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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people might find that too committing imo.

L.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Some people might find that too committing imo.

L. "

Agreed, holidays, weekends away, two days a week... that's a lot of time to give up. I hope you find it though

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’d settle for a FWB once a month but no such luck in over a year of asking on my profile. I may change my name to Jonah Pariah.

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By *dventurous fellaMan
over a year ago

where

If you’ve not had interest people close by you must be mental. I’d definitely be intrested! Sound amazing

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

You’re 200 miles too far for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am looking for the same thing and in almost an identical situation to yourself OP.

IMO guys have more freedom to choose who they want to see and when and I think this site isnt the best for what we are looking for. There are some guys looking for the same thing.. but they may not be local or have the freedom to meet as frequently as yourself.

Dont give up though, hes out there somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am looking for the same thing and in almost an identical situation to yourself OP.

IMO guys have more freedom to choose who they want to see and when and I think this site isnt the best for what we are looking for. There are some guys looking for the same thing.. but they may not be local or have the freedom to meet as frequently as yourself.

Dont give up though, hes out there somewhere. "

Oooo thank you. I thought I was quite out there on my own . Hope you find what you would like too. Mwah xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

I'm looking for a similar thing with not much luck

Maybe not as often as I tend to get lost in life a little .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

I'd love to apply.

But I think I'm too young. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP maybe go to some of the swing clubs As you find some lovely men there like chams and places . And could lead to a FB , X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP maybe go to some of the swing clubs As you find some lovely men there like chams and places . And could lead to a FB , X"

Thank you. Great advice though I’d be a little nervous going on my own. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

I'd love to apply.

But I think I'm too young. X"

Yes a tad. I won’t be altering my contact age range but thank you for the compliment xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

That sounds like a lot, to me.

I'd just like someone I see every couple of weeks, for clubs and parties and the very occasional weekend away.

As I can't even find someone for sex every month seeking more seems futile.

Good luck with your quest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

I'm looking for a similar thing with not much luck

Maybe not as often as I tend to get lost in life a little ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP maybe go to some of the swing clubs As you find some lovely men there like chams and places . And could lead to a FB , X

Thank you. Great advice though I’d be a little nervous going on my own. xx"
Loads go on there own and I know I would x As its so easy going and they make you feel welcome x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP maybe go to some of the swing clubs As you find some lovely men there like chams and places . And could lead to a FB , X

Thank you. Great advice though I’d be a little nervous going on my own. xxLoads go on there own and I know I would x As its so easy going and they make you feel welcome x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

That would be too much of a commitment for me. Good luck in your search search Op.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

That would be too much of a commitment for me. Good luck in your search search Op."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"id really like to know if my expectations are too high.

"

Many married couples don't spend that much time together!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

Then perhaps you should read and amend your own profile

"I have a FWB and a joint profile. ( Nickonsea/duckandgoose )"

Maybe that would would explain your current problem ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

Then perhaps you should read and amend your own profile

"I have a FWB and a joint profile. ( Nickonsea/duckandgoose )"

Maybe that would would explain your current problem ?"

The op is probably looking for someone more local to her. Would appear her current fwb is quite far away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

Then perhaps you should read and amend your own profile

"I have a FWB and a joint profile. ( Nickonsea/duckandgoose )"

Maybe that would would explain your current problem ?

The op is probably looking for someone more local to her. Would appear her current fwb is quite far away? "

You could well be right. But an alteration to her own profile would help me thinks ?

Maybe i'm one of the few blokes on here that actually reads profiles...........i don't know. But even if i lived close to OP, it's a profile i would pass because she dosn't seem to be single and obviously isn't part of a "couple". Do you see where i'm coming from on that ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

Then perhaps you should read and amend your own profile

"I have a FWB and a joint profile. ( Nickonsea/duckandgoose )"

Maybe that would would explain your current problem ?

The op is probably looking for someone more local to her. Would appear her current fwb is quite far away?

You could well be right. But an alteration to her own profile would help me thinks ?

Maybe i'm one of the few blokes on here that actually reads profiles...........i don't know. But even if i lived close to OP, it's a profile i would pass because she dosn't seem to be single and obviously isn't part of a "couple". Do you see where i'm coming from on that ?"

I am single and not looking to change that status..... I do have a FWB who I see every six weeks or so. As part of that relationship we are looking to have fun with couples. If you read my profile you would see that nickonsea lives in Harwich. 200 miles away....... I’m looking essentially for a FWB more local to myself. Hope this clears any misunderstanding up for you xx

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere

I'm looking for you but near me!!!!

