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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Some do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"

They are probably being facetious...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do, some don’t.

Bit annoying when people don’t, but I use it as a filter. If you can’t be bothered taking the time to read my profile, what else can’t you be bothered taking the time to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some do, some don’t.

Bit annoying when people don’t, but I use it as a filter. If you can’t be bothered taking the time to read my profile, what else can’t you be bothered taking the time to do? "

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!

They are probably being facetious...

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They're not all from the same person!

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

Anyone msgs me I read there veris and profile , most guys don’t read mine though as am always being msged by totally inappropriate guys grrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some do, some don’t.

Bit annoying when people don’t, but I use it as a filter. If you can’t be bothered taking the time to read my profile, what else can’t you be bothered taking the time to do?

Exactly this."

I find that men who message like that are just checking which women near them are online - they are often the "anywhere, anytime, anyhow" men. Not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some do, some don’t.

Bit annoying when people don’t, but I use it as a filter. If you can’t be bothered taking the time to read my profile, what else can’t you be bothered taking the time to do?

Exactly this.

I find that men who message like that are just checking which women near them are online - they are often the "anywhere, anytime, anyhow" men. Not for me "

Yep! That’s what I find usually

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"

The majority don’t read them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Check the pictures, send a cock shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Check the pictures, send a cock shot "

It only works for you because you also offer cake

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I do try to read them but if it's not to my liking I soon stop.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope. Check the pictures, send a cock shot

It only works for you because you also offer cake "

Mmmmm,cake

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By *LT22Man
over a year ago

Teddington

I alway's read them once maybe twice,just incase i missed something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Check the pictures, send a cock shot

It only works for you because you also offer cake "

Mmmmm cake and cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if i want to sometimes i just react to an update without reading

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"

So......how are you today anyway?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope. Check the pictures, send a cock shot

It only works for you because you also offer cake

Mmmmm cake and cock"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can safely say a lot of men don't. My profile only has looking for woman on it. It states in the text no men or couples and directs couple to my couples profile, yet I still get numerous messages from men. I don't want to block men because I happily chat to people from the forums

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Nope. Check the pictures, send a cock shot

It only works for you because you also offer cake

Mmmmm cake and cock"

Last time I asked for cake I was refused it shocking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Check the pictures, send a cock shot

It only works for you because you also offer cake

Mmmmm cake and cock"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes always read them, like it when there straight no bullshit knows what they want with a bit of humour with it,

New to all of this, slow start but liking it, were adults not kids they spoil it for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's an essay, no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve gone profile blind.

So.... how’s you two ?

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

I bloody well hope so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But seriously, how are you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve gone profile blind.

So.... how’s you two ? "

fine thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But seriously, how are you?"

oh you know...

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I love reading profiles x Almost as much as I enjoy perving at the eye candy within.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

I read profiles.

By the way hope you're doing ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love reading profiles x Almost as much as I enjoy perving at the eye candy within."

Read yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my pet hate about the site! We get every day fancy meeting now ... where in our profile clearly states we cannot do spontaneous meets drives me crazy lol x

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"I love reading profiles x Almost as much as I enjoy perving at the eye candy within.

Read yours "

Oh I read yours too

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"

Trouble is we are taught from a young age when we meet someone new to ask 'Hi, how are you'. It's polite, a sign of manners.

A percentage of these polite questions will be piss takers not sure if above or below 50%.

But they are not being rude or offensive if mentioned in a genuine way.

Would you prefer if they asked 'Hi, can I bang the Mrs'? As an opening line

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love reading profiles x Almost as much as I enjoy perving at the eye candy within."

We do photos first, then profile and then usually realise one of us is out of the age range!! No harm in looking though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is very long and some guys seem to like to comment on parts of it to make me think they have read it all ... I know they don't though

Ones that blatantly read nothing at all do make me laugh more than annoy me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do!

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"

Always read profile, your veris, the veris of those who left them and your photos. If stars align then I message and see what happens.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!

Always read profile, your veris, the veris of those who left them and your photos. If stars align then I message and see what happens. "

You’re an astronomer then?

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

We'd say 10% do which rules 90% out, filter works perfectly.

We will say it's not just single men though the numbers for couples are similar but we assume some of them are the male alone. The filter works just as well here too

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

It would seem from the number of status updates forum posts "bemoaning folk not reading them.." nope no one does.

