FabSwingers.com forum: Singleton probs 2

By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Just reposting this as the original thread by moanerlisa is now full.

Oh my days where to begin. I’ve been on Pof and tinder actively looking for dates in the hope of it leading to more. Yet I just don’t have any success.

I am genuinely thinking some people are destined to just move on and click if you get me. I struggle! I hardly get any messages and when I do they are from men a lot younger who are not looking for a relationship or from men who are waaaay older or men who send messages such as “ your fit as fook”

I’m really loosing faith, one of my friends has been on there a couple of weeks and met a lovely guy who she’s dated a few times now and went away for the weekend. The last guy I was chatting to and got on really well with ended up wanting me to pay for everything and put all the effort in!

I genuinely do struggle to meet someone in real life and people say “ it will happen” I’m like “ yeah I’m sure Mr right is going to rock up to me in Asda and ask me out” it hasn’t happened in 40 yrs so I’m damn not going to leave it to fate.

Does this resonate with anyone else? Or am I the only sad singleton x

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

[Singleton problem Removed by poster at 31/07/18 09:45:04]

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"[Singleton problem Removed by poster at 31/07/18 09:45:04]"

Failed to copy and paste properly lol

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Just reposting this as the original thread by moanerlisa is now full.

Oh my days where to begin. I’ve been on Pof and tinder actively looking for dates in the hope of it leading to more. Yet I just don’t have any success.

Does this resonate with anyone else? Or am I the only sad singleton x"

[Singleton problem Re-posted by poster at 31/07/18 09:45:04]

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I’m lost. Think I’ll go to asda

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Just reposting this as the original thread by moanerlisa is now full.

Oh my days where to begin. I’ve been on Pof and tinder actively looking for dates in the hope of it leading to more. Yet I just don’t have any success.

Does this resonate with anyone else? Or am I the only sad singleton x

[Singleton problem Re-posted by poster at 31/07/18 09:45:04]"

Your point being?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest,if I were single,the last place I would look for a relationship would be fab,and I'm sure many men would feel the same,sexy fun yes, relationship,no.

Saying that,sweet and I met through POF many years ago,and our love for swinging started some time after that,so I suppose we were lucky in that respect.

My advice,for what it's worth is don't go looking for a relationship,if it is to happen the relationship will find you.

In the meantime get on with enjoying yourself,be that swinging, reading, crochet or whatever.

Good luck.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Rather than complaining, think what it is that you can bring to a relationship.

I joined a dating site for 1 month 10 years ago and was terrified by the entitled attitude of most of the women on there.

A profile which begins ‘I’ve got 3 kids and they are the most important thing I my world.. blah blah’ just repels men. Why would a guy want to take on a bunch of kids from someone else’s failed relationship, with the inherent stress and complications that’s likely to bring? I suspect this is true either if he’s never had them himself or has lost them as a result of a relationship breakdown.

‘I just want to find someone who’ll treat me like a princess..’ smacks of absolute laziness, desperation and a hideous goldigging attitude.

Girls, concentrate on the things you can bring to a relationship that will make someone else’s life better than when they are single. Make their lives more enjoyable, support them through their stresses and provide them with distraction, entertainment, humour and good cooking.

Guys, allow girls to feel independent, make sure they keep some self respect by not allowing them to think you’re their to bankroll them, make them feel safe but not constricted.

Have some interests, make potential partners feel like you’ll be as happy spending time apart as you will be together. Show that you’re not needy. Remember it’s 2018. Guys do laundry and girls do DIY. Stop looking for stereotypes and Victorian attitudes..

Or. Maybe acknowledge that by the time you’ve got to the age of the OP most people will already have been through a few relationships. If you have, learn from the mistakes you made. Stop saying you’ve got a type, it’s proably the wrong one.

Or. Perhaps recognise that life has to be more fluid, the chance of the next person being the person you’re with forever is minuscule from a statistical point of view. There may be a series of amazing people you meet. See each as an opportunity. Enjoy it whilst it lasts but take nothing for granted.

Also recognise the differences in the real world from this one. In the real world swinging girls may still be thought of as easy, and curvy will just be called fat.

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

"To be honest,if I were single,the last place I would look for a relationship would be fab,and I'm sure many men would feel the same,sexy fun yes, relationship,no.

Saying that,sweet and I met through POF many years ago,and our love for swinging started some time after that,so I suppose we were lucky in that respect.

Sorry dont agree with you.

Any site can be just as bad, for the fly by nights or those just looking for casual sexy fun.