Sorry I can't help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

Then perhaps you should read and amend your own profile

"I have a FWB and a joint profile. ( Nickonsea/duckandgoose )"

Maybe that would would explain your current problem ?

The op is probably looking for someone more local to her. Would appear her current fwb is quite far away?

You could well be right. But an alteration to her own profile would help me thinks ?

Maybe i'm one of the few blokes on here that actually reads profiles...........i don't know. But even if i lived close to OP, it's a profile i would pass because she dosn't seem to be single and obviously isn't part of a "couple". Do you see where i'm coming from on that ?

I am single and not looking to change that status..... I do have a FWB who I see every six weeks or so. As part of that relationship we are looking to have fun with couples. If you read my profile you would see that nickonsea lives in Harwich. 200 miles away....... I’m looking essentially for a FWB more local to myself. Hope this clears any misunderstanding up for you xx"

Actually it does clear it up. I read your profile but not your FWB 's.

I still think that you need to alter your own profile though to reflect what you are actually looking for.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

It is possible. Had one for two and a half years. Was my best mate, went away, went out, saw him twice a week but never wanted a relationship. Alas turned out to be selfish and a tad nasty so chucked him in the bin.

Seeking a replacement is ruddy tricky though. Good luck to you OP and everyone seeking similar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is possible. Had one for two and a half years. Was my best mate, went away, went out, saw him twice a week but never wanted a relationship. Alas turned out to be selfish and a tad nasty so chucked him in the bin.

Seeking a replacement is ruddy tricky though. Good luck to you OP and everyone seeking similar "

I had a similar experience and I'm also looking for a replacement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people might find that too committing imo.

L. "

Yeah i agree

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

Come to Margate. I won't say no to that

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

what we don't know OP is what happens with all the men who do message you. We often read in forums that some women get up to 200 messages a day. it's likely that as a single woman you receive quite a lot of interest ? Perhaps you would tell us why none of those are suitable ? clearly a FWB arrangement is created as a result of casual meetings with one man becoming more regular and then including all the social activity you seek as the relationship develops. That is how it has worked for me. It's a progression not unlike non swinging dating .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one. We even had a couples profile, he didn't include me in things done things on the sly, basically was just so selfish and didn't respect me one bit and he thought I was daft haha I'm far from it.. kicked him to the kerb now on the look out for a new one. Could take a while but I'm willing to wait haha. Good luck on finding yours. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what we don't know OP is what happens with all the men who do message you. We often read in forums that some women get up to 200 messages a day. it's likely that as a single woman you receive quite a lot of interest ? Perhaps you would tell us why none of those are suitable ? clearly a FWB arrangement is created as a result of casual meetings with one man becoming more regular and then including all the social activity you seek as the relationship develops. That is how it has worked for me. It's a progression not unlike non swinging dating ."

Because most messages from guys.... hey how you doing fancy a shag isn't that appealing haha.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Any ladies near Margate that wood like a friend with benefits fill free to message me.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

How many people have you blocked from contacting you?

intrigued by your post and went to read your profile.

It seems to be dominated by a long list of "instant blocks" of people getting in contact you.

How many people does that filter out, pro-actively by you and reactively by others who may be deterred from getting in touch in the first?

Dunno.

Just a bit of feedback.

Anyway, good luck in your search and fingers crossed for you, if not the legs lol.

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By *tatMan
over a year ago

Horrabridge


" Because most messages from guys.... hey how you doing fancy a shag isn't that appealing haha."

And the rare messages of the more polite and pleasant males some times get drowned in the spam of the above

I don't think what the OP is looking for is unreasonable but I think that the description is very close to a relationship and may put quite a few off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tbh OP most guys are just looking for nsa,I'm also looking for a Fwb but not for holidays or to meet 4 nights a week,just someone to socialise with now and again,I'm about to give up though

good luck to finding what you want

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what we don't know OP is what happens with all the men who do message you. We often read in forums that some women get up to 200 messages a day. it's likely that as a single woman you receive quite a lot of interest ? Perhaps you would tell us why none of those are suitable ? clearly a FWB arrangement is created as a result of casual meetings with one man becoming more regular and then including all the social activity you seek as the relationship develops. That is how it has worked for me. It's a progression not unlike non swinging dating ."

I really don’t want to sleep my way through the site in hopes that one just may develop into what Im looking for. I do talk to lots of guys and when chatting im asked what it is I would like..... it’s generally through that conversation then that it’s very apparent that you guys just generally want the “fuck and runs”....... that’s really not my thing. Not saying it’s wrong but just not right for me. I appreciate everyone’s time to respond on this thread. It just really has confirmed my thoughts. A genuine FWB are as elusive as rocking horse shiz.