And nope op I've not read yours either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wonder if people ever read their own profiles in the years after they wrote them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I read profiles mostly. Sometimes I just respond to a status update though.

I seem to know when people have read mine as they normally comment about it directly x

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

The ones that clearly haven’t are the ones we simply ignore. Not going to bother getting into a dialogue with them, they obviously only look at pictures and can understand simple 1 syllable words such as yes, want and fuck. Some reason no doesn’t seem to feature to highly for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going by the amount of dick pics I receive, I would say no people don’t read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people do read profiles. I change mine often and it changes the type of mail I get. Sometimes even no mail.

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

Not many people view my profile, let alone read it lol.

Joking aside though, I had a friends invite out of the blue, from a woman who didn't meet smokers and whose own requirements were almost the polar opposite of what I am so I'm guessing it's not just blokes who don't read them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"

Some but not all. Have sent one man 3 times to our profile yesterday when he was asking questions as all the answers to those were in our profile. We know he read it for sure now

Mrs

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"Not many people view my profile, let alone read it lol.

Joking aside though, I had a friends invite out of the blue, from a woman who didn't meet smokers and whose own requirements were almost the polar opposite of what I am so I'm guessing it's not just blokes who don't read them..."

And who wasn't a woman.

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own


"Not many people view my profile, let alone read it lol.

Joking aside though, I had a friends invite out of the blue, from a woman who didn't meet smokers and whose own requirements were almost the polar opposite of what I am so I'm guessing it's not just blokes who don't read them...

And who wasn't a woman. "

No, she had plenty of verifications from meets so I had no doubt that she was "real".

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Many don't ,so I just delete their message if it's clear they haven't.

It can be annoying ,but think lots just see pics and that's all.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"

Yeah, and don't get me started on people who don't even read threads in the forums properly.

Anyhoo, how are you?

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I always read people's profile cos if you don't you won't know what they are looking for .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!

Yeah, and don't get me started on people who don't even read threads in the forums properly.

Anyhoo, how are you? "

we asked for that really didn't we?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often wonder if people ever read their own profiles in the years after they wrote them. "

I do! I like to tweak it a bit from time to time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There a pack of lies

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If it's really long I don't bother, just look at the pretty pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No!!...think that covers it...

Mistress Amelia x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"
Hi, I'm good thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The few that do may as well not bother because they ignore everything that's written anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how long they r i do view profiles and veris but get bored if they go on abit

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own


"The few that do may as well not bother because they ignore everything that's written anyway "

Sorry, what was that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say 99% who message us don't read our profile

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By *nicecoupleXCouple
over a year ago

Hitch


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"

It's the messages that we get asking "so, what are you guys into?"

However we then know that they have not read it so therefore not that interested im joining us in bed.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Out of all the messages I've received this week, only 3 had bothered to read it.

Many where copy & paste messages - funny when you're sat with one of your best friends, our profiles couldn't be more different, and she recieves the exact same messages.

Too many to count included cock pics.

A few dozen meet me now requests.

Similar asking me... What looking for, or a badly written porn script.

It's a good job, I've got a sense of humour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The few that do may as well not bother because they ignore everything that's written anyway

Sorry, what was that? "

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

I always read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read them. That's why I hardly message anyone...

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London


"Out of all the messages I've received this week, only 3 had bothered to read it.

Many where copy & paste messages - funny when you're sat with one of your best friends, our profiles couldn't be more different, and she recieves the exact same messages.

Too many to count included cock pics.

A few dozen meet me now requests.

Similar asking me... What looking for, or a badly written porn script.

It's a good job, I've got a sense of humour!

"

That sense of humour goes well with your mean right hook

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I read them yes... if people haven’t made the effort to add some information.. it makes me wonder if they will make an effort if you was to meet!?

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

Yea most people don't read the profile, asking are you free or want to meet I'm in the area mmmm read the the profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must of had about 3 or 4 this weekend alone. Astonishing really how they expect to meet on here, but then again, if there going to send as many 'copy & paste' messages i suppose the law of average must kick in along the way and get at least one reply. I wonder if the people who do the 'copy & paste' messages are the same people who moan that they dont get any meets ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"
so how are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones who do didn't message you asking how you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Litterally just had another one whilst writing on the forum

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"

Same here, do they really want to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Litterally just had another one whilst writing on the forum "
omg and what was your answer

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Had three today, staying in a hotel near you and want some fun.