Dosnt mean that a relationship can be formed on those other sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had to give up on online dating, I'm too much of a train wreck for it at the moment and it can be difficult at the best of times.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I hardly get any messages and when I do they are from men a lot younger who are not looking for a relationship or from men who are waaaay older or men who send messages such as “ your fit as fook”

I don't know what your dating profile says.. it might put off the very guys you'd like to meet.. be informative friendly try and include your personality in the text.. that way guys will know what you're looking for.. sure the fit as fook messages will likely come as well

I say it often on here and a dating site is no different ..ladies be proactive..you know better than anyone who you're looking for ..sure you might not find him today look again tomorrow..effort in reward out.. if you see a guy you like , his profile seems to tic the boxes message him ..be proactive nothing ventured nothing gained.

P.S. Don't let a thanks but no thanks put you off we all suffer rejection ..as kids as teens as adults

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had to give up on online dating, I'm too much of a train wreck for it at the moment and it can be difficult at the best of times. "

Oh bab, I will give you the biggest squeeze at the next STP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My only problem as a singleton is the thought someone may want a relationship with me.. ewww no way! I love myself enough to not need someone to love me to feel "happy"

Relationships are just added stress.. love being single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had to give up on online dating, I'm too much of a train wreck for it at the moment and it can be difficult at the best of times.

Oh bab, I will give you the biggest squeeze at the next STP. "

I'll take that. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had to give up on online dating, I'm too much of a train wreck for it at the moment and it can be difficult at the best of times.

Oh bab, I will give you the biggest squeeze at the next STP.

I'll take that. x"

And stroke your beautiful hair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My only problem as a singleton is the thought someone may want a relationship with me.. ewww no way! I love myself enough to not need someone to love me to feel "happy"

Relationships are just added stress.. love being single

I love myself enough but I love my life with a plus one better. Double the fun and adventures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rather than complaining, think what it is that you can bring to a relationship.

I joined a dating site for 1 month 10 years ago and was terrified by the entitled attitude of most of the women on there.

‘I just want to find someone who’ll treat me like a princess..’ smacks of absolute laziness, desperation and a hideous goldigging attitude.

Guys, allow girls to feel independent, make sure they keep some self respect by not allowing them to think you’re their to bankroll them, make them feel safe but not constricted.

Also recognise the differences in the real world from this one. In the real world swinging girls may still be thought of as easy, and curvy will just be called fat. "

I like this. It's made me think......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had to give up on online dating, I'm too much of a train wreck for it at the moment and it can be difficult at the best of times.

Oh bab, I will give you the biggest squeeze at the next STP.

I'll take that. x

And stroke your beautiful hair. "

That's a given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent about ten minutes on Tinder once and got bored with the whole process... and as I'd rather date women rather than men, I joined Pink Cupid and LGBT Dating - Pink Cupid was full of bisexual women in relationships with men looking for sex with women and LGBT Dating was full of couples looking to meet single women! I can get that on Fab.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

So this morning on a dating app I had a message from a guy, seemed nice enough then admitted he was just after hookups and not dating. It seems that people are just using dating apps for nothing more than casual sex, which I can get on here.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So this morning on a dating app I had a message from a guy, seemed nice enough then admitted he was just after hookups and not dating. It seems that people are just using dating apps for nothing more than casual sex, which I can get on here. "

People use them for all kinds of reasons. Some people make it clear on their profiles which I appreciate but yes, it’s the ones that waste your time when you clearly state what you want that annoys me.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Seems to me like you’re the one that is confused.

You’re looking for a relationship and casual sex on two different websites, and wondering about other people doing the same thing..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a single woman and agree with everything you have said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was meant to be a reply to Bradley Wiggins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me like you’re the one that is confused.

You’re looking for a relationship and casual sex on two different websites, and wondering about other people doing the same thing.."

Who said she’s looking for casual sex on here at the moment?

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

"That was meant to be a reply to Bradley Wiggins."

Excellent. You’re a 56 year old woman. Thankfully I just scape into the age category you’re looking for

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Seems to me like you’re the one that is confused.

You’re looking for a relationship and casual sex on two different websites, and wondering about other people doing the same thing..

Who said she’s looking for casual sex on here at the moment? "

She did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just reposting this as the original thread by moanerlisa is now full.

Oh my days where to begin. I’ve been on Pof and tinder actively looking for dates in the hope of it leading to more. Yet I just don’t have any success.

Does this resonate with anyone else? Or am I the only sad singleton x"
the only trouble reposting it people with think it's you ms woods that's struggling to get a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me like you’re the one that is confused.

You’re looking for a relationship and casual sex on two different websites, and wondering about other people doing the same thing..

Who said she’s looking for casual sex on here at the moment?