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
over a year ago

scunthorpe

Would making your profile read a little bit more friendly perhaps help? To me it comes across very blunt and not too inviting x

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By *tatMan
over a year ago

Horrabridge

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would making your profile read a little bit more friendly perhaps help? To me it comes across very blunt and not too inviting x"

Thank you . My profile doesn’t put off contact from guys. It’s what I’m looking for when chatting that doesn’t tick their box. Xx

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By *tatMan
over a year ago

Horrabridge


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I really don’t want to sleep my way through the site in hopes that one just may develop into what Im looking for. I do talk to lots of guys and when chatting im asked what it is I would like..... it’s generally through that conversation then that it’s very apparent that you guys just generally want the “fuck and runs”....... that’s really not my thing. Not saying it’s wrong but just not right for me. I appreciate everyone’s time to respond on this thread. It just really has confirmed my thoughts. A genuine FWB are as elusive as rocking horse shiz. "

disagree there are genuine and straightforward people on here.

I believe, and I'm sure I'm not the only one, that amazing sex is built over more meets and connection that goes beyond the mere "say hi, bang, leave".

I also understand that there are a loooot of insencere people on here that will say anything for a fuck. Unfortunately you never know until you meet in person, maybe a couple of socials before the meet could help out the "rush to bang" types and maybe build on the FWB relationship rather than starting from the end.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

You'd be much better going to a social event in your area and cut out the Middleman fab is can be a pain in the ass...

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"Would making your profile read a little bit more friendly perhaps help? To me it comes across very blunt and not too inviting x

Thank you . My profile doesn’t put off contact from guys. It’s what I’m looking for when chatting that doesn’t tick their box. Xx"

I've read the thread and the responses the opening post tells a better description of what you're looking for than your profile.. a single ladies profile with no text gets messages (likely the any holes a goal brigade )however it might put off the very type of guy you're wanting ..the more info you provide the more informed folk are..it's not worked up to press might be worth trying a different approach.

Are you proactively messaging guys ? Afterall you know better than anyone who you're looking for.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

2goods third law of fab..

The more niche your requirements the longer your search will be.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Pushback.

The was the word that eluded me earlier on when commenting on your profile.

As you start reading it, it keeps pushing the reader back and away.

The other thing is it's dominated by telling people what you do NOT want, rather than what you do want.

You come across it all the time in life - people saying what they are not, rather than what they are.

"How are you?"

"Not bad, thanks."

What does that mean? Not bad? lololol

A friend told me last night their works Christmas night -out invite came with a message: "No jeans or trainers."

OK, no jeans or trainers. Swimsuit and flip-flops will be fine then lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I really don’t want to sleep my way through the site in hopes that one just may develop into what Im looking for. I do talk to lots of guys and when chatting im asked what it is I would like..... it’s generally through that conversation then that it’s very apparent that you guys just generally want the “fuck and runs”....... that’s really not my thing. Not saying it’s wrong but just not right for me. I appreciate everyone’s time to respond on this thread. It just really has confirmed my thoughts. A genuine FWB are as elusive as rocking horse shiz.

disagree there are genuine and straightforward people on here.

I believe, and I'm sure I'm not the only one, that amazing sex is built over more meets and connection that goes beyond the mere "say hi, bang, leave".

I also understand that there are a loooot of insencere people on here that will say anything for a fuck. Unfortunately you never know until you meet in person, maybe a couple of socials before the meet could help out the "rush to bang" types and maybe build on the FWB relationship rather than starting from the end."

You will see from my verifications that socials are pretty much always a given. I’m not saying that there aren’t genuine and straightforward people. I’m trying to understand why guys aren’t attracted to what’s on the table. I’m very aware it’s niche and I haven’t really popped any time scales around it happening or happening at all. I’m not unhappy with my life as is. I appreciate the feedback or pushback regarding my profile. I will look at that and see if that has any impact on the kind of guy that contacts me. I’m always appreciative of the time you forumites take to leave your comments and feedback. Thank you you lovely lot. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would making your profile read a little bit more friendly perhaps help? To me it comes across very blunt and not too inviting x

Thank you . My profile doesn’t put off contact from guys. It’s what I’m looking for when chatting that doesn’t tick their box. Xx

I've read the thread and the responses the opening post tells a better description of what you're looking for than your profile.. a single ladies profile with no text gets messages (likely the any holes a goal brigade )however it might put off the very type of guy you're wanting ..the more info you provide the more informed folk are..it's not worked up to press might be worth trying a different approach.

Are you proactively messaging guys ? Afterall you know better than anyone who you're looking for.