Try the amusements.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Litterally just had another one whilst writing on the forum omg and what was your answer"

We just do what it says we will do in our blog

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

That is a standard message from 80% of men on here.

I find it is best to just delete those messages and move on.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

I've had 4 in the last 22 hours - out of 44 received total.

And plenty of meet now/tonight/this week ones too.

And the rest live miles away from me.

Nope, no one reads profiles.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don’t know if people read them or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the 1st 24 hours of this profile i had nothing on there, over 200 messages from blokes.

It makes no difference if theres anything or nothing other than being female. Im not saying i still get loads of messages but most of the ones i do all say the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the 1st 24 hours of this profile i had nothing on there, over 200 messages from blokes.

It makes no difference if theres anything or nothing other than being female. Im not saying i still get loads of messages but most of the ones i do all say the same thing. "
tell me so I know what not to send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No as they only look at pics if they do not like it they run away

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks


"No as they only look at pics if they do not like it they run away"

How do you know this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No as they only look at pics if they do not like it they run away"

If I see pics I don't like then I don't bother reading the text as I'll never meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Litterally just had another one whilst writing on the forum omg and what was your answer

We just do what it says we will do in our blog "
omg I've got to read again..... Really

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Out of all the messages I've received this week, only 3 had bothered to read it.

Many where copy & paste messages - funny when you're sat with one of your best friends, our profiles couldn't be more different, and she recieves the exact same messages.

Too many to count included cock pics.

A few dozen meet me now requests.

Similar asking me... What looking for, or a badly written porn script.

It's a good job, I've got a sense of humour!

That sense of humour goes well with your mean right hook "

What ya sayin HG?

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Always read the profile.

I don’t want to waste my time any more than that if the person/people whose profile I am reading.

And I always say hi at the beginning of my mesaage.

That’s just polite, isn’t it?

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, always, even before I look at the pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to think that my lack of messages is because I have been specific in my blurb but actually the if messages that I do get I’d say 90% haven’t read it

I always read them, a well written profile can be a real turn on for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always read them, a well written profile can be a real turn on for me"

I agree with this, I've come acorss 1 profile that has left me wanting alot more after reading

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

I always read the profile and it’s only worth messaging after reading and knowing there is a chance you might fit.

And I hate wasting time on pointless messages

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I read them.

That's why I don't message anyone to see if they're interested in meeting......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No as they only look at pics if they do not like it they run away

How do you know this? "
because they only view then no reply which to me they run away loll

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe give them suggestions on what they SHOULD ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read them.

That's why I don't message anyone to see if they're interested in meeting......"
i do not send any message too only view due to it being a waste of time sending loads and nothing in return

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah. Can't be arsed. It's usually boring bollox anyway

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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago

London & New Brighton

If i like the look of the woman, i will then read the profile to see if i fit what they are looking for. Its important to read them or your just wasting time.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them, within limits. A profile should be of a reasonable length, not a chapter from a novel. Also, the chances I'll decide your profile is worth the effort is proportional to your ability to spell and punctuate correctly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

"
because women are in short supply maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe "

Yeah probably, my profile is pretty short so doesn't really take much reading

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe "

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What did you say op ? Nice tits

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

I read my profile on a daily basis.....

Well somebody has to ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!"
it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!

Yeah, and don't get me started on people who don't even read threads in the forums properly.

Anyhoo, how are you?

we asked for that really didn't we?! "

Yeah, soz, was just being a bit flippant lol.

We make sure we read a profile, and check out if they are looking for the same as us etc.

We get the same sort of thing, as well as people asking if Jayne meets alone etc, we just delete and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read them.

Sometimes, reading between the lines can be interesting, too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try reading all profiles

Although you do get the overly obnoxious bibliographies spaning over 1000 words long with no bullet points, paragraphs or any kind of structural order.

(Like bruh )

Those ones i tend to avoid

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it "

People who don't read profiles, especially mine when unhidden, are only wasting time. I explicitly explain what I'm looking for and even my thought process in filtering through the messages. Receiving a load of messages from men that don't meet my criteria is actually only a waste of both of our times.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I try reading all profiles

Although you do get the overly obnoxious bibliographies spaning over 1000 words long with no bullet points, paragraphs or any kind of structural order.