She did"

She said if she WANTED that, she could just get it here. She’s currently not meeting anyone new as per her profile.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Seems to me like you’re the one that is confused.

You’re looking for a relationship and casual sex on two different websites, and wondering about other people doing the same thing..

Who said she’s looking for casual sex on here at the moment?

She did

She said if she WANTED that, she could just get it here. She’s currently not meeting anyone new as per her profile. "

She said, I can get on here. She’s not looking for new people. Presumably that means she is getting it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me like you’re the one that is confused.

You’re looking for a relationship and casual sex on two different websites, and wondering about other people doing the same thing..

Who said she’s looking for casual sex on here at the moment?

She did

She said if she WANTED that, she could just get it here. She’s currently not meeting anyone new as per her profile.

She said, I can get on here. She’s not looking for new people. Presumably that means she is getting it"

And? I don’t want casual hook ups from here and want something much more than that but I do have people I can call on if I wanted just sex. Doesn’t mean I’m not wanting a relationship with the right guy.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

You and Yours on R4 will be discussing relationships and dating at lunchtime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That was meant to be a reply to Bradley Wiggins.

Excellent. You’re a 56 year old woman. Thankfully I just scape into the age category you’re looking for"

Sorry but you are too young for me and I live at the other end of the country when I am in UK. My reply was about your first long reply - I agreed with it all. I replied on the first post of this subject and suggested to the OP that her profile was a bit ranty and angry and only said what she wasn't looking for. Most guys run a mile from angry women as they are here to find fun and pleasure. Another person can't fix your life for you - only you can do that but another person can enhance it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly we live in a world where people judge. If ladies put profiles such as ‘looking for casual no strings’ on dating sites I’d respect that. I reckon I’m in the minority though. Most blokes would see that and think slag or something similar. Double standards of some men is ridiculous.

I’ve dated a few women that I’ve gone into it after exchanging relationship type messages then on meeting it’s become clear they only want no strings fun. Can be annoying purely because of the energy/time you’ve invested and let’s face it we get our hopes up going into a date if the chats gone well

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

As a Singleton who goes from wanting to date to not as I am enjoying my life now... I would say most of the dating sites are just like shag sites.... tinder is... POF is... so don’t expect any massive things from them... although for some people they do work!!!

I know it’s the old saying but for me personally right now I’m just going with it... I had some time out from fab... but have rejoined with a fresh out look... and just taking things as they come... I want to have fun and not get bogged down with finding someone to date... if it’s meant to be it will happen ... I’m not desperate

Im also still on a dating app.. the main one I use is bumble... you still have to match but then you send the first message.. BUT I met someone a couple of weeks ago and he ended up being attached so you still need to be careful!! So I don’t think it matters what site you use... yes this is a swingers site... I’m not expecting to meet anyone but who knows... I’m just open to all possibilities without been fixated on them... and finally now just having fun and enjoying the ride!!!!

Good luck OP!!!

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Seems to me like you’re the one that is confused.

You’re looking for a relationship and casual sex on two different websites, and wondering about other people doing the same thing..

Who said she’s looking for casual sex on here at the moment?

She did

She said if she WANTED that, she could just get it here. She’s currently not meeting anyone new as per her profile.

She said, I can get on here. She’s not looking for new people. Presumably that means she is getting it

Sounds like you haven’t got anything to complain about then..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me like you’re the one that is confused.

You’re looking for a relationship and casual sex on two different websites, and wondering about other people doing the same thing..

Who said she’s looking for casual sex on here at the moment?

She did

She said if she WANTED that, she could just get it here. She’s currently not meeting anyone new as per her profile.

She said, I can get on here. She’s not looking for new people. Presumably that means she is getting it

Sounds like you haven’t got anything to complain about then..

I don’t and I haven’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it makes any difference what site you're on. It's about communicating, not where you met. I have been on dating sites and found two lovely fwb in the past. On here I've chatted to some lovely ladies but met no-one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All sites are the same just about, it all comes down to man/ woman and sex, the bottom line is nice people will be respectful to each other and try connect in a way that the other person likes them and wants to meet them,sites like fab emphasise the sex aspect so a lot of people men and women approach it with sex at the forefront but their are many people here looking for an array of different things some wanting a relationship, some have been swinging for years and are fed up with the emptiness of it and now want a connection and maybe some love and affection and the rest just want sex sex and more sex.

You can find decent people here I've found many, some have become long term friends, you can achieve whatever you want on any of these sites

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

No matter what site there are folk who will say one thing and let's be realistic it's just 1's and 0's on a screen .. I take everything I read on the internet with a dose of scepticism..