"

Thank you I appreciate your input and will look at my profile. Yes I approach men too..... xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have updated my profile to reflect more of what I’m looking for and to be less abrasive. I’m now sat waiting for the influx of interest. Xx

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I have updated my profile to reflect more of what I’m looking for and to be less abrasive. I’m now sat waiting for the influx of interest. Xx"

Would you like honest advice as to why I still think the profile is an issue?

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Don’t try so hard. I have Fab playmates with no set times to meet up but some I have been friends with for several years. I’ve had the occasional sleepover and days out.

Start slow and build it up. It’s not like advertising for a plumber!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have updated my profile to reflect more of what I’m looking for and to be less abrasive. I’m now sat waiting for the influx of interest. Xx

Would you like honest advice as to why I still think the profile is an issue? "

Please do xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don’t try so hard. I have Fab playmates with no set times to meet up but some I have been friends with for several years. I’ve had the occasional sleepover and days out.

Start slow and build it up. It’s not like advertising for a plumber! "

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

It’s because the majority of men on here are married and they can’t give that commitment

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I have updated my profile to reflect more of what I’m looking for and to be less abrasive. I’m now sat waiting for the influx of interest. Xx

Would you like honest advice as to why I still think the profile is an issue?

Please do xx"

For me, the reference to "ethnic gentlemen" is a big red flag. Obviously you can see whoever you like, but that phrase is like something out of a bad seventies sitcom. That, to me, would suggest someone who is a bit racist and I would give them a wide berth.

I would avoid any references to race at all. You may then get messages from people you aren't attracted to, but you can ignore them.

Also, as other people have said detailing exactly what you want in terms of holidays and so on cones across as a bit demanding. I would drop that and say you want to meet with someone for a fwb relationship and see what develops...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

It’s because the majority of men on here are married and they can’t give that commitment "

Ooooo controversial...... feet up and waiting for the backlash xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it is too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

It’s because the majority of men on here are married and they can’t give that commitment "

Hey, some of us aren't married, we just have severe commitment issues.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

It’s because the majority of men on here are married and they can’t give that commitment "

Or the majority of guys on here are looking for nsa.

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The more niche your requirements the longer you'll search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I been looking for it for 5 years. It's hard work.

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

It’s because the majority of men on here are married and they can’t give that commitment

Hey, some of us aren't married, we just have severe commitment issues."

Are they commitment 'issues' or just that we have committed either been burnt or didn't like it and are now happy with where we are at in life and are looking for pleasure but without the hassle of changing our life circumstances

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

It’s because the majority of men on here are married and they can’t give that commitment

Hey, some of us aren't married, we just have severe commitment issues.

Are they commitment 'issues' or just that we have committed either been burnt or didn't like it and are now happy with where we are at in life and are looking for pleasure but without the hassle of changing our life circumstances"

Very valid reasons...... burnt or didn’t like it! What I’m offering is the nice bit of a relationship. Without traditional commitment. Yes it may sound rigid but it’s really not. It’s a wish list only....... I’m very open to tailor making it with the right person. What I’m very certain of is that I’m not looking for conventional xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

It’s because the majority of men on here are married and they can’t give that commitment

Hey, some of us aren't married, we just have severe commitment issues.

Are they commitment 'issues' or just that we have committed either been burnt or didn't like it and are now happy with where we are at in life and are looking for pleasure but without the hassle of changing our life circumstances"

No, it's commitment issues. I won't even buy a bag for life.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

Simple solution - just increase your age range a bit. To quote Mr Michael “I’m your man”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have updated my profile to reflect more of what I’m looking for and to be less abrasive. I’m now sat waiting for the influx of interest. Xx

Would you like honest advice as to why I still think the profile is an issue?

Please do xx

For me, the reference to "ethnic gentlemen" is a big red flag. Obviously you can see whoever you like, but that phrase is like something out of a bad seventies sitcom. That, to me, would suggest someone who is a bit racist and I would give them a wide berth.

I would avoid any references to race at all. You may then get messages from people you aren't attracted to, but you can ignore them.

Also, as other people have said detailing exactly what you want in terms of holidays and so on cones across as a bit demanding. I would drop that and say you want to meet with someone for a fwb relationship and see what develops... "

I strongly disagree... I think she should put her “ no ethnic men “ in the very beginning of her profile...

That way all ethnic guys can stop reading and save themselves time...

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I have updated my profile to reflect more of what I’m looking for and to be less abrasive. I’m now sat waiting for the influx of interest. Xx

Would you like honest advice as to why I still think the profile is an issue?

