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Reserved / Shy Ladies, signs they might like you ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Blatantly plagerising a very interesting topic posted earlier on signals guys like ladies , I would love to hear from reserved or shy ladies, or ladies familiar with friends like this.

I'm temporarily working with a reserved but lovely woman who I'm very tempted to ask out. The more I speak with her the more impressed I'v become, but she is reserved and seems to lack confidence in how attractive a person she actually is...even though she's got a naturally stunning beauty, she shrinks into the background when more self-confident women enter a conversation we might be having.

One a staff night out recently she became more relaxed after a few drinks and came much closer into my personal space, maintained eye contact much longer than her fleeting glances at work and even brought up topics about how her parents generation seemed to have it easier asking people out and letting them know they liked them....but then would close down again when a more attention seeking and confident female colleague would come along.

So ladies am I reading too much into a shy lady in her late 30s possible liking of me, is there any tell tale signs or am I taking her politeness in engaging with me as something more than her just being a nice person ?

I don't want to make her uncomfortable by asking her out if there's no basis to believe she's interested in me, and I don't want to make her cautious of comimg out of her shell to other guys she might like if she doesn't like me, as I think it's a crime that suck a wonderful woman is not being cherished by some lucky guy.

Any insights Ladies would be great.

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By *imis3Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Blatantly plagerising a very interesting topic posted earlier on signals guys like ladies , I would love to hear from reserved or shy ladies, or ladies familiar with friends like this.

I'm temporarily working with a reserved but lovely woman who I'm very tempted to ask out. The more I speak with her the more impressed I'v become, but she is reserved and seems to lack confidence in how attractive a person she actually is...even though she's got a naturally stunning beauty, she shrinks into the background when more self-confident women enter a conversation we might be having.

One a staff night out recently she became more relaxed after a few drinks and came much closer into my personal space, maintained eye contact much longer than her fleeting glances at work and even brought up topics about how her parents generation seemed to have it easier asking people out and letting them know they liked them....but then would close down again when a more attention seeking and confident female colleague would come along.

So ladies am I reading too much into a shy lady in her late 30s possible liking of me, is there any tell tale signs or am I taking her politeness in engaging with me as something more than her just being a nice person ?

I don't want to make her uncomfortable by asking her out if there's no basis to believe she's interested in me, and I don't want to make her cautious of comimg out of her shell to other guys she might like if she doesn't like me, as I think it's a crime that suck a wonderful woman is not being cherished by some lucky guy.

Any insights Ladies would be great."

That's so sweet and unselfish I could cry

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By *imis3Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

All the right signals are there Mac, I'm sure she is interested. But this sounds like you would be leaving the lifestyle if it works out ? Reserved girls are almost always reserved in bed as well. Just something to give serious consideration, not that I'm being selfish or anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won’t know if she likes you unless you ask her out! It’s hardly an insult for someone to find another person attractive and ask them out. Folk have been doing it for years. Be brave!

At worst she declines, but she would still more than likely be flattered.

No idea how to read signs, personally if I fancy a fella then I can’t look at him!

Just get on with it before someone else steps in and you kick yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All the right signals are there Mac, I'm sure she is interested. But this sounds like you would be leaving the lifestyle if it works out ? Reserved girls are almost always reserved in bed as well. Just something to give serious consideration, not that I'm being selfish or anything

"

Thanks Kim,your a star

Ah but I'm a quite guy also in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She clearly doesn’t dislike you. You have nothing to lose by asking her out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her! Then tell us how it goes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You won’t know if she likes you unless you ask her out! It’s hardly an insult for someone to find another person attractive and ask them out. Folk have been doing it for years. Be brave!

At worst she declines, but she would still more than likely be flattered.

No idea how to read signs, personally if I fancy a fella then I can’t look at him!

Just get on with it before someone else steps in and you kick yourself.

"

Oh I know it's not an insult, and I have no shyness around regular confidence level ladies, I just don't want to make things awkward for her at work over the next month if I've misjudged her friendliness.

Shy women are very hard to read

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By *imis3Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"All the right signals are there Mac, I'm sure she is interested. But this sounds like you would be leaving the lifestyle if it works out ? Reserved girls are almost always reserved in bed as well. Just something to give serious consideration, not that I'm being selfish or anything

Thanks Kim,your a star

Ah but I'm a quite guy also in the bedroom "

LOL LMAO

Remember who your talking to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the right signals are there Mac, I'm sure she is interested. But this sounds like you would be leaving the lifestyle if it works out ? Reserved girls are almost always reserved in bed as well. Just something to give serious consideration, not that I'm being selfish or anything

"

Not necessarily the case! I’m shy until I get in the bedroom and then I’m fine

I agree that she does seem interested, if you like her then why not. Good luck

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"You won’t know if she likes you unless you ask her out! It’s hardly an insult for someone to find another person attractive and ask them out. Folk have been doing it for years. Be brave!