I'm out there looking for a lady who will compliment and at times complicate my life ..I m looking on here and on other sites the more avenues that are open the more likely I'll find her or she'll find me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stopped looking for a conventional relationship a long time ago now.

The older I get more I enjoy my own company.

I'd like to have someone to go on holiday with and go out with at weekends and of course I miss intimacy - but I don't want the daily grind that comes with a full time relationship.

The burden of their family, kids, compromises about finances etc..

I want to live separately and enjoy the good stuff

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Seems to me like you’re the one that is confused.

You’re looking for a relationship and casual sex on two different websites, and wondering about other people doing the same thing..

Who said she’s looking for casual sex on here at the moment? "

I'm not as my profile clearly states.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stopped looking for a conventional relationship a long time ago now.

The older I get more I enjoy my own company.

I'd like to have someone to go on holiday with and go out with at weekends and of course I miss intimacy - but I don't want the daily grind that comes with a full time relationship.

The burden of their family, kids, compromises about finances etc..

I want to live separately and enjoy the good stuff

"
best of both worlds

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"All sites are the same just about, it all comes down to man/ woman and sex, the bottom line is nice people will be respectful to each other and try connect in a way that the other person likes them and wants to meet them,sites like fab emphasise the sex aspect so a lot of people men and women approach it with sex at the forefront but their are many people here looking for an array of different things some wanting a relationship, some have been swinging for years and are fed up with the emptiness of it and now want a connection and maybe some love and affection and the rest just want sex sex and more sex.

You can find decent people here I've found many, some have become long term friends, you can achieve whatever you want on any of these sites

I feel I've achieved what I wanted from here and maybe want to move on, hence why I'm on the dating sites. Thanks for a great post

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Im also a sad singleton so its not just you. Ive been single for 10 years and cant actually remember the last time someone asked me out on a date.

Ive also tried the dating apps but they dont work for me for the same reasons you've mentioned.

Im not in a rush (just as well really). Happy as I am destiny will be what it will be....

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"I stopped looking for a conventional relationship a long time ago now.

The older I get more I enjoy my own company.

I'd like to have someone to go on holiday with and go out with at weekends and of course I miss intimacy - but I don't want the daily grind that comes with a full time relationship.

The burden of their family, kids, compromises about finances etc..

I want to live separately and enjoy the good stuff

^^^^^^^ this!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main problem with any internet site , swinging or dating, is that no matter what, you are jugged on the content of your profile, and very few are actually prepared to take the time to actually get to know the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost faith in dating sites years ago - hence why I am here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rather than complaining, think what it is that you can bring to a relationship.

I joined a dating site for 1 month 10 years ago and was terrified by the entitled attitude of most of the women on there.

‘I just want to find someone who’ll treat me like a princess..’ smacks of absolute laziness, desperation and a hideous goldigging attitude.

Guys, allow girls to feel independent, make sure they keep some self respect by not allowing them to think you’re their to bankroll them, make them feel safe but not constricted.

Also recognise the differences in the real world from this one. In the real world swinging girls may still be thought of as easy, and curvy will just be called fat. "

Well said brother!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The main problem with any internet site , swinging or dating, is that no matter what, you are jugged on the content of your profile, and very few are actually prepared to take the time to actually get to know the person"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice I've heard is actually similar to advice a lot of people give men on here who moan about not getting meets. Go out yourself in social situations. What hobbies do you have? If you can't give an answer then look to join a class or a group. The only way you'll meet people is to go out and meet people. Online dating is great as it gives you a wider range of people to meet but it's very superficial.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"No matter what site there are folk who will say one thing and let's be realistic it's just 1's and 0's on a screen .. I take everything I read on the internet with a dose of scepticism..

I'm out there looking for a lady who will compliment and at times complicate my life ..

That's a nice way of putting it. I'm not afraid of complications, but sadly a lot of men are no longer able to give of themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My only problem as a singleton is the thought someone may want a relationship with me.. ewww no way! I love myself enough to not need someone to love me to feel "happy"

Relationships are just added stress.. love being single

I love myself enough but I love my life with a plus one better. Double the fun and adventures.

Well thats what disney would like us to believe.. truth is double the stress, having to compromise, loss of freedom, plus all the finding the frogs first..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My only problem as a singleton is the thought someone may want a relationship with me.. ewww no way! I love myself enough to not need someone to love me to feel "happy"

Relationships are just added stress.. love being single

I love myself enough but I love my life with a plus one better. Double the fun and adventures.