Please do xx

For me, the reference to "ethnic gentlemen" is a big red flag. Obviously you can see whoever you like, but that phrase is like something out of a bad seventies sitcom. That, to me, would suggest someone who is a bit racist and I would give them a wide berth.

I would avoid any references to race at all. You may then get messages from people you aren't attracted to, but you can ignore them.

Also, as other people have said detailing exactly what you want in terms of holidays and so on cones across as a bit demanding. I would drop that and say you want to meet with someone for a fwb relationship and see what develops...

I strongly disagree... I think she should put her “ no ethnic men “ in the very beginning of her profile...

That way all ethnic guys can stop reading and save themselves time..."

Everyone has an ethnicity. She would be effectively saying she doesn't want any men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have updated my profile to reflect more of what I’m looking for and to be less abrasive. I’m now sat waiting for the influx of interest. Xx

Would you like honest advice as to why I still think the profile is an issue?

Please do xx

For me, the reference to "ethnic gentlemen" is a big red flag. Obviously you can see whoever you like, but that phrase is like something out of a bad seventies sitcom. That, to me, would suggest someone who is a bit racist and I would give them a wide berth.

I would avoid any references to race at all. You may then get messages from people you aren't attracted to, but you can ignore them.

Also, as other people have said detailing exactly what you want in terms of holidays and so on cones across as a bit demanding. I would drop that and say you want to meet with someone for a fwb relationship and see what develops...

I strongly disagree... I think she should put her “ no ethnic men “ in the very beginning of her profile...

That way all ethnic guys can stop reading and save themselves time...

Everyone has an ethnicity. She would be effectively saying she doesn't want any men. "

I think it's obvious to everyone what 'ethnic' means.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op. It may sound a bit full on to some guys. Talking about holidays before even knowing them. Friendships build up over time. You may meet someone who doesnt want to go away but 6 months down the line may change their mind.

What your asking seems to be an awful lot of commitment from someone and married or not most dont want that level of commitment

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I have updated my profile to reflect more of what I’m looking for and to be less abrasive. I’m now sat waiting for the influx of interest. Xx

Would you like honest advice as to why I still think the profile is an issue?

Please do xx

For me, the reference to "ethnic gentlemen" is a big red flag. Obviously you can see whoever you like, but that phrase is like something out of a bad seventies sitcom. That, to me, would suggest someone who is a bit racist and I would give them a wide berth.

I would avoid any references to race at all. You may then get messages from people you aren't attracted to, but you can ignore them.

Also, as other people have said detailing exactly what you want in terms of holidays and so on cones across as a bit demanding. I would drop that and say you want to meet with someone for a fwb relationship and see what develops...

I strongly disagree... I think she should put her “ no ethnic men “ in the very beginning of her profile...

That way all ethnic guys can stop reading and save themselves time...

Everyone has an ethnicity. She would be effectively saying she doesn't want any men.

I think it's obvious to everyone what 'ethnic' means."

It is, but using "ethnic" in that way suggests a certain mindset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also in your profile it says you have an FWB you already see.

Quite confused.

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By *4gnumprMan
over a year ago

telford

Because no one understands me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have updated my profile to reflect more of what I’m looking for and to be less abrasive. I’m now sat waiting for the influx of interest. Xx

Would you like honest advice as to why I still think the profile is an issue?

Please do xx

For me, the reference to "ethnic gentlemen" is a big red flag. Obviously you can see whoever you like, but that phrase is like something out of a bad seventies sitcom. That, to me, would suggest someone who is a bit racist and I would give them a wide berth.

I would avoid any references to race at all. You may then get messages from people you aren't attracted to, but you can ignore them.

Also, as other people have said detailing exactly what you want in terms of holidays and so on cones across as a bit demanding. I would drop that and say you want to meet with someone for a fwb relationship and see what develops...

I strongly disagree... I think she should put her “ no ethnic men “ in the very beginning of her profile...

That way all ethnic guys can stop reading and save themselves time...

Everyone has an ethnicity. She would be effectively saying she doesn't want any men.

I think it's obvious to everyone what 'ethnic' means.

It is, but using "ethnic" in that way suggests a certain mindset. "

I understand what you’re saying...... but if you’re not a ethnic man looking to hookup with her.... you wouldn’t care....

It’s like me being turned off from a female profile that states BBC ONLY , NO WHITE MEN....

Why would I chastise a person that is making me her prime target?

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I have updated my profile to reflect more of what I’m looking for and to be less abrasive. I’m now sat waiting for the influx of interest. Xx

Would you like honest advice as to why I still think the profile is an issue?