At worst she declines, but she would still more than likely be flattered.

No idea how to read signs, personally if I fancy a fella then I can’t look at him!

Just get on with it before someone else steps in and you kick yourself.

Oh I know it's not an insult, and I have no shyness around regular confidence level ladies, I just don't want to make things awkward for her at work over the next month if I've misjudged her friendliness.

Shy women are very hard to read "

As long as you are polite and lighthearted about it I see no problem either way, but if she was moving into your personal space I'd say she likes you. I am not shy but I can be very subtle and give nothing away 'til a guy lays his cards on the table.

I can remember one guy accusing me of being unresponsive until he actually grabbed me about a nanosecond later....I think we spent the next 6 hours snogging and whimpering til dawn!

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By *imis3Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"All the right signals are there Mac, I'm sure she is interested. But this sounds like you would be leaving the lifestyle if it works out ? Reserved girls are almost always reserved in bed as well. Just something to give serious consideration, not that I'm being selfish or anything

Not necessarily the case! I’m shy until I get in the bedroom and then I’m fine

I agree that she does seem interested, if you like her then why not. Good luck "

So what signals do shy girls allow themselves to show when they like somebody they see everyday ?

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By *ixaWoman
over a year ago

kettering

If only life was simple, if that would have been me as the lady, I may like you, slipped up when d*unk and said too much, but would have instantly regretted it, as I don’t want to mix business and pleasure, I don’t like the idea of dating anyone from work

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great views coming through, thank you all, it's great to have hear from some reserved ladies too !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If only life was simple, if that would have been me as the lady, I may like you, slipped up when d*unk and said too much, but would have instantly regretted it, as I don’t want to mix business and pleasure, I don’t like the idea of dating anyone from work "

Exactly the scenario I'm concerned might be the case.

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By *imis3Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"If only life was simple, if that would have been me as the lady, I may like you, slipped up when d*unk and said too much, but would have instantly regretted it, as I don’t want to mix business and pleasure, I don’t like the idea of dating anyone from work

Exactly the scenario I'm concerned might be the case. "

But she's going to be out of there in a month. Compromise might be to wait until then and hopefully if some more shy ladies give you some pointers on here you can check for signals in the meantime..While she's sober

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By *ixaWoman
over a year ago

kettering

I still think go for it, if she turns you down, she does as long as you are kind afterwards nothing lost, best not to have regrets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You Mac, give me hope

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP next time you are able to chat with her away from the louder ladies tell her you think she's lovely and would she like to go out for a drink sometime.

You've got nothing to lose. The worst thing that will happen is she turns you down. If you don't ask her you will always wonder, what if.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they just so happen to be around you.

Women censor men by using eye contact, body language, and presence. If women are doing any of those things i.e avoiding eye contact, closing her body off to you, or moving away from you... then whether she's doing this to cover up any signs she's attracted to you or not, us men have to take these signs as a "no". If we don't we could easily be harassing or creeping out a woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You Mac, give me hope "

Thank you H

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks folks, great advise one and all! Being honest I have no personal fear of asking a lady out and being turned down, I'm very much a believer of 'nothing that's for you will pass you, if it's neant to be'. My concern was about the lady in questin feeling uneasy afterwards if she refuses, but as I wouldn't be offended I'm sure I could portray that to her afterwards by being as I am with her now, basically friendly towards someone I admire for her personality.

I think I have cobbled together a plan from all the advise, which is to bide my time until nearer her contract is up, and use that time to gauge if she she shows signs that indicate definate interest. If she doesn't then it wasn't meant to be. If she does the I'll ask her light-heartedly for a drink some evening.

Irish people in small towns like where we are both from don't always look kindly on a single lady dating a seperated man, even when there are no kids involved , like in this instance, so hope thst makes my concerns for her potential embarrassment clearer.

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By *imis3Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

I reckon you have a point about shy Irish girls Mac. Having lived there for a couple of years I see big differences with here in England, regards ladies making it clear there into a guy.

If you do start a relationship and leave here, then don't forget to pass on some of your yoni master techniques to the masses before you go..and reading between the lines I've got a month to get over there again for another journey to utopia

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"All the right signals are there Mac, I'm sure she is interested. But this sounds like you would be leaving the lifestyle if it works out ? Reserved girls are almost always reserved in bed as well. Just something to give serious consideration, not that I'm being selfish or anything

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Not all reserved girls are reserved in bed!

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

Ask her for her help or advice with something (over a coffee).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please for the sake of your career, don’t ask her out.....

This will be a nightmare if her contact is extended....

I know this is the forums and people will think I’m being cruel....

But don’t ever shit were you eat....

This is a HR nightmare waiting to happen....

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