FabSwingers.com forum: How too avoid time wasters?

By *ackwheels OP Man
over a year ago

greenford

Need advice! Noticed so many people message and say can we meet. At least 1 hour message exchanges! Give post code! Last minute say oh I can't come? How too avoid this time wasting people? HELP PLEASE!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I can’t make it

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I'd say don't get into too much messaging, you are wasting your own time in that... I bet they are asking for pics and wanting to know what you will do to them? The messages will just be wanking material.

Keep it direct and to the point. Exchange face pics and if they are happy to meet great.

I notice from your profile you cannot travel, I take it you invite these men directly to your home? Please be careful... There are some proper weirdos out there.... This also could be what puts people off. Is there not a cafe or pub where you could meet first? Somewhere public and neutral? It's far safer for all concerned.

I hope you can get past the time wasters. There are two types on here, talkers and doers. Learn to recognise when it's just talk and fantasy and you will pick up the doers no trouble xx

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By *ackwheels OP Man
over a year ago

greenford

Thankyou great advice! I have met some great people! But recently time waste or ask for money!

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Report those asking for money or offering it... It's against site rules

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By *ackwheels OP Man
over a year ago

greenford

I think there's a lot of escorts using this site too

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Generally, I believe you are taking matters too fast and whilst you have had some decent meets in your opinion, you are cutting corners in your approach style.

What Eton Mess said earlier makes sense. Meet somewhere neutral first; genuine real people won't mind at all. Then decide from there.

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By *oodfellerCoolMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

This is my view, the way I see them.

TIME WASTERS

No intention to meet

with lies and deceit

I'll waste your time not mine,

a promise made

a game to be played

I have no personal pride.

I'll make you believe

but I'm out to deceive

as I leave you high and dry,

It's part of the game

feeling no shame

don't ask the reason why.

To get my thrill i'm online still

my pleasure is to take up your time,

I'll name a day but stay away

I'm so clever to fuck with your mind.

There are many like me

it's plain to see

living out lonely lives,

pathetic lost souls

we're young and we're old

spinning a web of lies.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Arrange a meet, don't show up to it and if they don't show up either they're a timewaster

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

At least they're telling you they can't make it.... Most guys posting these kind of threads are complaining about no shows who block them or just go Unlos!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think anyone is going to realistically meet after an hour. Just because people write it doesn't make it so.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

I'd instantly be wary of anyone only providing a postcode. If you can't fix a proper place and time I'm not going to agree to meet. And an hour messaging wouldn't mean anything to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is my view, the way I see them.

TIME WASTERS

No intention to meet

with lies and deceit

I'll waste your time not mine,

a promise made

a game to be played

I have no personal pride.

I'll make you believe

but I'm out to deceive

as I leave you high and dry,

It's part of the game

feeling no shame

don't ask the reason why.

To get my thrill i'm online still

my pleasure is to take up your time,

I'll name a day but stay away

I'm so clever to fuck with your mind.

There are many like me

it's plain to see

living out lonely lives,

pathetic lost souls

we're young and we're old

spinning a web of lies.

Bumping

I like to think I am pretty good at figuring out the timewasters because there are tell tell signs. They all do things in common and after a while become predictable. Last time I was here I never had a let down and I always turned up for an arranged meet/social. This time 1 or 2 have slipped through in communication. Just phishing for information, but not gone further to discuss meeting so minor.

Having said that even though I am a single guy on here I restrict myself to the point I don't attract the politics/drama side of things.

It's all about good times and looking forward to arranging my first meet in 2019.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One line needed.

Fuck or fuck off

Harsh but that's what this site is for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 hour of exchanging messages before meet? Wow. I need at least a week

but I do have meets at the end.

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

Hmm I feel for you op, I started talking to a girl here Earlier this week we have agreed to meet tonight. We swapped numbers and continued flirting on WhatsApp, only for her to stop responding yesterday and now after I’ve arranged a sitter booked a hotel as she could not accommodate.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Aren't timewasters quite easy to avoid if they don't turn up?

Its the stalkers you have to dodge.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Hmm I feel for you op, I started talking to a girl here Earlier this week we have agreed to meet tonight. We swapped numbers and continued flirting on WhatsApp, only for her to stop responding yesterday and now after I’ve arranged a sitter booked a hotel as she could not accommodate."

Did you actually speak to her or just message?

Otherwise he might have made other plans with someone else.

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

That’s my thinking she obviously was using me as a back up until something better came along.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"That’s my thinking she obviously was using me as a back up until something better came along. "

She?

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

"That’s my thinking she obviously was using me as a back up until something better came along.

She?

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