Please do xx

For me, the reference to "ethnic gentlemen" is a big red flag. Obviously you can see whoever you like, but that phrase is like something out of a bad seventies sitcom. That, to me, would suggest someone who is a bit racist and I would give them a wide berth.

I would avoid any references to race at all. You may then get messages from people you aren't attracted to, but you can ignore them.

Also, as other people have said detailing exactly what you want in terms of holidays and so on cones across as a bit demanding. I would drop that and say you want to meet with someone for a fwb relationship and see what develops...

I strongly disagree... I think she should put her “ no ethnic men “ in the very beginning of her profile...

That way all ethnic guys can stop reading and save themselves time...

Everyone has an ethnicity. She would be effectively saying she doesn't want any men.

I think it's obvious to everyone what 'ethnic' means.

It is, but using "ethnic" in that way suggests a certain mindset.

I understand what you’re saying...... but if you’re not a ethnic man looking to hookup with her.... you wouldn’t care....

It’s like me being turned off from a female profile that states BBC ONLY , NO WHITE MEN....

Why would I chastise a person that is making me her prime target?"

You're missing the point. I am making a point about the phrasing. You can get the point across in a less provocative way.

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By *ighorn2006Man
over a year ago

Ceredigion / N France


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

Hi, IMHO the 'no married men' will exclude a massive part of the fellas on this site. Then your narrow age range narrows it down further. But, as you say, it's your body so you can choose who you want.

I just find it refreshing that women have this frustration too .... I thought it was just us blokes that had little luck on here !!!! hehehe

Good luck to all of you ladies

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Would be nice to have a FF (fuck friend) that worked holistically and individually between the three of us.

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

It’s because the majority of men on here are married and they can’t give that commitment

Hey, some of us aren't married, we just have severe commitment issues.

Are they commitment 'issues' or just that we have committed either been burnt or didn't like it and are now happy with where we are at in life and are looking for pleasure but without the hassle of changing our life circumstances

No, it's commitment issues. I won't even buy a bag for life. "

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

Hi, IMHO the 'no married men' will exclude a massive part of the fellas on this site. Then your narrow age range narrows it down further. But, as you say, it's your body so you can choose who you want.

I just find it refreshing that women have this frustration too .... I thought it was just us blokes that had little luck on here !!!! hehehe

Good luck to all of you ladies "

Indeed, most men in the OPs preferred age group will be attached.

The OPs rules do, in fact, exclude the vast majority of men on here.

1. "no ethnic gentlemen"

2. No attached people

3. No under 40s

4. No over 55s

5. No one not local

6. No one who wants a proper relationship

7....but must be someone who wants something more than casual...

8. And who doesn't object to another regular fb

I am not surprised the target is elusive...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol

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By *hips n FursMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

Hi, IMHO the 'no married men' will exclude a massive part of the fellas on this site. Then your narrow age range narrows it down further. But, as you say, it's your body so you can choose who you want.

I just find it refreshing that women have this frustration too .... I thought it was just us blokes that had little luck on here !!!! hehehe

Good luck to all of you ladies

Indeed, most men in the OPs preferred age group will be attached.

The OPs rules do, in fact, exclude the vast majority of men on here.

1. "no ethnic gentlemen"

2. No attached people

3. No under 40s

4. No over 55s

5. No one not local

6. No one who wants a proper relationship

7....but must be someone who wants something more than casual...

8. And who doesn't object to another regular fb

I am not surprised the target is elusive... "

This just about some it up for me,I think you'd have more chance finding what you are looking for down at the pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "
absolutely nothing sounds very appealing to me

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"OP maybe go to some of the swing clubs As you find some lovely men there like chams and places . And could lead to a FB , X

Thank you. Great advice though I’d be a little nervous going on my own. xx"

We could go together, I've never been before either due to being on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

This is exactly the sort of relationship I enjoy and desire when working away from home. I typically spend Mon-Fri in hotels in an area for 3-12 months; with the right person, this works really well for both parties.

If my next contract is anywhere near Leeds, I’ll get in touch xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

This is exactly the sort of relationship I enjoy and desire when working away from home. I typically spend Mon-Fri in hotels in an area for 3-12 months; with the right person, this works really well for both parties.

If my next contract is anywhere near Leeds, I’ll get in touch xx"

Too old mate i think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

This is exactly the sort of relationship I enjoy and desire when working away from home. I typically spend Mon-Fri in hotels in an area for 3-12 months; with the right person, this works really well for both parties.

If my next contract is anywhere near Leeds, I’ll get in touch xx"

Hallelujah...... please do. xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "
I would love to, but am outside of your age range

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it exclusive on your part ? Do you want it to be exclusive on his ?