(Like bruh )

Those ones i tend to avoid "

Would you still contact that person though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it

People who don't read profiles, especially mine when unhidden, are only wasting time. I explicitly explain what I'm looking for and even my thought process in filtering through the messages. Receiving a load of messages from men that don't meet my criteria is actually only a waste of both of our times."

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe give them suggestions on what they SHOULD ask."

Might be better to use intelligence and inventiveness to deduce what will attract us rather than being prompted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it

People who don't read profiles, especially mine when unhidden, are only wasting time. I explicitly explain what I'm looking for and even my thought process in filtering through the messages. Receiving a load of messages from men that don't meet my criteria is actually only a waste of both of our times."
Hey i read profiles I'm just offering reasons why many don't...... I agree about wasting time but a great percentage of people actually are wasting their time coming here

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it

People who don't read profiles, especially mine when unhidden, are only wasting time. I explicitly explain what I'm looking for and even my thought process in filtering through the messages. Receiving a load of messages from men that don't meet my criteria is actually only a waste of both of our times.Hey i read profiles I'm just offering reasons why many don't...... I agree about wasting time but a great percentage of people actually are wasting their time coming here "

Ah, misunderstood your point there!

They aren't wasting their time coming here, they just need to understand the whole point of the site properly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it

People who don't read profiles, especially mine when unhidden, are only wasting time. I explicitly explain what I'm looking for and even my thought process in filtering through the messages. Receiving a load of messages from men that don't meet my criteria is actually only a waste of both of our times.Hey i read profiles I'm just offering reasons why many don't...... I agree about wasting time but a great percentage of people actually are wasting their time coming here

Ah, misunderstood your point there!

They aren't wasting their time coming here, they just need to understand the whole point of the site properly!"

What is the whole point of the site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"

Only ever second weds

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it

People who don't read profiles, especially mine when unhidden, are only wasting time. I explicitly explain what I'm looking for and even my thought process in filtering through the messages. Receiving a load of messages from men that don't meet my criteria is actually only a waste of both of our times.Hey i read profiles I'm just offering reasons why many don't...... I agree about wasting time but a great percentage of people actually are wasting their time coming here

Ah, misunderstood your point there!

They aren't wasting their time coming here, they just need to understand the whole point of the site properly!

What is the whole point of the site?"

It's not instashag.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Sadly despite our effort to create a profile so many don't read at all. It's reasonably long but not miles.

Wanna meet?

What you into?

How are you?

If they can't be bothered reading we can't be bothered replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it

People who don't read profiles, especially mine when unhidden, are only wasting time. I explicitly explain what I'm looking for and even my thought process in filtering through the messages. Receiving a load of messages from men that don't meet my criteria is actually only a waste of both of our times.Hey i read profiles I'm just offering reasons why many don't...... I agree about wasting time but a great percentage of people actually are wasting their time coming here

Ah, misunderstood your point there!

They aren't wasting their time coming here, they just need to understand the whole point of the site properly!

What is the whole point of the site?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it

People who don't read profiles, especially mine when unhidden, are only wasting time. I explicitly explain what I'm looking for and even my thought process in filtering through the messages. Receiving a load of messages from men that don't meet my criteria is actually only a waste of both of our times.Hey i read profiles I'm just offering reasons why many don't...... I agree about wasting time but a great percentage of people actually are wasting their time coming here

Ah, misunderstood your point there!

They aren't wasting their time coming here, they just need to understand the whole point of the site properly!

What is the whole point of the site?

It's not instashag."

It is for some people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it

People who don't read profiles, especially mine when unhidden, are only wasting time. I explicitly explain what I'm looking for and even my thought process in filtering through the messages. Receiving a load of messages from men that don't meet my criteria is actually only a waste of both of our times.Hey i read profiles I'm just offering reasons why many don't...... I agree about wasting time but a great percentage of people actually are wasting their time coming here

Ah, misunderstood your point there!

They aren't wasting their time coming here, they just need to understand the whole point of the site properly!

What is the whole point of the site? "

I'm confused about your thumbs up. In your opinion, what is the point of the site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try reading all profiles

Although you do get the overly obnoxious bibliographies spaning over 1000 words long with no bullet points, paragraphs or any kind of structural order.

