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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do people women and men make that initial first move to getting that persons attention there looking for do you wink, send a detailed essay, send a subtle hinted message or do u fab all there pics in hopes they cotton on

So how do you do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell them I like something about them

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

I reply to every message, but I've never looked at winks or who has fabled a pic. Am I missing out on something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think winks are underrated, forgive me if I am wrong but... I send a wink as this tool is used to gauge interest, if I get a wink back then I will message and make contact. Some people hate winks, but if people looked at their winks and picked out the ones they are interested in and winked back then it would save a lot of time and effort writing out an email for it just to be ignored xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually make contact through forums, I find writing an opening message ‘cold’ to be very hard and rather hit and miss. If I have something direct to say about a post that they’ve made then sometimes I will reply directly about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell them how much I'd like to make love to their shitbox and then jizz on their toes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people women and men make that initial first move to getting that persons attention there looking for do you wink, send a detailed essay, send a subtle hinted message or do u fab all there pics in hopes they cotton on

So how do you do it "

I usually turn off my ninja mode and look at their profile, maybe fab a couple of pics and send a wink...

For me that works every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think winks are underrated, forgive me if I am wrong but... I send a wink as this tool is used to gauge interest, if I get a wink back then I will message and make contact. Some people hate winks, but if people looked at their winks and picked out the ones they are interested in and winked back then it would save a lot of time and effort writing out an email for it just to be ignored xx"

I get what you mean and yes winks are a good way for that but I find that it still ends up with me having to write the first message based on the wink exchange any way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dick pick in the inbox. Never fails

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By *bmarley77Man
over a year ago

Nr Derby


"I tell them how much I'd like to make love to their shitbox and then jizz on their toes."

You old romantic. What a winning tactic.

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I just send a message... whether if it’s i like their pics or something that has sparked an interest or what grabbed my attention!

It’s not easy on here so you just have to go with it and try and have fun!

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects


"send a detailed essay"

I would never do that. Mine are more like a novel

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think winks are underrated, forgive me if I am wrong but... I send a wink as this tool is used to gauge interest, if I get a wink back then I will message and make contact. Some people hate winks, but if people looked at their winks and picked out the ones they are interested in and winked back then it would save a lot of time and effort writing out an email for it just to be ignored xx

I get what you mean and yes winks are a good way for that but I find that it still ends up with me having to write the first message based on the wink exchange any way "

My preferred method is a wink if i receive a wink back ill then message them in the hopes of chatting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just send a message... whether if it’s i like their pics or something that has sparked an interest or what grabbed my attention!

It’s not easy on here so you just have to go with it and try and have fun! "

Totally see what you mean tbh lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people women and men make that initial first move to getting that persons attention there looking for do you wink, send a detailed essay, send a subtle hinted message or do u fab all there pics in hopes they cotton on

So how do you do it

I usually turn off my ninja mode and look at their profile, maybe fab a couple of pics and send a wink...

For me that works every time "

Ooo subtle Chasing someone who's merely looked at my profile seems a bit hawkerish. So I don't do that. I often forget to check if people have fabbed any of my pics for ages as it's almost always dudes fabbing. So I rarely respond to that either. But you would definitely have got me with the wink.

Women should wink more. It may not work for them, under their piles of eager interest, but it really works for guys

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over a year ago

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I usually make contact through forums, I find writing an opening message ‘cold’ to be very hard and rather hit and miss. If I have something direct to say about a post that they’ve made then sometimes I will reply directly about that. "

This pretty much sums up the way I go about it too - usually something they've said in a post will spark a message and then if conversation flows from there then great.

I think I've sent maybe 5 or 6 "cold" messages in the two years I've been here and always find them somewhat awkward and almost a little clinical.

As for winks, while I follow the train of thought of the poster that mentioned them, given most people don't even look at them they've mostly become irrelevant and pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people women and men make that initial first move to getting that persons attention there looking for do you wink, send a detailed essay, send a subtle hinted message or do u fab all there pics in hopes they cotton on

So how do you do it "

Well I use a multiple approach.

Reflect on an interesting post they've made here

Read the profile a couple of times, the second time picking out key points

fab a pic or two

draft a thoughtful message, not too long but enough to show you've given them careful consideration

It's been fuck all use but that's what I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people women and men make that initial first move to getting that persons attention there looking for do you wink, send a detailed essay, send a subtle hinted message or do u fab all there pics in hopes they cotton on

So how do you do it

I usually turn off my ninja mode and look at their profile, maybe fab a couple of pics and send a wink...

For me that works every time

Ooo subtle Chasing someone who's merely looked at my profile seems a bit hawkerish. So I don't do that. I often forget to check if people have fabbed any of my pics for ages as it's almost always dudes fabbing. So I rarely respond to that either. But you would definitely have got me with the wink.

Women should wink more. It may not work for them, under their piles of eager interest, but it really works for guys "

I never respond to winks

And I usually steer clear of people off the forums too

When I am looking I do an extensive profile search then narrow it down..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people women and men make that initial first move to getting that persons attention there looking for do you wink, send a detailed essay, send a subtle hinted message or do u fab all there pics in hopes they cotton on

So how do you do it

I usually turn off my ninja mode and look at their profile, maybe fab a couple of pics and send a wink...

For me that works every time "

When us guys do it to women

We don’t get anything. Or blocked

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I tell them how much I'd like to make love to their shitbox and then jizz on their toes."

Shitbox freshly bleached and toes freshly de-hobbit footed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait for the saucer to appear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send them a picture of my cock and write "it ain't gonna suck itself"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find telepathic thought transfer works quite well

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