If so ..... that sounds much like marriage to me. "

No. Clearly states that both parties are free to see whom they wish at anytime. No questions asked xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Is it exclusive on your part ? Do you want it to be exclusive on his ?

If so ..... that sounds much like marriage to me.

No. Clearly states that both parties are free to see whom they wish at anytime. No questions asked xx"

Yep. I realised that and deleted my original question but now you've re posted it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it exclusive on your part ? Do you want it to be exclusive on his ?

If so ..... that sounds much like marriage to me.

No. Clearly states that both parties are free to see whom they wish at anytime. No questions asked xx

Yep. I realised that and deleted my original question but now you've re posted it "

Whoops. We must have been in unison. Lol. Sorry xx

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By *aughtybutniceBBWWoman
over a year ago

The County of Northamptonshire

This is kinda what I am looking for too! I have had some success on here, but, I agree that most are attached in some way and cant commit to what you are looking for. They guy I saw for 15 months was attached in the beginning, but he only saw her once a week due to where she lived and that didn't last

The only thing I am more flexible on is the regularity. Life does get in the way and I wouldn't expect twice a week or even once a week if we were both busy.

But if I want to go to the cinema and then come back for extra curricula activities, thats the kind of thing I want every now and again, along with brief spells away somewhere. These jaunts would obviously be interspersed heavily with just sex meets at mine, his or hotels

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere


"This is kinda what I am looking for too! I have had some success on here, but, I agree that most are attached in some way and cant commit to what you are looking for. They guy I saw for 15 months was attached in the beginning, but he only saw her once a week due to where she lived and that didn't last

The only thing I am more flexible on is the regularity. Life does get in the way and I wouldn't expect twice a week or even once a week if we were both busy.

But if I want to go to the cinema and then come back for extra curricula activities, thats the kind of thing I want every now and again, along with brief spells away somewhere. These jaunts would obviously be interspersed heavily with just sex meets at mine, his or hotels

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This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is kinda what I am looking for too! I have had some success on here, but, I agree that most are attached in some way and cant commit to what you are looking for. They guy I saw for 15 months was attached in the beginning, but he only saw her once a week due to where she lived and that didn't last

The only thing I am more flexible on is the regularity. Life does get in the way and I wouldn't expect twice a week or even once a week if we were both busy.

But if I want to go to the cinema and then come back for extra curricula activities, thats the kind of thing I want every now and again, along with brief spells away somewhere. These jaunts would obviously be interspersed heavily with just sex meets at mine, his or hotels

"

I wholeheartedly agree. I’m completely flexible on the wish list but wanted to give a flavour of the kind of thing I would like. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is kinda what I am looking for too! I have had some success on here, but, I agree that most are attached in some way and cant commit to what you are looking for. They guy I saw for 15 months was attached in the beginning, but he only saw her once a week due to where she lived and that didn't last

The only thing I am more flexible on is the regularity. Life does get in the way and I wouldn't expect twice a week or even once a week if we were both busy.

But if I want to go to the cinema and then come back for extra curricula activities, thats the kind of thing I want every now and again, along with brief spells away somewhere. These jaunts would obviously be interspersed heavily with just sex meets at mine, his or hotels

This "

Everyone under 5'10" is crying now.

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By *aughtybutniceBBWWoman
over a year ago

The County of Northamptonshire


"This is kinda what I am looking for too! I have had some success on here, but, I agree that most are attached in some way and cant commit to what you are looking for. They guy I saw for 15 months was attached in the beginning, but he only saw her once a week due to where she lived and that didn't last

The only thing I am more flexible on is the regularity. Life does get in the way and I wouldn't expect twice a week or even once a week if we were both busy.

But if I want to go to the cinema and then come back for extra curricula activities, thats the kind of thing I want every now and again, along with brief spells away somewhere. These jaunts would obviously be interspersed heavily with just sex meets at mine, his or hotels

I wholeheartedly agree. I’m completely flexible on the wish list but wanted to give a flavour of the kind of thing I would like. xx"

Channing Tatum would be top of my "I would like" list, along with Drake and The Rock haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 2 FWB in my life ... one for 14 years and one for 8.5 years!

But what you are looking for sounds more like a boyfriend and a relationship?

I really am a little confused ...

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By *oxoffrogsCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

I have found exactly this with Steve and I wasn’t even looking and didn’t know I wanted it!

Don’t give up, he’ll be out there somewhere x

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over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high.

I have found exactly this with Steve and I wasn’t even looking and didn’t know I wanted it!