(Like bruh )

Those ones i tend to avoid

Would you still contact that person though?"

No absolutely not. if a profile doesn't interest me i move on. Would be foolish to contact them haha

For the record i must say though with regards to poorly structured profiles; there seems to be an underlining notion some women have and go with the idea that because they are in such 'high demand' they can set their profile as an obstacle course followed by their 100 commandments as opposed to a good introduction to themselves.

That i find distasteful and puts me off straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it

People who don't read profiles, especially mine when unhidden, are only wasting time. I explicitly explain what I'm looking for and even my thought process in filtering through the messages. Receiving a load of messages from men that don't meet my criteria is actually only a waste of both of our times.Hey i read profiles I'm just offering reasons why many don't...... I agree about wasting time but a great percentage of people actually are wasting their time coming here

Ah, misunderstood your point there!

They aren't wasting their time coming here, they just need to understand the whole point of the site properly!

What is the whole point of the site?"
to waste time

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Sorry, who’s asking!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read through - you’ve got to.

There might be something on there which you don’t like or that you’re not.

What’s the point in messaging someone who you’re clearly not the type for!

It makes me chuckle when people say ‘No Asain men!’ And then message me. I never point it out but I’m white British Indian mixed race. Doesn’t bother me but if they found out half way through... what would happen?!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I read them.

That's why I don't message anyone to see if they're interested in meeting......

i do not send any message too only view due to it being a waste of time sending loads and nothing in return "

I've yet to see a female profile that's looking for anyone who slightly resembles me. So why bother?

Obviously no female member looks at mine and likes what she sees so my inbox remains empty, other than friends I chat to.

It simply saves any time being wasted.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache! "

Have a Gin and reflect.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache! "

Try leaving the pics as they are but put the old profile text back on. Another experiment, see what happens.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

Try leaving the pics as they are but put the old profile text back on. Another experiment, see what happens. "

I like that idea!

I rather like gin, but it's far too early for MrSBs suggestion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read profiles... looking for wit and a sexiness that words convey...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends how pretty the pictures are

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"It depends how pretty the pictures are"

I agree, if a picture speaks a thousand words, I must read millions of words on profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

Try leaving the pics as they are but put the old profile text back on. Another experiment, see what happens.

I like that idea!

I rather like gin, but it's far too early for MrSBs suggestion "

If you're really keen on experiments, do it for at least a few days and over a weekend. 'Friday night wanking pissed men' react differently to profiles than 'Monday morning sober men at work' do.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

Try leaving the pics as they are but put the old profile text back on. Another experiment, see what happens.

I like that idea!

I rather like gin, but it's far too early for MrSBs suggestion

If you're really keen on experiments, do it for at least a few days and over a weekend. 'Friday night wanking pissed men' react differently to profiles than 'Monday morning sober men at work' do. "

I did that with the current experiment, even left myself logged on while out & about, slightly out of my usual area.

Got a busy morning, ill try the changes later today x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

Try leaving the pics as they are but put the old profile text back on. Another experiment, see what happens.

I like that idea!

I rather like gin, but it's far too early for MrSBs suggestion

If you're really keen on experiments, do it for at least a few days and over a weekend. 'Friday night wanking pissed men' react differently to profiles than 'Monday morning sober men at work' do.

I did that with the current experiment, even left myself logged on while out & about, slightly out of my usual area.

Got a busy morning, ill try the changes later today x"

I think it times out after 5 minutes and shows the profile as 'offline' until you reload the page or click on something.

Good luck. x

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By *allisto2000Woman
over a year ago

Stafford ish


"Some do, some don’t.

Bit annoying when people don’t, but I use it as a filter. If you can’t be bothered taking the time to read my profile, what else can’t you be bothered taking the time to do? "

I agree!! Same same

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

Try leaving the pics as they are but put the old profile text back on. Another experiment, see what happens.

I like that idea!

I rather like gin, but it's far too early for MrSBs suggestion

If you're really keen on experiments, do it for at least a few days and over a weekend. 'Friday night wanking pissed men' react differently to profiles than 'Monday morning sober men at work' do.

I did that with the current experiment, even left myself logged on while out & about, slightly out of my usual area.