Well thats what disney would like us to believe.. truth is double the stress, having to compromise, loss of freedom, plus all the finding the frogs first.. "

I loved being married and also in other long relationships. I’ve not had bad experiences though I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll meet the person of your dreams by living the kind of life the person of your dreams is already living. That's how you'll bump into them.

Alternatively you need to go out and put yourself in situations where suitable men can approach you. This may be bars and clubs. But evening classes, gyms, etc may be easier places to strike up a conversation.

Don't listen to people who say it'll come to you. What ever came to you that you didn't already have or didn't want?

Go get it

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Have you considered moving?

Being from Devon myself, I can say that it's really not easy meeting great people in our part of the world. Whereas when I'm in London I'm meeting great people all the time. People are open and friendlier. Whereas most people who stay in Devon throughout their 20s and 30s are basically married and having kids, not looking to meet new people at all. It's just not a great part of the world if you're single and have high standards. Bristol tends to be a bit better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you considered moving?

Haha talk about great minds think alike

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/781458

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a sad singleton. I've been pretty lonely for over a year now and it's just gotten worse. Since I lost my job recently and my friends/family have pretty much shunned me, I've started feeling a lot lonelier. It's why I wanna meet people, so I have someone to talk to and give my self-esteem a boost.

I use Tinder, POF, here, to try and meet people but I have no luck whatsoever and it just makes me feel like shit. It's why I go silent for a few weeks, my confidence gets knocked that much, I just can't deal with it and I need a few weeks to recover.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

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Haha yeah totally.

Problem is with small provincial towns is people tend to leave to go to uni then never come back. I'd definitely pick London over Bristol in order to have the fullest social life, the downside of course is the massive expense of accomodation and going out to socialise gets expensive quick. When I'm in Devon there's rarely anything on I want to go to. In London there's pretty much always something but my wallet says 'no'. Bristol's like a sort of halfaway house between the two It's a little less diverse in terms of the people you meet, a bit 'whiter' and it's not a 24/7 city, which is one of the main attractions of London. London you can go out clubbing on a Monday night if you feel inclined, Bristol less so. And Bristol is also starting to get expensive, and the employment opportunities aren't as good as London.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

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"I'm a sad singleton. I've been pretty lonely for over a year now and it's just gotten worse. Since I lost my job recently and my friends/family have pretty much shunned me, I've started feeling a lot lonelier. It's why I wanna meet people, so I have someone to talk to and give my self-esteem a boost.

Don't let it get to you mate. Just focus on getting back on your feet financially then you can go out and have more fun. If you're enjoying yourself and having fun on the regular, you'll bg get ignored a lot less. You need to bring something to the table other than a sense o entitlement and feeling sorry for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading these posts make me very happy I’m a man......

All my female friends all complain about online dating....

My male friends are loving it...

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over a year ago

"Reading these posts make me very happy I’m a man......

All my female friends all complain about online dating....

My male friends are loving it..."

And you can see why!

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over a year ago

"Reading these posts make me very happy I’m a man......

All my female friends all complain about online dating....

My male friends are loving it...

And you can see why! "

Yes but people hate the truth......

My female friends say the best guys they meet online are married or attached ...

My advice is to have fun with these married/attached guys until a great single guy comes along......

They roll their eyes at me , saying they have morals blah , blah , blah then complain to me the next week about the new bad dates they went on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just reposting this as the original thread by moanerlisa is now full.

Oh my days where to begin. I’ve been on Pof and tinder actively looking for dates in the hope of it leading to more. Yet I just don’t have any success.

Does this resonate with anyone else? Or am I the only sad singleton x"

Maybe too high a standard?

Aint happening for me either and i dont even have that problem. Its just pure luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you considered moving?

I’m from Devon and now live in London. I would say that London is a really hard place to meet someone for a relationship. I never had that problem in Devon. It’s easy to meet people here but with busy working lives cancellations are a common thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you considered moving?

You see... I lived in London for a fair while and know exactly what you mean. It can be quite an alienating city full of busy strangers. I'm also a bit of a hippy at heart. Both of which suggest Bristol. But I think I'll give both a try.

The real point though is to think about where you are and whether you can be bothered to make the commute to somewhere where there may be a higher chance of meeting someone you click with.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I just want someone to fake tan my back for me. White patches I can't reach aren't a good look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just want someone to fake tan my back for me. White patches I can't reach aren't a good look."

Shame!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just want someone to fake tan my back for me. White patches I can't reach aren't a good look."

I'll get the paint roller.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went on a dating site for 1 week before I deleted it- everyone was there for hook ups. I went on a vanilla date through non Internet means and stupidly put my self in a dangerous situation as I trusted where I wouldn't have done if I had met trough fab etc. So now I'll just be happy as I am

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