Don’t give up, he’ll be out there somewhere x"

Awwww that’s so lovely that you’ve found each other. If the truth be known I was really interested in making this a post and reading some of it wished I hadn’t. My FWB said to make a thread. Well the trauma I can tell you....... lol. I’m sure he is but until we find each other I am perfectly happy as I am...... you’ve given me hope that it will happen.... one day. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is kinda what I am looking for too! I have had some success on here, but, I agree that most are attached in some way and cant commit to what you are looking for. They guy I saw for 15 months was attached in the beginning, but he only saw her once a week due to where she lived and that didn't last

The only thing I am more flexible on is the regularity. Life does get in the way and I wouldn't expect twice a week or even once a week if we were both busy.

But if I want to go to the cinema and then come back for extra curricula activities, thats the kind of thing I want every now and again, along with brief spells away somewhere. These jaunts would obviously be interspersed heavily with just sex meets at mine, his or hotels

I wholeheartedly agree. I’m completely flexible on the wish list but wanted to give a flavour of the kind of thing I would like. xx

Channing Tatum would be top of my "I would like" list, along with Drake and The Rock haha"

I can’t see the appeal xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is kinda what I am looking for too! I have had some success on here, but, I agree that most are attached in some way and cant commit to what you are looking for. They guy I saw for 15 months was attached in the beginning, but he only saw her once a week due to where she lived and that didn't last

The only thing I am more flexible on is the regularity. Life does get in the way and I wouldn't expect twice a week or even once a week if we were both busy.

But if I want to go to the cinema and then come back for extra curricula activities, thats the kind of thing I want every now and again, along with brief spells away somewhere. These jaunts would obviously be interspersed heavily with just sex meets at mine, his or hotels

I wholeheartedly agree. I’m completely flexible on the wish list but wanted to give a flavour of the kind of thing I would like. xx

Channing Tatum would be top of my "I would like" list, along with Drake and The Rock haha

I can’t see the appeal xx"

Whoops that meant to say can so sorry xx

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over a year ago


"Ok guys....... I need to know why it just isn’t happening. Three years I’ve been looking for a local FWB. I don’t want your money, your home, marriage or true commitment. What I would like is a regular FWB that would want to meet socially as well as sexually. Weekends away, maybe short holidays. Someone who would be happy to be a part of my life for a couple of days per week. Be free to see who you would like with no questions asked in between times. I will pay my way and can accommodate. What is it about this arrangement that doesn’t sound appealing? I’d teally like to know if my expectations are too high. "

I'd love to have a regular FWB who I could meet 2 or 3 times a week, but not always for sex. I wouldn't do holidays but maybe a weekend away would be ok.

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I've seen lots of ladies posting in the forums stating that they are looking for a fwb kind of relationship, including myself, so you're not alone OP.

I think the main difference though is the frequency that you want to meet and the mentioning of holidays. Personally, I'd prefer once or twice a fortnight as anything more than that feels too much like a commitment.

Don't give up. If it's worth having then it's worth waiting for

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've seen lots of ladies posting in the forums stating that they are looking for a fwb kind of relationship, including myself, so you're not alone OP.

I think the main difference though is the frequency that you want to meet and the mentioning of holidays. Personally, I'd prefer once or twice a fortnight as anything more than that feels too much like a commitment.

Don't give up. If it's worth having then it's worth waiting for "

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"I have updated my profile to reflect more of what I’m looking for and to be less abrasive. I’m now sat waiting for the influx of interest. Xx

Would you like honest advice as to why I still think the profile is an issue?

Please do xx

For me, the reference to "ethnic gentlemen" is a big red flag. Obviously you can see whoever you like, but that phrase is like something out of a bad seventies sitcom. That, to me, would suggest someone who is a bit racist and I would give them a wide berth.

I would avoid any references to race at all. You may then get messages from people you aren't attracted to, but you can ignore them.

Also, as other people have said detailing exactly what you want in terms of holidays and so on cones across as a bit demanding. I would drop that and say you want to meet with someone for a fwb relationship and see what develops...

I strongly disagree... I think she should put her “ no ethnic men “ in the very beginning of her profile...

That way all ethnic guys can stop reading and save themselves time...

Everyone has an ethnicity. She would be effectively saying she doesn't want any men.

I think it's obvious to everyone what 'ethnic' means.

It is, but using "ethnic" in that way suggests a certain mindset.

I understand what you’re saying...... but if you’re not a ethnic man looking to hookup with her.... you wouldn’t care....

It’s like me being turned off from a female profile that states BBC ONLY , NO WHITE MEN....

Why would I chastise a person that is making me her prime target?"

It doesn't work like that.

If I see anything on a profile that suggest the person thinks race is an important discriminator, whether in favour of someone or against, that's a big negative in my book.

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