Got a busy morning, ill try the changes later today x

I think it times out after 5 minutes and shows the profile as 'offline' until you reload the page or click on something.

Good luck. x"

It does?

Didn't know that!

Tbh, I had no signal all day Saturday, too much interference round Preston Park.

The amount of views I've been getting hasn't dropped, it's just the volume of messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NO, all they can see is your fit legs

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

Try leaving the pics as they are but put the old profile text back on. Another experiment, see what happens.

I like that idea!

I rather like gin, but it's far too early for MrSBs suggestion

If you're really keen on experiments, do it for at least a few days and over a weekend. 'Friday night wanking pissed men' react differently to profiles than 'Monday morning sober men at work' do.

I did that with the current experiment, even left myself logged on while out & about, slightly out of my usual area.

Got a busy morning, ill try the changes later today x

I think it times out after 5 minutes and shows the profile as 'offline' until you reload the page or click on something.

Good luck. x

It does?

Didn't know that!

Tbh, I had no signal all day Saturday, too much interference round Preston Park.

The amount of views I've been getting hasn't dropped, it's just the volume of messages "

Profile change done, I've started a thread to report my findings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

Try leaving the pics as they are but put the old profile text back on. Another experiment, see what happens.

I like that idea!

I rather like gin, but it's far too early for MrSBs suggestion

If you're really keen on experiments, do it for at least a few days and over a weekend. 'Friday night wanking pissed men' react differently to profiles than 'Monday morning sober men at work' do.

I did that with the current experiment, even left myself logged on while out & about, slightly out of my usual area.

Got a busy morning, ill try the changes later today x

I think it times out after 5 minutes and shows the profile as 'offline' until you reload the page or click on something.

Good luck. x

It does?

Didn't know that!

Tbh, I had no signal all day Saturday, too much interference round Preston Park.

The amount of views I've been getting hasn't dropped, it's just the volume of messages

Profile change done, I've started a thread to report my findings "
I looked you've put pics in friends only is that only change? I always engage brain even when I'm sitting on it ha

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

Try leaving the pics as they are but put the old profile text back on. Another experiment, see what happens.

I like that idea!

I rather like gin, but it's far too early for MrSBs suggestion

If you're really keen on experiments, do it for at least a few days and over a weekend. 'Friday night wanking pissed men' react differently to profiles than 'Monday morning sober men at work' do.

I did that with the current experiment, even left myself logged on while out & about, slightly out of my usual area.

Got a busy morning, ill try the changes later today x

I think it times out after 5 minutes and shows the profile as 'offline' until you reload the page or click on something.

Good luck. x

It does?

Didn't know that!

Tbh, I had no signal all day Saturday, too much interference round Preston Park.

The amount of views I've been getting hasn't dropped, it's just the volume of messages

Profile change done, I've started a thread to report my findings I looked you've put pics in friends only is that only change? I always engage brain even when I'm sitting on it ha"

Part 1 was remove all pics & text.

Part 2, pics still friends only, but I've put my bio back up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

Try leaving the pics as they are but put the old profile text back on. Another experiment, see what happens.

I like that idea!

I rather like gin, but it's far too early for MrSBs suggestion

If you're really keen on experiments, do it for at least a few days and over a weekend. 'Friday night wanking pissed men' react differently to profiles than 'Monday morning sober men at work' do.

I did that with the current experiment, even left myself logged on while out & about, slightly out of my usual area.

Got a busy morning, ill try the changes later today x

I think it times out after 5 minutes and shows the profile as 'offline' until you reload the page or click on something.

Good luck. x

It does?

Didn't know that!

Tbh, I had no signal all day Saturday, too much interference round Preston Park.

The amount of views I've been getting hasn't dropped, it's just the volume of messages

Profile change done, I've started a thread to report my findings I looked you've put pics in friends only is that only change? I always engage brain even when I'm sitting on it ha

Part 1 was remove all pics & text.

