approval" is necessary - everything is completely transparent that way and it's not caused me issues, nor has anyone felt the need to contact her.

There will of course be some that don't want to meet you because you're attached regardless of any permissions you may have, but that's no different from someone not wanting to meet you for any other preference they may have, and therefore not worth worrying about - focus on those that will meet you regardless of your circumstance rather than those that won't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone else have the same issue as me?

My problem is that yes i have a single male profile but i also have a couples profile with my wife(she also has her own)..

Im beginning to think there are quite a few ladies out there that dont believe i have full permission to play alone. In the past when i have tried to explain that i do i either get ignored or blocked.

Your views please...mention the couples profile username in your write up "
i do

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

If I knew the couple, had chatted to and got on with the wife and was sure she was OK with it, then yes I would meet the guy.

If I was contacted by a profile that stated the Mrs is fine with me playing alone, I probably wouldn't believe them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else have the same issue as me?

My problem is that yes i have a single male profile but i also have a couples profile with my wife(she also has her own)..

Im beginning to think there are quite a few ladies out there that dont believe i have full permission to play alone. In the past when i have tried to explain that i do i either get ignored or blocked.

Your views please...mention the couples profile username in your write up i do "

Maybe try putting it in speech marks. Or whatever 'these' are called.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else have the same issue as me?

My problem is that yes i have a single male profile but i also have a couples profile with my wife(she also has her own)..

Im beginning to think there are quite a few ladies out there that dont believe i have full permission to play alone. In the past when i have tried to explain that i do i either get ignored or blocked.

Your views please...mention the couples profile username in your write up i do "

The actual profile name rather than just saying you have one

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Anyone else have the same issue as me?

My problem is that yes i have a single male profile but i also have a couples profile with my wife(she also has her own)..

Im beginning to think there are quite a few ladies out there that dont believe i have full permission to play alone. In the past when i have tried to explain that i do i either get ignored or blocked.

Your views please...mention the couples profile username in your write up i do "

You do - but it's not totally clear - take a look at how I have it on my profile - leaves no room for doubt

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Actually on reflection and having re-read your OP and also looked at your profile - do you *know* that's the reason you're not getting very far i.e. have you been told that is the reason?

Or do you just *suspect* it (as you say in your OP) because you're not getting replies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else have the same issue as me?

My problem is that yes i have a single male profile but i also have a couples profile with my wife(she also has her own)..

Im beginning to think there are quite a few ladies out there that dont believe i have full permission to play alone. In the past when i have tried to explain that i do i either get ignored or blocked.

Your views please..."

Just about the very best you could do is set up a couples profile with your wife, prominently feature a picture of you both with faces showing and holding a sign declaring your wife has given you consent and then offer in your opening message that the woman can phone or meet your wife to verify that's true.

But even with all these measures taken... a cheat is a cheat... fake couple's profile... photoshop some random woman holding a sign with you... invite them to phone or meet without having any intention of it happening but just hoping it makes you look genuine.

That's what you're up against dude. Even a woman turning up and claiming to be your wife and giving consent can turn out to be a con. If you don't believe me ask the women on here. Cheating guys sometimes go to extraordinary lengths.

All you can do is accept that there's absolutely no way to differentiate yourself from a lying cheating cunt and just come to terms with the fact that you're looking for that rare breed of women who don't mind fucking lying cheating cunts. That's the best I can offer you dude

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone else have the same issue as me?

My problem is that yes i have a single male profile but i also have a couples profile with my wife(she also has her own)..

Im beginning to think there are quite a few ladies out there that dont believe i have full permission to play alone. In the past when i have tried to explain that i do i either get ignored or blocked.

Your views please...

Just about the very best you could do is set up a couples profile with your wife, prominently feature a picture of you both with faces showing and holding a sign declaring your wife has given you consent and then offer in your opening message that the woman can phone or meet your wife to verify that's true.

But even with all these measures taken... a cheat is a cheat... fake couple's profile... photoshop some random woman holding a sign with you... invite them to phone or meet without having any intention of it happening but just hoping it makes you look genuine.

That's what you're up against dude. Even a woman turning up and claiming to be your wife and giving consent can turn out to be a con. If you don't believe me ask the women on here. Cheating guys sometimes go to extraordinary lengths.

All you can do is accept that there's absolutely no way to differentiate yourself from a lying cheating cunt and just come to terms with the fact that you're looking for that rare breed of women who don't mind fucking lying cheating cunts. That's the best I can offer you dude "

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Ultimately OP it comes down to individual discretion as to whether people believe your "permission" or not and you can help establish that by some of the suggestions I made further up - along with spending your time chatting to people and being totally open and honest about your circumstance and what you are looking for.

As I said earlier while some won't meet you because of your situation there are plenty that will - so focus on them rather than worrying about those that won't.

Remember though you're effectively in the pool of single men on the site and the limitations that brings so have to present the best possible side of you (decent profile and pics, getting involved in the forums and going to socials and all the other advice doled out daily to single guys on here) and set your approach and expectations accordingly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ultimately OP it comes down to individual discretion as to whether people believe your "permission" or not and you can help establish that by some of the suggestions I made further up - along with spending your time chatting to people and being totally open and honest about your circumstance and what you are looking for.

As I said earlier while some won't meet you because of your situation there are plenty that will - so focus on them rather than worrying about those that won't.

Remember though you're effectively in the pool of single men on the site and the limitations that brings so have to present the best possible side of you (decent profile and pics, getting involved in the forums and going to socials and all the other advice doled out daily to single guys on here) and set your approach and expectations accordingly "

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