Part 2, pics still friends only, but I've put my bio back up "
ahhhh OK well the bio looks great it makes sense to me, you want a guy when he approaches you to engage you with interesting intelligent humorous conversation and send you a face pic before you will consider a reply I didn’t see anything about height other than you are 6' and the pics you show are OK but then I've seen your face and body pics

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Most are saying they read them, before this thread I'd have said most that send me messages haven't read my profile BUT now I'm thinking (if people are being honest in this thread) they read profile like they state on here, see they're not what the persons looking for but message anyway because .......... well I'm not sure!

because women are in short supply maybe

That's no excuse for not reading a profile though!it is......... You've got to get in quick before the other 1143 guys who havnt read it

People who don't read profiles, especially mine when unhidden, are only wasting time. I explicitly explain what I'm looking for and even my thought process in filtering through the messages. Receiving a load of messages from men that don't meet my criteria is actually only a waste of both of our times.Hey i read profiles I'm just offering reasons why many don't...... I agree about wasting time but a great percentage of people actually are wasting their time coming here

Ah, misunderstood your point there!

They aren't wasting their time coming here, they just need to understand the whole point of the site properly!

What is the whole point of the site?

It's not instashag.

It is for some people. "

It's a swinging site. Therefore not instashag.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I try reading all profiles

Although you do get the overly obnoxious bibliographies spaning over 1000 words long with no bullet points, paragraphs or any kind of structural order.

(Like bruh )

Those ones i tend to avoid

Would you still contact that person though?

No absolutely not. if a profile doesn't interest me i move on. Would be foolish to contact them haha

For the record i must say though with regards to poorly structured profiles; there seems to be an underlining notion some women have and go with the idea that because they are in such 'high demand' they can set their profile as an obstacle course followed by their 100 commandments as opposed to a good introduction to themselves.

That i find distasteful and puts me off straight away "

It's not an obstacle course if you fit the criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always do before looking at pics

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I tried a little experiment over the last week.

I made all but a few of my pics friends only & removed all my profile text.

When I had a quite descriptive bio, clear lines on what I was looking for, very clear lines on what I wasn't looking for along with message & profile types I wouldn't respond too I was some days getting 150+ messages.

This week, I've been getting 10 a day at the most!

I'm amused, but obviously now have a dilemma.

Leave it as it is right now, and don't have to waste my time, skimming through, deleting messages & possibly blocking people I'm not intrested in?

Or change it back as I could potentially but putting off people I may be intrested.

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache! "

I did my own experiment over the last couple of weekends - one with pictures, one without. I'm now hidden again as I got fed up of the faf messages I got from both. Although, I got way more when I had pictures out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or expecting you to say horny

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By *uthless!Woman
over a year ago

somewhere close to you


"

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

I did my own experiment over the last couple of weekends - one with pictures, one without. I'm now hidden again as I got fed up of the faf messages I got from both. Although, I got way more when I had pictures out!"

Love it when I get messages telling me they love my pictures...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes they read them but still try their luck ... chancers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read profiles,or lack of them!

Will fill in later.... They are the easiest to read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes they read them but still try their luck ... chancers "

Some people love a chancer

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"

Jeeez... I'm giving myself a headache!

I did my own experiment over the last couple of weekends - one with pictures, one without. I'm now hidden again as I got fed up of the faf messages I got from both. Although, I got way more when I had pictures out!

Love it when I get messages telling me they love my pictures... "

Yes, or if they say that I'm sexy - no pictures on show, so how do you know that?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

According to that guy that came on the forums the other day no they dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes they read them but still try their luck ... chancers

Some people love a chancer "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they do I've read every profile I've ever come across even the really long demanding ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course not, I explicit make it a perogative of mine to close my eyes and click on a profile on the hot pics page and use (,copy and paste,) my most effective chat up line that makes the recipient moister than an oyster; "sup bby wan sum fuk". Sprinkle a blurry cock pic and recline in my chair as the universe guides their head towards my appendage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope they don’t, they look at the pictures then message. Or maybe that’s just my experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope they don’t, they look at the pictures then message. Or maybe that’s just my experience? "

It's what I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some profiles are so vague and empty that it's sometimes quite hard to make that first contact when you've got nothing to work. Not saying that's your profile, just in general.

One of the problems is people say that the kind of first they dislike are those that jump right into talk of sex. But it's a site based around that and a lot of profiles are tailored around it with nothing else.

I got given advice when I first joined here saying I should tell people about the side of me that isn't on fab. My hobbies, interests, that they wanna know who I am. It hasn't gotten me anywhere, I still haven't met anyone, but I get the point they were making.

So if you don't have a bit about your vanilla life outside of Fab and it's just all about the sex / swinging side of it, then you're more than likely to receive messages that are either boring, generic or off-putting.

POF is exactly the same. If there's nothing on a profile, how do I approach that person? What do I say? I tend to not bother with those kind of profiles because they come across as lazy. And I can't be arsed putting in the graft to talk to someone who just isn't that bothered herself.

Sometimes it's better for women to take the initiative themselves. That way it might stop the boring, generic ''hi'' or ''how are you?'' messages and spark a genuine conversation, so long as the woman's first message is something they themselves want to read. I tend to think men try harder with profiles with than women, I don't know why because I don't think the profile and personality of the man is what sells the women on them. It's attractiveness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ours clearly says don't bother asking how we are but...Guess what, at least 10 messages a day asking how we are!!"

How are you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what im up to if im just having fun or not

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By *edonistic CPLCouple
over a year ago

Love

No, no they do not! Drives us mad. Always impressed by the ones that do and show it in a well written message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do some don’t

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I always read the profiles, probably why I send so few messages.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Why read when there are pretty pictures?

To be fair I do read profiles that are witty and engaging. If they’re long, demanding, up their own arses and fucking boring then I’ll give up and not bother with messaging.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Some profiles are so vague and empty that it's sometimes quite hard to make that first contact when you've got nothing to work. Not saying that's your profile, just in general.

One of the problems is people say that the kind of first they dislike are those that jump right into talk of sex. But it's a site based around that and a lot of profiles are tailored around it with nothing else.

I got given advice when I first joined here saying I should tell people about the side of me that isn't on fab. My hobbies, interests, that they wanna know who I am. It hasn't gotten me anywhere, I still haven't met anyone, but I get the point they were making.

So if you don't have a bit about your vanilla life outside of Fab and it's just all about the sex / swinging side of it, then you're more than likely to receive messages that are either boring, generic or off-putting.

POF is exactly the same. If there's nothing on a profile, how do I approach that person? What do I say? I tend to not bother with those kind of profiles because they come across as lazy. And I can't be arsed putting in the graft to talk to someone who just isn't that bothered herself.

Sometimes it's better for women to take the initiative themselves. That way it might stop the boring, generic ''hi'' or ''how are you?'' messages and spark a genuine conversation, so long as the woman's first message is something they themselves want to read. I tend to think men try harder with profiles with than women, I don't know why because I don't think the profile and personality of the man is what sells the women on them. It's attractiveness."

You haven't read many male profiles on here, have you?

The majority are "will fill in later" or "am horny". There is absolutely nothing about them, apart from the fact they are male, have a functioning appendages and want to use it in any hole available!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's simple, if the profile is boring and or written in text speak, I won't spend the time of day messaging them. I prefer to talk and meet with people who put effort in as you know it will end with better fun than with people who can't be arsed to spend 5 minutes writing something about themselves or what they want...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some profiles are so vague and empty that it's sometimes quite hard to make that first contact when you've got nothing to work. Not saying that's your profile, just in general.

One of the problems is people say that the kind of first they dislike are those that jump right into talk of sex. But it's a site based around that and a lot of profiles are tailored around it with nothing else.

I got given advice when I first joined here saying I should tell people about the side of me that isn't on fab. My hobbies, interests, that they wanna know who I am. It hasn't gotten me anywhere, I still haven't met anyone, but I get the point they were making.

So if you don't have a bit about your vanilla life outside of Fab and it's just all about the sex / swinging side of it, then you're more than likely to receive messages that are either boring, generic or off-putting.

POF is exactly the same. If there's nothing on a profile, how do I approach that person? What do I say? I tend to not bother with those kind of profiles because they come across as lazy. And I can't be arsed putting in the graft to talk to someone who just isn't that bothered herself.

Sometimes it's better for women to take the initiative themselves. That way it might stop the boring, generic ''hi'' or ''how are you?'' messages and spark a genuine conversation, so long as the woman's first message is something they themselves want to read. I tend to think men try harder with profiles with than women, I don't know why because I don't think the profile and personality of the man is what sells the women on them. It's attractiveness.

You haven't read many male profiles on here, have you?

The majority are "will fill in later" or "am horny". There is absolutely nothing about them, apart from the fact they are male, have a functioning appendages and want to use it in any hole available!"

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